happy relationships presentation
DESCRIPTION
Presentation on how to establish you relationship in a positive manner, please visit http://HappyRelationships.com/ to find out moreTRANSCRIPT
![Page 1: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/1.jpg)
![Page 2: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/2.jpg)
Disclaimer
![Page 3: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/3.jpg)
“Even the least knowledge of things superior is of greater value than the most extensive knowledge of things
inferior”
Thomas Aquinas
![Page 4: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/4.jpg)
Can you take me higher?To the place where blind man see.
Can you take me higher?To the place with golden streets.
Higher
Creed
![Page 5: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/5.jpg)
When dreaming I’m guided to another worldTime and time again
At sunrise I fight to stay asleep‘Cause I don’t want to leave the comfort of this place
‘Cause there’s a hunger, a longing to escapeFrom the life I live when I’m awake
So let’s go thereLet’s make our escapeCome on, let’s go thereLet’s ask can we stay
![Page 6: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/6.jpg)
Can you take me higher?To the place where blind men see
Can you take me higher?To the place with golden streets.
![Page 7: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/7.jpg)
Although I would like our world to changeIt helps me to appreciate
Those nights and those dreamsBut, my friend, I’d sacrifice all those nights
If I could make the Earth and my dreams the sameThe only difference is
To let love replace all our hateSo let’s go there
Let’s make our escapeCome on, let’s go thereLet’s ask can we stay
![Page 8: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/8.jpg)
Can you take me higher?To the place where blind men see
Can you take me higher?To the place with golden streets
![Page 9: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/9.jpg)
Up high I feel like I’m alive for the very first timeSet up high I’m strong enough to take these dreams
And make them mine
![Page 10: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/10.jpg)
God made the earth in 7 days
![Page 11: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/11.jpg)
Day 1: Day and NightDay 2: Heaven and Water
Day 3: Land and SeaDay 4: “Let there be lights in the firmament of the
heaven to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs, and for the seasons, and for days, and years”,
and StarsDay 5: Fish and Birds
Day 6: Man (and Woman) and BeastDay 7: He Rested
![Page 12: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/12.jpg)
The 7 day work week
![Page 13: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/13.jpg)
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them”
![Page 14: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/14.jpg)
“…thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”
![Page 15: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/15.jpg)
“And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the
field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.”
![Page 16: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/16.jpg)
Sumerians Adam and Eve
![Page 17: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/17.jpg)
They were the first to write laws and codes, the first to establish an educational system, the first to develop a sense of community, the first to
establish an organized medical concept, the first to develop a political system, the first to develop a numeric system, the first to develop an economic system,
and the first civilization to develop a concept of religion and psychology. They built the first temples and invented the religious concept of the tower,
the symbolic link between man and God, heaven and earth. This tower, known as a ziggurat is Sumer’s most significant contribution to religious
architecture.
![Page 18: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/18.jpg)
Many of the concepts from the Old Testament have their roots from these people. They were the first to write about the creation of the universe, the creation of man, the story of Adam and Eve, the Flood, the story of Cain and Abel, the concept of the personal God, the story of the Tower of Babel embodied in the symbol of
the ziggurat, and death and the nether world.
![Page 19: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/19.jpg)
Me: is the order out of chaos, the great attributes of civilization, the powers of the Gods
Truth, falsehood, fear, terror, strife, peace, weariness, victory, judgment, decision, libel, enmity, power, straightforwardness,
rejoicing the heart, kingship, and lasting ladyship.
![Page 20: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/20.jpg)
The drive for superiority and pre-eminence with its great stress on
competition and success.
