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• Eros--Eros--Sexual love. Not used in Sexual love. Not used in New Testament.New Testament.

• Stergein—Stergein—Natural love. Not Natural love. Not used in the New Testament.used in the New Testament.

• Phileo-Phileo- Friendly love - More Friendly love - More nearly represents tender nearly represents tender affection. affection.

• Agapao— Agapao— “Love which is “Love which is awakened by a sense of value awakened by a sense of value in an object which causes one in an object which causes one to prize it . . . It is a love of to prize it . . . It is a love of esteem and approbation” esteem and approbation” (Weust). Act of the will – not (Weust). Act of the will – not emotion - (Mt. 5:43-48; Mk emotion - (Mt. 5:43-48; Mk 12:29-31; Jn. 3:16)12:29-31; Jn. 3:16)


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• Jesus & His Disciples – John 13:1Jesus & His Disciples – John 13:1

• Jesus’ Instructions To His Disciples – Jesus’ Instructions To His Disciples – John 13:31-35; 15:9-12John 13:31-35; 15:9-12

• Followers of Christ Are To Have A Followers of Christ Are To Have A Deep And Abiding Love For Each Deep And Abiding Love For Each Other – Hebrews 13:1; 1 Peter Other – Hebrews 13:1; 1 Peter 1:221:22

• A Test of Discipleship – 1 A Test of Discipleship – 1 John 3:10,11,14-23; John 3:10,11,14-23; 4:7,8,20-5:34:7,8,20-5:3


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• Gifts are worthless without love– Gifts are worthless without love– (1-3)(1-3)

• Characteristics of love prove love’s Characteristics of love prove love’s superiority – (4-7; cf. 1 Cor. 8:1)superiority – (4-7; cf. 1 Cor. 8:1)

• The permanence of love The permanence of love demonstrates its value demonstrates its value over over spiritual gifts spiritual gifts – (8-13)– (8-13)


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1 Cor. 13:1-3 (NKJV)

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become

sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. [2] And though I have the gift of prophecy, and

understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove

mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. [3] And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,

but have not love, it profits me nothing.


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The Greek word is makrothumiaThe Greek word is makrothumia Literally, it means being "long-Literally, it means being "long-

tempered" (the opposite of short-tempered" (the opposite of short-tempered)tempered)

"Longsuffering is that quality of "Longsuffering is that quality of self-restraint in the face of self-restraint in the face of provocation which does not provocation which does not hastily retaliate or promptly hastily retaliate or promptly punish. It is the opposite of punish. It is the opposite of anger and is associated with anger and is associated with mercy, and is used of God." mercy, and is used of God." (VINE)(VINE)


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God has been longsuffering God has been longsuffering toward man - 2 Pet 3:9,15; 1 Ti toward man - 2 Pet 3:9,15; 1 Ti 1:15-161:15-16

We have all needed others to be We have all needed others to be longsuffering with us - Co 3:12-14longsuffering with us - Co 3:12-14

Necessary To Maintaining The Necessary To Maintaining The Unity Of The Spirit... Ep 4:1-3 Unity Of The Spirit... Ep 4:1-3

Necessary For Preachers And Necessary For Preachers And Teachers Of The Gospel... 2 Ti Teachers Of The Gospel... 2 Ti 2:24-26; 3:10; 4:22:24-26; 3:10; 4:2

Not “eternal Suffering!” – 1 Pet. Not “eternal Suffering!” – 1 Pet. 3:203:20


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The Greek word is The Greek word is χρηστευομαι χρηστευομαι

- - chresteuomai - chresteuomai - Thayer: verb - 1) to show one’s Thayer: verb - 1) to show one’s

self mild, to be kind, use self mild, to be kind, use kindnesskindness

This word describes "the This word describes "the sympathetic kindliness or sympathetic kindliness or sweetness of temper which sweetness of temper which puts others at their ease, and puts others at their ease, and shrinks from giving pain" shrinks from giving pain" (PLUMMER)(PLUMMER)

"It is a beautiful word for the "It is a beautiful word for the expression of a beautiful grace" expression of a beautiful grace" (TRENCH)(TRENCH)


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Kindness ExemplifiedKindness Exemplified The kindness of God – John The kindness of God – John

3:16; Rom. 5:8; Eph. 2:4-10; 3:16; Rom. 5:8; Eph. 2:4-10; Titus 3:4,5Titus 3:4,5

The kindness of Christ – Matt. The kindness of Christ – Matt. 14:14; Acts 10:38; Mat. 14:14; Acts 10:38; Mat. 11:28-3011:28-30

The kindness expected of us – The kindness expected of us – • Illustrated in the parable of the Illustrated in the parable of the

