excellence way of living

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The Excellence Way of living


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Table of Contents

Chapter 1Your Mind..your thoughts

Chapter 2Your emotions

Chapter 3 Your bodyChapter 4 ..Self Image

Chapter 5 Other people

Chapter 6Approval seeking

Chapter 7 ..Other peoples opinions

Chapter 8.. Self acceptance.

Chapter 9 ..Improving yourself..

Chapter 10This is your reality Chapter 11..You are the most important person in this world..

Chapter 12..Positive thinking

Chapter 13 ..Social models..

Chapter 14Goals..

Chapter 15 ..Awarenes

Chapter 16Observing Ego..

Chapter 17Being selfishChapter 18self-sufficiency

Chapter 19..Helping othersChapter 20..Trust yourself

Chapter 21Persistence.

Chapter 22Charisma

Chapter 23..Being a man..

Chapter 24..About deathChapter 25. Growing and conquering ourselves.

Chapter 26. Enjoy the moment.

Chapter 27. About Knowledge.

Chapter. 28 On Aggression , assertivity and conflict

Chapter. 29 Inner conflict.

Chapter. 30 Fear (Fake Evidence Appearing Real)

Chapter 31. Visualizing

Chapter. 32 About Sex.


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Chapter 1Your Mind..your thoughts

You are not your mind..you have a mind..

You are not your thoughs..you have thoughts..Your mind produces thoughts..

Your mind is a thought creating tool and as such must be

controlled.

You are in charge of your mind ..you are the boss

not the other way around

Whenever a negative thougth enters your mindreject itdont

dwell on it and immediately create a positive thought to

counteract and get rid of the negativity.

Negativity and negative thought are like a cancer and can destroy

your life

Make sure you only allow positive thoughts in your mind

Never accept negative thoughts in your mind :

If you have a negative thought , ask yourself :

Is this a helpful thought?Is it useful for me to think this way?

Does this help me to get the positive results

I want in my life?

If the answer is NO, get rid of it immediately ..


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Chapter 2Your emotionsEmotions are chemicals being released in your body..and as such

we have to learn to detach ourselves from them. Learn to see

them as you would see a pain on your foot after hitting the wall

It is a processand it will dissapear..

You are not your emotionsyour body has emotions..(energy in

motion)

Whenever you have an emotion running through your body

observe it as if you were a scientist studying it. Welcome the

emotion (Sedona Method) and it will lose strength gradually untilit disappears. Welcome it and release it..dont block it or fight it

just welcome it and it will fade away.

Chapter 3 Your bodyYou are not your body. You live in your body. It is the vehicle

you use to move through the physical world. Detached yourself

from your body. Your body is your templeAccept your body

deeply and completely..Dont compare yourself to unachievable

photoshopped models of beauty. 100% of what you see in fashion

magazines has been retouched..You are perfect as you are as long

as you accept yourselfChange what you want to change and

can be changed and accept what cant be change..

It doesnt matter how you look as long as you accept yourself.

If you accept yourself, people will accept you too.

Chapter 4 ..Self ImageWe create our self image when we are kids.Our parents, our

family, teachers, peers , media ,etc have a big influence in how

we see ourselves.

The same way when we start doing something new..lets say forargument sake ..public speaking..we need to learn the ropeswe


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need to learn the how to..have powerful models to emulate and

learn fromand practice..we need to have the right models in life

as well..when it comes to be a man or a woman or a human being

for that matter. The social models are wrongThey teach man to

be pussies to chase women and to put women in a pedestalthey

make men weak

They give women all the social power.just for being a womanapower they dont even want..because even though they might

enjoy to be put in a pedestalThis same fact is blocking the way

for them to meet a real masculine man..They are scarce since

most men have been weaken by wrong social modelsWomen

want a strong man who is going to lead them..and put them in

their place when they misbehave. Women are very adaptable and

will learn to emulate the female role models they see on themedia.

They will start getting attention and being put in a pedestal from

socially weaken men and that will reinforce their arrogant

behaviour. This same behaviour will reduce the chances or

completely stop them from really getting to know a man that

would a good partner for them.

