Dorji ThinlayChief Investigation OfficerAnti-corruption commissionThimphu Bhutan

www.acc.org.btACC Delegation, Maldives & Timor-Leste, 10 - 15 July, 2011

Universal Human Value

5th

Nation’s Conscience Nation’s Conscience

Lead by ExampleLead by Example

If you Care, You will DareIf you Care, You will Dare

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Objective - Score Maximum points.Objective - Score Maximum points.

Each straight line scores 5 points.Each straight line scores 5 points.

You get 30 seconds, (you need only 15 seconds)You get 30 seconds, (you need only 15 seconds)

Exercise on Team Work

Brain teaserConscious invoker

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Points = 5Points = 5

Team Work: Competitive

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Points = 5Points = 5

Team Work: Competitive

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Points = 15Points = 15

Team Work: Self endeavour

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Points = 15 + 15 = 30Points = 15 + 15 = 30

Team Work

Excellence

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Points = 15 + 15 = 30Points = 15 + 15 = 30

Team Work: Supportive

Excellence

Scores, how many scored:Scores, how many scored:

1.1. Zero = Zero =

2.2. Five = Five =

3.3. Ten =Ten =

4.4. Fifteen =Fifteen =

5.5. Thirty = Thirty =

6.6. Any other =Any other =

We talk about Team Work.

Do we pause for a minute, analyze and think how one could contribute?

What is this so called What is this so called ’Human Value’’Human Value’??

Human Conduct or Behaviour based on Human Conduct or Behaviour based on

one’s Natural Acceptance verified on one’s Natural Acceptance verified on

one’s Own Rightone’s Own Right

What is this Natural Acceptance?What is this Natural Acceptance?

Natural Acceptance is :-Natural Acceptance is :-

- Innate Self- Innate Self

- Inner self- Inner self

- Natural Self (coming from heart)- Natural Self (coming from heart)

- Un-corrupt Self- Un-corrupt Self

We want to be happyWe want to be happy

We want to be prosperousWe want to be prosperous

We want the continuity of We want the continuity of happiness and happiness and prosperityprosperity

Are we happy?Are we happy?

Are we prosperous?Are we prosperous?

Is there continuity of our Is there continuity of our happiness and happiness and prosperity?prosperity?

DesireDesire State of BeingState of Being

What is the Ultimate Goal (desire) as a What is the Ultimate Goal (desire) as a Human Being?Human Being?

Happiness is being in HarmonyHappiness is being in Harmony

Disharmony or Contradiction means (brings) = UnhappinessDisharmony or Contradiction means (brings) = Unhappiness

Prosperity is Prosperity is FeelingFeeling of having more than required Physical of having more than required Physical Facilities.Facilities.

Then the feeling of not having more than required Physical Then the feeling of not having more than required Physical Facility = Deprivation. Facility = Deprivation.

Living in Living in HarmonyHarmony with: with:

1.1. SelfSelf

2.2. Other SelfOther Self

3.3. Family Family

4.4. Society Society

5.5. Nature Nature

6.6. UniverseUniverse

FeelingFeeling of having more than of having more than required Physical Facilities.required Physical Facilities.

Ingredient forIngredient forHappinessHappiness ProsperityProsperity

Right UnderstandingCorrect assessment of need for

Physical Facilities.

Right Understanding

Living in Living in HarmonyHarmony with: with:

1.1. SelfSelf

2.2. Other SelfOther Self

3.3. Family Family

4.4. Society Society

5.5. Nature Nature

6.6. UniverseUniverse

FeelingFeeling of having more than of having more than required Physical Facilities.required Physical Facilities.

Ingredient forIngredient forHappinessHappiness ProsperityProsperity

For continuous happiness & prosperity

Continuous Right Understanding

Process of dialogue

More important dialogue

within SELF

Who is the biggest stranger

to you? Yourself

How Much???

Dialogue within SELF

How much do we understand

self?

Therefore,….

Dialogue within SELF

Right Understanding is deficientRight Understanding is deficient

Conclusion drawn based on:Conclusion drawn based on:

1.1.Pre-conditioningPre-conditioning

2.2.Assumption Assumption

RELATIONSHIP with human

beings

PHYSICAL FACILITY

with rest of nature

RIGHT UNDERSTANDING

in the self

MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY

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Priority: Right Understanding of Relationship Priority: Right Understanding of Relationship & Physical Facility& Physical Facility

Feelings- Trust- Respect- …

RELATIONSHIPwith human

beings

PHYSICAL FACILITY

with rest of nature

RIGHT UNDERSTANDING

in the self

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Priority: Physical FacilityPriority: Physical Facility

UNHAPPINESS (Mutual) DEPRIVATION (Mutual)

