foundations of team leadership 1 challenging conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Foundations of Team Leadership
Challenging Conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
When we engage with others from a mental model of “Be in Control,” we can find ourselves in defensive and unproductive conversations:• Assume we are right• See ourselves as more reasonable than others• Assign negative attributes and motives to others• Hold others accountable for problems
CAVEAT: A difficult conversation is not situation involving serious performance or behavior issues.
Why Are Some Conversations Challenging?
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Mutual Learning
Inquiry
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High
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Purpose of Positive Advocacy & Inquiry
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Balanced Approach to Advocacy & Inquiry
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Inquiry
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voca
cyExplaining(Imposing)
Inquiring (Interrogating)
Understanding(Over-Engaging)
Co-Exploration
Engaging (Withdrawing)
Source: Senge Fifth Discipline Fieldbook
Transforming the Way We Work and Learn Together HRSLOFoundation of Team Leadership
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Balanced Approach to Advocacy & Inquiry
Low
High
Low
High
Inquiry
Ad
voca
cy
Source: Senge Fifth Discipline Fieldbook
Transforming the Way We Work and Learn Together HRSLOFoundation of Team Leadership
Explaining
Inquiring
Understanding
Co-Exploration
Engaging
(Imposing)
(Interrogating)
(Over-Engaging)
Co-Exploration
(Withdrawing)
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Balanced Approach to Advocacy & Inquiry
Transforming the Way We Work and Learn Together HRSLOFoundation of Team Leadership
Low
High
Low
High
Inquiry
Ad
voca
cy
Source: Senge Fifth Discipline Fieldbook
Explaining
Inquiring
Understanding
Co-Exploration
Engaging
(Imposing)
(Interrogating)
(Over-Engaging)
Co-Exploration
(Withdrawing)
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Foundations of Team Leadership
• First, seek to understand-Then value the other party’s perspective
• Have an end in mind- But listen for what might be a win-win from both parties’ point of view
• Focus on what is common to both parties and work towards a collaborative and productive achieving of the goal- project outcome- or direction
• Be willing to move the conversation towards an outcome that is mutually satisfactory
• Only small steps are undertaken at a time- movement in the right direction is what is key
Approaching Challenging Conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Balanced Approach to Advocacy & Inquiry
Transforming the Way We Work and Learn Together HRSLOFoundation of Team Leadership
Low
High
Low
High
Inquiry
Ad
voca
cy
Source: Senge Fifth Discipline Fieldbook
Explaining
Inquiring
Understanding
Co-Exploration
Engaging
(Imposing)
(Interrogating)
(Over-Engaging)
Co-Exploration
(Withdrawing)
Seeking to Understand
WIN-WIN
Co-Exploration
Co-ExplorationRespect-
Appreciate
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Effective & Balanced Communications
WIN-WIN
Seeking to
Understan
d
Respect-
Appreciate
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Inquiry
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Managing Difficult Conversations
We can bring team communication tools to bear on our conversations, we can approach our interactions with others from a mindset of
“Mutual Learning :”
•Assume we have partial knowledge
•Grant legitimacy to other perspectives
•Assume positive intentions on the part of others
•Acknowledge our role in problems
•Embrace learning
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Preparing for Challenging Conversations
• Prepare your approach in terms of transparent advocacy and genuine inquiry…
• Know how you react when you are feeling vulnerable or defensive (Unexplored Left hand Column) and prepare accordingly
• Rehearse clear, neutral, and temperate responses in advance (with a friend or a learning partner is helpful)
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Foundations of Team Leadership
• Understand your mental models
• Become aware of how you are using the Ladder of Inference
• Pay attention to your Private Thinking (Left Hand Column)
• Draw on the rigorous approaches fostering Mutual Learning
Approaching Challenging Conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
• Do not get discouraged if the conversation does not resolve itself this time- some situations take more time, effort and more conversations
• Success is keeping the door open- as long as there is a willingness to dialogue, there is potential for resolution
Approaching Challenging Conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Team Activity
Integration Exercise: Communications Skills
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Managing Difficult ConversationsExercise in Triad for 3 Rounds of Role Plays
Each Round (15 minutes each)
•Set UP: Time: 3 minutes Person A briefs Person B about difficult conversation that they want to role play. Person B clarifies aspects of assigned role for purpose of role play. Person C to be a coach and observe person A’s performance.
•Role Play: Time: 5 minutes Person A roles plays conversation they want to have. Person B responds and is moved by the ‘‘stance of collaboration’’ practiced by Person A, (approach, listening skills, inquiry, sharing of assumptions, win-win attitude)
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Managing Difficult ConversationsExercise in Triad for 3 Rounds of Role
Plays
Each Round (15 minutes each) CONTINUED
•Debrief: Time: 7 minutes Person B shares what it was like talking to Person A while being in “role”-(How they felt- What moved them). Person C as coach shares observations of Person A’s skills in applying the ‘stance of collaboration’ approach.
•Switch: After 15 minutes, individuals to switch roles and start process all over again for a new round. There will be 3 rounds so that each individual gets the opportunity to role play their difficult conversation challenge.
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Use phrases like • “How can I best support you in your undertaking?…• What do you need from me…?
• How could we work towards a common goal?
Approaching Challenging Conversations
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Foundations of Team Leadership
Challenging Conversation
Please fill out form when you are in the role of coach and remit to your “coachee”-person A
ROLE PLAY Round
Role ‘A’ Person being themselves in difficult situation- Practicing new skill
Role “B” Person acting role of difficult person- Must shift when moved by A
Role “C” Coach observing role play, must take notes and provide feedback
Actions? NA? Specific comments- Why Effective or Not?
Conveyed genuine understanding by paraphrasing appropriately
Open and Supportive BODY Stance?
Appreciated other’s point of view? Open to considering new data ?
Did not push own point of view-made own assumptions clear
Conveyed genuine understanding by paraphrasing appropriately
Proposed /suggested win-wins good for both parties
Did not push “mutual agreement”-too quickly– (offer to meet again if appropriate)