OUR LITURGY
WE KEEP IN OUR PRAYERS
Those serving in the Armed Forces: David
Concepcion, Patrick Brasel, Sean Brasel, Chris
Ehlers, Donald Dikijian, Kristopher Rodgers,
Caes Waldron, Aaron Waldron, Andrew Paul,
Nicholas Paul, Sam Saracino, Joseph Mantz,
Jeffrey Hurley, Peter Miceli, Patricia McDonald,
Hunter Mantz, Michael Accardi, Christian Cseh,
Francis Manalo, Thomas Menendez, John
Covone, Theodore Dalley, Megan Navarro, Ken
Siano, Connor West, Josh Coates, Bryan
McCune, Danny Mullan, Shaun Lieb, Luiz
Maurina, Charles Misura
Those who are sick and shut-in: Dakota Schick,
Len, Jr., Justin Carlomusto, Andrew Baltazar,
JPC, AMG, CLS, Robert Scotti, Leslie Fagan,
Christine Clements, Pauline Wittman, Frances
Szala, Roseann Lukasik, Mervyn & Jonathan
Fonseca, Muriel & Kathy Matta, Eva & Tahsin
Uyar, Jeanette Rogers, Dawn Toscano, Elzira
Potenza, Elizabeth Klix, Lauren, Florence
Brennan, John & Patricia Kerod, Linda Seijas,
Ruth & Mitch Wieczorek, Jim & Shirley Prato,
Ana Katrina de Sesto, Gregory Meyer, David
Rose, Kevin & Harriet North, Maureen Ali, Rose
Tirone, Brendan Lynch, Michael, Rosemarie
Testa, Rosa Ponce, Marilyn Kaiser, Kelly Hayes,
Louis Marsico, Kim Stocco, Karen Nobel, Toby
Yapaolo, Antonina P, Helen Fertitta, Denise
Bergeron, Elaine McDonnell, Stan Banas, Mary
Doyle, Irena Grabowiecka, Robert Ahlers, John
Fossa, Anna Lesniak, Velma Segalla, Cecilia
D’Agostin, Marcella Gatti, Joe Rosplock, Brian
Mayer, Gabe Buonauro; Ann Okose Ubah, Anne
Marie, Anthony Castellano, Solomon Brown,
Betty Bonfiglio, George and Helen Huss; Felicia
Hammel, Chad Campbell, John Franey, Jax,
Kristyn Lee Smith, Barbara Hughes, Carolyn &
Laura McMenamy, Rosemary Smith, Natalie
Lucas, Art Wamil, Agnes Gavigan, Maggie
Wright, Joe Prebish, Frances, Mary Anne
Grandinetti, Gary White, Emily Lucas, Joan
Pearson, Clara Mendieta Vitale; Theresa Manney,
Bridget Maloney, Arthur Suriano, Patricia Rose
Also, we pray for the deceased of our parish
family: Elizabeth Wachter, Herbert Scharre,
Kenneth Hallstrum,
WORSHIP SCHEDULE Monday, February 12
9:00a Josephine Greco͏ ͏
Tuesday, February 13
9:00a Adeline Ayars͏
Wednesday, February 14
9:00a Cira Profita
12:00p Ida Vesce
7:30p see Polish Page
Thursday, February 15
9:00a Audrey Bikel͏ ͏
Friday, February 16
9:00a Peter Gilmartin
Saturday, February 17
9:00a Vincent C. Smith & Florence Keating
4:00p Gerard Hunter
Sunday, February 18
8:00a Diana McManus
9:30a Msgr. George Everitt
11:00a Elizabeth DeFrancisco
12:30p see Polish page
5:00p Louis Rossilli
MEMORIALS THIS WEEK Monday, February 12 to Sunday, February 18
Vigil Lamp Blessed Mother Altar
Frank Wittman & Stanley Szala
In Thanksgiving Laura DiLorenzo
Vigil Lamp St. Joseph Altar
Special Intention for the Tammaro Family
Special Intentions of the Earle Family
Vigil Lamp Sacred Heart Altar
Dec'd of Ely-Banas Family
Special Intentions of the Earle Family
Also available: Bread & Wine, Sanctuary Light
for St. Mary and Holy Family
READINGS FOR THE WEEK Mon: Jas 1:1-11/Mk 8:11-13
Tue: Jas 1:12-18/Mk 8:14-21
Ash Wednesday: Jl 2:12-18/2 Cor 5:20—
6:2/Mt 6:1-6, 16-18
Thu: Dt 30:15-20/Lk 9:22-25
Fri: Is 58:1-9a/Mt 9:14-15
Sat: Is 58:9b-14/Lk 5:27-32
First Sunday of Lent: Gn 9:8-15/1 Pt 3:18-
22/Mk 1:12-15
SCHEDULE OF EXTRA COLLECTIONS
Feb 18: Next Sunday: St. Vincent de Paul
Mar 4: Easter Flowers
Please make out checks to St. Mary of the Lake
CONTRIBUTION STATEMENTS
Statements for 2017 donations are now available.