Conflict, fight, war Exploitation, corruption

9 Feelings in relationship:9 Feelings in relationship:

1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE2- Respect 3- Affection 4- Care5- Guidance

6- Reverence 7- Glory 8- Gratitude 9- Love COMPLETE

VALUE

Trust Trust = = to be assuredto be assured

= = to have the clarity that the other to have the clarity that the other wants to make me happy & wants to make me happy & prosperousprosperous

When there is Trust on Intention, you feel When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the otherrelated to the other

Absence of Trust on IntentionAbsence of Trust on Intention

= lack of assurance that the other intends my = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperityhappiness & prosperity

Verify on the basis of your Verify on the basis of your natural acceptancenatural acceptance

1a. I 1a. I want to want to make myself make myself happyhappy

2a. I 2a. I want to want to make the other make the other happyhappy

3a. The other 3a. The other wants to wants to make make herself/himself happyherself/himself happy

4a. The other 4a. The other wants to wants to make make me happyme happy

Verify on the basis of your Verify on the basis of your

competencecompetence

1b. I 1b. I am able to am able to make myself make myself

always happy always happy ??

2b. I 2b. I am able to am able to make the other make the other

always happy always happy ??

3b. The other 3b. The other is able to is able to make make

herself/himself always happyherself/himself always happy??

4b. The other 4b. The other is able to is able to make me make me

always happyalways happy ?? ??

Evaluating Trust – Between 2 IndividualsEvaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals

Intention – Natural Acceptance

What is Naturally Acceptable to MeCompetence

What I am (∑ D, T, E)

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The other broke a glassThe other broke a glass

The other makes mistakes The other makes mistakes intentionallyintentionally

The other intended to break the The other intended to break the glass – The other is a bad glass – The other is a bad personperson

The glass broke by accidentThe glass broke by accident

I make mistakes by accidentI make mistakes by accident

Even if I make the same Even if I make the same mistake 100 times, I never mistake 100 times, I never doubt my intention – I always doubt my intention – I always feel I am a good personfeel I am a good person

About the Other About Myself About the Other About Myself

I evaluate my self on my intention (2a) ... I conclude “I am good”I evaluate the other on his competence (4b) ... I conclude “the other is bad”I conclude about the intention of the other on the basis of his competence ... I doubt his intentionIrritation, anger, condemning the other are indications of doubt on intention

Doubt on intention is a major reason for problems in relationships

When there is Trust on Intention, you feel When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the otherrelated to the other

Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & that the other intends my happiness & prosperityprosperity

Check within yourselfCheck within yourselfHow many persons do you have trust on intention How many persons do you have trust on intention

(natural acceptance) (natural acceptance) – – unconditional, continuous?unconditional, continuous?

If you have unconditional, continuous trust on If you have unconditional, continuous trust on intention (natural acceptance) of the other and if intention (natural acceptance) of the other and if the other is lacking competence, what will you do:the other is lacking competence, what will you do:

a)a) Try to improve his competenceTry to improve his competenceb)b) Get irritatedGet irritatedc)c) Get angryGet angryd)d) Have a feeling of oppositionHave a feeling of opposition

This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the This is fundamental. Trust on intention is the foundation of relationshipfoundation of relationship

If Trust on Intention

If Doubt on Intention

Respect = Right EvaluationRespect = Right Evaluation

Over evaluationOver evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is– to evaluate for more than what it is

Under evaluationUnder evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is– to evaluate for less than what it is

Otherwise evaluationOtherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is– to evaluate for other than what it is

Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespectWhenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect

Disrespect

RespectRespect

Respect: Respect: Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I)Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I)

1.1. PurposePurpose I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperityI want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperityThe other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity

Our purpose is similar (on the basis of Natural Acceptance)Our purpose is similar (on the basis of Natural Acceptance)2.2. ProgramProgram

My program is to My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all levelsunderstand and to live in harmony at all levels The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all

levelslevels

Our program is similarOur program is similar3.3. PotentialPotential

Desire, Thought & ExpectationDesire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural is continuous in me. I am endowed with Natural AcceptanceAcceptance

Desire, Thought & ExpectationDesire, Thought & Expectation is continuous in the other. The other is also is continuous in the other. The other is also endowed with Natural Acceptanceendowed with Natural Acceptance

Our potential is similarOur potential is similar

The Other is Similar to Me The Other is Similar to Me I feelfeel related Do not doubt IntentionDoubt his Competency Feeling: make him understandI am committed to facilitate understanding in the other

DifferentiationDifferentiation

Differentiation = Disrespect Differentiation = Disrespect

Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition…Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition…

Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facility or Beliefs Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facility or Beliefs (preconditioning) turns out to be differentiation and therefore (preconditioning) turns out to be differentiation and therefore disrespectdisrespect

Differentiation

Body Physical Facility Beliefs

Age Gender PostWealth Isms Physical Strength

Race Sects Info

Self Confidence, Ego & DepressionSelf Confidence, Ego & DepressionRight Evaluation Over Evaluation Under / Otherwise

Evaluation

Self Confidence Ego Depression

I am self referential The other is my reference The other is my reference

Definite Conduct Indefinite Conduct Indefinite Conduct

Check within Yourself! Check within Yourself!

