Week 3:

Temperament No one impacts who your child is becoming more than you do.

Kathleen Edelman

Know Your Temperament:

ADDITIONAL TEMPERAMENT RESOURCE• Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer

ADDITIONAL DISCIPLINE RESOURCES• Parenting by The Book: Biblical Wisdom for Raising Your Child by John Rosemond

• Boundaries with Kids by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

• Loving Your Child Too Much by Tim Clinton and Gary Sibcy

• Parenting Your Powerful Child: Bringing an End to the Everyday Battles by Dr. Kevin Leman

APPLICATION EXERCISE THE TEMPERAMENT TESTDISCOVER THE TEMPERAMENTS OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERSOver the next week, please take a few moments to complete the assessment below as a first step toward discovering the temperaments of your family members. Use the chart on the following page to write the temperament of each person.

STEP 1: Circle the word in each row that best describes a family member.

Column A Column B Column C Column D

1 TAKES CHANCES LIKES TO LEAD LOYAL HIGH IDEALS

2 RATIONAL FUN-LOVING DARING BALANCED

3 NON-DEMANDING DEEP/THOUGHTFUL IMAGINATIVE SINGLE-MINDED

4 PRODUCTIVE UNDERSTANDING DETAILED LIKES VARIETY

5 UNFLUSTERED RESERVED MOTIVATOR AUTHORITATIVE

6 LOGICAL ENJOYS NEW THINGS DECISION MAKER MEDIATOR

7 ENERGETIC OPINIONATED AVOIDS CONFLICT PREDICTABLE

8 CONSCIENTIOUS EXPRESSIVE LEADER NURTURING

9 PATIENT PRACTICAL FORGIVING ADVENTUROUS

10 GOAL-DRIVEN PATIENT FAITHFUL LOVES PEOPLE

11 DISLIKES CHANGE TIDY PROMOTER COMPETITIVE

12 PERSISTENT PLAYFUL INDEPENDENT TOLERANT

13 TALKATIVE ENJOYS CHALLENGES DEEP RELATIONSHIPS SENSITIVE

14 CREATIVE POSITIVE BRAVE GOOD LISTENER

15 ACCEPTING EVALUATES ENTHUSIASTIC IMPULSIVE

16 DOER EASYGOING LIKES ORDER OPEN/FRIENDLY

17 STEADY CAUTIOUS ENERGETIC ACHIEVER

18 PERFECTIONIST ANIMATED VISIONARY WILLING

This test is based on Personality Patch Training by Teresa Gilbert: pathwaystoexcellence.net. All rights reserved.

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FAMILY TEMPERAMENT CHART

STEP 2: Count the number of words you circled for each color, and record it below.

TOTALS: Red __________ Yellow __________ Green __________ Blue __________

TEMPERAMENT PROFILES

PLAYFUL YELLOWFUN-LOVING

OUTGOINGOPTIMISTIC

LIFE OF THE PARTY

“I’m the quintessential people person. I enjoy being the center of attention

and am energized by being with people. I’m bold and loud in

almost everything I do.”

PEACEFUL GREENRELAXEDLIKEABLE

PEACEABLELOW-STRESSED

“I’m laid back and go with the flow most of the time. I can be different

things to different people and respond as needed in different situations.”

PROPER BLUEORGANIZED

DETAIL-ORIENTEDDEEP THINKER

“I tend to be a quiet person, and I am energized by time alone. I like

things functional and efficient, and I appreciate things like agendas,

detailed instructions, and strong follow-through.”

POWERFUL REDBORN LEADER

“GET THINGS DONE” PERSONVISIONARY

DECISION MAKER

“I’m a strong leader. I am very task-oriented and often find myself doing

multiple tasks at one time. If I am not in charge, I want to be.”

Sanguine

Phlegmatic

Choleric

Melancholy

The temperament information on pages 22-26 is based on the information found in the book, Personality Plus, by Florence Littauer. Adaptations have been made by Kathleen Edelman to keep current with new research concerning temperament behaviors.

