eat men for breakfast- 8 simple and powerful tips to attract and keep a man
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Eat Men For Breakfast
8 Simple and Powerful Tips To Attract and Keep a Man
By Ori Ben
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ContentsSpecial Bonus 6Introduction 7Who am I Not 9Men are different, accept it! 12So what drives men? 15Tip #1-Do not make the first move! 16Tip #2- Pay him a compliment, but… 18Tip #3- Act dumb in front of his friends. 21Tip #4- Chill out! 23Tip #5 Do not take relationship advice from the following… 26Tip #6 Space is of the Essence 28Tip # 7 Stay Fresh 31Tip # 8 Sex on the first date? Really? 32Final Note 35Please Review 36
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IntroductionThe key to success in any battle is knowing your enemy. Now in the classic, never ending battle of thesexes, an enemy might be too strong of a word, but any woman who desires to have more successwith men, must know and understand, how men think and what drives them in order to make herselfmore appealing to them. Some of the tips mentioned in this e-book are just plain stating the obvious.That being said, this book will show you how to take advantage of this information and use itsuccessfully. A lot of times in life, people (not just women) have the knowledge of something but theydon’t really understand it or know how to use it properly. You may know that men want sex most ofthe time, but do you understand how to use this knowledge to your advantage? (And no, the answerisn’t giving it to him whenever he feels like it). Hopefully this humble e-book will help youunderstand some of the basics facts and truths about the inner lives men, and how to use thisinformation to come on top.
Who am I Not
Dear Ladies (and some Gentleman maybe?). I’m not a relationship doctor/Guru. I wasn’t featured onthe NY Times or the Today Show and I didn’t conduct any scientific research at a fancy universityabout the nature of relationship between men and women. I’m just a man who knows what men lookfor in women. What buttons you need to push and which behaviors you need to avoid when interactingwith men. I mean, if you want to know how to get a man and keep him you need to ask a man right?Some of the stuff you will read here might not be politically correct or in line with the feministmovement, but I’m not a feminist (Not a chauvinist either) and I don’t believe in saying what’spolitically correct (I rather say what’s correct). I believe some things in the relationships betweenmen and women have not changed since the beginning of time; they are just wrapped differently today.The purpose of this book is to help women to better understand a men’s mind so they can have moresuccess in their interactions and relationships with men. I see women every day making silly mistakeswhen dealing with men and I think it’s a shame because both sides are potentially losing great, longterm relationships if it weren’t for these mistakes. Don’t get me wrong, men have responsibility andthey make mistakes too, but I can only write and give my opinion on relationship as a man and from aman’s point of view. When I want to know how women think, I’m seeking for a woman’s advice. Ofcourse this e-book is general guide and can’t give an answer to every situation you encounter withmen, and of course this e-book doesn’t apply to all men, but it will definitely give you some importantpointers . So, start paying attention, we’re getting started!
Men are different, accept it!
The first thing you must understand and accept when interacting with men is that men are different thanwomen, period, 3 exclamation points. When a woman looks at a men she can tell a lot about him byhis body language, dress style ton of voice. Some women do it consciously some subconsciously butthey still can make a fairly good judgment on a man’s character on a first impression.
Men on the other hand are different; they are more visual and generally speaking, are not as intuitiveas women and not as good in reading nonverbal communication. Does that mean men are attracted towomen based on just looks? Absolutely not , but most of the thoughts that goes through a man’s mindwhen he sees a women are related to sex, while with women most thoughts are related to what kind offather, provider and protector of me and our future family this guy will be. These thoughts may besubconscious but they are there. In dummy language:
Men see women- Piece of meat.
Woman sees man- Tarzan.
Men feel closer to women through activities that are more physical and “active” in nature, i.e. sports,competition, outdoor activities or sexual activities. Women, on the other hand, feel closer throughdialogue and intimate sharing of experience. Many men tend to find such sharing activitiesuncomfortable, and sometimes overwhelming.