“good Samaritan” - Luke 10:25-37“good Samaritan” - Luke 10:25-37

• Commanded of us - Ephes. 4:32; Commanded of us - Ephes. 4:32; Col. 3:12; 2 Peter 1:7; 1 John 3:17-Col. 3:12; 2 Peter 1:7; 1 John 3:17-18; 4:11 18; 4:11


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The Greek word is ζηλοω The Greek word is ζηλοω ““ze ze loo loo ””

Thayer Thayer

1) to burn with zeal; 1a) to be heated or 1) to burn with zeal; 1a) to be heated or to boil with envy, hatred, anger 1a1) to boil with envy, hatred, anger 1a1) in a good sense, to be zealous in the in a good sense, to be zealous in the pursuit of good; 1b) to desire pursuit of good; 1b) to desire earnestly, pursue; 1b1) to desire one earnestly, pursue; 1b1) to desire one earnestly, to strive after, busy one’s earnestly, to strive after, busy one’s self about him; 1b2) to exert one’s self self about him; 1b2) to exert one’s self for one (that he may not be torn from for one (that he may not be torn from me); 1b3) to be the object of the zeal me); 1b3) to be the object of the zeal of others, to be zealously sought after; of others, to be zealously sought after; 1c) to envy1c) to envy


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The Greek word is ζηλοω The Greek word is ζηλοω ““ze ze loo loo ””

Resentment - produced by Resentment - produced by witnessing or hearing of the witnessing or hearing of the advantage or prosperity of others advantage or prosperity of others – – (of another’s gift)(of another’s gift)

Causes persecution, bitterness, Causes persecution, bitterness, hatred, division, & is a sign of hatred, division, & is a sign of carnality – Prov. 14:30; Mat. carnality – Prov. 14:30; Mat. 27:18; 1 Cor. 3:327:18; 1 Cor. 3:3

Love is not jealous of what others Love is not jealous of what others have or have become – When have or have become – When others have happiness, wealth, others have happiness, wealth, health, ability etc. . . Love rejoices health, ability etc. . . Love rejoices and is delighted.and is delighted.


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The Greek word is The Greek word is περπερευομαι perpereuomaiπερπερευομαι perpereuomai

Thayer:Thayer:

1) to boast one’s self1) to boast one’s self

2) a self display, employing rhetorical 2) a self display, employing rhetorical embellishments in extolling one’s self embellishments in extolling one’s self excessivelyexcessively

Vine’s: -Vine’s: - <1,,4068,perpereuomai> <1,,4068,perpereuomai>

"to boast or vaunt oneself" (from "to boast or vaunt oneself" (from perperos, "vainglorious, braggart," perperos, "vainglorious, braggart," not in the NT), is used in 1Co_13:4, not in the NT), is used in 1Co_13:4, negatively of love. negatively of love.


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The Greek word is The Greek word is περπερευομαι perpereuomaiπερπερευομαι perpereuomai

The word refers to arrogance of The word refers to arrogance of speech – undoubtedly, some of speech – undoubtedly, some of those who had spiritual gifts were those who had spiritual gifts were bragging about them –bragging about them –

““Love” does not brag – (1 Cor. Love” does not brag – (1 Cor. 4:7)4:7) Admitting to another some good Admitting to another some good

deed that you have done, or some deed that you have done, or some ability you possess is not ability you possess is not necessarily bragging (John 10:32) necessarily bragging (John 10:32)

We should always ask – why am I We should always ask – why am I telling this about myself – to serve telling this about myself – to serve or be served?or be served?


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The Greek word is φυσιοω The Greek word is φυσιοω phusioophusioo

Thayer:Thayer: . . . 2) to inflate, blow up, to . . . 2) to inflate, blow up, to cause to swell up 2a) to puff up, make cause to swell up 2a) to puff up, make proud 2b) to be puffed up, to bear proud 2b) to be puffed up, to bear one’s self loftily, be proudone’s self loftily, be proud

Vines:Vines: <1,,5448, <1,,5448,phusioophusioo>>

"to puff up, blow up, inflate" (from "to puff up, blow up, inflate" (from phusa, "bellows"), is used phusa, "bellows"), is used metaphorically in the NT, in the sense metaphorically in the NT, in the sense of being "puffed" up with pride, of being "puffed" up with pride, 1Co_4:61Co_4:6, , 1Co_4:18-191Co_4:18-19; ; 1Co_5:21Co_5:2; ; 1Co_8:11Co_8:1; ; 1Co_13:41Co_13:4; ; Col_2:18Col_2:18..


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The Greek word is φυσιοω The Greek word is φυσιοω phusioophusioo

This is the attitude from This is the attitude from whence bragging comes . . .whence bragging comes . . .

