“Games for Mastering Fear”

Training Content Introductory Comments

How to use the manual The Training Game – opening frames

Benefits of course How do you play the game of fear.

Step #1 – Game Recognition Kinds of internal games we play Game detection The Neuro-Semantics of fear The games of fear Modeling secrets of those who face fear

with courage How to play Frame Games Worksheets Frame Game Questions

Step #2 Developing the Power to Play

Introduction to Meta-States The Aim Game Ownership of Power Zone The Power of “yes” and “no”

Step #3 Slaying the Fear Dragon

Retiring Old Movies Game “Emotions are just Signals” Acceptance Game Gloriously Fallible Game Dragon Slaying Game Meta-Stating Negative

Emotions The Permission Game

Step #4 Committed to Playing the New Games

Mind-to-Muscle Game The Swish Game Meta-Stating Courage The “Excuse Blow-Out Game” The Miracle Game The Drop Down Through Game

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Step #4 Committed to Playing the New Games

Foregrounding Resources Meta-Stating Semantic Fears The Totally Congruent Game The “Bounce Back” Game

Are your ready for a new game?

Do you run scared in life? Does fear, anxiety,

apprehension, and dread dominate your life?

Do you take far too much counsel of fear?

Would you like to run a new game and master your fears?Page 6

How to Use this Manual.

1. Course is not for everyone.2. For those willing to do

whatever it takes to address their fears.

3. “It will work if you work it!”

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Working it means ― Willingness to follow the

processes and play the games.

Trust the process. Entering with an open

mind. Page 7

Working it means― Suspending doubts and

worries. Willingness to create new

mental maps. Putting off the testing and

questioning until the end.

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Structural Approach― This means this study is not

about “toughing it out”, etc. It is not about “facing

down” the emotion. It is about learning a new

“game plan.”Page 7

Structural Approach― This course is about

changing the “mental software” that runs the program of fear(s).

This makes the approach gentle and easy.

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NLP and Neuro-Semantics are all

about you choosing which thought you

want to run and dominate your mind-

body system.Page 8

Some Questions

Who will you become as you become oriented by faith, hope and vision rather than by fear?

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Some Questions What will be the three most

critical “fears” that you want to completely master through this study?

Write them down for future measurement as to strength. Page 8

Some Questions

How will mastering those fears affect your life?

How will they affect your professional, personal and private life?

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Some Questions

How will that be valuable to you?

What will change in your life?

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Some Questions When you think about the “you” for whom the old fears are no longer a problem, what are the most exciting and significant facets of that new you?

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Some Questions Who will be most affected in

your life by this mastering of these fears?

When you fully step into the place where you have mastered the fears, what frame of mind will you be in?

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The Training Game

1. Have lots of fun as you develop your expertise.

2. No Shame/No Blame. The person is never the

problem. The frame is always the

problem. Page 9

The Training Game

3. The Frame is the problem.

Inability to act on knowledge. Continuance of the same

problems year after year. Feeling controlled.Page 10-

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The Training Game

3. The Frame is the problem.

Attempted Solutions make the “Problem” worse.

Going around in circles. Diminishing returns.Page 10

The Training Game

4. It’s all about Detection and Re-Designing of New Frames.

This training is about learning how to say “No” to un-useful frames.

And how to say “Yes” to mind games we choose.

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Benefits of this Course Discovery of the secrets for

effectively handling Your emotions, especially your fears.

Learn not to spot and stop irrational fearing.

Eliminate needlessly amplifying fear.Page 11

Benefits of the Course― Play new emotional games:

faith, courage, hope, etc. Access the higher levels of

your mind. Develop this kind of courage. How to turn on fear antidotes:

Faith, Trust, Courage, etc.

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How do you Play the Game of Fear? As an emotion, fear is your friend.

So, welcome it, embrace it. Reasonable and appropriate fear gives you vital information.

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Fear of Fear― The Enemy As an emotion, fear

recognizes danger. Fear of fear ― that’s our

enemy. When we fear our thoughts,

that is what causes trouble.Page 13

Fear of Fear― The Enemy We when fear some event “out there” we reference the world.

When we fear our thoughts, feelings, states, beliefs, etc we reference ourselves. Page 13

Basic Structure of Perception

VAK – ImageInternal Representation (IR)

Words

Words

Etc

External

World

The

Map The

Territory

Image: picture, sounds, feelings, smells & taste

Word Meanings

Meta Word Meanings

Meta-Meta Words

Meta-meta-meta words.

1st Level of Abstraction

2nd Levelof Abstraction

Primary LevelWord Meanings about 1st

3rd Levelof AbstractionMeta-Level

Words about 2nd

4th Levelof Abstraction

Meta- Meta-LevelWords about 3rd

5th Levelof Abstraction

Words about 4th

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Meta-States

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Event inexternal world that

triggered fear.

Re-present on the screen of the mind. (VAKOG)

I am afraid of that!

I am afraid of my fear!

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Repetitive Meta-Level thinking creates Meta-States that act as mental filters. This thinking creates a filter of paranoia through which the person experiences his or her world. Fear will “attract” more fear to feed it.

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Meta-Level

PARINOIA FILTER

Structure of ParanoiaThe “Frames”

Psychic Energy When we fear our thoughts, we

turn our psychic energy against ourselves.

Whatever frame of reference/or frame of mind you develop and bring to your emotional experience of “fear,” determines the game you play.

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Whatever Game you play in life around fear

comes from and reflects on some Frame that

you’ve accepted, bought into, or been sold.

Together, frame and game makes up the

Frame Games that you play.

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“Flush Out” the Frame Throughout the training we will

be detecting our relationship to fear as both an emotion and a concept.

This enables flushing out the Frame Games that we play.

From there we can choose new Frame Games. Page 14

The “Good News” The good news is that whatever relationship you have developed to fear, you have learned it.

That means, you can unlearn it.

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“The Map is not the Territory.”

Our way of relating to fear has developed from how we have mapped it perceptually.

“It’s just a map; it’s not real; it’s not the territory.”Page 14

Internal Reality Is Entirely – “Map Governed” Once you “map it” it becomes

your “internal reality.” Whatever you map governs

your body and “seems” real. But it is a “constructed”

reality. It therefore can be “re-

constructed.” Page 14

Your “Power” - Constructed If you “think” the outside

world “controls” your inner world, you give up your “power.”

Once you fully realize that fear is “internal” and “constructed,” you can re-construct it. Page 14