Another example to demonstrate how men think and behave differently is related to problem solving.For men, solving a problem presents an opportunity to demonstrate their competence (think about theinfamous not asking for directions instance). For women solving a problem presents an opportunity toshare and discuss the problem, it presents an opportunity to explore, deepen or strengthen therelationship with the people involved in the process. So when you and a man you are interested in/ina relationship with encounter a problem, he needs to feel that he is the dominant factor in solving thatproblem.
I’m sure that when you are reading this you are nodding your head and recalling incidents in the pastwith men that make more sense now with this information in mind. Fully digest and remember thesedifferences. It will help you a great deal.
So what drives men?Yes I know it is 2012, but some things are so innate that they never change. Men still need to feel likethey are the breadwinners, hunters and protectors of their women and generally speaking the oneswho are more dominant in the relationship. If you don’t give your men the feeling that he is THEMAN, than you won’t have a chance of creating or sustaining a relationship. You need to make a manfeel like he is the hunter, breadwinner, and protector.
Each and every one of the tips listed in this e-book is playing on these sentiments men have.
Let’sthink about it from an advertiser point of view. Whenever you see an advertisement selling aproduct or service for a man, what emotions is the advertiser trying to appeal?
Whether it’s a sports car, Protein powder or deodorant, advertisers know what buttons to push inorder to make men buy their product or service. The message, or the subtext is always the same: Ourproduct will make you more appealing because they shows that you have the money to buy it(breadwinner), makes you smell better (improves your hunting), or make you stronger (protector) .
So you need to know how to press these buttons effectively just like an advertiser so you can attract aman and keep him. When dealing with a man start thinking what he is looking to buy and how you areselling it to him.
Tip #1-Do not make the first move!Men say they like a woman to ask a guy out? I don’t think so. Yes it is a nice boost on a men’s ego butit also takes the chase away from the equation and remember men need to feel like hunters. Men thinkthat a woman who ask a guy out is too easy to get or probably too desperate for attention, bothsentiments are not good for you. You need to make him work for your affection and hunt you down. Now I know sometimes you might see a cute guy at a bar and you want to get his attention. There aresubtle ways to do it without approaching him and asking him out or asking for his number. One way isbody language signals, now I know I said men are not as good as women in reading nonverbalcommunication but that don’t mean they can’t read at all! Body language is huge topic of its own and Irecommend reading more about it in this excellent book. The other way to make him notice you is toinitiate a friendly conversation: “Hi, it’s my first time here, do you know where the restrooms are?”or “Knicks fan? (assuming he’s wearing a Knicks shirt) they alright I guess but the Nets are the best!”Trust me it the men you’re after is interested in you he’ll know how to keep the conversation goingfrom these small initiatives without thinking you made a move on him, just find a way to engage himby saying something controversial, related to something he wears/doing or use body language signals.
Tip #2- Pay him a compliment, but…
Everyone likes a compliment, But men unlike women, think all compliments addressed to them aretrue. Pay a guy you like a compliment and he’ll think of you fondly from that moment forward. Oneword of caution, the compliment needs to be subtle and nonchalant, here are a few examples:
“I can tell you work out”
“This shirt looks good on you”
“I like the way you handled that situation”
“You made me smile, I like it “
Here are a few examples of what not too say:
“OMG, you’re so hot”
“I can’t wait to be alone with you”
“I bet women are hitting on you all the time.
You want to make him feel like a king, but not king of the world. If he feels like he already got you inhis pocket, and gets cocky (for no real reason), he won’t feel the need to “hunt” you anymore, andthat’s game over for you.
Appeal to his ego and keep his hunting instinct alive!
Tip #3- Act dumb in front of his friends.
Hold on, let me explain before you get all mad. Men have huge egos as you probably know and youmust nurture your man’s ego. When a man introduces you to his friends, you need to make him lookgood. So the first few times you meet his friends, keep conversation light, act like his cheerleader andkeep your opinions about politics, abortions, and other hot topics to yourself. Why you ask?
1) It would make you look cute and adorable.
2) It will make your guy look smarter and in control more than he really is.
3) It will make your guy want to spend more time with you. (Solo and Social)
So at least in the beginning it should be more about how he looks when you are on his arm than howhe looks when you are bending his arm.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not asking you to act like a complete idiot. But if you look smarter andsharper than he is in front of his friends it can be a real hit to his ego.
