for dads and moms, are you hesitant or are you intentional in disciplining your child/ren? if we...

For dads and moms, are you For dads and moms, are you hesitant or are you hesitant or are you

intentional in disciplining intentional in disciplining your child/ren?your child/ren?

If we fail to discipline our If we fail to discipline our child/ren, what do we rob child/ren, what do we rob

from him/her/them?from him/her/them?

For us children, what comes For us children, what comes to mind when you hear the to mind when you hear the

word word ‘discipline’‘discipline’??

Session IIIHOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY

Session IIIHOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY1. Purpose of Discipline2. The Basis of Discipline3. What to Discipline Our Child For4. How to Spank Our Child5. Training Teenagers6. Training Young Ones

1. Purpose of Discipline2. The Basis of Discipline3. What to Discipline Our Child For4. How to Spank Our Child5. Training Teenagers6. Training Young Ones

BIBLICAL BIBLICAL DISCIPLINEDISCIPLINEProverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go,Train up a child in the way he should go,

Even when he is old he will not depart Even when he is old he will not depart from it. from it.

Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go,Train up a child in the way he should go,

Even when he is old he will not depart Even when he is old he will not depart from it. from it.

The Hebrew word for training is The Hebrew word for training is “chanak” which means ‘to wet the palate “chanak” which means ‘to wet the palate of the baby’. The idea is to create a of the baby’. The idea is to create a desire to suck. Another usage of the desire to suck. Another usage of the word is to tame or redirect the will of the word is to tame or redirect the will of the wild horse to submit to the master.wild horse to submit to the master.

• Biblical training is not breaking the spirit Biblical training is not breaking the spirit of the child but molding the will of the of the child but molding the will of the

childchild..

• Biblical training stimulates a desire in Biblical training stimulates a desire in our children to know God. our children to know God.

• Biblical training teaches them to be Biblical training teaches them to be obedient to authority, first to us as their obedient to authority, first to us as their parents, then to others in authority, and parents, then to others in authority, and ultimately to God.ultimately to God.

BIBLICAL BIBLICAL DISCIPLINEDISCIPLINE

I.I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEPURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEI.I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEPURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE

1. Reinforce1. Reinforce TRAINING.TRAINING.

Proverbs 22:6 – Proverbs 22:6 – 66Train up a child in the way Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it. depart from it.



2. Reinforce2. Reinforce OBEDIENCE.OBEDIENCE.

Ephesians 6:1 – Ephesians 6:1 – 1 1 Children, obey your parents Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.in the Lord, for this is right.



3. Reinforce3. Reinforce RESPECT.RESPECT.

Ephesians 6:2 – Ephesians 6:2 – 22 Honor your father and Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with mother (which is the first commandment with a promise).a promise).



4. Reinforce4. Reinforce BLESSING.BLESSING.

Ephesians 6:3 – Ephesians 6:3 – 33that it may be well with you, that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.and that you may live long on the earth.


I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEI. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEI. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINEI. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE

1. Reinforce 1. Reinforce TRAININGTRAINING.. 1. Reinforce 1. Reinforce TRAININGTRAINING..

2. Reinforce 2. Reinforce OBEDIENCEOBEDIENCE.. 2. Reinforce 2. Reinforce OBEDIENCEOBEDIENCE..

3. Reinforce 3. Reinforce RESPECTRESPECT.. 3. Reinforce 3. Reinforce RESPECTRESPECT..

4. Reinforce 4. Reinforce BLESSINGBLESSING.. 4. Reinforce 4. Reinforce BLESSINGBLESSING..


II.II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINETHE BASIS OF DISCIPLINEII.II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINETHE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE

1. It is based on 1. It is based on relationship. relationship.

PARENT-CHILDPARENT-CHILD

Hebrews 12:7 – Hebrews 12:7 – 77It is for discipline that you It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not what son is there whom his father does not discipline?discipline?