The word refers to an inflated The word refers to an inflated concept of one’s own concept of one’s own importance. importance. PRIDE is of the world – 1 John 2:16PRIDE is of the world – 1 John 2:16 PRIDE will lead one to his fall – PRIDE will lead one to his fall –

Prov. 16:18Prov. 16:18 A danger for young Christians – 1 A danger for young Christians – 1

Tim. 3:6 Tim. 3:6

The Christian is to be humble – The Christian is to be humble – Phili 2:1-5; 1 Peter 5:5 . . .Phili 2:1-5; 1 Peter 5:5 . . .


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The Greek word is ασχημονεω The Greek word is ασχημονεω aschemoneoaschemoneo

Thayer Definition: Thayer Definition: 1) to act 1) to act unbecominglyunbecomingly

Vines: <A-4,Verb,807,Vines: <A-4,Verb,807,aschemoneoaschemoneo>>

"to be unseemly" (a, negative, and "to be unseemly" (a, negative, and schema, "a form"), is used in schema, "a form"), is used in 1Co_7:361Co_7:36, "behave (himself) , "behave (himself) unseemly," i.e., so as to run the unseemly," i.e., so as to run the risk of bringing the virgin risk of bringing the virgin daughter into danger or disgrace, daughter into danger or disgrace, and in and in 1Co_13:51Co_13:5, "doth (not) , "doth (not) behave itself unseemly."behave itself unseemly."


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The Greek word is ασχημονεω The Greek word is ασχημονεω aschemoneoaschemoneo

The term describes actions or The term describes actions or words which are rude –words which are rude –

The arrogant man forgets to The arrogant man forgets to respect, consider, or honor others respect, consider, or honor others ––

On the other hand – love always On the other hand – love always conducts itself with proper conducts itself with proper decorum. decorum.

Romans 12:10 (NKJV) Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving

preference to one another;


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The Greek is The Greek is ζητεω ου εαυτου ou ζητεω ου εαυτου ou zetei ta heauteszetei ta heautes

Love does not seek its own Love does not seek its own interest - - interest - -

Barnes: Barnes: (love) “is not selfish; it does (love) “is not selfish; it does not seek its own happiness exclusively not seek its own happiness exclusively or mainly; it does not seek its own or mainly; it does not seek its own happiness to the injury of others. This happiness to the injury of others. This expression is not, however, to be expression is not, however, to be pressed as if Paul meant to teach that pressed as if Paul meant to teach that a man should not regard his own a man should not regard his own welfare at all; or have no respect to welfare at all; or have no respect to his health, his property, his happiness, his health, his property, his happiness, or his salvation.”or his salvation.”


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The Greek is The Greek is ζητεω ου εαυτου ou ζητεω ου εαυτου ou zetei ta heauteszetei ta heautes

The distorted view of love in our The distorted view of love in our culture is distorted fundamentally culture is distorted fundamentally because it is focused on pleasing because it is focused on pleasing self –self –

The love we MUST have as The love we MUST have as Christians is one NOT motivated Christians is one NOT motivated by selfish ambition – but rather a by selfish ambition – but rather a genuine concerned for the well genuine concerned for the well being of other people, (not mere being of other people, (not mere temporary relief) – Phili 2:1-4; 1 temporary relief) – Phili 2:1-4; 1 Cor. 10:24; Gal. 5:13Cor. 10:24; Gal. 5:13


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The Greek is The Greek is παροξυνω paroxunoπαροξυνω paroxunoThayer: Thayer: 1) to make sharp, sharpen 1a) 1) to make sharp, sharpen 1a)

to stimulate, spur on, urge 1b) to to stimulate, spur on, urge 1b) to irritate, provoke, arouse to anger 1b1) irritate, provoke, arouse to anger 1b1) to scorn, despise 1b2) provoke, make to scorn, despise 1b2) provoke, make angry 1b3) to exasperate, to burn angry 1b3) to exasperate, to burn with angerwith anger

Vines:Vines: <Verb,3947, <Verb,3947,paroxunoparoxuno> > primarily, "to sharpen" . . . is used primarily, "to sharpen" . . . is used metaphorically, signifying "to rouse to metaphorically, signifying "to rouse to anger, to provokeanger, to provoke," . . . in ," . . . in 1Co_13:51Co_13:5, , RV, "is not provoked" (the word RV, "is not provoked" (the word "easily" in AV, represents no word in "easily" in AV, represents no word in the original). See STIR.the original). See STIR.


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The Greek is The Greek is παροξυνω paroxunoπαροξυνω paroxuno The term carries the idea of being The term carries the idea of being

easily irritated or incensed. Eph easily irritated or incensed. Eph 4:31,32; James 1:194:31,32; James 1:19 There are some people that There are some people that

you have to “walk on you have to “walk on eggshells” around . . . eggshells” around . . .

