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Avoiding the Power Struggle
Presented by the Behavior Support Team
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Norms○ Minimize distractions
(phones, conversations, etc.)○ Collaborate & Communicate○ Take care of your needs
Agenda
❖ Intro❖ What is a Power Struggle?❖ Relationships❖ Nonverbal & Paraverbal Communication❖ Verbal De-escalation❖ Setting Limits❖ Wrap-Up
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Today we will learn how to control our
responses to behavior in order to decrease power
struggles
ObjectiveWhat is a
power struggle?
Defending one’s authority or credibility
Types of Power Struggles
Personal button pushing
Bringing up the past history or irrelevant issues
Making empty threats and issuing ultimatums
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Why is this important?
● It is a quick method to de-escalate a student● It keeps you in control● Prevents students from feeding off of the attention
of the class or others● Breaks the cycle of escalation, tension, intensity, etc● Reduces the likelihood of further physical, verbal,
and other conflict● Helps teach students that engaging in power
struggles is futile and will not get them what/where they want
● Helps you, the adult, remain calm, clear headed, and more able to make good decisions and actions
Adapted from PBISWorld.com
Watch for the signs… Catch it early!
● When a student is trying to verbally engage you in an argument● When a student becomes agitated, aggressive or threatening● When the issue the student is arguing about is not essential, important, or
crucial (choose your battles wisely)● When a student can’t seem to drop it● When a student just wants to be correct, right, or win● When a student seems to be taking it personally and cannot handle the
issue, topic, etc● When giving directives, directions, corrections, or reprimands
Relationships
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Precipitating Factors Can you pass the birthday test?
Nonverbal & Paraverbal
Communication
Nonverbal Communication● Proxemics
○ Personal Space
● Kinesics○ Body Language
● Haptics○ Communication
through touch
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● Position○ Where you are in relation to others
● Posture○ How you hold and move your body
● Proximity○ Distance between individuals
Supportive Stance
Communicates respect - Nonthreatening - Maintains safety
Tone Volume Cadence
Paraverbal Communication
Verbal De-escalation
● Use empathic listening: ○ Be nonjudgmental ○ Give undivided attention○ Allow silence○ Use restatement to clarify○ Listen for underlying messages
Empathy & Understanding
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Pivot!
● This is the ability to say yes instead of no, but still mean the same thing.
● Instead of “No, you can’t take a break right now,” say “Yes, you may take a break after you finish those two problems.”
Reframe● Using a child’s imagination and play to
encourage a desired behavior.
● Ex. clean up song, pretending to be a mouse in the hallway, etc.
What activities are usually met with resistance?
How could you reframe them?
Shared Control
● Offer choices wherever possible
○ I need my child to get dressed for school, but the choice of shirt is up to him.
○ I need the students to start working, but where they sit is up to them.
Love & Logic
● Enforceable Statements / Words of gold
● One liners
● Bookmark handout
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“I can see that you really want to wear your sandals today even though it’s raining outside (empathy). I think if you do that, your feet will get cold and wet so I don’t recommend it(preview), but it’s up to you (power sharing). Please decide and let’s get ready to go.”
Let’s Practice!
Setting Limits
Offer Choices & Consequences
● Simple & Clear● Reasonable● Enforceable
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Types of Limits
● Interrupt & Redirect● When & Then● If & Then
Walk away!
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Wrap up
Handouts
* 2 x 10*Practice Academies*One liners/power struggles*PBISworld.com*Enforceable Statements
ResourcesWebsiteQuestions?
Behavior Support Team Website
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