The unhappiness in your family isThe unhappiness in your family is More due to lack of More due to lack of physical facilityphysical facility or or More due to lack of fulfillment in More due to lack of fulfillment in relationshiprelationship??

How much time and effort are you investing:How much time and effort are you investing: For For physical facilityphysical facility For fulfillment in For fulfillment in relationshiprelationship

The unhappiness is more due to lack of fulfillment The unhappiness is more due to lack of fulfillment in in relationshiprelationship

Most of the time and effort is spent for Most of the time and effort is spent for physical physical facilityfacility

Therefore we can observe two categories of Therefore we can observe two categories of human beingshuman beings

1.1. Lacking Lacking physical facilityphysical facility, unhappy deprived, unhappy deprived

2.2. Having Having physical facilityphysical facility, unhappy deprived, unhappy deprived

AffectionAffectionThe feeling of being related to the otherThe feeling of being related to the other

(acceptance of the other as one’s (acceptance of the other as one’s relative)relative)

One naturally feels related to the other when one has One naturally feels related to the other when one has the feelings of Trust and Respect in oneself for the the feelings of Trust and Respect in oneself for the otherother

Absence of Affection = Opposition, JealousyAbsence of Affection = Opposition, Jealousy

Feeling of responsibility Feeling of responsibility toward the body of my toward the body of my relativerelative

The responsibility & The responsibility & commitment for commitment for nurturingnurturing and and protecting protecting the Body of the Body of my relativemy relative

Feeling of responsibility Feeling of responsibility toward the self(I) of my toward the self(I) of my relative relative

The responsibility & The responsibility & commitment for ensuring commitment for ensuring Right UnderstandingRight Understanding and and Right Feeling Right Feeling in the in the self(I) of my relativeself(I) of my relative

Care Care GuidanceGuidance

Care & Guidance naturally follow Affection

ReverenceReverenceThe feeling of acceptance for ExcellenceThe feeling of acceptance for Excellence

Excellence Excellence

Understanding Harmony &Understanding Harmony &

Living in HarmonyLiving in Harmony

The other is like me – I Trust, respect, care and guide…..The other is like me – I Trust, respect, care and guide…..

Excellence and competition are not similar.Excellence and competition are not similar.

In excellence, one helps to bring the other to his levelIn excellence, one helps to bring the other to his level

In competition, he hinders the other from reaching to his levelIn competition, he hinders the other from reaching to his level

at all 4 levels1. In the Self, as an Individual2. In Family3. In Society4. In Nature/Existence

Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related want to be related to:to:

NoneNone

OneOne

ManyMany

EveryoneEveryone

Affection Affection – The feeling of being related to the other– The feeling of being related to the other

(acceptance of the other as one’s relative)(acceptance of the other as one’s relative)

Love – The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value)Love – The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value)

Affection

Love

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The feeling of being related to none – in opposition to allThe feeling of being related to oneThe feeling of being related to many

The feeling of being related to all

Program for Continuous HappinessProgram for Continuous HappinessTo understand the To understand the Harmony at all levels of our BeingHarmony at all levels of our Being

1.1. Harmony in the Human BeingHarmony in the Human Being

2.2. Harmony in the FamilyHarmony in the Family

3.3. Harmony in the SocietyHarmony in the Society

4.4. Harmony in Nature/ExistenceHarmony in Nature/Existence

To live in Harmony at all levels of our BeingTo live in Harmony at all levels of our Being1.1. As an IndividualAs an Individual

2.2. In FamilyIn Family

3.3. In SocietyIn Society

4.4. In Nature/ExistenceIn Nature/Existence

Scope of Understanding

Scope of Living

Right UnderstandingRight Understanding

RELATIONSHIP with human beings

PHYSICAL FACILITY

with rest of nature

RIGHT UNDERSTANDING

in the self

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Living in Harmony at all 4 levels:

- Individual- Family- Society- Nature/Existence

Understanding Harmony:-Harmony in the Individual-Harmony in Family-Harmony in Society-Harmony in Nature/Existence

Living in Harmony at all 4 levels:-Individual-Family-Society-Nature/Existence

Living with Human Consciousness

MUTUAL HAPPINESS

MUTUAL PROSPERITY

Let’s Living with Human ConsciousnessLet’s live HappilyLet’s live ProsperouslyIt only takes Right Understanding