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I N T H I S I S S U E Mind The Gaps To Create Compassionate Schools After Charlottesville: Teaching about Racism, Anti-Semitism and White Supremacy Social Justice Resources from the National Association of School Psychologists

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When I speak about preventing bullying, I encourage schools to create a culture of compassion. A big piece of this is helping students learn to see from each others points of view and treat one another better. But just as big a piece is helping the adults do the samebecause sometimes we grown-ups (even we educators) forget to put ourselves in other peoples shoes as well.

Ive especially seen this when it comes to educators of different generations working together.

You know what I mean: a teacher from one generation rolls their eyes or makes a snarky comment when a teacher from another generation: uses too much or not enough technology; does something a new-fangled or old-fashioned way; or does or doesnt get a pop culture reference from today or years past.

Worse is when this turns into teachers not wanting to work with colleagues from other generations because of these differences.

Heres what I know: To truly create a culture of compassion in our schools, we need to change the way we think, and talk, about the generation gaps among educators.

So, lets dig in.

First, consider the generations were dealing with. While exact years vary from report to report, there are typically four generations at work in our schools and offices todaya first in American history. They are:

The Traditionalists: A.K.A. The Silent Generation, born between 1925 and 1945, shaped by events such as The Great Depression and World War II.

The Baby Boomers: Born between 1946 and 1964, our nations largest generation, deeply affected by the Vietnam War and the 1960s.

Generation X: Born between 1965 and 1980, shaped by events such as the Challenger Space Shuttle explosion and the Iraq War.

The Millenials: A.K.A. Gen Y or Gen Next, born in the 80s and 90s, raised in a post-9/11 era of school shootings, and never without the Internet.

Second, lets consider some strategies to work more intentionally with this generational spread on our school staffs:

1. Acknowledge And Celebrate Generational Differences Openly.In other words, talk about this! Bring in articles or books about the generations and discuss the strengths and challenges of each. (From Boomers to Bloggers: Success Strategies Across Generations by Misti Burmeister is a good one.) Agree to be mindful of stereotyping and create a dialogue based on curiosity and respect.

2. Create Teams, Mentorships and Communications that Mind the Gaps.Use innovation and teamwork to rethink systems, coming up with ones that empower all generations. How about: cross-generational communications teams (one member texts, one emails, one photocopies important announcements)? cross-generational mentorships (new and veteran teachers mentor each other on different skills)?

3. Remember the Common Goal.Cooperation happens when we focus on what matters most to all the generations of teachers in the room: the success of our students. Whatever our generation, we are all here because we believe in the promise of our future generations.

Mind The Gaps To Create Compassionate SchoolsEncouraging Empathy Between Generations of Educators

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In August 2017, Unite the Right convened one of the largest and most violent gatherings in decades in the U.S. that brought together white supremacist groups including the alt-right, neo-Nazis and the Ku Klux Klan. The gatherings stated goal was to save the statue of Confederate General Robert E. Lee, because like other places in the South, there are still monuments celebrating leaders of the Confederacy. Hundreds gathered on Friday evening and Saturday to broadcast their viewpoints and ideologies, including chanting, blood and soil, you will not replace us and hail Trump. They carried torches, homemade shields, weapons and Confederate and Nazi flags. Many brandished Nazi salutes. After continued clashes with their opponents, a car plowed into a crowd of peaceful counter-protesters, killing one person and injuring nineteen. A state of emergency was declared by Virginias Governor.

This event has precipitated many public conversations about the state of white supremacy, racism, anti-Semitism, domestic extremism, free speech and other related topics. Because this is an important teachable moment for teachers and parents/family members, below are relevant lessons, related curricula and additional anti-bias resources and strategies to help you discuss these topics with young people.

Curricular ResourcesAnti-Semitic Incidents: Being an Ally, Advocate and Activist (middle/high school lesson)Challenging Anti-Semitism: Debunking the Myths and Responding with Facts (K-12 lesson plans)Confederate Monuments and their Removal (high school lesson)Contemporary Anti-Semitism (Echoes and Reflections lesson)First Amendment and our Freedoms (middle/high school lesson)Noose Incidents and their Historical Context (high school lesson)Outsmarting Propaganda: Combatting the Lure of Extremist Recruitment Strategies (high school lesson)Privilege, Discrimination and Racial Disparities in the Criminal Justice System (high school lesson)Swastikas and other Hate Symbols (high school lesson)When Perception and Reality Collide: Implicit Bias and Race (high school lesson)

Other Educational ResourcesCivil Rights MovementCreating an Anti-Bias Learning EnvironmentEmpowering Young People in the Aftermath of HateHelping Students Make Sense of News Stories about Bias and InjusticeLessons to Teach and Learn from Unite the Right (blog)Mass Violence and Extremism Backgrounder: Information for Educators and School Administrators

After Charlottesville: Teaching about Racism, Anti-Semitism and White Supremacy

According to the experts, our generational culture stays with us, so we will never truly grow into understanding or being like the generations before us. In other words, a Baby Boomer at 25 was very different than a Millenial at 25, and they will retain this difference at their respective ages of 50. The same is true for the generational perspective of our studentstheir youthful selves are simply different than ours were, and they will never see the world as we do.