![Page 21: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/21.jpg)
“a sweet word is everybody’s friend” “a loving heart builds the home, a hating heart destroys the home” “it’s not the heart which leads to enmity, it’s the tongue which leads to enmity ““into an open mouth a fly enters” “friendship lasts a day, kinship lasts forever” “build like a lord-live like a slave, build like a slave-live like a lord” “don’t pick it now, later it will bear fruit” “hand to hand-a man’s house is built, stomach to stomach a man’s house is destroyed” “poorly fed-grandly living” “marry a wife according to your choice, have a child as your heart desires”
![Page 22: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/22.jpg)
God of water, intelligence and creationGod of the windGod of the skyGod of grainGod of rainGod of fireGod of storesGod of the shephardGod of cattleGod of the treeGod of goats, gazelles and wild assesEach city had its own specific God
![Page 23: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/23.jpg)
God of the work week
![Page 24: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/24.jpg)
Symbol of Medicine
![Page 25: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/25.jpg)
Emotional Development begins during childhood
![Page 26: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/26.jpg)
We now date before marriage
![Page 27: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/27.jpg)
The Waltz of Love
![Page 28: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/28.jpg)
Dana came into the room. She stood beside me, and we made eye contact. I mouthed my first lucid words to her: ‘Maybe we should let me go.’ Dana started crying. She said, ‘I am only
going to say this once: I will support whatever you want to do, because this is your life, and your decision. But I want you to know that I’ll be with you for the long haul, no matter what.’
Then she added the words that saved my life: ‘You’re still you. And I love you.’
![Page 29: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/29.jpg)
If she had looked away or paused or hesitated even slightly, or if I had felt there was a sense of her being-being what?-noble, or fulfilling some obligation to me, I don’t know if I could have
pulled through. Because it had dawned on me that I was going to be a huge burden to everybody, that I had ruined my life and everybody else’s. Not fair to anybody. The best thing to do
would be to slip away.
![Page 30: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/30.jpg)
But what Dana said made living seem possible, because I felt the depth of her love and commitment. I was even able to make a
little joke. I mouthed, ‘This is way beyond the marriage vows-in sickness and in health.’ And she said, ‘I know.’ I knew then and
there that she was going to be with me forever.
![Page 31: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/31.jpg)
Red roses were her favorites, her name was also Rose. And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows.
The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door. The card said, ‘Be my Valentine,’ like all the years before. Each year he sent her roses, and the note would always say.
‘I love you more this year, than last year on this day. My love for you will always grow, with every passing year.’
She knew this was the last time that the roses would appear. She thought he ordered roses in advance before this day.
Her loving husband did not know, that he would pass away. He always liked to do things early, way before the time. Then, if he got too busy, everything would work out fine.
![Page 32: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/32.jpg)
She trimmed the stems, and placed them in a very special vase. Then, sat the vase beside the portrait of his smiling face. She would sit for hours, in her husband’s favorite chair. While staring at his picture, and the roses sitting there.
A year went by, and it was hard to live without her mate. With loneliness and solitude, that had become her fate.
Then, the very hour, as on Valentines before. The doorbell rang, and there were roses, sitting by her door.
She brought the roses in, and then just looked at them in shock. Then, went to get the telephone, to call the florist shop.
The owner answered, and she asked him, if he would explain. Why would someone do this to her, causing her so much pain?
![Page 33: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/33.jpg)
‘I know your husband passed away, more than a year ago.’The owner said, ‘I knew you’d call, and you would want to know.
The flowers you received today, were paid for in advance. Your husband always planned ahead, he left nothing to chance.
There is a standing order, that I have on file down here. And he has paid, well in advance, you’ll get them every year.
There also is another thing, that I think you should know. He wrote a special little card…he did this years ago. Then, should ever I find out that he’s no longer here.
That’s the card…that should be sent, to you the following year.’ She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard.
Her fingers shaking, as she slowly read the card. Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note.
Then, as she stared in total silence, this is what he wrote…
![Page 34: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/34.jpg)
‘Hello my love, I know it’s been a year since I’ve been gone. I hope it hasn’t been too hard for you to overcome. I know it must be lonely, and the pain is very real.
Or if it was the other way, I know how I would feel. The love we shared made everything so beautiful in life.
I loved you more than words can say, you were the perfect wife. You were my friend and lover, you fulfilled my every need.
I know it’s only been a year, but please try not to grieve. I want you to be happy, even when you shed your tears.
This is why the roses will be sent to you for years. When you get these roses, think of all the happiness.
That we had together, and how both of us were blessed. I have always loved you and I know I always will.
![Page 35: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/35.jpg)
But, my love, you must go on, you have some living still. Please…try to find happiness, while living out your days.
I know it is not easy, but I hope you find some ways.
The roses will come every year, and they will only stop. When your door’s not answered, when the florist stops to knock.
He will come five times that day, in case you have gone out.But after his last visit, he will know without a doubt.