• Responsibility of parents is to Responsibility of parents is to DISCIPLINE.DISCIPLINE.



2. It is based on2. It is based on LOVE.LOVE.Hebrews 12:6 – Hebrews 12:6 – 66For those whom the Lord For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, And He scourges every loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives.son whom He receives.

Proverbs 13:24 – Proverbs 13:24 – 2424He who spares the rod He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.to discipline him.


a.a. Discipline without good relationship Discipline without good relationship leads to frustration.leads to frustration.

b.b. Love without discipline leads to Love without discipline leads to ANARCHY.ANARCHY.

c.c. Discipline without love leads to Discipline without love leads to REBELLION.REBELLION.

II.II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINETHE BASIS OF DISCIPLINEII.II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINETHE BASIS OF DISCIPLINEBIBLICAL BIBLICAL DISCIPLINEDISCIPLINE

d.d. Love plus leads to Love plus leads to DISCIPLINEDISCIPLINEGODLY CHARACTER.GODLY CHARACTER.

e.e. We earn the to discipline our We earn the to discipline our children when they feel loved.children when they feel loved.

RIGHTRIGHT

f.f. Love fills a person’s Love fills a person’s ““EMOTIONALEMOTIONAL


TANKTANK”.”.



3. It is for the child’s 3. It is for the child’s GOOD.GOOD.Hebrews 12:10-11 – Hebrews 12:10-11 – 1010For they disciplined us For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. may share His holiness. 1111All discipline for the All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. righteousness.



3. It is for the child’s 3. It is for the child’s GOOD.GOOD.Proverbs 19:18 – Proverbs 19:18 – 1818Discipline your son while Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death. there is hope, And do not desire his death.

• If we discipline, it should always be for the If we discipline, it should always be for the child’s ______ and never just to vent our child’s ______ and never just to vent our _______ or for ________ reasons. _______ or for ________ reasons.

GOODGOODANGERANGER SELFISHSELFISH


II. BASIS OF DISCIPLINEII. BASIS OF DISCIPLINEII. BASIS OF DISCIPLINEII. BASIS OF DISCIPLINE

1. It is based on 1. It is based on PARENT-CHILD PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPRELATIONSHIP..

1. It is based on 1. It is based on PARENT-CHILD PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPRELATIONSHIP..


2. It is based on 2. It is based on LOVELOVE.. 2. It is based on 2. It is based on LOVELOVE..

3. It is for the 3. It is for the CHILD’S GOODCHILD’S GOOD.. 3. It is for the 3. It is for the CHILD’S GOODCHILD’S GOOD..

III.III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD FOR?CHILD FOR?


Ephesians 6:1-3 – Ephesians 6:1-3 – 11Children, obey your Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. parents in the Lord, for this is right. 22Honor Honor your father and mother (which is the first your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), commandment with a promise), 33so that it so that it may be well with you, and that you may live may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.long on the earth.




1. 1. DISOBEDIENCEDISOBEDIENCE..

You cannot begin to train your children You cannot begin to train your children until they know how to . This is until they know how to . This is foundational in training. Obedience to foundational in training. Obedience to parents and obedience to God are parents and obedience to God are closely linked.closely linked.

OBEYOBEY




2. 2. DISRESPECTDISRESPECT..

One of the of One of the of harmonious human relationships is the harmonious human relationships is the mutual of people for one mutual of people for one another.another.

FOUNDATIONSFOUNDATIONS

RESPECTRESPECT




Character and integrity is built on Character and integrity is built on TRUTHFULNESSTRUTHFULNESS..

3. 3. DISHONESTYDISHONESTY..


III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE CHILD FOR?III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE CHILD FOR?III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE CHILD FOR?III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE CHILD FOR?