If you would like your statement, please send a
stamped, self-addressed envelope to the rectory.
Please print your name, address and your
envelope number (4 or 5 digits) on the envelope.
PARISH JOURNAL
SHARING OUR TREASURE Stewardship, A Way of Life
Envelopes used last weekend 353
Total contributions: $9,047.00
SCHEDULE OF EVENTS
Sun, Feb 11, Pancake Breakfast, Holy Family
Cafeteria, 9a
Sun, Feb 11, Ultreya
Sun, Feb 11, Divine Mercy Healing Mass, Holy
Family Church, 2p
Wed, Feb 14, Ash Wednesday
Mon, Feb 19, Presidents Day, Offices closed
WEEKLY EVENTS
Tue: Overeaters Anonymous, Guild Hall 12:30p
Tue: Legion of Mary, Guild Hall 3p
Wed: Women’s Bereavement, cemetery, 10:30a
Wed: Choir, Holy Family, 7p
Thu: Men’s Bereavement, cemetery, 3p
2nd
& 4th
Sun: Ultreya, 12p
WORLD MARRIAGE DAY Congratulations to all of our married couples as
we celebrate “World Marriage Day” February 11,
2018. Your commitment to loving each other
every day, demonstrates a unique and steadfast
love that extends beyond you as a couple, to your
families, the community and the world. We are
blessed here at St. Mary’s with many couples
who have a made their wedding day commitment,
a lifetime commitment. We are celebrating some
of them in the display at the Sacred Heart Alter.
Please stop by, say a prayer for all who are
married, and enjoy the wedding pictures.
-The Marriage Ministry
ANNIVERSARY CONGRATULATIONS
February Anniversaries
Name Date Years
Leonard & Marietta Iovelli Feb 1 60
John & Augusta Cuccurullo Feb 4 57
Vincent & Josephine Oliveri Feb 20 58
Our prayers and best wishes go with you as you
continue to live out your vows.
ANNIVERSARY RECOGNITION St. Mary's would like to recognize couples who
are celebrating long term anniversaries in the
milestone years of 20, 25, 30, 40, and any
anniversary over 50 years. If your anniversary is
this month or the next, please call the Parish
Office or email jpeterson@smlparish to have
your anniversary announced in the bulletin. Our
prayers and best wishes go with you as you
continue to live out your vows.
PANCAKE BREAKFAST Today, Sunday, Feb 11, 9 AM-12 PM
Holy Family Cafeteria
Come out and enjoy your breakfast with your
fellow parishioners and make new friends!
LENTEN FISH DINNERS Fridays of Lent:
Feb 16, 23, Mar 9, 16, 23
5:30 – 7:30 PM
Holy Family Cafeteria – Cost $15/pp
Menu Week 1: February 16
Adult Menu
Breaded/ Fried Tilapia over rice pilaf
Broiled salmon with rice pilaf
Fresh baked Ziti in a marinara sauce
All the above served with fresh vegetables
Children’s Menu
Pizza with French fries
All dinners served with a salad, dinner roll with
butter, fresh vegetables, coffee and dessert.
Additional charge for bottled water and soda.
INTERFAITH HOSPITALITY NETWORK:
Our next Host Week begins Sunday, February,
18 and our Guests will stay until Sunday,
February 25. The commitment of time from
each volunteer is but a few hours for just one
day during that week. We are now looking for
volunteers to help with set up on Sunday,
February 18 at 10:45 AM; to share in the cooking
of meals for each night during this week (bring a
salad, dessert, vegetables, bread or main course);
to host from 6 to 8:30 pm; and to sleep from 8:30
pm to 7 am the next morning. New volunteers are
needed during the winter since many of our
regulars fly south for the winter.
Come join us for Clean-up on Sunday, February
25 at 10:45 AM and then we also need some
volunteers to take the laundry.
We are once again in need of some supplies:
laundry detergent HE, dish detergent,
condiments, disposable food containers, juice
boxes, bottled water, kid friendly cereals and
snacks, plastic utensils and gift cards to Shop Rite
or Costco. (We are low in funds so gift cards are
especially useful so we may purchase perishable
items for the week.) If you can help out with any
of these items, please drop them off at the
Rectory during the week of February 12.