To take the roses to the place, where I’ve instructed him. And place the roses where we are, together once again.’
![Page 36: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/36.jpg)
Intimacy
![Page 37: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/37.jpg)
Pornography
![Page 38: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/38.jpg)
Intimacy
![Page 39: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/39.jpg)
Pornography
![Page 40: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/40.jpg)
Sensational material:Recent novels about the holocaust have
kept Hitler well offstage [so as] to avoid the…pornography of the era
![Page 41: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/41.jpg)
Can you take me higher?To the place where blind man see.
Can you take me higher?To the place with golden streets.
![Page 42: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/42.jpg)
The relationship as a partnership
![Page 43: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/43.jpg)
Do we develop or not?A capitalism example
GE
![Page 44: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/44.jpg)
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their
Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness
The Declaration of Independence
![Page 45: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/45.jpg)
Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.
![Page 46: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/46.jpg)
Life = morality = empathy = feelingsLiberty = equality = respect = thoughts
![Page 47: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/47.jpg)
“Men who look upon themselves born to reign, and others to obey, soon grow insolent; selected from the rest of mankind their minds are early poisoned by importance; and the world they act
in differs so materially from the world at large, that they have but little opportunity of knowing its true interests, and when they
succeed to the government are frequently the most ignorant and
unfit of any throughout the dominions.”
![Page 48: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/48.jpg)
“Our present condition, is, Legislation without law; wisdom without a plan; constitution without a name; and, what is
strangely astonishing, perfect Independence contending for dependence…The mind of the multitude is left at random, and
seeing no fixed object before them, they pursue such as fancy or opinion starts. Nothing is criminal; there is no such thing as
treason; wherefore, every one thinks himself at liberty to act as he pleases.”
![Page 49: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/49.jpg)
Fault finding vs Problem solving
![Page 50: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/50.jpg)
Fault finding turns disagreements into arguments
![Page 51: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/51.jpg)
Your character causes your behavior
![Page 52: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/52.jpg)
Me: is the order out of chaos, the great attributes of civilization, the powers of the Gods
Truth, falsehood, fear, terror, strife, peace, weariness, victory, judgment, decision, libel, enmity, power,
straightforwardness, rejoicing the heart, kingship, and lasting ladyship.
![Page 53: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/53.jpg)
Complacency
![Page 54: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/54.jpg)
The two false Gods:
LooksMoney
![Page 55: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/55.jpg)
Respect and empathy
![Page 56: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/56.jpg)
The fork in the road:Disagreements vs arguments
![Page 57: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/57.jpg)
It is not possible to solve problems when they are addressed through
arguments
![Page 58: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/58.jpg)
3 Types of arguments
Illegal behaviorImmoral behaviorSubjective behavior
![Page 59: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/59.jpg)
Hierarchy of Arguments
1. Insecurity2. Prejudice3. Judgmental4. Anger
![Page 60: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/60.jpg)
Insecurity:
Not confident or sure
Beset by fear and anxiety
![Page 61: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/61.jpg)
Prejudice:
Preconceived judgment or opinion
An adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge
![Page 62: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/62.jpg)
Anybody here seen my old friend Martin? Can you tell me where he’s gone?He freed lotta people but it seems the good they die young,You know, I just looked around and he’s gone,Didn’t you love the things that (he) stood for?Didn’t (he) try to find some good in you and me? And we’ll be freeSome day soon, it’s gonna be one day
Abraham, Martin and John
By Richard Holler
![Page 63: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/63.jpg)
Separate but equal
![Page 64: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/64.jpg)
“Civil Disobedience”
![Page 65: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/65.jpg)
“He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with evil.”
![Page 66: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/66.jpg)
“he who lives by the sword will perish by the sword…to meet hate with retaliatory hate would do nothing but intensify the existence of evil in the universe. Hate begets hate, violence
begets violence; toughness begets greater toughness. We must meet the forces of hate with the power of love; we must meet
physical force with soul force.”
![Page 67: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/67.jpg)
Victor Klemperer
I Will Bear Witness
![Page 68: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/68.jpg)
At first the bans began with elements of Victor’s professional life, beginning with his exemption from being able to give exams to his dismissal in 1935 from his post. Then the many different aspects of his personal life were slowly taken away from him,
from the owning of cars, to the use of public libraries, cinemas, entering parks to bans on telephones, radios, and typewriters, to curfews, the ban on buying tobacco and cigarettes, and finally to
increased reduction of food rations.