When around his friends also refrain from:
1. Making fun of him.
2. Starting an argument about something that bothers you.
3. Getting into an argument with his friends.
4. Boss him around.
Tip #4- Chill out!
Men don’t like overly emotional, dramatic women. When you let your emotions control your behavioryou are not yourself, it makes you look needy instead of confident.
And when that happen it will make your men feel like he is not in control. And a man that feels like heis not in control will not feel man enough. Think about it, if you get insanely jealous when he istalking to another woman or checks out another woman, do you think that makes him feel good? Itdoesn’t, it’s emasculating and if you want to see him again you need to learn to control your feelings.
Women get jealous for 2 main reasons:
1. Lack of self-confidence.
2. Constantly comparing themselves to other women.
So you need to learn to overcome this feelings, remember that if a man chooses to spend time withyou there is something special about you that he sees, and you should act like a special someone,other women may have other “assets” (physical or intellectual) but remember you have your ownassets and you need to show them off.
If you still have that jealousy virus in you try one or all of the following:
1. Go to a room, lock the door and bang your head against the wall.
2. Hit a punching bag.
3. Go for a run.
Whatever works for you. But do not let him see the crazy you, do not let him feel like he is losingcontrol! If you act needy you look pathetic, if you act confident you look sexy!
Tip #5 Do not take relationship advice from the following…
If you were to start a business and were seeking an advice about starting a new business, would youtake it from your friend who is an employee for a company or a friend who owns a company?
When it comes to relationships, take advice from people who are in a relationship, instead of yoursingle girlfriends for example. Talk to men if you want to know how to attract men, we know what wewant (light bulb)! Talk to women who are in successful relationships if you need an advice about howto gain the same kind of relationships.
You don’t take advice from your single girlfriends. Are you really going to ask a bitter friend whocan’t get a second date with a guy for relationship advice? She will just give you false advice and fillyou with all her negative energy. If you want to end up frustrated and depressed like you singlefriends, than by all mean have that conversation. But if you are reading this book I’m assuming youare a positive person and are seeking positive advices.
Get Advice about relationships and men either from men or women in successful relationships, andstay away from negative people. Simple enough right?
Tip #6 Space is of the Essence
Constantly sticking to a man and following him around is not the way to win him over. If he likes you,he will be looking for your company, if he doesn’t like you, you can’t make him too. Again ,you don’twant to come off as needy, he needs to do the hunting, if you’re stuck to him and demanding hisattention 24/7 he will pull away for sure. If you want to spend more time with him than he may wantat a certain point you can do so by offering him something you know he can’t say no to, a littleincentive.
“Oh you’re busy tonight? That’s a shame, I have 2 tickets to tonight’s game and thought you’d like tocome with me”
“I cooked this amazing meal and have more than I can eat so why don’t I drop by for a few minuteswith a plate, it’s a shame to let it go to waste.”
That way you’ll earn some time with him and some brownie points. But most importantly, you won’tcome off as needy and dependent.
Again, you can’t make anyone (men or women) like you or want to spend time with you. So if hedoesn’t call back, or doesn’t spend as much time with you as you like, trying to force him too won’tdo you any good. You can’t win all the time, no one can. Sometime it’s best to move on.
Tip # 7 Stay FreshOk I know this one is pretty obvious, and you don’t need to read this book to remember to shave yourlegs, tweeze your eyebrows, dress sexy, exercise and keep yourself smelling good. But I want you tounderstand why men will appreciate you more if you will look good for them. Men always look attheir women as some kind of trophy or prize they won due to their wooing skills and efforts. As such,they want to show their women off to their friends, family, or anyone really. If you keep yourappearance fresh you will look good not just on the outside but your confidence will glow from theinside as well. When a man sees that you dress up and look sexy for him, it is a great compliment andego boost for him.
Another aspect of your exterior appearance is the way you carry yourself. Walking with your headhigh, maintain eye contact in the conversations, laughing from his jocks, smiling, and touching his armgently every now and then. All these things ( and as I mentioned before you can learn a lot more onbody language from this excellent book ) make you look more confident and confident=sexy.
