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Authentic Donor Relationships:The Cornerstone of Philanthropy
October 25, 2019
Kerry A. Bartlett, CFRE, MBAManaging Director
Carter
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Agenda
• Framing the conversation• Relationship economy• Relationships in a culture of philanthropy• Building and strengthening authentic
relationships• Donor engagement• Identifying your best practices and
planning for 2019-2020
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Give and Gets• What one thing are you going to give to
the next 60 minutes?
• What one thing do you hope to get from the next 60 minutes?
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Reflection
What donor-relationship accomplishment are you most proud of this year?
When you reflect on it, what feeling or emotion do you have about this relationship?
Share with one of your elbow partnersShare a few with the roomWhat are the common themes?
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Relationship Economy• What makes a relationship good or authentic?
• What makes a donor relationship good or authentic?
• Similarities?
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Fundraising Strategies
TransactionalSpecial events, direct
response, online giving
RelationalMajor and planned
gifts, mega gifts
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A Culture of Philanthropy requires a shift in thinking from transactional giving to relational giving.
Charity Philanthropy
ProblemAbout moneyShort-term crisisOrganizational needsImpulsive givingShort-lived satisfaction
SolutionAbout missionLong-term visionCommunity needsThoughtful investmentSatisfying outcome
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Donor Characteristics
Transactional Relational
Dislikes involvementGives to be socialUnwilling to commit to long termWrite a check and doneInstant gratificationWill not solicit others
Wants deep involvementGives to make changeWants to see change over timeMakes an investmentSees valueWill invite others to join
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Relationship Giving
People give to people Right person, time, ask, project
Confidence Project is worthy and management good
Trust Organization keeps promises
Stewardship Gifts are honored, well-managed and appreciated
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Knowing Your Authentic Self
Can you build an authentic relationship without knowing your authentic self?
Self-AssessmentAnswer the 12 rating questionsTake it home for further reflection
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Definition of Authentic Relationships
• Origin of the relationship is agreed on
• Recognized common interest
• Share thoughts and feelings in a
relatively unadulterated form
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Your Role in Building Authentic RelationshipsDoesn’t it just come naturally?
• Most people are not born with the natural ability to build authentic relationships
• Recognize the need• Takes time and effort to develop the skills
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7 Habits for Building a Better Relationships
1. Become a great listener2. Ask the right questions3. Pay attention to the whole person4. Remember things important to others5. Be consistent and manage emotions6. Be open and share when time is right7. Genuine, confident, humble, trustworthy,
positive and fun
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Are You an Active Listener?
SurveyActivities to strengthen your skillsYou may not be as good as you could be!
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Who Is Your Role Model?
What habits do they do especially well?
When have you seen or experienced them using these skills or talents?
What was your observation or feeling?
How can you aspire to apply what you have learned from them to your work?
Elbow partners and report
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Long and DeepLong is the perspective offered to major donor prospects
Requires purpose and intentionalityRequires patienceRequires planning
Deep is the level of engagement for major donor prospects
Requires non risk-aversion leadershipRequires best-in-class expertise
Requires more time from leadership
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What Does Engagement Look Like?Psychological Engagement• Relationship the donor BELIEVES they have
with the organization• How warmly a donor feels toward the
organization• Survey measures – we have to ASK
Tangible Engagement• Intensity of participation (time and resources)• Behavioral measures – we can SEE
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Establishing Best PracticesThink back to the donor-relationship accomplishment you reflected on at the beginning of our conversation
1. What one key strategy did you develop to cultivate that relationship?
2. What behaviors represented tangible engagement by the donor?
3. How did you provide space for the donor to offer more than financial resources?
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Establishing Best PracticesStrategy CaféPick a question on which you would like to share insightsGo to that flip chart and write your responseDiscuss with others in your group Pick one or two key practices and be prepared to share with room
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Applying Best PracticesImagine it is October 2020 and we are at this workshop
Reflect on the donor-relationship accomplishment you want to be able to share with the group.
What are the best practices you are going to employ in 2019-20 to move you toward that donor relationship accomplishment?
Write them down. How will you hold yourself accountable?
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Always Position for the FutureSpend time on relationships
Engage your prospects with the cause
Concentrate on the emotional needs of your prospects
Get on their side of the desk
Stress OUTCOMES!! Not activities
Accept their perspective
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RememberThis has to be fun, or at least enjoyable, for you and the donor or the behavior will not be repeated
Think about engagement-based relationships you have with other organizations
Make your own largest Major Gift ever this year and see how good it feels!
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Thank you!Birthday Gift!
Plusses and Deltas
Questions and Comments
Kerry A. Bartlett, CFRE, MBAManaging [email protected]
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