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Giving Your Children Giving Your Children an Eternal an Eternal InheritanceInheritance

By MiXueBy MiXue

What is godly mothering?What is godly mothering?

What are you buildingWhat are you buildinginto your children?into your children?

(1Co 3:12) Now if any man builds on the foundation with (1Co 3:12) Now if any man builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stonesgold, silver, precious stones, , wood, hay, straw,wood, hay, straw,

(:13) each man's work will become evident; for the day will (:13) each man's work will become evident; for the day will show it because it is show it because it is to beto be revealed with fire, and the fire revealed with fire, and the fire itself will test the quality of each man's work.itself will test the quality of each man's work.

(:14) If any man's work which he has built on it (:14) If any man's work which he has built on it remainsremains, he , he will will receive a reward.receive a reward.

(:15) If any man's work is (:15) If any man's work is burned upburned up, he will , he will suffer losssuffer loss; but ; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.

Outline of TalkOutline of Talk

A. Different stages of a childA. Different stages of a child’’s development,s development,

& their needs& their needs

B. Your role & input: practical tips for what B. Your role & input: practical tips for what

& how to teach& how to teach

C. Your own growth in the Lord C. Your own growth in the Lord

I. Infancy-babyhood (0-4)I. Infancy-babyhood (0-4)

A. StageA. Stage:: Total dependence, Total dependence, you control all inputyou control all input

Need:Need: to beto be prepared prepared

for the worldfor the world

Learn ObedienceLearn Obedience

““Children, be obedient to Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to for this is well-pleasing to the Lord.the Lord.””

(Col 3:20)(Col 3:20)

Obedience to you is a Obedience to you is a future building block future building block

As obedient children, do not be conformed to As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts the former lusts which were yourswhich were yours in your in your ignorance,ignorance,

but like the Holy One who called you, be holy but like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also in all yourselves also in all youryour behavior; behavior;

(1Pe 1:14-15)(1Pe 1:14-15)

Learn about Learn about consequencesconsequences

Disobedience has Disobedience has consequencesconsequences

Lessons from mistakesLessons from mistakes

Learn about respectLearn about respect

Self-control towards othersSelf-control towards others

What if a child What if a child gets his own way?gets his own way?

““The rod and reproof give wisdom, The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.brings shame to his mother.””

Prov 29:15Prov 29:15

B. Your RoleB. Your Role

TrainerTrainer

““Surely I have composed and quieted my Surely I have composed and quieted my soul; like a weaned child soul; like a weaned child restsrests against against his mother, my soul is like a weaned his mother, my soul is like a weaned child within me.child within me.””

(Psa 131:2)(Psa 131:2)

Enduring InputEnduring Input

““Train up a child in the way Train up a child in the way he should go, he should go,

even when he is old even when he is old he will not depart from it.he will not depart from it.””

(Prov 22:6)(Prov 22:6)

MotherMother’’s Mandate:s Mandate:"Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the "Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the

LORD is one!LORD is one!You shall love the LORD your God with all You shall love the LORD your God with all

your heart and with all your soul and with your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.all your might.

These words, which I am commanding you These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart.today, shall be on your heart.

You shall You shall teachteach them diligently to your sons them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you and shall talk of them when you sitsit in your in your house and when you house and when you walkwalk by the way and by the way and when you when you lie downlie down and when you and when you rise uprise up..””

Deut 6.4-7Deut 6.4-7

Spiritual Input:Spiritual Input:

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But when Jesus saw this, He was indignant and said to them, But when Jesus saw this, He was indignant and said to them, "Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for "Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.

"Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of "Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it God like a child will not enter it atat all.all.”” (Mar 10:14-15) (Mar 10:14-15)

Spiritual legacy:Spiritual legacy:

For I am mindful of the sincere faith For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your within you, which first dwelt in your grandmothergrandmother Lois and your Lois and your mother mother Eunice, and I am sure that Eunice, and I am sure that it isit is in in you as well.you as well.

