Download - Understanding self harm
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Welcome to this week’s webinar:Understanding self-harm (primary and secondary)
We’ll start at 6pm
Before we start, please check that your audio is working. Attendees are muted to avoid
background noise.
If you have any questions, there will be time at the end. You can type questions in the control
panel
The webinar will be recorded, and both the recording and slideshow will be sent out after the
session.
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Understanding and responding to self-harm
Dr Pooky KnightsmithDirector: children, young people &
schoolsCharlie Waller Memorial Trust
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Before Poll
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WHAT is self-harm?
HOW can we help?
WHY do people self-harm?
We can do a
more in
depth
session on
one to one
support
another time
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What?
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Cutting, burning
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Life is hard and this helps
me get through
each day. Some people smoke, some
people drink, I
cut.
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Cutting, burning
Picking, pulling, scratching, banging
Punching, hitting, biting
Eating disorders, drugs, alcohol
Overdosing, consuming poison
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Cutting, burning
Picking, pulling, scratching, banging
Punching, hitting, biting
Eating disorders, drugs, alcohol
Overdosing, consuming poison
Dir
ect
Self-
Har
m
I wouldn’t let myself sleep. For weeks, months, never more than 20 minutes at a
time, that was the rule.
I’d let any man who took an
interest sleep with me. I was
really easy and I let them do
whatever they wanted. I
encouraged them to hurt me.
Indirect Self-Harm
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Why?
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SelfHarmCycle
Cutting
BingeingBurning
Starving
BIG feelings
Can’t cope
Crisis MomentRelief
Guilt & Shame
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Control Punishment
Appear ugly
Physical vs emotional
pain
Feel real
Feel cared for
Common Motivations
CopingCommunication
Care
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How?Can we help
what NOT to sayOMG! Why? Stop!
what to sayThank you I care
How can I help?
How can I help?
• Work through a typical day
• Look for ‘trigger points’
• Brainstorm how to manage or avoid them
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What is the feeling behind the urge to self
harm?BIG
feelings
Can’t cope
Crisis MomentRelief
Guilt & Shame
What is the feeling behind the urge to self
harm?
I need to SEE my pain
I need to CALM and soothe
I need to feel REAL
I need to RELIEVE big
feelings
Alternative Relief?
Cutting Ice
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Link
When feelings are very intense…
sometimes distracting ourselves for a minute
to allow BIG IMPULSIVE feelings to
pass can help
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Self Soothe
Box It gives me a
choice. I keep my blade in here too. Sometimes I choose my blade. Sometimes I don’t
How can we help students help themselves?
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Never assume
Ask the student
Set targets
Revisit
Track change
How to
Help
If you do just one thing…
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She changed my life in five minutes by making me realise I
mattered to someone, no matter how broken I was. For
five minutes I felt what it was to be cared for.
It was a fresh start.
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Resources
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Help Sheets
Download Link
• Active listening skills• Changing self-harming behaviours• Healthy coping strategies• How can I talk to my friend if I’m worried about them?• How can I talk to someone about my self-harm?• Preparing to expose self-harm scars• Self-harm and physical safety – when to seek further help• Self-harm support action plan and notes • Running self-harm support groups• Self-harm: what to say and what not to say• Simple ways to calm anxious thoughts and feelings• Things to consider when looking for a therapist• Why do people self-harm?
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No Harm DoneResources
www.cwmt.org/noharmdone
videos and info packs for parents, pupils and
professionals
Digital Packs
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Young PeopleBy young people
Message of hopeCommon
questionsAdvice from YP
Finding help
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ParentsExplores feelings
What to say
What to do next
Supporting yourself
Further support
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ProfessionalsWarning signs
First conversation
Reluctant talkers
Next steps
Practical support
Whole school
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Or invite us to your school and we’ll help you start the
conversation…
We had not seen him for years, then one day he came into school
with his wife and his baby daughter. He told us about his job and his
friends and how much he had come to love life. He turned to his wife and said – “This is Mrs Lyle, you
know, the one I told you about who helped me want to live.” She flung
herself into my arms and whispered “Thank you”
Thank YOU!
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After Poll
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Dr Pooky KnightsmithDirector: CYP& Schools
Charlie Waller Memorial Trust
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Any Questions?
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Incorporating wellbeing and mental health in the
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Dr Pooky Knightsmith@PookyH | [email protected]
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