From more info, please call Pat Rainer 732-300-
8288, email [email protected] or use
these phone numbers below:
Dinner Preparation: Lisa – 848-448-1131
Hosting: Janet – 732-600-1190
Sleepers: Pat – 732-905-4199
Set up/ Break down: Velda – 732-534-6814
Laundry and Linens: Linda 732-994-5532
Supplies: Patty 732-300-8288
INTERFAITH HOSPITALITY OF OCEAN
COUNTY VOLUNTEER TRAINING Sunday, Feb 25, 1:00-3:30 PM
IHN Day Center
407 Lexington Avenue, Toms River
Learn how you can become an IHNOC volunteer
and how you can help provide hope and support
to homeless families with children in our
community. A light lunch will be provided.
RSVP: [email protected] or 732-736-1550 by
Feb 21st
JESUS Save The Date
Tuesday, May 15th, leave at 7:30 AM lower lot,
Performance 10:30 AM, Lunch 2:00 PM, Back
around 6:30 PM
Experience the greatest rescue story of all time!
JESUS is Sight & Sound’s new action–packed
musical adventure that takes you on a miraculous
journey alongside the Most famous person to ever
walk the Earth, and the everyday people whose
lives he changed forever.
SOCIETY OF ST. VINCENT DE PAUL
For those seeking financial aid: please visit the
food pantry between 9:30 AM and Noon on
Thursday. Be sure to bring all your
documentation.
Food pantry hours: 9:30 AM to 12:30 PM
Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday.
There are no longer hours on Tuesday.
CATHOLIC WOMEN OF ZION
UPCOMING CWOZ: SAVE THE DATE!
ST. WILLIAM THE ABBOT, HOWELL Saturday, March 10
9 AM to 1 PM Mass at 9 AM
HOLY FAMILY CHAPEL & SCHOOL Saturday, Jun 10
9 AM TO 12 PM MASS AT 8 AM
ST CATHARINE, FARMINGDALE Saturday, May 19
9 AM to 1 PM Mass at 9 AM
CEMETERY & MAUSOLEUMS
MEMORIALIZE A LOVED ONE
On the Memorial Tree at Mary Queen of Peace
Mausoleum, we have available for inscription
Silver and Gold Leaves. Pricing:
Silver leaf - $200 plus 50¢ per letter
Gold leaf - $300 plus 50¢ per letter
Doves - $350 plus 50¢ per letter
Stepping Stones - $500 plus 50¢ per letter
Donations may be made in cash, check, or credit
cards. Your support is much appreciated. Call the
Cemetery office for details: 732-363-8262.
CATHOLIC DAUGHTERS BABY SHOWER
Thank you, and God bless you all for the
outpouring of love and support for the BABY
SHOWER FOR JESUS. We received countless
gifts – onesies, sleep and play out fits, blankets,
(some homemade with matching booties), lotions,
diapers, toys, pj’s, socks, shoes, and wipes,
summer and winter outfits, and $305.00 in cash
donations. Again the Catholic Daughters of the
Americas, Court # 310 are very thankful for your
kind and generous spirit.
LOCAL EVENTS
GIFT AUCTION St. Veronica School will be holding its annual
dinner and gift auction on March 2nd at 7:00
at the South Gate Manor in Freehold. Tickets
are on sale now. Ticket forms and information are
available at www.stveronicaschool.com or by
calling Jennifer Jarecki at 732-299-2477.
AARP TAX AIDE PROGRAM Your federal and state income tax returns will be
prepared and electronically filed at no cost
between February 1 and April 17. All volunteer
preparers are IRS certified. It is open to all,
regardless of age or income, although special
emphasis is given to those over the age of 60 with
low to moderate income. There are a few
complex items that may be out of scope for the
service.
Appointments are available on Mondays at
Jackson Municipal Bldg. (732-928-2313),
Wednesdays at Plumsted Library (609-758-
7888), Thursdays at Jackson Library(732-928-
4400x3808) and Fridays at Lakewood Library
(732-363-7435 x2101). There are also various
other locations throughout Ocean County.
OUR LITURGY: ASHES & LENT
THE DISTRIBUTION OF ASHES
In our ritual for the blessing and distribution of
ashes, the Book of Blessings indicates:
1059 The season of Lent begins with the ancient practice of marking the baptized with ashes as a public and communal sign of penance. The blessing and distribution of ashes on Ash Wednesday normally takes place during the celebration of Mass. However, when circumstances require, the blessing and distribution of ashes may take place apart from Mass, during a celebration of the word of God.
