Facing In Facing Out
Empower
Anne Topping
Outline:
Session 1 (up to coffee – 11.00)
Input: Some ideas:
Facing In :
- Self
- Those with whom we immediately work
Facing Out:Facing Out:
- Recognising Potential
- Transference
Activity: Self/With others
Coffee : 11.00 – 11.30
Session 2 11.30 – 12.30
Facing Out : in conversation
Aim:
To share some ideas on empowerment
Purposes: To:
• explore empowering self and others
• consider empowerment from elsewhere• consider empowerment from elsewhere
• do some transference
• think outside the box
• have some fun
Accompanying notes . . .
The deal . . .
I cannot say be empowered. I cannot say wake up.
I cannot tell you to do or become anything.
What I can do is to take my responsibility, to say my bit.
And then its your responsibility to take what you will.
If today is not your day to wake up don’t worry it’s a beautiful day
and there will be another one. Another time. Another opportunity.
The conviction of the
oppressed that they must
fight for their liberation is
not a gift bestowed by the
revolutionary leadership, revolutionary leadership,
but the result of their own
conscientização.
Paulo Freire
Facing In - Self
Accompanying notes . . .
Anthony DeMello Awareness – Eagle Story
The question is,
how many of us are eagles how many of us are eagles
behaving like chickens?
When it is in balance human
growth proceeds in all directions:
it looks like an expanding sphere
rather than a straight line.
Piero Ferrucci
Accompanying notes in brief . . .
Possible first step towards empowering self:
Learn to love yourself
One key aspect your self esteem
(Self Esteem : the inner picture you hold of yourself)
Strong self esteem : capacity to ‘spring’ back when knocked
Poor self esteem : takes a long time to remould after a knockPoor self esteem : takes a long time to remould after a knock
Stop the negative internal voice – as soon as it starts
Count your blessings .
Learn “No-one is coming to save you” Nathaniel Brandon.
You have to do some things yourself.
Do not wait like Rapunsel.
Keep in
balance
Cognitive:
Think
Documentary
Book, Play, Debate
Emotional:
On other’s
terms
Unconditional
Relaxed
Spiritual:
Awe, StillnessCreative:
Awe, Stillness
Wonder
Awareness
Physical:
Walk, Dance
Massage, Sport
Sing, Sculpt
Arrange Flowers
Make a meal
Jenny Mosely
Quality Circle Time
Accompanying notes . . .
And where is God in all this?
Well I suspect that depends where you think you will find God.
If you think God is inside, within, “the treasure is in the field and the
field is you” (Gerald Hughes).
Or if you seek to find God outside, outwith.
Or if you seek to find God both within and with out.
“For we are being transformed from one degree of Glory to another
as though reflected in a mirror”
2 Cor 3 v17 - 18
Facing In - Others
Qualities of AccompanyingAccompanying Maxine Green and Christian Chandu
Empathy
Sympathy
Tolerance
Respect for viewpoint of accompanied
Being grounded or being centred
Personal space
Understanding
Wisdom
Active listening
Concentration
Grace
The first duty of love is to listen.Paul Johannes Tillich
Facing Out –
Reflecting in
Accompanying notes . . .
How can we gain empowerment from facing out?
Story of being approached by an American visitor at the inner city
school in which I worked. Being asked how long have you worked
here? Three years. It’s time for you to move on. If you don’t move
out you will lose touch with reality, with alternatives ways of being.
Staying here becomes the norm – the same being within the church.
When we stay inside, facing in, we become immured to what is
reality. We need alternative perspectives. We need to look out and
see what might be helpful to reflect in.
But note the genius of change . . .
Change
The genesis of change arises
from the dynamic tension of
vision and enquiry – the vision and enquiry – the
ability to simultaneously
express and extend what you
value.
Michael Fullan
Accompanying notes . . .
What’s out there?
Well last Friday I received a letter from Waitrose …. Let’s put aside
why I was receiving a letter from Waitrose
This was a letter directly to me offering me the opportunity to
participate in product development – they don’t need my help on
product development, they have teams of highly qualified people
doing this, they don’t me to say I think the next time it should be pink
because they have already researched and the next colour will be because they have already researched and the next colour will be
turquiose.
