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What Is A Game ?• Ongoing series of complementary ulterior transactions progressing to a

well-defined, predictable outcome.

• Games are clearly differentiated from procedures, rituals, and pastimes by two chief characteristics• Their ulterior quality • The payoff

• The games are classified into families according to the situations in which they most commonly occur: • Life Games, • Marital Games, • Party Games, • Sexual Games • Underworld Games• Consulting Room Games• Good Games.

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ABOUT THE GAME• Now i’ve got you - you son of a bitch!, As the name implies, is one of the

more hurtful games wecan play.

• In got you!, As it is sometimes called, there are two players –• The persecutor • The victim

• The persecutor is the central player,

• He or she is drawn to this game since it provides an opportunity to vent anger, rage, attitude etc

• The persecutor waits for the victim to fail in some undertaking - and then he pounces in addition to venting,

• The persecutor's habitual involvement in got you! Is also reinforced by the validation of one of his primary assumptions about life, namely - “you can’t trust anybody!”

EXAMPLE

A lady in the store bought two kurtis on sale. When she came out of the store, she realized that accidently the shopkeeper has given her an extra kurta, so she had three kurtis in total. Delighted, she thought of grabbing the opportunity and went again in the shop and asked the shopkeeper to change the third kurta for another piece she liked before but didn’t buy because she didn’t want to spend more. The shopkeeper exchanged the kurta and so the lady had three kurtis of her choice at the price of two.

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ABOUT THE GAME• Wooden Leg is best played by someone disadvantaged in some way,  it

becomes the excuse card. 

• The Player can use race,  age,  physical or mental disability,  bereavement,  or any other disadvantage to play. 

• This disadvantage is termed the Wooden Leg. 

• The player is given a job to do,  or a set of responsibilities to oversee,  and fails completely to take the job or responsibility seriously until something goes very wrong. 

• When called to account for their failure,  all accusations are brushed away with the phrase “Well, what do you expect from someone with a wooden leg?”. 

• Thus the failure and consequences are shrugged off and the player of the Wooden Leg card expects there to be complete mitigation on their part.

EXAMPLE

My aunt is a polio patient and has been on a wheelchair for several years. Instead of giving up, she with her family’s support has overcome her disabilities and is trying to reach out to other people affected by polio through her NGO in Lucknow.

This shows how a woman on a wheelchair is differently abled and a help to the society.

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ABOUT THE GAME• White is consistently helpful to other people, with some ulterior

motive.

• He may be doing penance for past wickedness, covering up for present wickedness, making friends in order to exploit them later or seeking prestige

• Most people (or peoples) who play "Happy to Help" have both friends and enemies, both perhaps justified in their feelings.

• Their enemies attack their motives and minimize their actions, while their friends are grateful for their actions and minimize their motives.

• Therefore so-called "objective" discussions of this game are practically nonexistent. People who claim to be neutral soon show which side they are neutral on.

EXAMPLE

During the initial days of college, I was very good friends with this girl. But because of some ego clashes & she thought that our friendship affected her studies so we grew apart. By the end of our college she realized that throughout the years I had actually been helping her out unlike the other people who she thought would actually help her. Now, she is trying to gain back the friendship and is also helping me in my studying.

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• In "They'll Be Glad They Knew Me," White is working not against but for the interests of his former associates.

• He wants to show them that they were justified in treating him with friendliness and respect and to demonstrate to them, for their own gratification, that their judgment was sound.

• In order for him to have a secure win in this game, his means as well as his ends must be honorable, and that is its superiority over "I'll Show Them."

EXAMPLE

During my time in Danceworx, the promotions to studio head were a big deal for every instructor. For many only the position that they held as a studio head mattered and not the monetary benefits. They worked hard to get to that position.