1060 This order may also be used when ashes are brought to the sick. According to the circumstances, the rite may be abbreviated by the minister. Nevertheless, at least one Scripture reading should be included in the service. ...
1062 This rite may be celebrated by a priest or deacon who may be assisted by lay ministers in the distribution of the ashes. ...
These directives make very clear that ashes may
only be distributed within the celebration of
Mass or a Liturgy of the Word (i.e., a prayer
service). Even when ashes are brought to the
sick, some sort of simple prayer and Scripture
reading is expected.
In other words, it is not allowed for one to
arrive at the church or parish office or
rectory and just simply ‘get ashes.’ One must
attend a Mass or prayer service during which
ashes are distributed.
And this restriction makes perfect sense if we
think about what the ashes symbolize: a
commitment to the Lenten disciplines of
holiness, especially a commitment to prayer. It
would be self-contradictory to be signed with a
symbol of commitment to prayer without
actually stopping and taking the time to pray.
In order to accommodate the schedules of our
parishioners on Ash Wednesday, we will
distribute ashes within the following Masses and
Liturgies of the Word:
ASH WEDNESDAY February 14
Ashes distributed at these services:
6:00 AM: Liturgy of the Word at St. Mary’s
(for those on their way to work
or school)
9:00 AM: Mass at St. Mary’s
12:00 PM: Mass at St. Mary’s
5:30 PM: Liturgy of the Word at Holy Family
(for the children in our religious
education program; all parishioners
welcome)
7:30 PM: Mass at St. Mary’s (Polish)
Please Note: We will no longer have an evening
Mass on Ash Wednesday in English. Attendance
in the past years has been very low. For those
working or in school, please consider attending
the 6 AM. There’s very little traffic in Lakewood
at that time!
The Noon service in the past is now a Noon
Mass.
There will be a 7 PM Mass in Spanish at Holy
Family and a 7:30 PM Mass in Polish at St.
Mary’s.
STATIONS OF THE CROSS Every Friday during Lent following the 9 AM
Mass at St. Mary’s, a group of parishioners
gather for the traditional Lenten devotional
prayer.
In Holy Family Chapel before the Fish Fry
every Friday at 5:00 PM. Or you may
privately pray the Stations from 6:00 – 7:00
PM.
On Good Friday, 7 PM at St. Mary’s in
English and Polish
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LENTEN FAQ
(FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS)
What’s the difference between fasting and
abstinence?
Abstinence is really abstinence from meat, i.e., to
abstain or refrain from eating meat. Fasting
means not eating any food at all.
I find it truly difficult to go all day without
eating (i.e., fasting), what should I do?
If fasting on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday
doesn’t allow you to function properly at work or
school or parenting; or, it makes you dizzy or
weak; or, you have a medical condition which
requires you to eat regularly (e.g., diabetes), then
you have several options:
1) Eat just one full meal for the day; or,
2) If you really need to, eat one full meal and
two very light meals; or,
3) Substitute some other act of penance or
charity.
On days of abstinence from meat (Ash
Wednesday and Fridays in Lent), what is
meant by ‘meat’?
The actual flesh and organs of warm blooded
animals or of birds. So, meat would be steak,
hamburger, pork, ham, lamb, salami, sausage,
chicken, and turkey (the color of the meat
doesn’t matter). However, fish and cold blooded
animals (frog, clams, etc…) are not meat. Also
meat by-products (milk, cheese, etc…) or
condiments and sauces with meat fat (some pasta
sauces, e.g.,) are not meat.
Who is required to follow these rules of
fasting and abstinence?
Fasting: 18 to 59 year-olds. Abstinence: 14 year-
olds and older. But keep in mind, that those
younger and older can try to keep these
disciplines if they choose to, and adapt them to
their circumstance.
I forgot that it was a day of abstinence and ate
meat. I also forgot it was a day of fasting and
ate several full meals. Do I have to go to
confession?
No. First of all, you can’t sin accidentally. Sin
comes about from purposely choosing evil.
Secondly, failure to perform one particular act of
the Church’s communal penance isn’t an act of
grave evil. Failure to do penance, to pray, and to
be charitable, over all in one’s life… that is a
seriously grave problem.
Thirdly, these penitential acts of fasting and
abstinence are the least significant of the three
disciplines of Lent. The other two disciplines are
prayer and charity. It is a failure to pray and to
be charitable which is a worthier subject matter
of confession than accidentally eating meat on
Friday.
And finally, if you forget to do one of these
Lenten disciplines, you are free to substitute.
Choose a different day. Choose a different
penance. And you may do this without getting
dispensation from a priest or the bishop.
