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7 Ways to Loving Yourself Koti Thornton

www.turnyourlifearound.com.au

7 Ways to

Loving Yourself

WELCOME. So you’ve decided on wanting to love yourself but are a little confused about exactly what that means...

Most of us cannot look in the mirror and see ourselves with love, admiration and respect. We find fault with the way we look, the way our body looks and many of the things we do in life. Of course there are varying degrees of how this pans out in your life but the important thing is, if we decide to love ourselves UNCONDITIONALLY then the benefits are huge in EVERY area of our lives.

So, want to know how? Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makesyou YOU. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurtureyourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and acceptyour flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. It means being gentle and kindto yourself no matter what has happened in the past. Look in the mirror andfall in love with the reflection that is You. Love yourself like a best friend.

When your love for yourself becomes deeper, the real You begins to emergefrom beyond the reflection, a masterful, deeply loving being that is your birthright and has been lost to you until now...

Master the following 7 steps – the keys to boosting love for yourself:

1. CHANGE NEGATIVE SELF TALK

2. ACKNOWLEDGE YOURSELF

3. YOU ARE VALUED & WORTHY OF LOVE

4. TRUST & LISTEN TO YOUR INNER WISDOM

5. FORGIVE YOURSELF

6. TAP INTO YOUR OWN PERSONAL POWER

7. DEVELOP A SENSE OF GRATITUDE

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life- long romance.” Oscar Wilde quote (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)





3. YOU ARE VALUED & WORTHY OF LOVE

When we feel worthless we don‟t value ourselves. We probably look to othersfor validation. Feeling worthy means we can accept goodinto our lives. We don‟t judge ourselves, and we deserveonly the best.

We can change our perception to feel worthy of love and withthat comes a knowing that anything is possible. We becomegrateful and empowered. What a great place to be! Standingtall within your space. Connects us with that infinite well of love for ourselvesjust waiting to be tapped into.

Most of us don‟t value ourselves. We often criticise how we look and are our own worst enemies. When we begin to see our own beauty, we transcend adifferent view of ourselves which is so much more nurturing, just as when wewere children and noticed only the good in our reflections.

When you notice and see the beauty in everything including yourself, lifetakes on a new dimension. You are not what you see, there is a depth withinyou that is a well of beauty and love. See beyond your reflection through youreyes, the window to your soul.

When you begin to notice beauty, love enters into your heart.

We came into this world as loving beings and somewhere along the way,someone possibly told us we didn‟t deserve to be loved. Or they told us you

needed to be attractive to be loved. Or you needed to have a good careerbefore others would love you. Or they told us that people with money don‟tdeserve to have love. Now it‟s time to let go of the rules and conditions forbeing loved.

Stand tall and tell yourself you deserve the best – feel the deeper knowingwithin you. This is your truth. Just allow the feelings. The ego will want tointerfere and say “no, you know you‟re not worthy”, but gently dismiss the ego.In this space, there are no expectations, no judgement, just appreciation anda knowing that you deserve to have the best.

Take extra time to notice nature, the beauty and rich color of flowers, theamazing way a tree sways in the wind, and the soothing sound of the ocean.When you begin to notice beauty outside of yourself, you can notice thebeauty within yourself. You deserve to have love because you are createdfrom spirit – you are great, you are powerful, you are a creator.

Imagine yourself accepting gratefully and feeling worthy of all that is good and great. You deserve to have your deepest desires manifest into your life.What do you desire the most? See yourself accepting that desire gratefully and graciously into your life. Feelings of worthiness can be truly transformational .

“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.” Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)

Affirmation: “I deserve & manifest the best in life”





4. TRUST AND LISTEN TO YOUR INNER WISDOM

„Trusting‟ will guide you to be in tune with your innermost desires. It will moveyou in the direction of your life‟s journey, even if you

are consciously unaware of what that is. If we fail totrust we fail to address our own inner powerful accessto knowledge.

Too often we check in with others to decide for uswhether we‟re taking the right or wrong action. Learnto rely on and trust your own feelings where it matters.

When a decision needs to be made – do you base it on your intuition (yourfeeling or that flash of inspiration) that comes to you or do you rely on your leftbrain, your logic. How many times have you gone for the second choice thatcomes to mind and then berated yourself for not following your gut (first)feeling. Listen to your feelings and trust that they are right. It‟s putting asideyour doubts, your fears, your beliefs. When you trust your feelings, you areguided to the right choices. To trust yourself is to connect with yourself on adeeper level.

Trust is having faith in our inner wisdom and just allowing. Trusting theuniverse, your Higher Self, God – whatever it is for you. It‟s about letting go ofthe need to hold on. I always believed that some day I would marry and havea family. Before I met my wonderful partner, I had broken up with a previous

boyfriend in an on again, off again relationship. When I finally let go, I felt freeand let go of the need to have a partner in my life. Within 3 weeks, my partnerof 17 years entered my life. On many occasions, I have put myself underpressure in wanting to achieve something. When I give it up to the universe, Isay, “OK I give up, it‟s your turn now” & voila, I get my wish!