Chapter 5 Other peopleNobody is gonna live your life for you. Nobody is gonna die for

you. Nobody feels your pain , your pleasure , your emotions or

feelings for you. You can listen to people and learn from them..learn from their mistakes..from their experiences and share

yours with them to grow together as human beingsBut never let

anybody tell you how to live your life or what you have to feel or

what you can or can not do..they do not know how it feels to be

you..and what your filters of reality are..Influence people

positively..and stay away from negative and judgemental


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people..they have very low self esteem and are trying to suck

yours like a vampire would do with someones blood.

Chapter 6Approval seekingApproval seeking is an addiction ..is in some way a disease we

have to get rid of. It makes you weak..it puts your self worth

..your self esteem in the hands of other people..which is a very

bad thing . Never let other peoples opinions define who you are .

DEFINE YOURSELF WITH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS. Do

things you are proud of ..and dont tell anybody about it..that way

your unsconcious will pick up on the fact that your opinion of

who you are is enough. That you dont need people telling you

how good you are or how good you get things done to approve ofyourself or to believe in yourself. Never brag about anything to

impress people ..let them brag to you and qualify themselves to

you. Whenever you talk to someone be friendly but ..look at

that person as if you were assessing the way he or she

communicates and if they communicate in a way you dissaprove

of remember that they need to gain you approvalyou dont

need their ..you have your own and that more than enoughIfthey say or do something you disapprove of ..tell them in a matter

of factly way in an assertive way and you will be feel great

with yourself and at the same time they will respect you for it.

Always have an inner locus of control. Have an internal frame of

reference. Move your frame of reference inside. Look on the

inside to figure out if everyone else is on the right page. You

make the decisions about what is right for you and your life. Youare in competition with yourself and have to keep things to your

own standards not the standards of others.

Chapter 7 ..Other peoples opinionsOther peoples opinions are a reflection of their way of thinking

..a reflection of themselves..never a reflection of you.Thats


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why so many people can have different opinions about the same

matter

You own opinion of yourself has to be very highyou have your

own journey in life..that is different from theirs

Most people have this herd mentalitythey are not awakethey

dont stop and think if what most people say has any sense for

them ..they just repeat it as if they were parrots..Stupid ideasspread like wildfire..

When someone criticizes you say :

I can see that you disaprove of me..

Its OK man, you dont need to like everything I do.

Thank you for noticing ..you are very observant.

Thanks for sharing that with me

Chapter 8.. Self acceptance.You are not your bodyyou have a body ..your body is the

vehicle of your soul..It is the physical vehicle you use to move

around the physical world..detach yourself from in..Your body is

perfect..God made it ..and God doesnt make any

mistakes..Accept your body and be grateful that you are aliveevery single daywhile you are reading these line ..people are

dying in hospital all over the worldDo no take tomorrow for

grantedThere is no guarantee that tomorrow you and I are

going to be alive..There is no guarantee..


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Chapter 9 ..Improving yourself..First of all you have to feel grateful that you are alive .

Think about that just for a second , the only fact that you are alive

means that you are a winner..You won the sperm racethere

were between 40 million to 1.2 billion sperms in the race and

YOU WERE THE WINNER. People dont think about this orsimply read about this in a magazine and dont reflect about it.

But when you really think about it changes the way you look at

your lifeBecause you understand that every human being is a

natural born winner thats why we are alive. We have spend time

focusing on things that empower us to become better, to become

more and to trust ourselves and therefore you need to

stop watching so much TV or doing stuff you do to entertainyourself. TV is programming you to be an obedient sheep..TV is

influencing you so much on an unconscious level that you would

be amazed if you were to find out how much of what you think or

do has to do with what youve been watching on TV for the past

few week, moths or even years. Because what you see and

unconsciously accept as reality ..become your reality..your map

of the worldAnd all your behaviours will be according to thatreality.

Be an actor in life not an spectatorFind what your passions are

find what your weaknesses are and work on improving

yourself..Take courses, train yourself..become a better and more

powerful version of yourself. You can become great at anything

you chose to be by training and educating yourself.

Become a social engineer


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Chapter 10This is your realityThis is your reality..your life..everybody you see when you open

your eyes is a guest in your reality and as such has to abide by

your rulesYOU SET THE RULES.

You are the MASTER of your reality.You are the creator of your reality. Your create your own

happines with the meanings you give to things. Other people or

outer events are not responsible for your happiness. You are

responsible for your own happines.

