“GOD,Marriage,Famliy,Singleness, & Me”

Pastor Gary Hankins, Th.M

MARRIAGE!!!WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT?1 Corinthians 7:28-29/Gen.2:16b

But if you should marry, you have not sinned…. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying

to spare you.

HAPPIER TIMESGenesis 2:ff -"It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him…caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man…the Lord God fashioned into a woman…"This is now bone of my bones,…and flesh of my flesh…and they shall become one flesh…both naked and were not ashamed.

The husband only knew love/unity from GODA Husband needs a women(lonely)A Wife is man’s glory(1 Cor. 11.7)A Husband is to be respected(Eph.6)A Wife is to be loved(sacrifice)(Eph,6) A deep trust in each other(naked)

GOD’S MARRIAGE DESIGNGEN.1.18ff

HAVING COMPANIONSHIPHAVING KIDS HAVING SEX

THE PROBLEM?Gen 3:7,8;16b

…and they knew that they were naked; … his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord…Yet your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall

rule over you…Cursed is the ground because of you;…In toil… all your life. • GOD OUT-TED!!!!• WE HAVE ISSUES(UNFILLED NEEDS)• I GOT TO HAVE A “MAN”, THAT I DISRESPECT• I AM INSENSITIVE ABUSIVE/THE BOSS!!!!(see 4:19,23)

DIVORCE/SEPARATIONMatt 19:8-9 "Because of your hardness of heart, Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.“ 1 Cor 7:11 (but if she does leave, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband) Mal 2:16, For I hate divorce," says the Lord,

• MOST CHRISTIANS THAT DIVORCE ARE OUT OF GOD’S WILL.• GOD EXPECTS US TO WORK OUT OUR PROBLEMS.

Prov 5:18, Let your fountain be blessed,And rejoice in the wife of your youth.

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WHAT CAUSES MARRIAGE/SINGLE PROBLEMS?2 TIM.3.16,17

•ERRONEOUS CONCEPT•SINFUL ATTITUDES (PRACTICE)

ERRONEOUS BIBLICAL CONCEPTS T/ORIGIN OF MARRIAGE-GEN.2.20-25 T/PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE-PROV.2.16,17;MAL.2.14 T/OBLIGATION OF MARRIAGE-1 COR.7;EPH.5.21ff T/COMMITMENT OF MARRIAGE

COVENANT(PROMISE)-EZE.16.8ff;MATT.19.6 COMPANIONSHIP

DON’T KNOW WHAT TRUE LOVE IS I DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE MIXED MARRIAGES ARE WRONG-1 COR.7.39

WIFE’S CHRIST-CONDUCTEHP. 5:22-24,33b;COL.3:18

• (fn) WIVES, NOT SINGLES WOMEN

• BE SUBJECT, NOT BE SLAVE(see 6:1,5)• LINING UP(UNITY/WORKABILITY)• “YOUR” HUSBAND IS YOUR POSSESSION• CHRIST IS HER “LORD” NOT THE HUSBAND• “IN EVERYTHING”• GOD’S WILL• HUSBAND’S WILL• MY WILL

WHEN A MAN(HUSBAND)LOVES A WOMAN(WIFE)

HUSBAND’S HIGHEST LOVE EPH.5.25-33 CHRIST COMMANDS YOU TO LOVE HER CHRIST LOVE, IMITATE IT. 25-27

HE MET OUR NEEDS(SEE 1 PT.3.7) I.E. EMOTIONAL(GEN.2.8)

HUSBAND’S SELF-LOVE, EXAMPLE NO HATRED TOWARDS SELF OR HER.V.29a NOURISH/CHERISH(WARM-UP). V.29b UNITY(SECURITY ). V.31

CHRIST’S LOVE IS DEEP!!! V.32 CHRIST’S CONCLUSION: LOVE/RESPECT. V.33

HOW TO LIVE HAPPILY WITH A WOMAN(WIFE)

• DON’T BE SELF-CENTERED-1 PETER 3:7a • SHE WAS CREATED TENDER/SOFT• LIFE LONG SWEETNESS

• “DO HER RIGHT”- 1 PETER 3:7b• SHE IS TO BE VERY SPECIAL TO YOU (ALWAYS)• SHE IS YOUR BLESSED PARTNER• SHE BLESSES YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

MARRIAGE“LETS STAY TOGETHER AND WORK IT

OUT”

COMMITMENT TO OUR “MARRIAGE” COMMITMENT TO GROWTH IN “CHRIST” COMMITMENT TO “FORGIVING” COMMITMENT TO SELF-EXAMINATIONS COMMITMENT TO SEE THE “BEST IN YOU” COMMITMENT TO CHANGING, ”CHRIST-LIKE” COMMITMENT TO DO “WHATEVER IT TAKES” COMMITMENT TO THE “SPOUSE’S HAPPINESS” COMMITMENT TO “OUTSIDE ADVICE”

versesProv 31:1010 An excellent wife, who can find?For her worth is far above jewels. Prov 19:1313 A foolish son is destruction to his father,And the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping. 1 Cor 7:3-43 Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. Eph 5:2323 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church,Eph 5:24-29 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 1 Peter 3:1-63 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3 And let not your adornment be merely external — braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. 6 Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.1 Peter 3:77 You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.