1. 1. DISOBEDIENCEDISOBEDIENCE1. 1. DISOBEDIENCEDISOBEDIENCE


2. 2. DISRESPECTDISRESPECT 2. 2. DISRESPECTDISRESPECT

3. 3. DISHONESTYDISHONESTY 3. 3. DISHONESTYDISHONESTY

IV.IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINEHOW TO DISCIPLINEIV.IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINEHOW TO DISCIPLINE

1. Consistent, clear1. Consistent, clear RULES.RULES.• Should be few.Should be few.• Must explain rules – should be clear.Must explain rules – should be clear.• Must carry consequences.Must carry consequences.



2. Consistent and rules. 2. Consistent and rules. HUSBANDHUSBAND• ______ on the rules – “united we ______ on the rules – “united we stand, divided we fall.”stand, divided we fall.”• _______ rules carefully._______ rules carefully.• Say “no” to __________ matters only.Say “no” to __________ matters only.

WIFEWIFE

AGREEAGREE

REVIEWREVIEW

IMPORTANTIMPORTANT



3. Consistent of rules. 3. Consistent of rules. APPLICATIONAPPLICATION• One _________ obedience. No One _________ obedience. No shouting.shouting.• Consequence should be __________ Consequence should be __________

as possible.as possible.• _______ through with what you say._______ through with what you say.

COMMANDCOMMAND

IMMEDIATEIMMEDIATE

FOLLOWFOLLOW



3. Consistent of rules. 3. Consistent of rules. APPLICATIONAPPLICATION• Don’t ___________ the child.Don’t ___________ the child.• Rules should not be __________ or Rules should not be __________ or based on your ______.based on your ______.

EMBARRASSEMBARRASS

ARBITRARYARBITRARYMOODMOOD



4. Consistent in our . 4. Consistent in our . LOVELOVE• Our love for our children must be Our love for our children must be ______________.______________.• Let them know that you may not like Let them know that you may not like their _________, but you will always their _________, but you will always _____ them._____ them.• Never say, “I will love you __…”Never say, “I will love you __…”

UNCONDITIONALUNCONDITIONAL

BEHAVIORBEHAVIORLOVELOVE

IFIF


V.V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDHOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDV.V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDHOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILD

• _______ to your children why they _______ to your children why they are being spanked.are being spanked.

• Don’t spank in ______ – It is Don’t spank in ______ – It is _______._______.

• Don’t use your _____ – Use a belt or Don’t use your _____ – Use a belt or a switch.a switch.

• Don’t ______ your child – But make it Don’t ______ your child – But make it ____.____.

EXPLAINEXPLAIN

ANGERANGERSELFISHSELFISH

HANDHAND

INJUREINJUREHURTHURT


V.V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDHOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDV.V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILDHOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILD

• Don’t spank in ______ – Do it in Don’t spank in ______ – Do it in _______._______.

• Don’t spank _______________ – Don’t spank _______________ – Do Do it in love.it in love.

• ___ them after spanking them – Tell ___ them after spanking them – Tell them that you ____ them.them that you ____ them.

PUBLICPUBLICPRIVATEPRIVATE

UNCONTROLLABLYUNCONTROLLABLY

HUGHUGLOVELOVE


VI.VI. TRAINING TEENAGERSTRAINING TEENAGERSVI.VI. TRAINING TEENAGERSTRAINING TEENAGERS

Training and disciplining teenagers Training and disciplining teenagers requires a different approach. We are requires a different approach. We are preparing them to live independently of preparing them to live independently of us as parents and live dependently on us as parents and live dependently on God in an ungodly world. We don’t God in an ungodly world. We don’t want them just to outwardly comply want them just to outwardly comply with the values we teach them but to with the values we teach them but to embrace and internalize these values.embrace and internalize these values.



1. Be , not authoritarian. 1. Be , not authoritarian. AUTHORITATIVEAUTHORITATIVE• Don’t be _____________.Don’t be _____________.• Be REASONABLE. Listen to their Be REASONABLE. Listen to their _____._____.• Involve them in making ______.Involve them in making ______.