You are the theather , you are the context

reality is the content

other people are like actors and actresses..this actor says this ..that

actress says thatwhat they say or dohas nothing to do with

you..only with then

Chapter 11..You are the mostimportant person in this world..If you dont exist, nothing exists..not even your principles ..your

opinions ...your vision of the worldif you dont exist nothing

exists.You start by loving yourself .so that later you will be able

to love others..You cannot give the love that you dont have. Life

is a journey , an experience and by loving yourself and creating a


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great person with yourself you motivate others to do the same and

start creating a world of self sufficient people who like to

surround themselves with people but that dont need people to

feel better about themselvesthis makes a big difference in how

people treat each other.

Chapter 12..Positive thinkingPeople who say,

You can do anything you want are simply unrealistic. Some

things are just not possible. For example, if I thought that today I

could become an Olympic gold-medal swimmer, Id need a

shrink more than a swimming coach. No matter how many

lessons I take, how hard I train, and how many steroids Iconsume, it wont happen, ever!

We all encounter roadblocks, obstacles that block ourprogress.But when we do, we have options if we remain positive. We can

walk away, climb over, go under, or around them. We can also

break through obstacles or have them demolished.

Program yourself for successevery time your catch yourself

having a negative thouhgt ..dont dwell on it..get rid of it

immediately and fill your mind with the oppositive positive

thought.. if for example your say to yourself : Who am I to be a

role model ..who am I to make a difference in the world , who am

I to change the world and make it a better place for everybody?

immediately think :

Who am I not to be a role model?The world needs me to

motivate people..to inspire people to become their best selves..

who am I not to make a difference in the world , who am I not tochange the world and make it a better place for everybody? I

must take action I am fortunate enough to have become

awaken and see the world for what it is..not for what society

has programmed us to think it is..and I have to lead people and

help people to open their eyes and become awaken to the reality

of this world..and get rid of the fantasy weve been sold by the

media.


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Chapter 13 ..Social models..The social models are wrongthe role models are wrong.

We as men need to be handsome, tall, strong, intelligent, funny,

successful, brave, gentleman, etc.

Women need to be tall, pretty, intelligent, have big breast, bigbutts, be slim, successful, be a good mother, etcThey simply

expect you to accept social models that you didnt agreed with in

the first place.

The media is constantly bombarding us with this models and

behaviours ..very few people can escape from this unconscious

programming.

The first step to stop the influence is to become aware when it ishappening. Watch tv commercials and see what they are trying

you to convince you that you will achieve be buying their

products..listen to any song and you will realize that 90% of the

song are love related and are sung by a man (the chaser) chasing a

woman (the prize)No wonder so many men are afraid to talk to

beautiful women

Do not watch tv ..do not read the news ..they are programming

you (without you being aware) to be another sheepIf something

important happens someone will tell you about it.

Read good books and watch motivational and inspirational

videos..learn about success..and improve yourself as much as you

can..every day of learning is another brick in the wall of your

success.

Chapter 14Goals..Setting goals is extremely important if you are to improveyourself. It is not the goal itself that is important but the person

you become on your way to meeting your goals.

For example, if someone gave you a million euro today , you

would not have to work for it and therefore wouldnt improve

yourself. Of course you would enjoy it but you would not

improve yourself. On the other hand if you earned a million eurothrough your own efforts you would transform yourself in a


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person capable of earning a million euro and therefore could do it

again and again..since now you know how to do it..who you had

to associate with to do itwhat you had to improve or change

about yourself to do itwhat new habits you had to create to do

itwhat new skills you had to learn to do it..and so onGoals

make you grow as a person , as a human being , as a social being.

They make you grow into a more powerful and confident humanbeing.

Chapter 15 ..AwarenesJust for a day ..observe yourself..observe everything that you

do..as if you were someone else taking notes of your way of

doing things and your behaviour.Do you like the way you behave? Cant you behave in a more

powerful and strong way? Can you behave like a charismatic

leader? It all starts with your body language your tone of voice

and the words you choose to communicate

Chapter 16Observing Ego..Only when you develop awareness (Observing Ego) and you

observe yourself and catch yourself before you do something as

you usually do (habits) you are able to stop , pause and decide to

do something different. If you dont do this you will be slave to

your habitsWe need to be aware of what habits we have by

observing ourselvesand consciously get rid of the ones that we

dont like or are not positive or helpful.