STRENGTHSPEOPLE PERSON

HUMORCREATIVE AND COLORFUL

GREAT STORYTELLER

WEAKNESSESDECIDES BY FEELING

TALKS TOO MUCHDISTRACTED EASILY

INTERRUPTS

STRENGTHSADAPTABLE

COMPETENT AND STEADYGOOD LISTENER

KIND

WEAKNESSESTOO QUIET

PROCRASTINATORSTUBBORN

AVOIDS CONFLICT

STRENGTHSATTENTION TO DETAIL

DEEP AND THOUGHTFULGREAT AT PROCESSES AND

SYSTEMSPERSISTENT AND THOROUGH

WEAKNESSESLACKS SPONTANEITY

STRUGGLES UNDER PRESSUREHARD TO PLEASEREMEMBERS THE

NEGATIVES

STRENGTHSDECISIVE

WORKS WELL UNDER PRESSUREPRODUCTION-ORIENTED

GREAT LEADER

WEAKNESSESTOO OPINIONATED

WORKAHOLICOVERLY INTENSE

INSENSITIVE

TEMPERAMENT STRENGTHS & WEAKNESSES

Sanguine

Phlegmatic

Choleric

Melancholy

BASIC DESIRE: HAVE FUNEMOTIONAL NEEDS:

AttentionAffectionApproval

Acceptance

CONTROLS BY: CHARM

BASIC DESIRE: HAVE PEACEEMOTIONAL NEEDS:Peace and QuietFeeling of Worth

Lack of StressRespect

CONTROLS BY: PROCRASTINATION

BASIC DESIRE: HAVE CONTROLEMOTIONAL NEEDS:

LoyaltySense of Control

AppreciationCredit for Work

CONTROLS BY: ANGER

BASIC DESIRE: HAVE PERFECTIONEMOTIONAL NEEDS:

SensitivitySupport

SpaceSilence

CONTROLS BY: MOODS

PLAYWitty • Easygoing • Not Goal Oriented

WORKDecisive • Organized • Goal Oriented

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Popular Sanguine Powerful Choleric

Peaceful Phlegmatic Perfect melancholy

THE TEMPERAMENTS

KidsPlayful Yellow

STRENGTHSENJOYS LIFEACCEPTING

SOCIALLOVES HUGSINQUISITIVE

WEAKNESSESSASSY

DEFIANT OF AUTHORITYSELFISH

IRRESPONSIBLETEASER

Kidspeaceful green

STRENGTHSPEACEMAKERSUNDEMANDING

ACCOMMODATINGCOMFORTABLE ALONE

NO DRAMA

WEAKNESSESRESENTS PRESSURE

NON VERBALUNCOMFORTABLE SOCIALLY

INDIFFERENTINCOMPLETE TASKS

Kidspowerful Red

STRENGTHSLEADERSHIP

RESPONSIBILITYCONFIDENCE

ACTION-ORIENTEDMOTIVATED

WEAKNESSESBOSSY

DEMANDINGARGUMENTATIVE

SELFISHAGGRESSIVE

Kidsproper blue

STRENGTHSCOMPASSION

SINCERITYLOYALTY

DEPENDABILITYWELL BEHAVED

EASILY DISCIPLINED

WEAKNESSESEASILY FRUSTRATED

SENSITIVEMOODY AND EMOTIONAL

CRITICALPOUTY

DISCOVERING YOUR CHILD’S TEMPERAMENT

Sanguine

Phlegmatic

Choleric

Melancholy

Playful YellowWHAT TO DOBE POSITIVE

ADORE AND PRAISE THEMPROMOTE CREATIVITY

ALLOW VERBAL EXPRESSION

WHAT NOT TO DODON’T BE TOO SERIOUS

DON’T DEMAND PERFECTIONDON’T CONSUME THEIR TIME

peaceful greenWHAT TO DO

BE KIND IN CRITICISMLISTEN QUIETLY

PROMOTE INVOLVEMENTACCEPT INDIVIDUALITY

WHAT NOT TO DODON’T BE INSENSITIVE

DON’T EXPECT INTERACTIONDON’T DEMAND CONFORMITY

powerful RedWHAT TO DO

SPEAK LOGICALLYBE DIRECT

PROMOTE INTELLIGENCELET THEM MAKE CHOICES

WHAT NOT TO DODON’T LECTURELIMIT EMOTION

BE AUTHORITATIVENEVER EMBARRASS

proper blueWHAT TO DO

BE SENSITIVEHELP THEM FEEL SECURE

BE SINCEREPROMOTE CREATIVITY

WHAT NOT TO DODON’T EXPECT SPONTANEITYDON’T DEMAND PERFECTION

DON’T MAKE THEM FEEL GUILTY

PARENTING DO’S AND DON’TS

Sanguine

Phlegmatic

Choleric

Melancholy