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HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits

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Page 1: HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits

HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE

Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits

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Scenarios:

• You overhear your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. She doesn’t know you overheard the conversation. Just five minutes ago, this same friend was sweet-talking you to your face…

• You’ve been working at your job in the store for over a year now and have been extremely committed and dependable. Three months ago, a new employee joined the crew. Recently, he was given the coveted Saturday afternoon shift, the shift you were hoping for…

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“People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” –

Abraham Lincoln• Two Types of People – Proactive &

Reactive

• Reactive = make choices based on impulse

• Analogy = shaken soda can

• Proactive = think before they act

• Analogy = water bottle

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Reactive vs. Proactive Language

• Reactive = takes power away from you

• I’ll try• That’s just the way I am• There’s nothing I can do• I have to• I can’t• You ruined my day

• Proactive = puts you back in control

• I’ll do it• I can do better than that• Let’s look at all our

options• I choose to• There’s gotta be a way• I’m not going to let your

bad mood rub off on me

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YOUR TURN!

Workbook pgs. 40-41

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Reactive vs. Proactive

• Reactive = always the victim• Are easily offended• Blame others• Get angry and say things they

later regret• Whine & complain• Wait for things to happen to

them• Change only when they have

to

• Proactive• are not easily offended• Take responsibility for their

choices• Think before they act• Bounce back when something

bad happens• Always find a way to make it

happen• Focus on things they can do

something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t: Look at the circle on pg. 44

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Being proactive means taking the high road, which is often the harder

road to take, but if you get in the habit, you can run on autopilot

• Ex on pg. 55

• YOUR TURN – Workbook pgs. 41-42 (not the picture

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Can-do vs. No-Can-Do

• Can do• Take initiative to

make it happen• Think about solutions

& options• Act• Ex: pg. 65

• No-can-do• Wait for something to

happen to them• Think about problems

and barriers• Are acted upon• YOUR TURN:

Workbook pgs. 51-52

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Just Push Pause

• So when you feel like you might react badly to someone, something, push pause & use the following 4 tools:

• Self-Awareness: I can stand apart from myself & observe my thoughts & actions

• Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong

• Imagination: I can envision new possibilities• Willpower: I have the power to choose• Ex: Pg. 68-69

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“So much has been give to me. I have no time to ponder that which has been denied.” -Helen Keller

• Turning Setbacks into Triumph: Ex on pg. 57

• Workbook pgs. 46-47 (whole class)