It‟s about believing you‟ll have your desire, rather than needing to have it, sojust allow and trust the universe to take over and help your wishes to manifest.It involves believing in a world that goes beyond what we have here on earth.

Listen to the messages you are receiving via your intuition to help you along

the way. When I scheduled my workshop in May 2009, I didn‟t have enoughpeople booked in to go ahead and run it and with only three days remaining Iwas beside myself! I was on the verge of cancelling. The idea then came tome that I could decide to let go and just trust that the workshop would goahead. That same day, I received two more bookings! That is just oneexample of the magic of trust!

A great read is “The Secrets of the Rainmaker” by Chin-Ning Chu all aboutcreating success without stress and how trusting can work magic for you.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

Benjamin Spock quotes (American Paediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)

Affirmation: “I trust that life will provide me witheverything I need & want”





5. FORGIVE YOURSELF

Every past event that we hold onto holds us backfrom having joy and freedom in our lives. By

focusing on past events and people who damagedus we are kept firmly stuck in the past. Wecontinue to hold onto grudges, resentment andpain associated with past events and there isalways a culprit, a person we blame, the guilty party.

So where does re-living the story over and over in our minds leave us?Dwelling on the same event in our minds just succeeds in embedding it furtherand further deeper into our subconscious mind and keeps us connected to theevent locked into its‟ grief and misery.

Forgiveness is about letting go of thoughts of revenge and resentment. Whodo we need to forgive? Your partner had an affair and left you. Your fatherabandoned you as a child. Your mother never gave you the love you craved.Your ex boss told you lies.

Forgiveness is NOT condoning bad behaviour. It doesn‟t minimize or justifythe act. Forgiveness is to disconnect our emotions and feelings from theevent.

Finding forgiveness in your heart will release you from the past, limiting you.

Set yourself free. When you forgive, its understanding that we cannot knowwhat it is to live in another‟s shoes and its acknowledging that if we had livedthat persons‟ life we would be acting just the same.

Like each part holding onto a rope, pulling at either end – resistance, nothingbudges, the pain stays. When we release our end of the rope, you are freeingup yourself – the relationship HAS to change. Forgiveness is truly liberating

As well as forgiving others, we also need to forgive ourselves, knowing thatwe are worthy of forgiveness.

To be ready or willing to forgive yourself, you must be compassionate. Whowould subject their best friend to a life sentence of recrimination foropportunities missed and mistakes made? Avoid self-blame and labellingyourself a loser or fool.

If you have made mistakes in the past that has caused you to feel unworthy,then you do need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there reallyis no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you‟ve been carrying around abaggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, find compassion inyour heart for the suffering of your inner child.

Affirmation: Forgiveness is the Healing Tool I carry with me everywhere





6. TAP INTO YOUR OWN PERSONAL POWER

Personal Power is all about who we are on a deeper level. It‟s about feelingproud of who we are. When we step into our power we build a newrelationship with ourselves. – We become AMAZING! We have no limits.

You can become free of the chains to your negativity.

Personal power is being free of every negative belief anyone ever told you.We all have negative beliefs we were given by school teachers, parents,relatives, churches, work – So shake those disempowering beliefs free, turnthem around.

Imagine that when you were young you had a birthday party and you invitedthe whole class and only 5 kids turned up. You had a choice – “wow isn ’ t it great to have my 5 best friends turn up. Now I can celebrate !” Or the otherchoice is “W hy didn’t everyone come? – no one likes me .” And so if youfocused on “no one likes me”, that became your mantra throughout life and soyou searched for evidence to confirm that belief. And you refused to have a21st or any other celebration, because you weren‟t good enough to stand inyour limelight.

So now we know, when you become aware of these beliefs we‟ve held on tofor SO LONG, you do have the power to change them.

Personal power is already there within you – it‟s just that you haven‟t beenaware that you can reach out for whatever it is you lack in your life.

Have you heard the Eagle & Chicken story from Dave Fleming?

A great leader was visiting a chicken farmer oneday and was surprised to see a beautiful eagle inthe farmer‟s chicken coop. "Why in the world, he asked, have you got this eagle living in with the chickens?" "Well, answered the farmer, I found him

when he was little and raised him in there with the chickens. He doesn’t know any better, he thinks he is a chicken." The leader was dumbfounded. Theeagle was pecking the grain and drinking from the watering can. The eaglekept his eyes on the ground and strutted around in circles, looking every incha big, over-sized chicken. "Doesn’t he ever try to spread his wings and fly out of there?" asked the leader. "No, said the farmer, and I doubt he ever will, he

doesn’t know what it means to fly."





