emotions and defensiveness in the workplace

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Ethan Schutz

Emotions and Defensiveness in the Workplace

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Name

What you do

Why you are here

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Emotional states“Logic” of emotionsUnwanted behaviorStaying positiveImplications

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Will Schutz, Ph.D.1925-2002

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Technical competence

CompatibilityPeople working well together

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FIRO®

FundamentalInterpersonalRelationsOrientation

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C PCompatibility is directlyrelated to Productivity


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C PProductive teams created randomly:

50%

Productive teams created using FIRO:

75%© 2013, The Schutz Company. All rights reserved.

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Harvard

Albert Einstein School of Medicine

University of California Berkeley

University of Chicago

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FIRO-B predicted behavior 75% accurately

What explained the other 25%?

Inclusion

Low High

Control

Low High

Openness

Low High

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Psychodrama

Psychosynthesis

Bioenergetics

Rolfing

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Rigidity

Enemy of teamwork and

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Rigidity

...stems from fears

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SadAngry

DisappointedWeak

NervousConfused

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HappyContentSatisfiedStrong

ConfidentCapableJoyous

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Make decisions

Solve problems

Handle conflict

Listen to others

Speak to others

View others

Use time and energy

Fear affects our capacity to

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Individual

Individual Individual

People

Task

Relationships CompatibilityProcess Network

Service Product

System

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IndividualIndividualIndividual


People

Task

Relationships CompatibilityProcess Network

Service Product

System

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Behavior Inclusion Control Openness

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0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

Inclusion

Low High

The amount of contact with other people

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0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

Control

Low High

The structure of the interaction with other people, including directing and decision-making

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0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

Openness

Low High

The depth of the interaction with other people—expressing feelings, thoughts, and beliefs

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Interpersonal Fear

Ignored/Abandoned

Humiliated/Embarrassed

Rejected/Disliked

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Interpersonal fears can lead to...

Rigidity

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Ignored/Abandoned Humiliated/Embarrassed Rejected/Disliked

Inclusion

Low High

Control

Low High

Openness

Low High

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“Please Lie to Me” I won’t…

…say what I see if you won’t say what you see.

…say what I’m thinking if you won’t say what you’re thinking.

Our Unspoken Working Agreement

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“Please Lie to Me” I won’t…

…say what I’m really feeling if you won’t say what you’re really feeling.

…say what I want if you won’t say what you want.

…question you if you won’t question me.

Our Unspoken Working Agreement

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I pretend…

…to trust people who I don’t.…to listen to people when I’m not.…to respect certain people when I don’t.…to agree when I don’t.…I don’t have to be right or get my way.…to be patient.…I want to be collaborative.…I’m not feeling critical.

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I pretend…

…not to be frustrated when I am.…to know what I am doing when I don’t.…not to be afraid when I am.…I don’t want more recognition.…to want other people’s opinions.…I have things under control.…I want feedback.…to say what I think and feel.

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Opening a RestaurantHow will you invite your customers to feel:Opening a RestaurantHow will you invite your customers to feel:Opening a RestaurantHow will you invite your customers to feel:

Included and significant

Competent and in Control oftheir experience

Liked and treated in an Open, friendly way

and reduce concerns they have about being:and reduce concerns they have about being:and reduce concerns they have about being:

• being ignored• passed over• neglected• unimportant• forgotten

• humiliated• shamed• embarrassed• foolish• stupid

• rejected• disliked• judged harshly• treated coldly• not accepted

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Psychodrama

Psychosynthesis

Bioenergetics

Rolfing

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Feelings Significance Competence Likability

Self-Concept(behavior)

Aliveness Self-Determination

Self-Awareness

Self-Concept(feelings)

Self-Significance

Self-Competence Self-Like

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emotions and defensiveness in the workplace

Business

schutz company

respect certain people

pretendto trust people

unspoken working agreement

good relationships

c p compatibility

interpersonal fears

c p productive teams