Chapter 17Being selfishPeople will buy you at you own valuepeople will respect you if

you respect yourself..

Respect everybody but first and foremost RESPECT YOURSELF

.. In any conflicting situation when you are giving the choice


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between respecting yourself or othersALWAYS

RESPECT YOURSELF

Chapter 18self-sufficiencyBe with the people in your life because you want to be with them..because your are happy with them ..not because you need

them..not because you think that being on your own is a bad thing

or even a scary thing...Love being on your own,We live in a

world of abundanceif someone doesnt belong in your life

anymore walk away from them.. you will have time and space

for someone new and better..

Chapter 19..Helping othersSometimes people are stuck in situations that dont make them

happy or situations that simply weaken then and make them

suffer and cant see the way out by themselves.They are too

attached to the situation , too close if you will. They sometimes

need somebody to make them gain perspective , to encourage

them and urge them to back off from that area of their lives andlook at it with new eyes to see things they couldnt see before.

And that way to gain an insight on the forces affecting the scene

and the dynamics taking place and therefore that way wake up to

things they couldnt see before.

Things that will make them understand that situation and the

people involved in it differently. The Whys, Hows, Whos of it.

Chapter 20..Trust yourselfTrust yourself 100% always. You have all the resources that you

need to succeed in any and every situation in life..When you trust

yourself everything in your life changes for the betteryou

achieve with ease things you never thought youd be able to

achieve.You surprise yourself ..


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Chapter 21Persistence.Tigers probably have only one successful attack in every 10 to 20

tries. Not all attempted attacks are successful.

Tomas Edison said I didnt fail I just found 10.000 ways that

wont work before he invented the light bulb.

Chapter 22Charisma..Charisma is having an identity..separated from the crowd.

Dare to be different and have you own opinionsIt is better to be

a lion for a day than a sheep your whole life.

A charismatic person is outward focus..is the kind of person who

cares about other people and not only sees what people are but

what people can become..When you are charismatic, people are drawn to you because you

make them feel good ..they feel better about themselves when you

are around..you take out the best of them ..

Chapter 23..Being a man..The same way you learn anything you want to get good at in

life..you need to learn how to be a real manwhen we are kids

we unconsciously learn from the male models that we have

around us (father, brothers, etc) but sometimes what happens is

that they are not good examples to learn fromif your father is a

pussy with women ..he will teach you to be just thatSociety has

given all the power to women..has put them in a pedestal..and hasweaken men..Dont accept that!! Dont chase women!! Attract

women by being a strong and confident man on his journey to

success..whatever success means to you.will be OK.

In any encounter with a women a man takes the lead.

Know your place..you are the man ..she is the woman

Women will test you..to see if you are a strong man (strength of

character not physical strenth) but you are the stimulus andthey are the responseInside every women , no matter how


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arrogant she seems to bethere is a insecure little girl anxious

to meet a strong man like you.

You lead and she will follow

Chapter 24..About death

Society has it all wrong about deathIt is just simply the fear ofthe unknown at its bestWhat is the point of scaring everybody

and making them fear death..when nobody knows what we are

going to find beyond it

I prefer to think that death is a transition to paradise..a place

where we will see the light and we will come back as another

form of energy..maybe as another human beingWe should

celebrate deathwe should celebrate the fact that a human beingever existedand say bye bye to this human being in a loving

fashion..

Chapter 25. Growing and conquering

ourselves.Sometimes in lifewe discover that a TV commercial , a word

from a friend or something that an actor says in a movie makes us

think or change the way we think just for a moment but that

moment is enough for us to realize something about ourselves or

the world we live in that makes us look or feel differently ..It is as

if we had found a little piece of the puzzle that we were missing

to make sense of ourselves or to find our purpose in life.

Chapter 26. Enjoy the moment.As the saying goes..stop and smell the roses.

Learn from the past, live in the present and prepare for the future.

Too many people spend too much of their mental energy thinking

about the past or dwelling on past failures..what is the point in

doing that..you are burning enery for nothing..instead we should

mentally relive past situations where we didnt respond as wehave liked and see they in our mind movie as we would have


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liked them to bethe mind cant tell the difference between

reality and a very vivid visualizationthis way you are

programming yourself to behave the way you want to..

It is that easy.