No this is an activity of ancouraging ‘belonging’, being a part of
something, owning.
And in the back of my mind is the question when did the Methodist
Church last send me a letter directly, by name? Locally/ Connexional?
What does the example of this letter have to say to us?
Lean (Toyota Cars)
Fit: makes organisation fit for purpose
Flexible: enables processes to react quickly
Accompanying notes . . .
Toyota lean – process for manufacturing shiny cars – what has this
got to offer to your work, our work? The Church? Methodism?
You’ll be glad I’m not going to go through the whole lot just one
aspect . One key concept – waste or muda.
I’m going to list these out for you and whilst I do perhaps you might
like to consider what transference there is to your situation . . .
What could this process/practice offer in terms of empowerment?
7(+1) Wastes
Waiting: for information, services or products, for an
activity to start.
Over-processing: more activity than is required or more
products than required.
Motion/Transportation: People & things having to move
whilst undertaking activities.
Rework: Correction, re-do.Rework: Correction, re-do.
Processing Waste: things that just don’t
need to be done.
Inventory: stacking or queuing people,
Information or materials.
+1: Talent: misusing people’s skills &
destroying their enthusiasm
Accompanying notes . . .
And finally on Women’s hour as I was driving here an article about
the Pink Chaddi movement – The Consortium of pub-going, loose
and forward women.
Pink Chaddi Campaign
The Consortium of pubgoing,
forward and loose women
http://thepinkchaddicampaign.blogspot.com/
Accompanying notes . . .
Hear the story of how the Pink Chaddi campaign came about.
Now asking for people to send in 1minute videos of what they are
doing in terms of Indian Culture.
What is empowering for us from this?
What might be transferable?
Up until coffee at 11.00 . . .
Activity:
Facing in – self
Facing in – others
Facing out – transferring in
Choose toChoose to
walk, pray, talk, doodle, write.
Reflect from the input or use the leaflet.
Respect
one another's space and right to choose.
Facing In Facing Out
Empower
Empower
Sharing
a conversation
together.together.
A process
Accompanying notes . . .
Health WarningIf you’re going to try ‘at home’…Sharing conversation.
The process which was undertaken during the hour on the day
was not the only bit of preparation process that should be
noted. The whole group had spent two days together, working
individually and in small groups. The morning session on the day, individually and in small groups. The morning session on the day,
both the nature of the presentation and the content, will have
also contributed to the ethos, necessary safely and atmosphere
of the whole group. The required elements for successful group
conversation were not accidental.
It requires a safe space, safe people, rapport, the right energy,
appropriate time and pace, capacity to know, ‘hold’ and support
the group process. Prayer. Being present. Whole group
willingness to be open to the presence and work of the holy
spirit.
Holy Conversations
People explore their differences and their
perceptions. People risk saying what they
believe to be important. The talk is full of
stories, memories and hopes – the kind of
conversation that strengthens and transforms
people.
But conversation cannot be predicted or But conversation cannot be predicted or
controlled.
Conversation is holy because, at its best it is
about a people’s understanding of their
identity as a faith community, their sense of
purpose, and their relationship with God.
Holy Conversations Gil Rendle Alice Mann
Facing In Facing Out
Empower
Anne Topping
Accompanying notes . . .
Books behind . . .
The Methodist Hymn Book 767 Charles Wesley
The Bible NRSV
Awareness Anthony De Mello
Lean for Practitioners Mark Eaton
New Educational meaning of Change Michael Fullan
Pedagogy of the Oppressed Paulo Friere
Creating a sense of Urgency Jim Knotter
What we might be Pierre Ferruci
Accompanying Maxine Green /Christian Chandu
When I go to work I feel Guilty Jenny Mosely
God of Surprises Gerald Hughes
Star in my Heart Joyce Rupp
Holy Conversations Alice Mann & Gil Rendle
Thank you