habits of great parents

8/3/2019 Habits of Great Parents

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Habits are repeated

behaviours.Whatever habit you would like to

develop consciously behave the sameway for 21 days continuously.


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1. Great Parents

Communicate their love.

(Consistently )


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2. Great Parents Have one-on-one

time with each child.

Kids like their parents one at a time and will

often compete for parental attention. Set

aside some regular time for eachchild and give them A-grade

attention on your terms.


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2. Great Parents - Parent differently

for each child.

What worked with one child wont work

with another so be flexible

with your behaviour management,

communication

and relationship-building skills. etc.


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3. Great Parents Make it easy for their

kids to behave well.

Kids usually want to behave well but many

find behaving well hard.


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Make it easy for them not by lowering your

standards but by

giving gentle reminders,

setting up simple routines and giving

simple verbal and non verbal cues.


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4. Great Parents Know the difference

between incompetence and

rebelliousness. If you child does something out of

incompetence, then take the time to teach

your child how to do it right.

If your child acts out ofrebellion toward your

authority as a parent, then this behaviorneeds to be disciplined or punished, andcannot be tolerated or accepted.


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Great Parents Pick the battles


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5. Rules, Consequences,

Privileges


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6.Great parents let children

experience natural consequences.

Natural consequences are

fabulous teachers so step backand allow kids to experience the

outcome of their decision,

whether pleasant or unpleasant.


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7. Great parents Focus on feelings not

just behaviour.

Next time a child asks for an extension to T.V.time because they enjoying a program , resistgoing into behaviour management mode andmove into emotional intelligence mode. Its

great to see you happy and really enjoying thatprogram. Whats it like having so much fun?Then move them to bed while you are listening.


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8. Great parents Use of Teachable

moments

The best teaching moments aren't ones that

are planned-they happen unexpectedly. Look

for moral issues to talk about as they come up.

Take advantage of those moments because

they help your child develop solid moral

beliefs that will help guide his behavior the

rest of his life.


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9. Great Parents are aware of Whats

influencing children

As parents we must control the flow of ideas

and images that are influencing our children.

Great parents have an eye and ear for what

children are absorbing.


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10. Standing by your partner

Dont contradict your partner in front of them,

dont fight with each other in front of them, and

most definitely dont ever abuse each other.

How you treat your partner affects their self-

esteem, and the way they will treat themselves

and their partner when they grow up. Be kind

and respectful and loving of each other. Andalways work as a team never contradicting

statements of the other.


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10a. Keep your partner informed.

It helps if the primary parent, usually mothers,

can keep partners informed about whats

going on in childrens lives. These can include

updates about behaviour, educational

achievements and their general well-

being


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11. Divide areas of responsibility.

Dont keep all the responsibilities to yourself.

Bring your partner into the loop, and give

them a share of the parenting jobs.


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12. Make their problem, their

problem.

Sometimes we as adults can take on their

concerns and make them our own.

If something doesnt bother a child, and

there is no risk involved or no infringement

on other peoples rights then let them be.


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13 .Make Peace with Clutter

When they are little, they absolutely should

learn to clean up their messes, but your house

shouldnt be sterile. Its a home. Kids live

there. And kids are messy.


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14 .Get down and Dirty often

Guidelines to get down and dirty with your

kids:

Be an idiot.

Face your fears.

Enjoy the unknown.


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15. Learn when to break rules

Part of a parents job is knowing what rules to

make, how to enforce them, and when to

break them.

And then comes the hard part: explaining

why to your other kids.


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16 . Warning Time

Give Warning Time: Give children a 5- 10

minute warning time to allow him to

finish what he is doing before you

expect him to do something else. For

example, if your child is playing, you may say,

"Youve 5 minutes to complete your game and

then its study time


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17 .Allowing experiences

Provide opportunity: Children need

opportunities to explore different things.

Let your child try things that they find

interesting and enjoy the process of getting

better rather than just the final outcome.

The trip to the grocery store offers wonderful

learning opportunities, from reading labels to

using money to budgeting.


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18 .Give your child some control over

his life:

Kids want a little independence from you.

From the time they wake up, let kids make

their own choices for small decisions such as

whether they want toast or cereal forbreakfast, or allowing them to choose which

shoes to wear. This helps to learn decision

making.


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19 .Encourage kids to be self-

occupiers.

Kids ability to keep themselves occupied

cannot be underestimated. Avoid rushing in

when they seem bored.

Suggest ideas rather than provide

entertainment. Self-occupiers readily get into

the state of flow and get lost in play which is

great for achievement and mental health.


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20. Build layers of community around

kids.

Family, friends, teachers, coaches, people in thebroader community form a protective circle

around kids, help keep them safe and preventthem from falling through the cracks. Encourage asense of community.

Let them bring friends home. Encourage them to

take up community-based activities and valuerelationships they have with coaches, teachers

and people in their neighbourhood.


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21. Understand child development.

Some stages are harder than others and differentstages require different things of kids.

Early childhood is about bonding and then breakingaway.

Middle childhood is about developing competencies

and self-esteem and adolescence is about identityformation and breaking away.


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Each stage has its own joys andchallenges for parents. Appreciate

each stage and dont wish them

away.


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22. Have regular family

meetings.

They dont have to be too

formal, and they are a great wayfor both parents address family

issues together with their

children.


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23 .Have fun as a family.

Its hard to fight when youre havingfun and enjoying each others company

so look for ways to inject some fun andgames into family life.


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24. Talk with other parents.

Draw strength from other

parents


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Bad Habits

Dwelling on the past

Nagging and Lecturing

Feeling guilty

Children are tender unique and


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Children are tender, unique and

precious;

they are not here to make you happy,

meet your expectations,

help you experience what you missed out in

life,

or to fulfill your needs.


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Our sincere appreciation for doing a

Great Job as a parent!!!.

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