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Connecting Happiness and Success - Presentation to University of North Texas Professional Leadership Program on January 11th, 2012TRANSCRIPT
Connecting Success and Happiness
You earned $10 Million per year?
Would you be successful if:
You would be about 65 and one of only .001% of Americans.Top 1% of Americans averaged $380,354 in 2010.
Sacrifice?
“…Slightly happier than the average person”
…And then you could be happy!
So how much happier would you be?
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Happier people: • Get more job interviews• Get better jobs with more autonomy, meaning, and
variety• Show superior job performance and productivity• Are better at managerial jobs• Are less likely to burnout• Run organizations that are more productive and more
profitable• Make more money
From the book Happiness at Work
“…pleasure is external and happiness is internal. Pleasure is an event, while happiness is a state of mind.”
Blog Devin44
Pleasure vs. Happiness
“Happiness is not in our circumstances but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are”
John B. Sheerin
“Happiness is more than a mere pleasurable sensation. It is a deep sense of serenity and fulfillment.”
Mathieu Ricard
Because pleasure connects you to
happiness...
Why do we need to
know the difference between pleasure
and happiness ?
…Until it doesn’t
PLEASURE DISCONNECTS FROM HAPPINESS WHEN:
1. The pleasure is illegal, unethical, or immoral.
2. You over-indulge (e.g., food, alcohol, video games)
3. Your focus on pleasure excludes happiness activities
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Take Control of Your Life
“Autonomy - the feeling that your life, its activities and habits, are self-chosen and self-endorsed.“
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
Major Contributor
to Happiness:
Know what you can control and what you can’t control
Own your… Consequences …and your Successes
In that millisecond between action and reaction…
Other Areas of you can take control of your life Positive Thinking Health Exercise Diet Flow Mindfulness Strengths and Virtues
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Who invented the Light Bulb?
Edison
How many people were with him?
30
How can you be:
Happier
Healthier
and Live Longer
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50% Longer
“Relationships constitute the single most important factor responsible for the survival of homo sapiens”
Berscheid
“Like food and air, we seem to need social relationships to thrive.”
Ed Diener, Robert Biswas-Diener
You influence a friend’s happiness ~15% You influence your friend’s friend’s happiness ~10%
Christakis and Fowler - Connected
Bottom line: Nurturing positive relationships is good for your happiness and the happiness of those around you.
Building Positive Relationships
1. Practice Charity2. Practice Gratitude3. Practice Vulnerability4. Live 100/0 Principle
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Do you ever feel like
Sisyphus?
This is your
Brain on Purpose
This is your Brain
Any Questions?
1. What do you care about deeply?2. What do you love to do?3. How can you use your strengths to make a
difference in the world?4. Who is one person you can help?5. Prayer, Meditation, 15 Minutes of Silence
Finding Your Purpose
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If you know where you are going (definition of self) you will try harder when you fail. If you fail at something that is not in your “definition of self” you don’t try harder. Brunstein, Joachim, Gollwitzer
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Action Due Date Measurement Priority
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Implement with Discipline Every Day“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” Jim Rohn
"In fact, the brain starts working less and less," says Duhigg. "The brain can almost completely shut down. ... And this is a real advantage, because it means you have all of this mental activity you can devote to something else.“
Activation Energy
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“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
— Robert Collier
“Success is a Journey …not a destination”
-Arthur Ashe
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I Believe in You!