The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Sharpen the Saw

Synergize

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Think Win-Win

Put First Things First

Begin with the End in Mind

Be Proactive

Habit 1: Be Proactive – A reviewHabit 1: Be Proactive – A review

Be Proactive is the key to unlocking all Be Proactive is the key to unlocking all the other habitsthe other habitsI am the forceI am the forceI am the captain of my lifeI am the captain of my lifeI can choose my attitudeI can choose my attitudeI am responsible for my own I am responsible for my own happiness or unhappinesshappiness or unhappiness

Proactive or Reactive… Proactive or Reactive… the Choice is Yoursthe Choice is Yours

Imagine this: Share a can of Coca-Imagine this: Share a can of Coca-Cola and then open itCola and then open itPressure built up, explodePressure built up, explode

Imagine if it is only waterImagine if it is only waterNo fizzing, no bubblingNo fizzing, no bubblingcalm, in controlcalm, in control

See your setbacks as opportunities to grow

Becoming a Change AgentBecoming a Change Agent

Any bad habits are you ‘inherited’ Any bad habits are you ‘inherited’ from your parents? Foul language? from your parents? Foul language? Smoking? Gambling?Smoking? Gambling?

The good news is that you can stop The good news is that you can stop the cyclethe cycle

You can become a ‘Change Agent’ You can become a ‘Change Agent’ and pass on good habits to future and pass on good habits to future generations.generations.

The Fate of Man FookThe Fate of Man Fook

Growing your Proactive MusclesGrowing your Proactive Muscles

I walk down the street. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I fall in. I am lost…I am lost…I am helpless. I am helpless. It is not my fault. It is not my fault. It takes forever to find my way out.It takes forever to find my way out.

By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive MusclesGrowing your Proactive Muscles

I walk down the same street. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in. I fall in. I can’t believe I am in the same place. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. It still takes a long time to get out.

By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive MusclesGrowing your Proactive Muscles

I walk down the same street. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I see it there. I still fall in…It’s a habit. I still fall in…It’s a habit. My eyes are open. My eyes are open. I know where I am. I know where I am. It is my fault. It is my fault. I get out immediately. I get out immediately.

By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive MusclesGrowing your Proactive Muscles

I walk down the same street. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. I walk around it.

By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive MusclesGrowing your Proactive Muscles

I walk down another street.I walk down another street.

By Portia Nelson

Can-do AttitudeCan-do Attitude

CAN-DO PEOPLE NO-CAN-DO PEOPLE

Take initiative to make it happen

Wait for something to happen to them

Think about solutions and options

Think about problems and barriers

Act Are acted upon

Characteristics of Characteristics of Can-do AttitudeCan-do Attitude

CourageousCourageous PersistentPersistent SmartSmart CreativeCreative EnterprisingEnterprising Extremely resourcefulExtremely resourceful

Characteristics of Characteristics of Can-do AttitudeCan-do Attitude

‘‘People are always blaming their People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.’they can’t find them, make them.’

George Bernard ShawGeorge Bernard Shaw

The story of DeniseThe story of Denise

I know it’s strange for a teenager to I know it’s strange for a teenager to want to work in a library, but I really want to work in a library, but I really wanted that job – more than I had wanted that job – more than I had ever wanted anything, but they ever wanted anything, but they weren’t hiring.weren’t hiring.

The story of DeniseThe story of Denise

I would go to the library every day I would go to the library every day and read, hang out with my friends, and read, hang out with my friends, and just get away from home – what and just get away from home – what better place to work than someplace better place to work than someplace I already hung out at?I already hung out at?

The story of DeniseThe story of Denise

Although I didn’t have a job there, I Although I didn’t have a job there, I got to know the office staff, and I got to know the office staff, and I volunteered for special events and volunteered for special events and pretty soon I was one of the regulars.pretty soon I was one of the regulars.

The story of DeniseThe story of Denise

It paid off. When they finally had an It paid off. When they finally had an opening, I was their first choice, and I opening, I was their first choice, and I found one of the best jobs I ever had.found one of the best jobs I ever had.

Just push pauseJust push pause

Whenever we are faced with a Whenever we are faced with a situation that has a tendency to situation that has a tendency to upset us, it is important to stop and upset us, it is important to stop and think (Push Pause)think (Push Pause)

If we are reactive – If we are reactive – we tend to blow up we tend to blow up and make things and make things worseworse

Self-AwarenessSelf-Awareness

I can stand apart from myself and I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actionsobserve my thoughts and actions

I can think about what I am doing I can think about what I am doing and what I should be doingand what I should be doing

Self-AwarenessSelf-Awareness

I have been mean to mom because I have been mean to mom because she bugs me about my grades. ->she bugs me about my grades. ->

My grades are bad because I have My grades are bad because I have been staying up late talking to friends. been staying up late talking to friends. ->->

I have been talking to friends because I have been talking to friends because I want to have a connection with I want to have a connection with people. ->people. ->

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ImaginationImagination

I can envision new possibilitiesI can envision new possibilities We can actually look into the future We can actually look into the future

and imagine what can happen.and imagine what can happen. Imagination helps us create goalsImagination helps us create goals

ImaginationImagination

What happens when I react poorly? What happens when I react poorly? Demerit? Expel? In jail? Unemployed?Demerit? Expel? In jail? Unemployed?

What happens when I react What happens when I react appropriately? Appreciation from appropriately? Appreciation from teachers? Get a job? Promotion? teachers? Get a job? Promotion?

ConscienceConscience

I can listen to my inner voice and I can listen to my inner voice and know right from wrongknow right from wrong

ConscienceConscience

You know its wrong to hit, kick, steal, You know its wrong to hit, kick, steal, take drugs, not doing your school take drugs, not doing your school work.work.

You know its right to help, be You know its right to help, be respectful, be kind, be honest, do respectful, be kind, be honest, do your school workyour school work

WillpowerWillpower

We have the power to chooseWe have the power to choose We don’t have to reactWe don’t have to react We can choose to do right or wrongWe can choose to do right or wrong

Be Proactive – A summaryBe Proactive – A summary

Fight against the Victimitis VirusFight against the Victimitis Virus Knowing that what you can control is Knowing that what you can control is

your Attitude ONLYyour Attitude ONLY Be a Change Agent to stop bad habit Be a Change Agent to stop bad habit

cyclecycle Build up Can-Do attitudeBuild up Can-Do attitude Push Pause and use the power toolsPush Pause and use the power tools

ReflectionReflection

Use your power tools to handle the Use your power tools to handle the following case.following case.

You receive a grade from teacher that You receive a grade from teacher that you think is unfair. Push pause and use you think is unfair. Push pause and use your power tools.your power tools.