Love does NOT go around with Love does NOT go around with a chip on its shoulder.a chip on its shoulder.

Not condemning “righteous Not condemning “righteous indignation!” – John 2:14-17; Eph indignation!” – John 2:14-17; Eph 4:264:26


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The Greek is The Greek is κακος kakosκακος kakosThayer: Thayer: 1) of a bad nature 1a) not such 1) of a bad nature 1a) not such

as it ought to be 2) of a mode of as it ought to be 2) of a mode of thinking, feeling, acting 2a) base, thinking, feeling, acting 2a) base, wrong, wicked 3) troublesome, wrong, wicked 3) troublesome, injurious, pernicious, destructive, injurious, pernicious, destructive, banefulbaneful

Vines:Vines: <A-1,Adjective,2556, <A-1,Adjective,2556,kakoskakos> > stands for "whatever is evil in stands for "whatever is evil in character, base," . . . Kakos is character, base," . . . Kakos is antithetic to kalos, "fair, advisable, antithetic to kalos, "fair, advisable, good in character," and to agathos, good in character," and to agathos, "beneficial, useful, good in act;" hence "beneficial, useful, good in act;" hence it denotes what is useless, incapable, it denotes what is useless, incapable, bad; . . . bad; . . .


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The Greek is The Greek is κακος kakosκακος kakos Love does not dwell on evils it Love does not dwell on evils it

has incurred - has incurred - If one dwells on evil - then If one dwells on evil - then

bitterness and resentment are sure bitterness and resentment are sure fruits . . . fruits . . .

There are some who like to keep There are some who like to keep score of wrongs done! – score of wrongs done! – To bear a grudge is not in the To bear a grudge is not in the

character of love! Prov. 10:12 character of love! Prov. 10:12 We should seek forgiveness!! – We should seek forgiveness!! –

Luke 17:3Luke 17:3


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Love does not rejoice in Love does not rejoice in sinning nor with others as sinning nor with others as they engage in sin - they engage in sin - Some are happy in sin - 2 Some are happy in sin - 2

Thes 2:12Thes 2:12 Sinners & false teachers are Sinners & false teachers are

uncomfortable where love is uncomfortable where love is - Luke 6:22; John 7:7- Luke 6:22; John 7:7

BUT – Love enjoys doing BUT – Love enjoys doing righteousness & being with righteousness & being with the righteous! – the righteous! – 2 John 1:4; 3 John 1:3,4 2 John 1:4; 3 John 1:3,4


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To remain steady under trial OR

To conceal or hide – 1 Pet 4:8Believes the best -

until evidence proves otherwise - considers

all evidenceWhen evidence is adverse – love still hopes for the best

Loves sticks it out . . . It doesn’t quit under

adverse circumstances


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Suffers longSuffers long

Is kindIs kind

Does not envyDoes not envy

Does not Does not parade itselfparade itself

Is not puffed upIs not puffed up

Does not Does not behave rudelybehave rudely

Does not seek Does not seek its ownits own

Is not provoked, Is not provoked,

Thinks no evil; Thinks no evil;

Does not rejoice in Does not rejoice in iniquity, iniquity,

But rejoices in the But rejoices in the truth; truth;

Bears all things, Bears all things,

Believes all things, Believes all things,

Hopes all things, Hopes all things,

Endures all things.Endures all things.


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1 Cor. 13:8,131 Cor. 13:8,13

[8] Love never fails. But whether there are [8] Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there prophecies, they will fail; whether there

are tongues, they will cease; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. is knowledge, it will vanish away.

[13] And now abide faith, hope, love, [13] And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is these three; but the greatest of these is

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1 John 3:10-18 (NKJV) 1 John 3:10-18 (NKJV) . . . [11] For this is the message that you heard from . . . [11] For this is the message that you heard from

the beginning, that we should love one another, . . . [14] the beginning, that we should love one another, . . . [14] We know that we have passed from death to life, We know that we have passed from death to life,

because we love the brethren. He who does not love his because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death. . . . [16] By this we know love, brother abides in death. . . . [16] By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. [17] But whoever to lay down our lives for the brethren. [17] But whoever has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? [18] My little children, let us not love in abide in him? [18] My little children, let us not love in

word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.


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1 John 4:20-21 (NKJV) 1 John 4:20-21 (NKJV)

If someone says, "I love God," and If someone says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has does not love his brother whom he has

seen, how can he love God whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? [21] And this commandment we not seen? [21] And this commandment we

have from Him: that he who loves God have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also. must love his brother also.


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