![Page 69: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/69.jpg)
After Victor is forced to give up his post at the University he gets a pension of half of his salary, but that too is subject to ever-
increasing Jewish taxes. The Jewish people are only allowed to shop between noon and one during the week and between three and four on Saturday. For relief Victor and Eva build a home outside of Dresden. Hitler even bans the owning of homes,
which forces them to rent their house out and move into a Jewish home back in Dresden.
![Page 70: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/70.jpg)
“Never has the tension between human power and powerlessness, human knowledge and
human stupidity been so overwhelmingly great as now.”
![Page 71: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/71.jpg)
“All in all I exist apathetically beyond despair and almost indifference. Tomorrow another appointment
with a moneyman; perhaps a loan can be obtained after all. But my finances are on the point of collapse.”
![Page 72: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/72.jpg)
“Repeated heart problems. Tiredness to the point that I fall asleep at my desk, pains in my throat every time I do physical work, sore eyes and blurred sight.”
“My health is very poor. My heart, my eyes. In addition, painful inflammations on head, shoulders. Weeks of torment at the dentist.”
“And always the inflammation or rheumatic pains on my head, in my eyes, on neck, shoulders and arms, always the heart problems.”
![Page 73: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/73.jpg)
“A week ago today Evan had to lie down because of a new attack of her foot ailment, since then things have gone very bad. She lies down almost the
whole day, propped up in the dining room-movements always brings back pain-and the trouble has a terrible effect on her state of mind.”
“Evan has gone to bed early. Her nerves failed her once again, which manifests itself in her shivering with cold in the evenings with her teeth really
chattering.”
“An abscess developed very suddenly in Eva’s mouth and had to be lanced today.”
![Page 74: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/74.jpg)
“For two weeks Evan has been plagued by headaches, for one week by pains in her mouth, she has developed a nasty abscess on her gums.”
“Eva, already badly worn down by all the moving work, has quite wasted away in recent days.”
“Eva looks very pale and ill. The worst thing is Eva’s declining powers of resistance. Her state of health is
approaching that of genuine melancholy.”
“Eva is lying down a lot-neuralgia in her right arm, suffering greatly.”
![Page 75: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/75.jpg)
For a diversion Victor buys a car until Hitler takes away his driving privilege and eventually forces him to sell
the car at scrap value.
![Page 76: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/76.jpg)
“Then I was alone, and the loud voices outside merged and could not be separated anymore. Once again I had the feeling ‘cinema’ and with it the memory of countless images, comic and tragic, of the prisoner in his cell. Then I was overwhelmed by the
tragic novelty of the whole thing, the banal perception-all the most profound perceptions are banal, at most one man finds a somewhat more original expression for
it than another man-that we know nothing at all except what we have experienced ourselves. Pity is such a shabby thing. I can torment myself with wanting to feel pity, and yet I don’t succeed. How would I fee, Eva, if you were lying sick, if I knew you
were on the operating table next to me? I wanted to feel pity, and my thoughts strayed, I would have liked to hit myself because of my lack of feelings, and my thoughts
strayed here and there to trifles, became egotistical-I did not really feel pity.”
![Page 77: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/77.jpg)
A man in Berlin takes his wife to the hospital so that she can give birth. A picture of Christ hangs over the bed. The man: ‘Nurse, that picture must go, I don’t want the Jewboy to be the first thing
my child sees.’ The nurse: She herself could not do anything about it, she will report it. In the evening he gets a telegram from
the doctor: ‘You have a son. The picture did not need to be removed, the child is blind.’
![Page 78: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/78.jpg)
Judgmental:
Characterized by a tendency to judge harshly
![Page 79: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/79.jpg)
Anger:
Being judgmental
![Page 80: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/80.jpg)
Hitler
![Page 81: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/81.jpg)
Hitler didn’t invent anti-Semitism
![Page 82: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/82.jpg)
Hitler killed himself instead of admitting his prejudice to show us that we will go to divorce
before admitting our prejudices.
