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Emotional Empowerment
TrainingM I C H E L L E B E R S E L L , M . A . , M . E D .
S U P P O R T @ I I E E . T R A I N I N G
INTERNATIONAL INSTITUTE FOR EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT COPYRIGHT 2019
F E E L :
D I S A P P O I N T E D Signals Setback
D I S A P P O I N T M E N T S I G N A L S :
Something Is Actually Wrong
Something Is Perceived as Wrong
NEGATIVE OUTLOOKNEGATIVE CIRCUMSTANCE
A N T I D O T E :
D I S A P P O I N T E D Reassess & Regroup
• Using a negative experience to define you.
• Focusing on everything that is wrong.
• The power of your inner critic voice.
• Negativity.• Looking for examples to
diminish your self-worth.
These behaviors increase sadness/disappointment
EliminatingBehaviors
• Using the negative experience to reexamine any necessary changes.
• Find a balanced/fair perspective of self and life.
• Increase your sense of gratitude or look for the silver lining.
• Listening.• Find examples to honor self,
others, and life despite setback.
These behaviors decrease sadness/disappointment
Elevating Behaviors
DISAPPOINTED EMPOWERED ACTION
F E E L :
ANXIOUS Signals Uncertainty
A N X I E T Y S I G N A L S :
Something Is Actually Wrong
Something Is Perceived as Wrong
TRYING TO CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN’T
(EXTERNAL FACTORS)
NOT CONTROLING WHAT YOU CAN
(YOUR RESPONSE TO SITUATIONS)
A N T I D O T E :
A N X I E T Y Trust
• Self-doubt/ second-guessing self.
• Trying to control aspects that deplete you because you can’t control them: ie. what others think of you, outcomes, being perfect, etc.
• Focus on future.
These behaviors increase anxiety.
EliminatingBehaviors
• Self-trust • Take responsibility for your
response to circumstances.• Make adjustments to elevate your
situation.• Focus on showing up the best you
can with self-compassion & acceptance.
• Focus on present moment.
These behaviors decrease anxiety.
Elevating Behaviors
ANXIOUS EMPOWERED ACTIONS
F E E L :
ANGRY Signals Injustice
A N G E R S I G N A L S :
Something Is Actually Wrong
Something Is Perceived as Wrong
BEING WITHOUT POWERBEING POWERED OVER
A N T I D O T E :
A N G E R Respectful Power
• Blaming, shaming, or disrespecting self or others.
• Physically harming self or others.
• Defensiveness or need to be right.
• Taking things personal that aren’t personal.
These behaviors increase anger.
EliminatingBehaviors
• Respectfully speaking your truth.• Finding the courage to have
difficult conversations.• Take responsibility for creating
change.• Being vulnerable or flexible
enough to recognize own fault &/or see another viewpoint.
• Calmly sticking to the facts.• Giving the benefit of the doubt.
These behaviors decrease anger.
Elevating Behaviors
ANGRY EMPOWERED ACTIONS
EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT CHEAT SHEET
INTERNATIONAL INSTITUTE FOR EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT COPYRIGHT 2019
SETBACK
REASSESS & REGROUP
DISAPPOINTMENT
SIGNAL:
ANTIDOTE:
INJUSTICE
RESPECTFUL POWER
ANGER
SIGNAL:
ANTIDOTE:
UNCERTAINTY
TRUST
ANXIETY
SIGNAL:
ANTIDOTE:
What am I feeling?
What are the disempowered thoughts/messages tied to this feeling?
Are the messages absolutely true? What is the proof these messages aren’t true?
How am I not integrating the antidote & what is the result?
How can I better apply the antidote & how will I feel in doing so?
5 Question Emotional Empowerment Framework: