dr. kenneth ginsburg - building resilience
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Resilience is a mindset...children need to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than as catastrophes.TRANSCRIPT
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Authentic Success: Raising Youth to Thrive
Ken Ginsburg MD, MS Ed
The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia
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How do we define success?
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Do we have to make a choice between play, success and
happiness?
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Resilience
• The Ability To Overcome Adversity
• The Capacity to Bounce Back
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Resilience is a Mindset
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Resilience is Uneven
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Resilience
is
NOT
Invulnerability
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Resilience
is
NOT
a character trait.
It is affected by supports and circumstances!!!
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The Bottom Line
• Young People will be more resilient if the
important adults in their lives believe in
them unconditionally and hold them to
high expectations
• Young People live up or down to the
expectations we set for them
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The 7 C’s of Resilience
Confidence
Competence
Connection
Character
Contribution
Coping
Control
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Let’s Look at Play Again
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The importance of
Connection can not be overstated. . .
• Family
• School
• Community
• . . . and sometimes, the health clinician
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Connection 101:
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Why does it feel like our connection is challenged
during adolescence?
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Listening
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Connection 101 (cont’d):
Perfectionism Prevention
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What is perfectionism?
And . . . why isn’t it a good thing?
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Self Loathing
Fear of the B+
Fear of the “D” Word
No Out-of-the-Box Thought
The death of creativity
Resents Constructive Feedback
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Learning How To Fail and Recover
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The Lies You Don’t Want to Buy Into
The SAT’s will pave the way . . .
You have to be good at everything . . .
Just put it off . . .
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Don’t Say “Just try your best”
Victims of a toxic society What do we praise . . . or notice? Desire to spare us
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Learning to Build a High Achiever
• Letting young people make mistakes
• Praising effort rather than results
• Building Spikes - Celebrating Unevenness
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Not all perfectionists are perfect
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Competence
and
Confidence
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Finding Competence . . . . . . Building Confidence
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• Talking in a way young people understand
• Recognizing the cognitive development of adolescence
• No more lectures!!!!!!
Learning Not to Undermine Competence
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Building Competence
Social Skills
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ControlControl
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How Much Control?How Much Control?
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Effective Monitoring
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We are the borders
We are the picture on the box
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Independence: One Step at a Time
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• Observe
• Consider Temperament and Developmental Needs
• Listen and Invite Youth to Develop a Plan
• Generate a Roadmap of Mastery
• Independence is Earned through Displaying Responsibility
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Stress and Coping
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Resilience
• Is about learning to cope, in a positive way with life’s inevitable stressors
• We might do our greatest good by raising youth with a wide repertoire of positive coping strategies
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You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
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You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
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Distinguishing Paper Tigers from Real tigers
Knowing When Bad Things are Temporary
Knowing When Good Things are Permanent
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Coping
Engagement vs. Disengagement
Emotion Focused vs. Problem Focused
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A Stress Management Plan for Teens
(It Might Just Work for you)
Shhhhh . . . It is a Great Way to Build a College Resume
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Stress Management : Tackling The Problem
1) Making the problem manageable
2) Active Avoidance
3) Let Some things go
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Serenity Prayer
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the
difference
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
4)Exercise
o Fear
o Anger
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
5)Relaxation
6)Nutrition
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
7) Sleep
o Stimulation
o Cool Down
Exercise
Shower
o Release emotion
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Stress Management : Managing Emotions
8) Instant Vacations
9) Releasing Emotions
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The Worst thing is not to be
stressed . . . it is to be NUMB
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Stress Management Plan : Making the World Better
10) Contributing to the world
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When Resilience Reaches Its Limits
• Physical symptoms
• Fatigue
• Disinterest
• Dropping grades
• Sad mood
• Irritability/anger
• Substance use
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When Your Tolerance Reaches Its Limits
Falling Back In Love
Catching Your Kid Being Good
Holding to the Highest Expectation
Honoring Your Spouse/Partner
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The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child
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