![Page 83: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/83.jpg)
The decision is binary:
Freedom or imprisonment
![Page 84: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/84.jpg)
Knowledge and emotions either grow or shrink
![Page 85: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/85.jpg)
Psychic lesions
![Page 86: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/86.jpg)
Every Other Weekend
Reba McEntire
![Page 87: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/87.jpg)
Every other FridayIt’s toys and clothes in backpacks
Is everybody in okay?Let’s go see dad
Same time in the same spotCorner of the same old parking lot
Half the hugs and kisses there are always sadWe trade a couple words and looks
And kids againEvery other weekend
![Page 88: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/88.jpg)
Every other weekendVery few exceptions
I pick up the love we made in both my armsIt’s movies on the sofa
Grilled cheese and cut the crust offBut that’s not the way mom makes it, Daddy breaks my heart
I miss everything we used to have with her againEvery other weekend
![Page 89: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/89.jpg)
I can’t tell her I love herI can’t tell him I love him
Cause there’s too many questions and ears in the carSo, I don’t tell him I miss him
I don’t tell her I need herShe’s over me that’s where we areHe’s over me that’s where we are
We’re as close as we might ever be againEvery other weekend
![Page 90: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/90.jpg)
Every other Saturday First thing in the morning
I turn the TV on to make the quiet go awayI know why but I don’t know why
We ever let this happenFallin’ for forever was a big mistake
There’s so much not to do and all day not do it inEvery other weekend
![Page 91: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/91.jpg)
Every other SundayI empty out my backseat
While my children hug their mother in the parking lotWe don’t touch, we don’t talk much
Maybe goodbye to each otherAs she drives away with every piece of heart I’ve got
I re-convince myself we did the right thingEvery other weekend
![Page 92: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/92.jpg)
I can’t tell her I love herI can’t tell him I love him
Cause there’s too many questions and ears in the carSo, I don’t tell him I miss him
I don’t tell her I need herShe’s over me that’s where we areHe’s over me that’s where we are
We’re as close as we might ever be againEvery other weekend
![Page 93: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/93.jpg)
Yeah, for fifteen minutes, we’re a family againGod I wish that he was still with me again
Every other weekend
![Page 94: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/94.jpg)
History of education:Does the mind think?
![Page 95: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/95.jpg)
IQ tests after WW I:
Average mental age of US officers – 18.8 yearsAverage mental age of soldiers of English descent – 14.9 yearsAverage mental age of soldiers of American descent – 13.8 yearsAverage mental age of Polish descent – 10.7 yearsAverage mental age of African-American descent – 10.4 years
Average mental age of all American adults – 13.7 years
![Page 96: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/96.jpg)
In 1970 less than one percent of all medical and law degrees went to women. By 1990 that
number was over fifty percent.
![Page 97: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/97.jpg)
Me: is the order out of chaos, the great attributes of civilization, the powers of the Gods
Truth, falsehood, fear, terror, strife, peace, weariness, victory, judgment, decision, libel, enmity, power,
straightforwardness, rejoicing the heart, kingship, and lasting ladyship.
![Page 98: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/98.jpg)
The controversial call
![Page 99: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/99.jpg)
Lessons in morality
![Page 100: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/100.jpg)
First love:What a wonderful experience
![Page 101: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/101.jpg)
First love: What a painful experience
![Page 102: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/102.jpg)
A life-altering conversation
![Page 103: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/103.jpg)
Suzanne
![Page 104: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/104.jpg)
“I am writing this even before my trip to New York this weekend. Because I know the
outcome. Thank you for the most wonderful weekend yet! And I know our times together
will become even more enjoyable! This I know.”
![Page 105: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/105.jpg)
“I tuck this note into your bag with a kiss. Missing you already, though you haven’t even
left. Love waits.”
![Page 106: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/106.jpg)
One last desperate attempt:
The letter
![Page 107: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/107.jpg)
Well, we just didn’t work out:
The greatest of all questions:
Why?
![Page 108: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/108.jpg)
A fact that does not support the truth is merely a fiction
Tim Kellis
![Page 109: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/109.jpg)
Are we biological beasts or psychological beings?