I’m going to a St. Patrick’s Day party on a
Friday in Lent. Can I eat the traditional
corned beef? Do I need to get a dispensation?
You may eat the corned beef without getting a
dispensation. Simply substitute a different day
for abstinence, or, a different penance or act of
charity. You have the authority to make those
decisions for yourself without seeking
dispensation from any clergy.
I’m doing an additional, personal act of
penance for all of Lent (e.g., giving up a treat
like ice cream). Should I also do this on
Sundays?
You may, if you want, but you don’t have to.
Sundays aren’t counted in the “forty days of
Lent.” The reason for this is that Sundays are
festive days of celebration, and therefore, not
penitential days.
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DUSZPASTERSTWO POLSKIE Duszpasterz: Ks. Marian Kokorzycki
Tel. 732- 363-0139, ext. 421 Cell. 484-368-4636 msze święte w niedzielę – 12:30 pm - w święta
obowiązkowe o godzinie 7:30 pm w kościele Saint Mary.
Polska Szkoła Dokształcająca im. Aleksandra Janta Połczyńskiego w Lakewood NJ
dyrektor: Kasia Pawka Tel. 732-901-9546 Email: [email protected]
Website: www.lakewoodpolishschool.com
11 Luty 2018-niedziela – VI niedziela zwykła- rok B/II 14 Luty – Środa Popielcowa – początek Wielkiego Postu
…Tyle już razy w moim życiu przeżywałem Środę Popielcową, tyle już razy rozpoczynałem Wielki
Post … I za każdym razem powracające z coraz większą wyrazistością pytanie; „I co się w moim
życiu zmieniło?” A nawoływanie Chrystusa: „Nawracajcie się i wierzcie w Ewangelię” (Mt 1,15)
pozostaje nadal zadaniem do wykonania. Jak trudno jest coś zmienić w życiu, jak trudno jest
radykalnie uwierzyć w Ewangelię … Dlaczego? Przecież nie brak mi ani środków, ani możliwości.
Przecież nie jestem ateistą, czy nawet kimś religijnie obojętnym. Przecież wewnętrznie jestem
przekonany o słuszności Ewangelii, o Prawdzie Dobrej Nowiny, tylko … tylko jakiś marazm już dawno
wkradł się w moje życie. Marazm i zniechęcenie, ociężałość i brak dynamizmu. Życie codzienne
arogancko wciska się ze swoimi potrzebami i nakazami, ze swoimi ekonomicznymi „prawami” . I tak
trudno nabrać dystansu, tak trudno oderwać się -chociaż na chwilę- od konieczności robienia
pieniędzy, tak trudno zaryzykować i pójść na całość. Tak trudno w końcu zaufać Chrystusowi, w
Którego przecież wierzę! Ale jakoś tak nijako i bez przełożenia na życie. I powracają pełne wyrzutu
słowa Chrystusa: „Biada tobie, bo gdyby w Tyrze i Sydonie działy się cuda, które u was się dokonały,
już dawno w worze i w popiele by się nawróciły.” (Mt 11:21) Każdy Wielki Post, to kolejna okazja do
wyrwania się z marazmu i nijakości, do krytycznego spojrzenia na swoje życie, do podjęcia na nowo
wysiłku zmiany, nawrócenia, do otrząśnięcia się i rozpoczęcia na nowo. Warto co roku podejmować
taki wysiłek, mimo, że nieraz wydaje się nam, że jest on tak nieefektywny, że skutki są tak mało
widoczne. Warto, bo może bez tych corocznych małych wstrząsów byłoby jeszcze gorzej? Bo może
bez tego corocznego posypania głowy popiołem zapomniałbym w ogóle, że prochem jestem i
wpadłbym w pychę nie do uniesienia? A nie ma nic gorszego dla człowieka niż pełne pychy
przekonanie, że się jest doskonałym i że już nic nie należy zmieniać.
Intencje Mszy Świętej:
11 Luty - ś.p. Maria Kapuścińska, intencja syna z rodziną
ś.p. Bolesław Solarz, intencja syna 12:30 pm
14 Luty – Środa Popielcowa - początek Wielkiego Postu
- w intencjach Bogu wiadomych – Saint Mary 7:30 pm
16 Luty – piątek – Droga Krzyżowa – Saint Mary 7:30 pm
16 Luty – piątek – Msza święta
– w intencjach o nawrócenie i wiarę w ewangelię naszej wspólnoty - Sait Mary 8:00 pm
18 Luty - w 10 rocznica śmierci ś.p. Bolesław Sznajkart , intencja żony z dzićmi
ś.p. Andrzej Wawrzonek, intencja żony i córki 12:30 pm