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    NOV|DEC

    2013

    JFKs GayBest Friend

    One of the former presidentsleast-known secrets

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    Couple Christian Stanley and PatrickBuzzell PHOTOJoel Benjamin

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    Local celeb couple preaches

    the virtues of an HIV-poz

    and -neg relationship

    Christian Stanley and Patrick Buzzell

    have a lot to be thankful for this year.

    With the fall of DOMA, Patrick can now

    sponsor his Venezuelan-born husband

    Christian for U.S. citizenship. The Boston

    couple, with their beloved pet ferret

    Sophia, have settled into a comfortably

    stylish South End apartment within

    walking distance of jobs they love. Calling

    himself something of a jack of all trades,

    Christian is a photographer, a personal

    trainer and the store manager for the new

    G-Star Raw clothing store on NewburyStreet. Patrick is a private health coach

    with a certificate from the Institute of

    Integrated Nutrition and a registered

    respiratory therapist working at Boston

    Medical Center and Spaulding Rehabilita-

    tion Hospital.

    Over the past several years, the two

    have worked hard on themselves, their

    relationship and their sobriety. Christian

    is four years in recovery from crystal meth

    addiction, Patrick six years from alcohol.

    Together, both men have reached a place

    in their lives where theyre eager to talkabout their personal battles and triumphs,

    especially if their stories can help others

    avoid or overcome similar obstacles.

    The two are also a magnetic couple.

    Christian is HIV positive and Patrick is

    HIV negative.

    Christian tested positive seven years

    ago. He told Patrick on their first date.

    The couple met at the Boston Pride block

    party in 2009 when both were single and

    neither looking for a partner. They had fun

    at the party and then it was time to get to

    know each other a little better. It sounds

    so clich, Patrick says, but when youre

    not looking you find him. When you meet

    the right one, you just know it.

    I needed to set the foundation, Chris-

    tian says. I needed to know that if I was

    going to be with someone he needed toknow who I was. Some people say Im

    not my disease but I dont agree with that

    completely. Im not my disease but my

    disease is a huge part of my life. To say Im

    not HIV, well, I am the face of HIV.

    Patrick says he was as prepared for the

    news as anyone can be. Ive dated so

    many losers thats not even going to be a

    blip on my radar of why I dont date some-

    one, he says. When he told me, I was

    okay. Yes, hes the face of HIV, but I am too

    now, because it affects me personally.

    For the past year, Patrick has been

    participating in a PrEP (pre-exposure

    prophylaxis) compliance study through

    Bostons Fenway Institute.

    In the study, Patrick takes a daily dose of

    the anti-retroviral medication Truvada,

    one pill every night. He documents his

    compliance to the regiment using a spe-

    cial mobile phone app developed by the

    studys research team, Dr. Kenneth Mayer,

    medical research director and co-chair

    of the Institute, affiliated investigatorsand Steve Safren and Matthew Mimiaga.

    Patrick also meets regularly with counsel-

    ors who further document his day-to-day

    life. Gradually, the results are showing

    how well this recent breakthrough in the

    fight against AIDS is working for Patrick,

    Christian and potentially countless oth-

    ers, partnered or single, gay or straight.

    Back in 2007-10, Fenway was one of two

    sites in the United States that took part

    in an international study conducted by

    the National Institutes of Health to test

    the efficacy of this new method of HIVprevention. At the end of that study, only

    44 percent of the studys participants

    remained negative, says Dr. Mayer.

    But a closer look at the blood work,

    Mayer quickly adds, revealed something

    more promising. Most of the men who

    seroconverted in that early study had

    not taken their meds regularly and the

    researchers had the blood work to prove

    it. They also had the blood samples of

    those who took their meds regularly.

    According to a 2012 report from U.S.

    Centers for Disease Control and Preven-tion, Among [those] with detectible levels

    of the medication in their blood, the risk

    of HIV acquisition was reduced by more

    than 90 percent.

    The study had two messages, says Dr.

    Mayer: Overall the pills work and when

    taken regularly the pills work extremely

    well.

    This good news resulted in the U.S.

    Food and Drug Administrations approval

    of Truvada for daily use by uninfected

    FEATURECouplesSTORY Rob Phelps

    Pre-ExposureProphylaxis and the

    Magnetic Couple

    It soundsso clich, but

    when youre notlooking you findhim. When youmeet the rightone, you just

    know it.

    Patrick Buzzell

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    adults to help prevent the sexual acqui-

    sition of HIV, marking the first time

    any med has been approval for HIV

    prevention.

    The PrEP studies resumed at Fenway

    and thats when Patrick and Christian

    came on the scene.When we were first told about PrEP,

    Christian says, we were a little hesitant.

    Why would you want to think about hav-

    ing sex and putting someone you love, or

    anyone, at risk?

    This was all my decision, Patrick says.

    Christian was hesitant of my getting

    on it but Fenway does an amazing job of

    educating people about it and how to take

    it correctly.

    The couple prefers the term smart sex

    over safe versus unsafe sex. Christians

    viral load is undetectable, which, likePrEP, they consider another tool in their

    safety kit. Theyve also educated them-

    selves on safer sexual practices and keep

    up-to-date on new ones. Whether or not

    they choose to use a condom is based on

    separate checklists both have developed

    together and quickly run through before

    that special moment comes along.

    If he says hes not feeling this right now,

    thats okay, Christian says.

    Honesty is a key part of their commit-

    ment and if their checklists dont match

    up on any given occasion, they turn toPlan B, which might be the condom, or

    Plan C, which might be another kind of

    safe, intimate activity, or Plan C, which

    could mean holding each other all night or

    just watching a movie on TV with Prin-

    cess Sophia.

    One year into the study, Patrick is still

    HIV negative and plans to stay that way.

    We decided to make our status as a

    magnetic couple public for the purpose of

    advocacy work, mainly because we want

    to start a conversation about HIV, Patrick

    says.The couple has been speaking at educa-

    tional forums at AIDS Action Committee,

    JRI Health, and elsewhere, in an attempt

    to de-stigmatize HIV for partners and

    potential partners, wether HIV-positive

    or negative.

    Were not therapists, Christian

    stresses. Were not here to modify how

    people chose to live their lives or tell

    people what safe sex practices they should

    do.

    But when it comes to positive-negative

    couples, both acknowledge a lot ofconfusion out there. People are scared,

    Patrick says. Were cautious not to call it

    ignorance or lack of education. We have

    come in contact with stigma and bigotry

    from people who are gay, open-minded

    and educated, even people in the medical

    field. So we want to start this conversa-

    tion. We want to say this is what works for

    us. This is who we are and how we choose

    to live our lives.

    HIV will mutate and evolve so we need

    to change and evolve with it, Christian

    says. If we dont, were a sad group ofpeople.

    No one who chats with Christian or

    Patrick is likely to come away sad. This

    magnetic couple is one of the most posi-

    tive youll ever meetand positive in the

    very best sense of the word.[x]

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