forming the conscience
DESCRIPTION
A Talk presented to the Parents of PREP Level of PAREF Southridge School on February 9, 2010.TRANSCRIPT
![Page 1: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/1.jpg)
LOGO
Forming the ConscienceBy Mann Rentoy
![Page 2: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/2.jpg)
LOGO
You?You? Media?Media?
Peers?Peers?Church?Church?
School?School?
Who is forming your son’s conscience?
![Page 3: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/3.jpg)
Historically...
Pernicious
Environment
Insidious
Clandestine
![Page 4: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/4.jpg)
![Page 5: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/5.jpg)
Assault on Today’s Children
Video Games
Your SonViolence in
Media
PornographyMaterialism
Hedonism
![Page 6: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/6.jpg)
![Page 7: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/7.jpg)
Assault on Today’s Children
Religious Indifference
False Heroes
Softness
Divorce Alcoholism
Moral Relativism
Drug Addiction
![Page 8: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/8.jpg)
www.mannrentoy.comwww.mannrentoy.com
“Values” According to Modern Environment
Killing is okay if for entertainment purposes only. Violent Video Games Violence in movies
![Page 9: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/9.jpg)
“Values” According to Modern Environment
Virginity is only for losers.
![Page 10: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/10.jpg)
“Values” According to Modern Environment
Suffering has to be avoided at all cost. Pleasure is supreme.
![Page 11: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/11.jpg)
“Values” According to Modern Environment
It’s okay to cheat, for as long as you don’t get caught.
![Page 12: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/12.jpg)
“Values” According to Modern Environment
Rock Stars and Athletes are the role models and standards of excellence.
![Page 13: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/13.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
• father• mother• sister• brother• older relatives/guardian• priest/minister• teacher• boyfriend• friends (same sex)• friends (opposite sex)• doctor/nurse/midwife
0.62.20.90.21.40.22.30.68.60.70.6
6.917.15.92.87.70.619.610.553.55.54.4
Most influential to respondent on sexual issuesMost influential to respondent on sexual issues
Person or group of persons Person or group of persons most helpful to R inmost helpful to R inwhat he/she knows about sexwhat he/she knows about sex
Before got married, % Before got married, % said most helpful in what said most helpful in what they know about sexthey know about sex(for married adolescents)(for married adolescents)
At present, % who At present, % who said most said most important in whatimportant in whatthey know about they know about sexsex
![Page 14: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/14.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
““... Parents who are perceived ... Parents who are perceived to hold a liberal attitude to hold a liberal attitude increases the oddsincreases the oddsfor the adolescents to engage in for the adolescents to engage in risky social behaviors.”risky social behaviors.”
* risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug * risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug use, commercial sex and pms.use, commercial sex and pms.
![Page 15: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/15.jpg)
![Page 16: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/16.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
...those who view their parents ...those who view their parents to be more permissive are to be more permissive are expected to eventually adopt a expected to eventually adopt a more liberal attitude and thus more liberal attitude and thus are more likely to engage in are more likely to engage in risk behaviors asrisk behaviors aswell.well.* risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug * risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug use, commercial sex and pms.use, commercial sex and pms.
![Page 17: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/17.jpg)
![Page 18: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/18.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
““...the protective impact of family...the protective impact of familyprayer (as an index of family control) is prayer (as an index of family control) is shown by the lesser likelihood of shown by the lesser likelihood of engaging in four of the fiveengaging in four of the fiverisk behaviors (except commercial sex) risk behaviors (except commercial sex) among those who claimed their family among those who claimed their family prays together”prays together”
* risk behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug use, * risk behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug use, commercial sex and pms.commercial sex and pms.
![Page 19: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/19.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
““... Adolescent who view their ... Adolescent who view their parents to have a stable marital parents to have a stable marital union are less likely to engage union are less likely to engage in the 4 of the 5 risk behaviors in the 4 of the 5 risk behaviors (except commercial sex).”(except commercial sex).”
* risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug * risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug use, commercial sex and pms.use, commercial sex and pms.
![Page 20: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/20.jpg)
![Page 21: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/21.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
““... Adolescents who perceive their ... Adolescents who perceive their parents to favor smoking and drinking parents to favor smoking and drinking are more likely to adopt the vice are more likely to adopt the vice themselves. themselves.
About 9 out 10 adolescents who About 9 out 10 adolescents who thought either their father or mother thought either their father or mother approved of smoking have ever tried approved of smoking have ever tried smoking as compared with 3 out of 10 smoking as compared with 3 out of 10 among those who thought their parents among those who thought their parents disapproved..”disapproved..”
![Page 22: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/22.jpg)
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino YouthGrace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo
““... With the increasing westernization ... With the increasing westernization of mass media which threaten of mass media which threaten traditional values inculcated by the traditional values inculcated by the family, its increasing appeal to the family, its increasing appeal to the young poses serious implications. It is young poses serious implications. It is worth noting however, that family worth noting however, that family values and parental guidance continue values and parental guidance continue to show significant influence in trying to to show significant influence in trying to neutralize the effects of media andneutralize the effects of media andpeers.”peers.”
![Page 23: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/23.jpg)
![Page 24: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/24.jpg)
McCann Erickson Youth Studies of 2000 and 2005
... and the McCann Erickson Inter-... and the McCann Erickson Inter-generation Study of 2006 ... tell us that generation Study of 2006 ... tell us that the 16.5 million Filipino “youth” below the 16.5 million Filipino “youth” below the age of 21 are “technocentric”: the age of 21 are “technocentric”: spending an inordinate amount of time in spending an inordinate amount of time in front of either the computer monitor or front of either the computer monitor or the TV set, surfing the Internet, text the TV set, surfing the Internet, text messaging or playing computer and messaging or playing computer and video games. video games.
![Page 25: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/25.jpg)
![Page 26: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/26.jpg)
McCann Erickson Youth Studies of 2000 and 2005
...This generation of ...This generation of Filipino youth looks Filipino youth looks primarily to celebrities primarily to celebrities as their role models.as their role models.
![Page 27: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/27.jpg)
![Page 28: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/28.jpg)
McCann Erickson Youth Studies of 2000 and 2005
But even more alarming, the But even more alarming, the Inter-generation study showed Inter-generation study showed that there is a severe loosening that there is a severe loosening of moral values among adult of moral values among adult Filipinos, and this is reflected in Filipinos, and this is reflected in what young people consider right what young people consider right and wrong. and wrong.
![Page 29: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/29.jpg)
McCann Erickson Youth Studies of 2000 and 2005
As a consequence, about half As a consequence, about half of them do not consider as of them do not consider as “wrong” such acts as casual sex, “wrong” such acts as casual sex, premarital sex, using a premarital sex, using a prostitute, getting drunk, prostitute, getting drunk, gambling, hazing, abortion, gambling, hazing, abortion, homosexual relationships, and homosexual relationships, and suicide. suicide.
![Page 30: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/30.jpg)
1
Remember that you’re raising adults,
not children.
![Page 31: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/31.jpg)
2
Teach the great character strengths:
•By your example•By your direction
•By your verbal explanations
![Page 32: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/32.jpg)
3
Realize that NO is a loving word, and your children MUST hear it
from time to time.
![Page 33: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/33.jpg)
4
Raise your children to be producers, not
consumers.
![Page 34: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/34.jpg)
5
Keep the electronic media under your discerning control.
![Page 35: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/35.jpg)
6
Listen to your children.
![Page 36: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/36.jpg)
7
Never forget: You have one and only one chance to raise your children right.
![Page 37: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/37.jpg)
8
The greatest thing that the Father can
do is to love his wife. Children will then
learn LOVE at home.
![Page 38: Forming the Conscience](https://reader034.vdocuments.net/reader034/viewer/2022042713/546b15eeb4af9f8e2c8b4ab0/html5/thumbnails/38.jpg)
LOGO
www.mannrentoy.com