"Well, said the leader, "let me take him out and do a few experiments with him." The farmer agrees, but assured theleader that he was wasting his time. The leader lifted the birdto the top of the chicken coop fence and said "FLY!" Hepushed the reluctant bird off the fence and it fell to theground in a pile of dusty feathers. Next, the undauntedleader took the ruffled chicken/eagle to the farmer‟s hay loftand spread it‟s wings before tossing it high in the air with thecommand "FLY!" The frightened bird shrieked and fell ungraciously to thebarn-yard where it resumed pecking the ground in search of it‟s dinner.

The leader again picked up the eagle and decided to give it one more chancein a more appropriate environment, away from the bad examples of chickenlifestyle. He set the docile bird on the front seat of his pickup truck next to him

and headed for the highest butte in the country. After a lengthy and sweatyclimb to the crest of the butte with the bird tucked under his arm, he spokegently to the golden bird. "Friend, he said, you were born to soar. It is better that you die here today on the rocks below than live the rest of your life being a chicken in a pen, gawked at and out of your element."

Having said these final words, he lifted the eagle upand once more commanded it to "FLY!" He tossed itout in space and this time, much to his relief, itopened it‟s seven-foot wingspan and flew gracefully

into the sky. It slowly climbed in ever higher spirals,riding unseen thermals of hot air until it disappearedinto the glare of the morning sun. The great leadersmiled and thought how happy he was with his dayswork. Like the eagle, he had for many years, let otherpeople define his worth and direct his life for him. Likethe eagle, it had taken a life and death situation forhim to realize his self worth and real calling in life....

You are an Eagle, spread your wings and take the leap in faith...you cando it!!!

Affirmation: “The point of power is always in the present moment.”





7. DEVELOP A SENSE OF GRATITUDE

Who doesn‟t want to live a more joyful life? But how canwe achieve it? How can we live a joyful life despite the

not-so-good things that occasionally happen in our lives?

Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance,cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense ofgratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a differencein your life.

Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with propernutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat itwith respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is oftenthe root cause of conditions such as eating disorders.

When we first do this exercise it is difficult to find many things to be gratefulfor. However as we look further around us and look to our families, ourmaterial possessions, our animals, nature, the coffee you shared this morning,the wonderful conversation you had yesterday, the smile you received insurprise, we can find many ways to be joyful and grateful.

The more we notice the little things, the more we become grateful, the morethe universe gives back to us.

The universe loves gratitude. The more you‟re grateful for what‟s in your life.Say someone gives you a present. And you say “Oh, I hate that”. Thatperson will never give you another present. Yet if you say It‟s a wonderfulpresent”, that person will bring you more. It‟s the same with the universe.The more you feel grateful, the more the universe will provide to you.

Often we complain we don‟t have enough money. This, probably, is one ofthe main reasons that makes it difficult for us to be grateful. But do yourealize how rich you are now ? Chances are, you are richer than billions ofother people. In fact, you most likely are in the top tier of the world‟s richnessranking!

You will be grateful if your mind focuses on what you have rather than whatyou don’t have. By giving , your mind will focus on what you have rather thanwhat you don‟t have (you can‟t give something you don‟t have, can you?).Most people focus on receiving which makes their mind focus on what theydon’t have.

It‟s can be difficult for you to be grateful if the people you meet with arenegative people. Surround yourself with positive people who themselves aregrateful people, and it will be much easier and natural for you to be a gratefulperson. Realise what a blessing it is to live in peace.

Affirmation: “I relax, knowing that life supports me at all times”




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I trust that you have gotten benefit out of these steps and you see the wayclear to loving yourself more deeply. Change within you will create changeoutside of you. Notice. Become aware. If you really want to experiencelove, consider attending my HYL workshops/study course.

In our workshops and study courses we elaborate on the 7 steps I haveoutlined in this e-book as well as many other techniques which allow thesimple process of change.

How to love yourself more fully & deeply

How to let go of past pain

Learn to fall in love with yourself & fee love towards others more easily

How to lift your emotional state to feeling wonderful

How to create your daily life however you desire

Recognise that you don‟t have to live with stress. Allow calm &balance to flow through you.

In addition to study courses and workshops, I offer one to onecoaching in a safe private session where you can seize the powerthat is already within you & use it to lead a life of your own design.

Special Offer:

Phone today to receive a free 30-minute trial coaching session.It‟s a free, no obligation session to show you how life coaching can help you

achieve your goals – you‟ll get results even from one session!

With best wishes,

Koti Thornton Mobile: 0425 786 510

Email: [email protected]

http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au

Life meant to be miserable, mediocre nor

mundane.

LIFE WAS MEANT TO BE MAGNIFICENT!!!

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