HIS BRAIN/ HER BRAINHIS BRAIN/ HER BRAIN

Why It Took Moses Forty Years To Why It Took Moses Forty Years To Find His Way Out Of The DesertFind His Way Out Of The Desert

THE BRAINTHE BRAIN

• Reptilian• Mammalian• Homo Sapien• Corpus Collosum

• Wired For Survival• Unchanged 50,000 Yrs

DEVELOPMENTDEVELOPMENT

• Basic Template Female

• Affected By Chromosomes

• XX Girl XY Boy

• Hormonal Wash 6-8 Week Brain

• Genitals

• Brain Orientation

HISHIS

• Hunter

• Long Range Directional Skills

• Spatial Sense

• Single Task (Charles Emerson Winchester)

• Procreation

• Things

• Pain And Empathy

HERSHERS

• Nest Protector

• Communal

• More Finely Tuned Sensory Skills

• Multi-Tasker

• Non-Verbal Communicator

• People

• Can Process Input Faster, Integrate

BRAIN 2BRAIN 2

• MEN– Resting Brain 30%

Active– Logic– Left Brain Dominant

(Except Spatial Area)– When Speak, Only

One Site Active

• WOMEN– Resting 90%

Active– Emotive– Multi-Hemisphere,

Corpus Collossum – Speech And

Hearing Centers Active

SPEECHSPEECH

• MEN– Left Brain Frontal

– 8000 Signals

– Direct, Literal

– More Stutterers

– Use To Compete

– Emotionless Listening

– Don’t Feel Need To Express Pleasure In Words

• WOMEN– Multiple Sites, Bilat

– 20,000 Signals

– Indirect Language, Negotiating, Emotive

– More Facile, Integrated

– Use As Reward, As Bond

– 6 Listening Postures

– Talks And Talks

SPEECH 2SPEECH 2

• 60-80% Non-Verbal Signals

• 20-30% Voice Sounds

• 7-10% Words

• Men Only Hear The Words

• Women Hear And Use 6 Tones

• Men Hear And Use 4 Tones

• Silence Is Not Punishment

LYINGLYING

• Women Lie To Make Others Feel Better

• Men Lie To Make Selves Look Good

• Men Don’t Lie More, They Just Keep Getting Caught

• Most Common Lie Self-Deception

• The Closer A Person Is In Relationship, Harder To Lie

SOCIALSOCIAL

• MEN– Goal Oriented– Lone Hunter– Problem Solver– Talks Achievement– Defines Self By

Achievements

• WOMEN– Community Builder– Communal– Problem Sharer – Talks Relationships– Defines Self By

Relationships

PROBLEM SOLVINGPROBLEM SOLVING

• MEN– Linear– Compartmentalize– Emotion Divorced– Solitary– Gives Space– Wants Answers– Help Means He

Failed

• WOMEN– Cluster– Churns Til Solved– Emotion Involved– Communal– Wants A Hug– Wants Support– Wants To Help

SIGHTSIGHT• MEN

– Tunnel Vision, Great Distances

– Can See Zebras On The Horizon

– Better Spatial Vision

– Color Cones X-attached (What The Hell Is Mauve?)

• WOMEN– Greater Peripheral-

up To 180° – Can Find The Butter

In The Fridge– Better Night Vision

– Rarely Get Caught Ogling Men

OTHER SENSESOTHER SENSES• SMELL

– Women Can Smell Whether A Man Has Healthy Immune System Within 3 Sec.

– Most Sensitive At Ovulation

• HEARING– Women’s Hearing On At All Times– Men Find Sound Direction Better

• TOUCH– Women 10X As Sensitive– Touch Releases Oxytocin “Cuddle Hormone”– Men Grope, Women Caress

ATTRACTIONATTRACTION• MAN

– Athletic Body– Sensitive Mouth– Full Breast– 70% Waist-Hip Ratio– Round Butt– Attractive Eyes– Flat Belly– Blonde– 12-14 Yr Old– Meat On The Bone

• WOMEN– Athletic Shape– Broad Shoulders, Chest– Full Hair– Sensual Mouth– Kind Eyes– Strong Nose And Chin– Narrow Hips– Credit Cards

SEXSEX• MEN

– Larger Hypothalamus– Orgasm 2 ½ Minutes– Need To Spread Seed– Relieve Tension– Really Can Mean

Nothing– Visual Stimulation

(Lights On)(Playboy Handy)

– Talk Dirty Before Sex

• WOMEN– Larger Amygdala– Orgasm 13-30 Minutes– Need Monogamy– Build Tension– Needs Emotional Bond– Touch, Sound, (Lights

Off)– Talk, Listen, Smell,

Touch…

LOVE and SCIENCELOVE and SCIENCE

Each Stage Has Chemical Release,Specific Brain Activity

LUST - Physical, Non-Verbal Attraction

INFATUATION - Attempt To Form Bond With Potential Partner: Associated With Elation

ATTACHMENT - Build Cooperative Bond To Raise Child

REFERENCEREFERENCE

• WHY MEN DON’T LISTEN AND WOMEN CAN’T READ MAPS– Barbara and Allan Pease– ISBN# 0-7679-0763-9

• WHY MEN DON’T HAVE A CLUE AND WOMEN ALWAYS NEED MORE SHOES– Barbara and Allan Pease– #ISBN 0-7679-1610-7

QUESTIONS?QUESTIONS?