![Page 110: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/110.jpg)
Anna O
![Page 111: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/111.jpg)
“If he could get her to remember under hypnosis when, and in what connection, a particular symptom first appeared the symptom would
disappear. In one session, for instance, she traced her inability to drink water back to a time when she saw a little dog drink from a water glass and was
disgusted by the sight; when she came out of the trance she was able o drink and the symptom never returned. Similarly, the talking cure rid her of the
paralysis in her right arm after she recalled that one time, while tending her father, that arm was draped over the back of the chair and became numb, at which point she had had a dream of a black snake approaching and of being
unable to use her arm to fend it off.”
![Page 112: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/112.jpg)
Unfortunately for Breuer, he “was uncomfortable with the topic of sexuality and though at the moment of the hysterical pregnancy he had ‘had the key in his hand’
(as Freud later wrote to a friend), he dropped it…[and] in conventional horror took flight”
![Page 113: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/113.jpg)
Mainstream Psychology today:
“I do not directly address the question of why men and women are different” John Gray
“In the twenty five years that I have been doing work in the field of human behavior, I have seen few if any genuine relationship conflicts ever get
resolved” Dr. Phil
![Page 114: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/114.jpg)
Dr. William James Hypothesizes Thinking
![Page 115: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/115.jpg)
“A string of raw facts; a little gossip and wrangle about opinions; a little classification and generalization on the mere descriptive level; a strong prejudice that we have states of mind, and that our brain conditions them; but not a single proposition from which any consequence can casually be deduced. This is no science, it is only
the hope of a science.”
![Page 116: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/116.jpg)
“the [biological] view that the mind was nothing but the physical reactions to outside stimuli (is) unworthy of
belief or even debate.”
![Page 117: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/117.jpg)
If we think then we have free will
![Page 118: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/118.jpg)
The greatest psychologist who ever lived:
Dr. Carl Gustav Jung
![Page 119: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/119.jpg)
“I had another important experience…I was taking the long road to school from Klein-Huningen, where we lived, to Basel, when suddenly for a single moment I had the overwhelming impression of having just emerged from a
dense cloud. I knew all at once: now I am myself! It was as if a wall of mist were at my back, and behind that wall there was not yet an “I”. But at this
moment I came upon myself. Previously I had existed, too, but everything had merely happened to me. Now I happened to myself. Now I knew: I am
myself now, now I existed. Previously I had been willed to do this and that; now I willed. This experience seemed to me tremendously important and
new…”
![Page 120: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/120.jpg)
“About this time I had a dream which both frightened and encouraged me. It was night in some unknown place, and I was making slow and painful
headway against a mighty wind. Dense fog was flying along everywhere. I had my hands cupped around a tiny light, which threatened to go out at any
moment. Everything depended on my keeping this little light alive. Suddenly I had the feeling that something was coming up behind me. I looked back,
and saw a gigantic black figure following me. But at the same moment I was conscious, in spite of my terror that I must keep my little light going through
night and wind, regardless of all dangers.”
![Page 121: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/121.jpg)
“When I awoke I realized at once that the figure was a ‘specter of Brocken,’ my own shadow on the swirling mists, brought into
being by the little light I was carrying. I knew, too, that this little light was my consciousness, the only light I have. My own understanding is the sole treasure I posses, and the greatest. Though infinitely small and fragile in comparison with the
powers of darkness, it is still a light, my only light.”
![Page 122: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/122.jpg)
Remembered his first dream from between 3 and 4 years of age. He discovered the notion of the personal God by questioning secular religion. He discovered neurosis at 12 years of age. He cured psychiatric patients. His relationship with Freud reveals the positive psyche confronting the negative one. He and Freud independently discovered the repression mechanism.
![Page 123: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/123.jpg)
“I can still recall vividly how Freud said to me, ‘My dear Jung, promise me never to abandon the sexual theory. That is the most essential thing of all. You see, we must
make a dogma of it, an unshakable bulwark.’ He said that to me with the great emotion, in the tone of a father saying, ‘And promise me this one thing, my dear son:
that you will go to church every Sunday.’ In some astonishment I asked him, ‘A bulwark-against what?’ To which he replied, ‘Against the black tide of mud’-and here
he hesitated for a moment, then added-’of occultism.’ First of all, it was the words ‘bulwark’ and ‘dogma’ that alarmed me; for a dogma, that is to say, an undisputable
confession of faith, is set up only when the aim is to suppress doubts once and for all. But that no longer has anything to do with scientific judgment; only with a personal
power drive.”
