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Parenting in a digital world
Images source: Nathalie Noret, YHGfL/ABA Cyberbullying Conference
What worries you?
Quick QuizWhat is:• KIK• POS• POSW• ASL• LMIRL• PIR• Notch• IM• GTAIV• Habbo Hotel• Binweevils• BBM
It was discovered that Hannah actually posted 90% of the abuse herself.
Daniel Perry
Blackmailed over Skype.
Tricked into sending images.
Trend for this type of crime is increasing.
Sites
Which devices?
The social network
What they like to do….
How they access the web
Why do you need to be here?
Children need new strategies for:
Source: Munch, Poke and Ping report
Recent trends online in EU
• Cyberbullying, sexting• Hate sites• Pro-anorexic sites• Self harm sites• Drug forums• Suicide sites• Identity theft• Grooming• Lack of Parental engagement
Source: EU Kids Online Report, 2013
What are we seeing in UK
• SNS is becoming number 1 platform for bullying (80% in some cases) and taking a huge amount of man power to resolve.
• Mobile usage and data• IM use via SN • Chatrooms and message boards• Email• Webcams• Video hosting sites• Games (and online content)• Consoles and games devices• Virtual worlds
Barriers against children reporting abuse:
May not be listened to
May not be believed
Embarrassment
Unable to communicate the
abuse
Adults not sympathetic
Adults might tell someone else
Fear of consequences
Lack of control
Not knowing who to tell
Previous/current experience of racism
Understanding or recognising abuse
Believe it is their own fault
Social Networking
Examples of cyberbullying and SN
Source: Bebo.com
Social Networking Risks
Sharing personal information
Unwanted contact
Unhealthy networking
Inappropriate content
Overuse
Tips
Security settings need to be set to “Friends only”, that includes - comments, posts and photos
These “Friends” need to be people they know and trust in the real world
Content - Only post content and photos they wouldn't mind showing you!
Try your very best to be “Friends” with your child on Facebook
Learn how to report an issue directly to Facebook
Trend: Children moving from facebook to sites like bebo which are not as well known…or old.
Gaming
Risks
Inappropriate content and language (de-sensitised to swearing, sex, violence, gambling, drugs)
Unwanted contact
Overuse
Leaky services such as Dropbox
Take control….
Leave all gaming devices in a family space where possible – the loss of control starts when TV and other media given to children, put in rooms with no rules, limits or acceptable use.
Open up communication - talk about the games
Remember that people lie online and they are not always who they say they are
Remember that people can be mean online and don’t always have their best interests at heart
Ask them to never give out personal information
Set parental controls, ESPECIALLY AT CHRISTMAS with new hardware
Set time limits on how long they can game for. Allow time for non-technology based activities and allow an hour ‘screen free’ time before bed
PEGI (The Pan-European Game Information age rating system) was established in 2003 to help European parents make informed choices
Bad Language - Game contains bad language
Discrimination - Game contains depictions of, or material which may encourage, discrimination
Drugs - Game refers to or depicts the use of drugs
Fear - Game may be frightening or scary for young children
Sex - Game depicts nudity and/or sexual behaviour or sexual references
Violence - Game contains depictions of violence
PEGI
Instant Messaging and Private Chat
Risks
Unwanted contact
Webcam capability – is this safe?
Private moments
Usage
Remember never to accept people they don’t know and trust in the real world
Giving out personal information can be dangerous. They need to treat personal information such as the school they go to or their location like their tooth brush and not share it with anyone!
Ask them not to webcam with people they do not know from the real world and turn the webcam off after use!
Know how to report a problem and delete people that make them feel uncomfortable
Take control…
Mobile Technology
The most popular mobile for children in schools is overwhelmingly…..?
Chat Text
Online Images
Location
Functions
Risks
Images taken and uploaded – sexting – sex offenders register
Location
Personal messaging
Usage / addiction
Take control
Is my child old enough to have a mobile phone? Set boundaries - peer pressure for kids and adults
Before buying your child a mobile, find out what functions it has – Internet, private messaging, built in applications
Set parental controls where required
Set mobile rules - no mobile phone in the bedroom at night, mobile free time before bed, no use after lights out
Support and Report
Peer to peer support network for young people who are being bullied
www.cybermentors.org.uk
Report suspected online grooming – this could sexual chat, a child being asked to do something that makes them feel uncomfortable or someone insisting on meeting up
www.ceop.police.uk
Simple steps to protection
I have asked my child to show me sites they use
I have asked my child to set the security settings on all the technologies they use
I have asked my child to only accept people they know and trust in the real world as online “Friends”
I have set safe settings on our computer/laptop and set adult content filters on my child’s smart phone
My child has agreed to tell me if they are worried about something online
• Play on the Internet with your kids.• Communicate with your children before they start accessing the
Internet, education is more powerful than locking down everything• Choose with whom your kids can interact with online.• Locate the family computer in an open area in your home.• Approve all files your child wants to upload to the Internet—and keep
files secure.• Keep current on the latest technologies.• Gradually let your kids try new programs and Web sites that you have
approved.• Keep passwords and all personal information private.• Stay involved• Get them to show you!
Finally….
ISP filtering (Call your service provider, they can help)Browser filtering (Internet Explorer, Firefox, Safari, Chrome…all have features to help)Search engine filtering Operating system filtering – windows live family safety
Links to help• https://chrome.google.com/extensions• http://onlinehelp.microsoft.com/en-au/bing/ff808441.aspx• www.google.com/familysafety/tools.html• http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/search/basics/indexing-07.html• https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/search/?q=parental+control&cat=all• http://explore.live.com/windows-live-family-safety?os=other• www.apple.com/macosx/security/• www.linux.com
More resources….
www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents
Contact
@dan_bowen
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