With regard to the futureas I said we need to prepare for it..but

not spend any amount of time creating neative scenarios that

could come to happensince this again would be ourselvesprogramming ourselves but this time for failure..

Prepare for the future but always with success in mind.

Chapter 27. About Knowledge.We are all ignorant but in different subjects.That means that

knowledge is spread throughout the whole society. The Doctor inMedicine doesnt know about financethe finance expert knows

nothing about musicthe musician hasnt a clue about car

mechanicsthe car mechanic know nothing about martials arts

and so on and so forth

Become an expert in your field and learn a little about other

things that could be helpful to youlearn from the people around

you.

Chapter. 28 On Aggression , assertivity

and conflictOne very common problem many people experience is the fear

of conflict. People do whatever it takes to be comfortable..they do

anything for a quiet day..they avoid conflictthey dont know

how to deal with itSome prefer to shut up and be liked than to

stand up for what they believe and confront someoneSome

others do the polar opposite they look for conflict whenever they

go..thats another way of expressing insecurity ..attack before

they attack youand fortunately some are assertive enough to

stand up for what they believe in , in a matter of factly

mannerinforming others about what they are going to accept or

not ..setting healthy and strong boundaries and defending them


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being forceful but not aggresive unless the situation requires that

approach.

Never look for peoples approvallet them look for your

approvalbe clear about what you like or dislike in people and

let them know about that in a firm and matter of factly manner

and youll be surprise what will happen.

Chapter. 29 Inner conflict.I learnt from my mentors something very usefuland

surprisingly simple when it comes when dealing with inner

conflict. First , lets define what inner conflict is. Inner conflict

takes place when we have in our mind two conflicting or

opposing ideas about something. I learned that this two opossinideas cant be both ours. One of them is ours ..from our own

reflecting and thinking and the other might be imposed or learnt

from someone in authority when we were kids or from other

source (media, friends, peers..etc) that we internalize without

thinking ..when at that time we were unaware of our

thoughtsagain it is vital to be aware of your thougths if you are

to evolve positively in your life.

So your job is to find out which of the conflicting thoughts is not

yours and to get rid of it.

One of them is gonna lead you to more personal success..that

means that people might not approve of it.

One will lead you towards your goal ..the other wont.

If everybody was gone and it was my choice ..

What would be the choice?

Which one follows my purpose which one doesnt?If it follows your purpose..it doesnt mean that people are going

to be ok with youit means you are going to be Ok with

you..and thats the most important thing..you have to be OK with

yourself.


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Chapter. 30 Fear (Fake Evidence

Appearing Real)The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek

(Joseph Campbell).

If you ever feel fearAct as if the fear did not exist. Pretend and

ask yourself: If I were totally confident in this situation..

If I had no fears at all, How would I behave ?

And THEN BEHAVE THAT WAY

Chapter 31. VisualizingWe all are visualizing machines. We are visualizing all the time.

Whenever we think about something that happened in the past weare visualizing, whenever we think about something that might

happen in the future we are visualizing.

We are very good at it, because we practise constantly.But we

usually do it unconsciously and thats why many times we are

programming ourselves with our unconcious thoughts to feel

inadequate, weak, afraid , anxious, etcbecause we are not

aware that we are doing it. We need to wise up to the fact that we

are in control of our thoughts and start visualizing good things

that are going to empower us. Remember moments of your life

when you felt powerful, confident , in control and bring them to

your mind..feel what you felt..listen to the sound you listened,

smell the smells that you smelled, feel the temperature of the

environment you were in , touch what you were touching at that

very moment, and fill yourself with the positive emotions that

you felt back then and you will create a powerful YOU that you

will be able to recall every time you are faced with a challenge.


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Chapter 32. About Sex.

Sex is natural. It is a way to exchange energy, not to get rid of it.

Men and women give each other some energy and get some in

return. It just doesn't feel like sexual energy any more. A

El sexo es natural , es una forma e intercambio de energia..

Society has complicated human sexuality and made something

natural seems to be dirty. Women and men are naturally attracted

to each other and thats part of being a human being.


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We are all trying to make sense of life

We are all new to this experience called life.

Nobody can define anybody.

You create yourself with your thoughts, dont allow others to

shape who you are with their criticism.

Productive mistakes..

1-Do not listen to other peoples opinions about you2-Follow your dreams3-Leave the world a better place

This three principles came to my mind on an unconsciousway.

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