Dear Expectant Father
BECOMING A FATHER IS A PROCESS !
Time To Grow-
As an ex
pectant fa
ther
you need
to use
your
pregnancy
as a tim
e to
grow from bein
g a
'man' to
being a
'father'
. This
is tru
e of
women as w
ell.
The Transition Time-
Pregnancy
is the
transit
ion time f
rame
and 'the b
irth' is
the
very s
pecific
, defi
ned
Gateway t
hrough
which both of y
ou must
pass in order
to
'parent'.
Here’s t
he rea
lity, o
nce
you’ve
impreg
nated a
woman growth is all
on.
The fert
ilized
egg goes
on
steroids, t
he cell
s
multiplyi
ng consta
ntly and
rapidly. The B
iological
Impera
tive o
f growth ta
kes
over ev
en th
ough neither
you nor t
he mother
may
know co
nceptio
n has
occurre
d.
Growth is m
andated
regardles
s how ei
ther of y
ou
feel a
bout each
other or t
he
pregnancy,
or your f
inancial
situatio
n, your f
amily lif
e or
other facto
rs. The g
rowth of
your b
aby doesn
’t take
a
break …
not for o
ne momen
t.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Often m
en fe
el lik
e obser
vers
to this
early
pregnancy
…
and even
later
. Now’s n
ot the
time t
o just
watch. In
fact,
now is th
e tim
e for y
ou …
and all exp
ectant fa
thers …
to choose
to grow at the
same tim
e.
Of course
it’s m
uch m
ore
difficu
lt to co
ntinue t
o grow
rather than be f
orced to
by
circu
mstances
. Lucki
ly yo
ur
baby wasn’t b
orn 10 minutes
after c
onceptio
n, you get
up
to 9 months t
o grow into
‘being’ a
father.
FRAMEWORK FOR YOUR GROWTH INTO FATHERHOOD.
Pregnancy
can be b
roken up in
to 5
phases fo
r your o
wn growth:
• Conceptio
n to 12 week
s
• 12-24 week
s
• 24-32 week
s
• 32 weeks to
the b
irth
• The birt
h
THESE ARE THE QUALITIES YOU CAN FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION ON GROWING DURING THESE PHASES.
Remember you want to grow these qualiti
es toward yourse
lf, your b
aby
and its mother:
Kindness
Patience
Awareness
Attention to detail
Being able to see what needs to be done and doing it
Growing a second set of arms
Growing two more sets o
f eyes
Humour
Delight
Clarity
Don
’t w
ait u
nti
l you
r n
ewbo
rn
is in
you
r ar
ms
to tr
y to
fi
gure
ou
t how
to f
athe
r.
Grow skills-
Your s
kills
can be
learned
while
your
baby is g
rowing insid
e
the mother
and while
the woman is
growing
her motheri
ng skills
.
By growing yo
ur
fathering sk
ills while
pregnant a
nd using
birth/co
aching sk
ills
during birt
h then
you
can ‘b
e’ a co
nfiden
t
father once
your b
aby
is born.
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THANK YOU