(2Tim 1:5)(2Tim 1:5)

““SanctifiedSanctified”” Children Children

For the unbelieving husband is For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.unclean, but now they are holy.

(1Co 7:14)(1Co 7:14)

C. Your own growthC. Your own growth

Finding contentment in Finding contentment in

the the Ministry of ObscurityMinistry of Obscurity

II. Primary Schoolers - II. Primary Schoolers - childhood (4-10)childhood (4-10)

A. Stage:A. Stage: New Horizons New Horizons

Need:Need: Expand Learning Expand Learning


TeacherTeacher


Direct teachings about GodDirect teachings about God

Building CharacterBuilding Character

Receiving GodReceiving God’’s Calling s Calling for our familyfor our family

Over-scheduled?Over-scheduled?

Our schedule reveals our valuesOur schedule reveals our values


WomenWomen’’s Bible Studiess Bible Studies

Scripture MemoryScripture Memory

III.III. Middle Schoolers (10-Middle Schoolers (10-13)13) pre-teens, pre-pre-teens, pre-pubertypuberty

A. Stage: transitioning to adulthoodA. Stage: transitioning to adulthood

peers become pre-eminentpeers become pre-eminent

Need: room to growNeed: room to grow


CoachCoach

Develop common Develop common interestsinterests

Build bridges into their fast changing livesBuild bridges into their fast changing lives

What are they interested in? Why?What are they interested in? Why?

Who are their friends?Who are their friends?


““If you want to influence your children, If you want to influence your children,

influence their friends.influence their friends.””


Mentoring other moms Mentoring other moms

One Year Bible One Year Bible

IV. High Schoolers (14-IV. High Schoolers (14-18) Adolescence18) Adolescence

A. Stage: Developing own identityA. Stage: Developing own identity

Need: more decision-makingNeed: more decision-making

adult modelsadult models


CounselorCounselor


Family TimeFamily Time

Be an opportunistBe an opportunist

““Therefore be careful how you walk, not as Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.of your time, because the days are evil.”” (Eph 5:15-16)(Eph 5:15-16)

““So teach us to number our days, That we So teach us to number our days, That we may present to You a heart of wisdom.may present to You a heart of wisdom.””

(Psa 90:12)(Psa 90:12)


One Year Bible readingsOne Year Bible readings

V.V. College-agers (19-22)College-agers (19-22)pre-adulthood pre-adulthood

A. Stage: Independence, focus on A. Stage: Independence, focus on relationships (esp w/ opposite gender)relationships (esp w/ opposite gender)

Need: to be treated more like a peerNeed: to be treated more like a peer


MentorMentor


Family TimeFamily Time (in different venues) (in different venues)

MentoringMentoring

Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good,teaching what is good,

so that they may so that they may encourage the young women to love their encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their childrenhusbands, to love their children,,

to beto be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be so that the word of God will not be dishonored.dishonored.

Titus 2:3-5Titus 2:3-5

VI. Young Adulthood VI. Young Adulthood (23+)(23+)

A. StageA. Stage:: Job and Spouse Job and Spouse

Need:Need: Help in the adult arena Help in the adult arena


Be a ResourceBe a Resource

Your spiritual input:Your spiritual input:

ExampleExample

More caught than taughtMore caught than taught

What can be taught?What can be taught?

What must be caught?What must be caught?

Make Eternal InvestsMake Eternal Invests

(Mat 6:19) "Do not store up for yourselves (Mat 6:19) "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.and where thieves break in and steal.

(:20) "But (:20) "But store up for yourselves treasures in store up for yourselves treasures in heaven,heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal;and where thieves do not break in or steal;

(:21) for where your treasure is, there your heart (:21) for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.will be also.

Make sure your Make sure your investments are lastinginvestments are lasting

““Well done, Well done, good and good and faithful faithful servant.servant.””

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