CONTROLLINGCONTROLLING

IDEASIDEAS

RULESRULES



2. Use for 2. Use for disobedience and irresponsibility.disobedience and irresponsibility.

NEGATIVENEGATIVE CONSEQUENCESCONSEQUENCES

• Allow them to suffer the ________ Allow them to suffer the ________ consequences of disobedience.consequences of disobedience.• Spank them for rebellion.Spank them for rebellion.

Galatians 6:7 – Galatians 6:7 – 77Do not be deceived, God is Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. will also reap.

NATURALNATURAL



3. Use rewards for obedience and 3. Use rewards for obedience and responsible behavior.responsible behavior.• Privileges.Privileges.• Verbal Verbal PRAISEPRAISE



4. Treat them the you want them to 4. Treat them the you want them to treat you.treat you.

WAYWAY

• With ________. Beware of ______ or With ________. Beware of ______ or shouting.shouting.

• With unconditional _____ and With unconditional _____ and ____________.____________.

Matthew 7:12 – Matthew 7:12 – 1212Therefore, however you Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.this is the Law and the Prophets.

RESPECTRESPECT ANGERANGER

LOVELOVEACCEPTANCEACCEPTANCE



4. Major on the – not everything has 4. Major on the – not everything has to be an .to be an .

MAJORMAJORISSUEISSUE

5. Don’t attack the , deal with the5. Don’t attack the , deal with thePERSONPERSONPROBLEMPROBLEM..

6. Remember “This too shall 6. Remember “This too shall PASSPASS AWAYAWAY.”.”


VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONESVII. TRAINING YOUNG ONESVII. TRAINING YOUNG ONESVII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES

1. Begin .1. Begin .EARLYEARLY



2. Two commands to teach your young 2. Two commands to teach your young children.children.

• OBEYOBEY• WAITWAIT



3. Learn the technique of .3. Learn the technique of .DISTRACTIONDISTRACTION



4. Tips for training small children.4. Tips for training small children.

a. Give them a a. Give them a environment.environment.

STIMULATINGSTIMULATING

b. Let them .b. Let them .EXERCISEEXERCISEc. Let them .c. Let them .EXPLOREEXPLORE



4. Tips for training small children.4. Tips for training small children.

d. Train them to do things for d. Train them to do things for THEMSELVESTHEMSELVES..

e. Teach them to .e. Teach them to .SHARESHAREf. f. with them.with them.LAUGHLAUGH


12 commandments for parents (p. 25)12 commandments for parents (p. 25)12 commandments for parents (p. 25)12 commandments for parents (p. 25)

CONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

Session IIIHOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY

Session IIIHOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY1. Purpose of Discipline2. The Basis of Discipline3. What to Discipline Our Child For4. How to Spank Our Child5. Training Teenagers6. Training Young Ones

For those WHOM THE LORD For those WHOM THE LORD loves He loves He disciplinesdisciplines, And He , And He scourges every son whom scourges every son whom He receives. He receives. Hebrews 12:6Hebrews 12:6

For those WHOM THE LORD For those WHOM THE LORD loves He loves He disciplinesdisciplines, And He , And He scourges every son whom scourges every son whom He receives. He receives. Hebrews 12:6Hebrews 12:6

1. If you are God’s child, you will experience His 1. If you are God’s child, you will experience His discipline. If not, maybe your not His child.discipline. If not, maybe your not His child.

1. If you are God’s child, you will experience His 1. If you are God’s child, you will experience His discipline. If not, maybe your not His child.discipline. If not, maybe your not His child.

2. If you love your child/ren, you will discipline 2. If you love your child/ren, you will discipline him/her/them too.him/her/them too.

2. If you love your child/ren, you will discipline 2. If you love your child/ren, you will discipline him/her/them too.him/her/them too.

3. If your parent disciplines you, it means 3. If your parent disciplines you, it means he/she cares for you.he/she cares for you.

3. If your parent disciplines you, it means 3. If your parent disciplines you, it means he/she cares for you.he/she cares for you.

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