So, it behooves us to understand and respect each generation, as they bring something unique to the table that will remain as such. This perspective can take us a long way in creating a deeper and more successful culture of compassion in our schools.

Alex Kajitani is the 2009 California Teacher of the Year, and a Top-4 Finalist for National Teacher of the Year. He is a highly sought-after speaker, and the co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Inspiration for Teachers. His first book, Owning It was named Recommended Reading by the U.S. Department of Education. Alex is also on a mission to get every kid in America to learn their times tables, and to make this happen, he created the popular online program www.MultiplicationNation.com. Alex has a popular TED Talk, has been honored at The White House, and was featured on The CBS Evening News with Katie Couric. For more of his innovative ideas, visit www.AlexKajitani.com.

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This past summer, I served as a Fulbright Specialist at the Anti-Bullying Centre (ABC) at Dublin City University (DCU) in Dublin, Ireland. It was an amazing experience. I just wanted to take a few minutes to share what it involved, who I spent time with, and how it made an impact not just short-term, but hopefully long-term as well. Im already looking forward to going back!

We know that with the almost ubiquitous use of social media and smartphones by adolescents these days across Ireland and most other countries, certain forms of teen technology misuse continue to cause problems at school, in communities, and on social media. These issues have made many Irish educators, parents, and other youth-serving professionals very nervous as it relates to their negative impact, and very overwhelmed in terms of knowing what to do.

My responsibilities generally involved serving these constituent groups in

any way I could. I provided bullying and cyberbullying prevention trainings to various audiences including academics, legislators, policy makers, IT professionals in schools, Fortune 500 companies like Facebook and Intel, teachers, social workers, and others who need to understand the best practices that are evolving on the topics we study. I have already kept in touch with so many from my trip, and know that the relationships will continue because our goal and passion is the same: to build and maintain safe spaces offline and online in which kids can thrive on every level.

In addition, my time was spent initiating and dialoguing about research collaborations with a number of lecturers, professors, and graduatestudents both in the Dublin area as well as across the country. To be honest, it was crazy to see that various professionals who work with adolescents wanted to spend face time with me and just chat about their projects! I didnt know specifically how I could be of help given the fact that they are based in Ireland and have to deal with context-specific problems, but I realized that these issues involving teens are pretty much universal. It turned out that I did have a lot to say and a lot of value to add when we

My Fulbright Award for Bullying andCyberbullying Prevention

ADLs Center on Extremism ResourcesAlt Right: A Primer about the New White SupremacyCenter on ExtremismFrom Alt Right to Alt Lite: Naming the HateHate on Display Hate Symbols DatabaseViolence and Hate Unite the Right (blog)

Pyramid of HateRace Talk: Engaging Young People in Conversations about Race and RacismTalking to Young Children about Bias and PrejudiceWhat Should We Tell our Children about Charleston? (blog)

Resources for Parents and Family MembersConfederate Monuments (Table Talk: Parent/Family discussion guide)Hate Symbols (Table Talk: Parent/Family discussion guide)Propaganda, Extremism and Online Recruitment Tactics (Table Talk: Parent/Family discussion guide)Race, Perception and Implicit Bias (Table Talk: Parent/Family discussion guide)Rosalinds Classroom Conversations: When Do Teachers Stay Neutral?Question Corner: Frequently Asked Questions for Early Childhood Providers and Family Members

Childrens and Young Adult BooksBooks about Race and RacismBooks about Jewish Culture and Anti-SemitismBooks about Social Justice

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As an avid reader and educator, I am constantly looking for tools, strategies and new resources to help me add to my anti-bullying and social emotional learning (SEL) programs.

I was captivated the minute I started to read UnSelfie. Dr. Michelle. Borbas stories and analogies are so relatable that you find yourself nodding throughout the book. She is great at pulling in her audience and then giving them something concrete. The book walks you through how you can develop empathy in your child at really any age.

Mobilizing childrens moral courage to be Upstanders may be our best hope to stop peer cruelty. Kid interventions cut bullying by more than half

the time and within 10 seconds, but they must learn to how to step in or get help.- Dr. Borba

I had not heard about Dr. Borba until I attended last years IBPA Conference in New Orleans. She was a Keynote Speakers and the minute she started sharing about her experience she moved the crowd. Dr. Borba was able to make us laugh, cry, and feel empathy. She is engaging, energetic, passionate, funny, witty, and empathetic. She drew in the crowd with her research and stories from all over the globe. She had us visualizing the exercises and we could feel how it was to be part of this Selfie world. The book is a reflection of her keynote speech, and her ability to give such great applicable strategies leaves you wanting more.

Cooperative caring relationships can also make our children

Book of the month

UnSelfie: Why empathic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World by Michelle Borba Ed. D.

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spent time together and dialogued about best practices and futuredirections at the intersection of teens and technology.

Finally, I spoke extensively to the print, radio, and TV media, generating 328,818.00 in publicity value for my host (Dublin City University), my home university (Florida Atlantic University), and the Fulbright Foundation. It felt like I was being shuttled to this interview or that interview every single day which again was shocking and unexpected to me.

I remember frequently thinking to myself: What can I add that hasnt already been said? How can my words really make a difference to Irish educators, Irish mental health workers, and Irish families? How can I inspire Irish youth to set themselves up for an amazing future by connecting and interacting with others online with empathy, wisdom and kindness? How can I get them to develop resilience to face social and relational hardships in their life, so they can be overcomers and do epic things as they move into adulthood? Here again, the words came and I honestly believe I contributed a lot of value, instead of just adding to the noise with random feel-good inspirational statements or other fluffy points that sound great but lack substance.

Id like to give a shoutout to my main host, Dr. James OHiggins Norman, who heads up the ABC. It was remarkable how my work and the work of his Centre at DCU fit so seamless and beautifully together. It was wild how

quickly I was able to settle into my days at the Centre, and it felt like I had been a part of their team my entire life. Every day was productive and enjoyable because of their warmth, competence, and fun dispositions. And I felt like my presence there made a difference. This is all I could have hoped for with my Fulbright experience: to serve in a role that has significant and far-reaching meaning for my host, and for the host country.

As I reflect back upon the experience, the Fulbright award allowed me to contribute in significant ways by educating youth professionals on prevention and response strategies to address online misuse among adolescents, and encouraging them to promote the positive uses of technology through specific, meaningful strategies. I believe that the introductions and connections I made will foster deeper partnerships that will contribute to various noteworthy projects we hope to undertake at the Cyberbullying Research Center and with the International Bullying Prevention Association. And I feel that simply being there fully present and available to so many in Ireland as a resource was tremendously valuable to those who reached out or heard me speak. I have promised to continue to help them moving forward, because I know we are all committed to this cause with one mind and one heart!

Sameer Hinduja, PhD, Cyberbullying Research Center, www.cyberbullying.org

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smarter, happier, and healthier, as well as more prosocial, resilient, and empathetic.-Dr. Borba

In the book, Dr. Borba goes over the research on technology and its impact on empathy. The results will leave you stunned. She then explores the 9 essential habits to develop empathy in your children:

1. Emotional literacy2. Moral Identity 3. Perspective taking 4. Moral imagination5. Self-regulation 6. Practicing kindness7. Collaboration 8. Moral courage 9. Altruistic leadership ability

The goal is to understand these habits and create ways to bring them into your childrens lives. She breaks down each habit into easy to do activities or guided conversations to help your child further work their empathy muscles. Dr. Borba reiterates that empathy is not instilled in our tech heavy connected world so just like any sport or instrument we need to practice daily.

Kindness is strengthened by practice but doesnt have to cost a dime, take much time, or require any particular talent. Like any exercise program, regular workouts are required to reap the gains. -Dr. Borba

Each story will touch your heart and leave a little imprint of empathy and compassion. Dr. Borba also ties in research to support her arguments, but she never overwhelms you with statistics. She gives you a plethora of resources to help you instill these empathy habits without making you feel guilty or embarrassed that your child might be that Selfie kid. It is overall a must read for all educators and parents.

14th Annual International Bullying Prevention ConferenceNovember 5-7, 2017Opryland Hotel, Nashville, TN

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Hitting the High Notes: Through empathy and kindnessTopics include: Bias Based Bullying, Addressing Social Ostracism, Online Safety, Students with Disabilities, Trauma Informed Care and more.Join 800 professionals that work with youth across the globe at this inspiring and informational 3 day event that provides strategies and tools to use in your bullying prevention program.

Keynote presenters include: Marc Brackett, PhD Karen Vandino Peter Smith, PhD JeffSprague,PhD Dorothy Espelage, PhD

40+ workshops Exhibit hall Networking TED Talk Inspired sessions Morning power walk Yoga

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Until Next Time Dr. Kortney Peagram Founder/Owner Bulldog Solution, Inc. Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology

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