FamilyToday

• Relationships• Family Structure• Parenting• 3 theories• Due next class: ½ page reflection about Religion article on website

Cycle of Abuse

Timing:• Each phase can be as short

as a few seconds• As long as years• Explosions can become

more violent and dangerous

Explosion

Honeymoon

Tension BuildingTension Building

What prevents some people from getting help?

1. Difficulty recognizing abuse 2. Lack of resources. Money, transportation, or safe places to go. 3. Fear of abuser/family/ friends4. Fear of sending abuser to jail5. In some states, teens may not apply for restraining orders/get domestic

violence services without parent or guardian.6. Children with abuser7. Embarrassment8. Low self esteem9. Hoping the abuser will change10. Cultural religious reasons

Young people face unique obstacles

No one likes to be abused… abuse is unwanted behavior or contact.

Safety Planning-What to have before leaving?

1. Contact person, code word2. Safe place to go 3. Safe time to go4. Financial planning5. Important paperwork6. Taking a leave from work/school7. Protective order, save evidence (texts, photos of bruises, e-mails)8. Self-defense classes9. Avoid contact, change phone number, change e-mail, change or delete

Facebook profile10. Share tips for support on LoveIsRespect.org with family/friends

A PLAN

More info

www.BreakTheCycle.org

www.LoveIsRespect.org

(866) 331-9474

Finding your significant other4 factors sociologists are interested in

1. Propinquity (spatial nearness)

3. Heterogamy: choosing a mate that is different than you

2. Homogamy: tendency to chose a mate who is similar to you

Factors: hobbies, education, personality traits (outgoing versus introverted), spending habits, age, political beliefs, etc.

5. Exogamy: choosing a mate outside of your race, ethnicity, religion

4. Endogamy: choosing a mate of the same racial, ethnic, or religious background

Defining Family•Social institution found in every human society

•Two or more people, who consider themselves related by blood, marriage, or adoption

Defining Family

•Extended family: parents, children, other kin

•Nuclear family:Parents and their

children

What changes do you think have occurred in the structure of families in the United States

since the 1950’s?

Has divorce increased, decreased, or stayed the same since the

1980’s?

Number of divorces per 1,000 married women, age 15 and older

Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.

Source: The National Marriage Project, State of Our Unions, 2010.

Pros and Cons of Changes in Family Structure

Answer questions in groups of 1-3

Changes in structures of U.S. families:1. Delayed childbearing

•Today 1 in 5 women are having their first baby after age 35

What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

2. Not having children

Changes in U.S. family structures

14% of U.S. married couples never have children. Why?

•Expenses•Career focus•Unstable relationships•Inability to have children

3. Increased employment of married mothers

Cosby Show

Changes in U.S. family structures

59% of married U.S. couples depend on two incomes

About one in five children is cared for in day care centers. What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

Nannies have become popular among upper-middle class parents. What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

4. Increase in the number of children being raised by grandparents

6.5 million children o are being raised by grandparents or other relatives (U.S. Census Bureau)

What are positive and negative aspects of this change?

Changes in U.S. family structures

5. Increased divorce and blended familiesModern Family

Changes in U.S. family structures

Changes in U.S. family structures

6. Increased single-parent families

One on One(Single dad and teenage daughter)

7. Older age at 1st marriage

Changes in U.S. family structures

Friends

Sex and The City

Changes in structures of U.S. families:

Older age at 1st marriageU.S. men and women are staying single longer

1970 average age at marriage 2006 average age at marriage

Men: 23 Men : 28

Women: 21 Women: 26

8. Increased interracial families

The Willis Family from the TV Show

The Jeffersons

Changes in U.S. family structures

9. Increased cohabitation-couple living together that is not married

Grey’s Anatomy

Changes in U.S. family structures

Most unmarried partners: California, Alaska

Least unmarried partners: Utah at 4% and Alabama 5%

10. Less people getting married. Why?1.Marriage must now compete with school career living with a partner having children outside of marriageself-fulfillment2. Less of a need to marry3. Time and money - children4. Fearful of commitments and constraints.

Changes in U.S. family structures

Other changes U.S. family structure

• Increased births to unmarried women• Fewer children with married parents• Increase in families with same-sex parents• Increase in families with adopted children

Has teenage pregnancy increased, decreased, or stayed the same

since 1990’s?

Source: Center for Disease Control and Prevention http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/hestats.htm

Parenting1. Re-read Amy Chua’s article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”2. Underline 3 points that you agree or disagree with3. Underline any parenting techniques that you experienced or use as a parent

1. What did you underline and why2. Do you agree with the author’s parenting style? Why or why not?3. What parenting techniques do you think are best?

Chua family From Ms. Chua's album: 'Mean me with Lulu in hotel room... with score taped to TV!'

ParentingEffective Discipline Techniques: Alternatives to Spanking

1. Be a positive role model.2. Set rules and consequences.3. Encourage and reward good behavior.4. Create charts.5. Give time-outs.

Which of these techniques do you think are effective?Which do you think are ineffective?

Structural Functionalist PerspectiveFamily is the back bone of societyPerforms functions that help society:

– Replenishes population– Socializes children– Provides emotional and

physical care – Traditional roles keep families

together

Conflict PerspectiveFocuses on power distribution in marriages•Why do women take husbands last name?•Why do children take father’s last name?•Traditional roles require “domestic slavery” of the wife- no income or status•Even today working women still do more of the housework

Symbolic Interactionist PerspectiveLook at social meanings of divorce, single parenthood, and cohabitation•“Visitation rights”•“Single mom”•“Living in sin”

Next classA#8 Due: Read the article Misconceptions About Islam posted on the course website and type half a page to one page describing your personal reflection (What stood out to you most? What did you find most interesting? Discuss something specific from the article) 4 points

Extra CreditImportant Sociologists

• 5 minute Power Point Presentation• Select a sociologist. Describe the following: brief background of their life,

2 major contributions to sociology, how is their work relevant today? • 4 points possible• Present next week • Choose the sociologist in class today by signing up

View sample on website

Silent Dialogue Partner ActivityPurpose of the activity:1. Develop critical thinking skills (there is no right or wrong answer, no right or wrong question to pose). The goal is to ask your partner a question that will invite them to look at their own thoughts in a deeper manner2. Allow shy/quiet students share their thoughts3. Allow students to be the ones asking the questions instead of the teacher4. Allow students to get feedback from peers instead of the teacher5. Allow the teacher to assess the background knowledge students have on the topic (what do you already know about changes in family structure?)

What changes do you think have occurred in the structure of families in the United States since the 1950’s?

Partner activity

1.Answer the question above. Write NEATLYExample: “One way I think families have changed since the 1950’s is ____” 2. When you hear the buzzer, pass your paper to your partner3. Read their statement and write an OPEN-ENDED thought provoking question for your partner that requires them to think about the topic more deeply or look at it in a different way4. When you hear the buzzer, switch papers and respond to you partner’s question thoughtfully.5. When you hear the buzzer switch papers and read the response

Write your names on both papers, turn into red folder at the end of class for your participation points for today

Defining Family•Family of orientation is the family in which a person

grows up (your parents and siblings)

•Family of procreation is the family formed when a couple’s first child is born (your partner and children).