![Page 124: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/124.jpg)
“Freud, who had always made much of his irreligiosity, had now constructed a dogma, or rather, in place of a jealous God whom he had lost, he had substituted another compelling image, that of
sexuality. It was no less insistent, exacting, domineering, threatening, and morally ambivalent than the original one. Just
as the psychically stronger agency is given ‘divine’ or ‘daemonic’ attributes, so the ‘sexual libido’ took over the role of
a…hidden or concealed god.”
![Page 125: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/125.jpg)
“The name alone had changed, and with it, of course, the point of view: the lost god had now to be sought
below, not above.”
![Page 126: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/126.jpg)
By connecting the development of Gnosticism with Alchemy he discovered the development of myths and symbols. Through these myths and
symbols we learn common sense.
![Page 127: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/127.jpg)
He discovered the collective unconscious and the personal unconscious. The collective unconscious is the
collection of the components of common sense. Our mental imbalances occur when the collective
unconscious and personal unconscious collides.
![Page 128: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/128.jpg)
Jung took up the question of Christianity from a psychological perspective. And the question is what message does Jesus embody? It is very important to
keep in mind the times he lived, for it can be surmised that the state of consciousness some two thousand years ago was much less developed than it is today. The state of consciousness at the time was just beginning to develop when Jesus walked on this great earth. In fact, if you think about Jesus’ life from the perspective of today, some fifty years after Jung died, only then do you answer the question of what he introduced into the world. Jesus was the
first person on earth to attempt to define the message of love as a supernatural concept, one beyond the secular materialism of man.
![Page 129: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/129.jpg)
In essence he put into motion the objective of our emotional relationship with the ones we love. Only today does that message finally get answered. Love is
defined as happiness, not unhappiness. And for that message he was killed, just like Socrates some four hundred years earlier. Socrates was killed for trying to figure out why we think and Jesus was killed because he tried to
figure out why we feel, “Love thy neighbor”, particularly your partner, your nearest neighbor.
![Page 130: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/130.jpg)
The Holy Grail: The Chalice
Representing the woman’s womb
![Page 131: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/131.jpg)
The Holy Grail: Jesus’ crown of thorns
Jesus existed and was crucified
![Page 132: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/132.jpg)
He discovered “wholeness”:
“I use the term ‘individuation’ to denote the process by which a person becomes a psychological ‘in-dividual’,
that is, a separate, indivisible unity or “whole”
![Page 133: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/133.jpg)
He comes to the historic conclusion that the goal of the individual psyche is to balance the ego to discover the self by letting the visions of his dreams and fantasies
coalesce into drawings. He called these pictures “mandalas”.
![Page 134: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/134.jpg)
“Mandala means circle, more especially a magic circle, and this form of symbol is not only to be found all through the East, but also among us; mandalas are amply represented in the Middle Ages. The specifically
Christian ones come from the earlier Middle Ages. Most of them show Christ in the centre, with four evangelists, or their symbols, at the cardinal points. This conception must be a very ancient one because Horus was represented with his four sons in the same way by the Egyptians…For the most part, the mandala form is that of a flower, cross, or wheel, with a distinct tendency
toward four as the basis of the structure.”
![Page 135: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/135.jpg)
“This dream brought with it a sense of finality. I saw that here the goal has been revealed. One could not go beyond the center. The center is the goal,
and everything is directed toward that center. Through this dream I understood that the self is the principle and (instinct) of orientation and
meaning. Therein lies its healing function. For me, this insight signified an approach to the center and therefore to the goal. Out of it emerged a first
inkling of my personal myth.”
![Page 136: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/136.jpg)
“Wherever the psyche is set violently oscillating by (an insecurity), there is a danger that the thread by which one hangs
may be torn. Should that happen, one man tumbles into an absolute affirmation, another into an equally absolute negation…
The pendulum of the mind oscillates between sense and nonsense, not between right and wrong.”
![Page 137: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/137.jpg)
Transference causes divorce
![Page 138: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/138.jpg)
Insecurities
Unbalanced Love
Power
Intimacy
Divorce
Financial
Looks
Jealousy
Friends and Family
Neurotic Behavior
Communication
Admitting mistakes
Irrationality of man’s feelings and woman’s thinking
Loosing part of the self
Alcohol and Drug Addiction
Child Molestation
![Page 139: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/139.jpg)
“Jealous love is a contradictio in adjecto-jealousy is the opposite of love, is envy, is selfishness.”