Tip # 8 Sex on the first date? Really?
Sex on the first date is the worst thing you can do if you want to pursue a long term relationships witha guy. I can tell you from personal experience that a woman has no chance of getting more than 3 dateswith a man that she slept with on the first date. Of course there are exceptions but there are a fewreasons why it’s a bad idea. Sex on the first date:
1) Kills the anticipation- If you going to give it away the first time, his anticipation to seeyou again will drop 90%. Because in a way he already got his. Remember men aredifferent; we think about sex all the time and drive towards that goal all the time. So if yousleep with him on the first date he can mark 1 conquest of his check list and move on thenext.
2) Kills our interest- Once you sleep with him this early, even if you get a second date, hewon’t be as interested or interested at all to get to know you as a person (and not just as asex body).
3) Kills our respect for you- Yes, he will think you’re a slut, he may not say it, but deepdown that’s how he will look at you from now on, and that’s a very tough label to wash off,trust me. Also and please correct me if I’m wrong on this one- if you ever had sex on thefirst date, didn’t it make you feel, even just a little, how do I put this gently, like a slut?
4) Kills our challenge to conquer- If a man is going hunting and all the animals are liningup and ask him to shoot them, do you think he will enjoy or appreciate his hunting trip? Ifyou give the hunter what he is hunting without him making an effort, he won’t hunt anymore.Well he will go hunting again, just for other women. He needs to feel that getting in yourpants is one big challenge or he’ll get bored and walk away.
Here is the good thing about sex though for you ladies. When used properly it is the ultimate weaponto break a man. Like in classical conditioning we need to learn that sex is a treat for good behavior. You can give him a feeling of what he has coming if he plays his cards right (i.e. fulfill yourexpectations) to keep him going, and chasing you. And only when you feel like he respects you andtreats you right you can consider letting him in (literarily). But even when you had sex with him, hedoesn’t need to feel like the door is open and he can walk in anytime he wants. He still needs to workfor it, so make him work for it! It will keep your relationship alive, spicy and exciting!
Final NoteOk after reading this guide, Now you can win any man’s heart ! Noooooot.
But hopefully the insights provided here our twisted mind and way of thinking will help you betterunderstand how to conduct yourself when dealing with men. Remember that the things that drive menare totally different than the things that drive women as discussed at the beginning, while you may notlike it, you have to understand and act according to it if you want to win a man’s heart. Rememberthat you need to make a man feel like he is your hunter, breadwinner, and protector . That doesn’tmean you can’t earn more than him, or that you can’t make a subtle first move, but it’s your job tokeep his basic men instincts alive , if you want to maintain a good relationship with him.
Go over each and every one of the tips provided and grade yourself on a 1-10 scale for each of them. See where you can improve and how. Also, run some tests on the effectiveness of these tips and seehow they work in real life. Try to make a subtle first move as described in tip # 2, be approachableand easy going around his friends(tip #3), let him pursue your presence and not the other wayaround(tip #6). I guarantee you will see the positive outcomes instantly. And even if you don’t, keepin mind that not all men are born equal, but this guide defiantly relates to 85% of them.
Please ReviewWhat inspired me to write this e-book was years of watching the mistakes that women make whendealing with men. Mistakes that a lot of time gets the relationship or what could have been arelationship down the drain.
Whether your goal in reading this e-book was to learn how to attract a man, keep a man, or justwanted a good read on to pass a flight I hope this e-book served that goal.
In the next page you will be given the opportunity to review this e-book. I would appreciate it if youtake 2 minutes to give your honest review.
Wishing you all the best,
Ori Ben
Table of ContentsCopyrightSpecial BonusIntroductionWho am I NotMen are different, accept it!So what drives men?Tip #1-Do not make the first move!Tip #2- Pay him a compliment, but…Tip #3- Act dumb in front of his friends.Tip #4- Chill out!Tip #5 Do not take relationship advice from the following…Tip #6 Space is of the EssenceTip # 7 Stay FreshTip # 8 Sex on the first date? Really?Final NotePlease Review