I Will Bear Witness
Victor Klemperer
![Page 140: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/140.jpg)
“The (insecurity) is dangerous because it lures men to extremes, so that a modest truth is regarded as the truth and a minor
mistake is equated with fatal error.”
![Page 141: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/141.jpg)
“slapped his cheek as if he were pressing a kiss on him, tied a nose-ring on him, like a caught ox,
fastened a rope about his arms like a caught warrior”
![Page 142: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/142.jpg)
The triangle of life
![Page 143: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/143.jpg)
Spirituality
![Page 144: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/144.jpg)
Take this soulStranded in some skin and bones
Take this soulAnd make it sing, sing
Yahweh
U2
![Page 145: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/145.jpg)
Take these handsTeach them what to carry
Take these handsDon’t make a fist
Take this mouthSo quick to criticize
Take this mouthGive it a kiss
![Page 146: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/146.jpg)
Yahweh, YahwehAlways pain before a child is born
Yahweh, YahwehStill I’m waiting for the dawn
Still waiting for the dawn, the sun is comin’ upThe sun is comin’ up on the ocean
This love is like a drop in the oceanThis love is like a drop in the ocean
![Page 147: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/147.jpg)
We have sodomized our culture of marriage
![Page 148: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/148.jpg)
Sodom and Gomorrah
![Page 149: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/149.jpg)
“Then the Lord rained brimstone and fire on Sodom and Gomorrah, from the Lord out of the heavens. Turning
the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah into ashes, condemned them to destruction, making them an
example to those who afterward would live unGodly”
![Page 150: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/150.jpg)
![Page 151: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/151.jpg)
Spirituality
![Page 152: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/152.jpg)
Many Lives, Many Masters
Dr. Brian Weiss
![Page 153: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/153.jpg)
Personality No. 1
Personality No. 2
![Page 154: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/154.jpg)
My Sacrifice
Creed
![Page 155: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/155.jpg)
Hello my friend we meet againIt’s been a while where should we begin…feels like forever
Within my heart are memoriesOf perfect love that you gave to me
I remember
When you are with meI’m free…I’m careless…I believe
Above all the others we’ll flyThis brings tears to my eyes
My sacrifice
![Page 156: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/156.jpg)
We’ve seen our share of ups and downsOh how quickly life can turn around in an instant
It feels so good to reuniteWithin yourself and within your mind
Let’s find peace there
When you are with meI’m free…I’m careless…I believe
Above all the others we’ll flyThis brings tears to my eyes
My sacrifice
I just want to say hello again
![Page 157: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/157.jpg)
Age of Aquarius
(Aquarius/Let the sunshine in)
![Page 158: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/158.jpg)
“I think that this is what can be said at the end of our aeon of the Fishes, and perhaps must be said in view of the coming aeon of Aquarius (the Water
Bearer), who has a human figure and is next to the sign of the fishes…The Water Bearer seems to represent the self. With a sovereign gesture he pours the contents of his jug into the mouth of Piscis austrinus, which symbolizes a son, a still unconscious content. Out of this unconscious content will emerge,
after the passage of another aeon of more than two thousand years, a future whose features are indicated by the symbol of Capricorn:…the monstrosity of
the Goat-Fish, symbolizing the mountains and the depths of the sea…This strange being could easily be the primordial image of a Creator-god
confronting ‘man’”
![Page 159: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/159.jpg)
Pisces
Age ruled by the “sword”
![Page 160: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/160.jpg)
In other words, for two thousand years after Christ we lived according to the symbol of the fish (and the “sword”). We have had to develop to the point
where we could feed most of humanity (and realize that wars are bad). We are now at the dawn of the Age of Aquarius where every one of us is tasked to
figure out who we are by balancing our egos and discovering our self, to find spirituality to become whole. After another two thousand years we get to
meet our maker on earth, what The Bible tells us will eventually happen. The transition required between the two in a relationship today is for us to make
conscious what is unconscious, a psychological endeavor.
![Page 161: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/161.jpg)
So the bottom line with all that we have gone through here is that the struggles of civilization for thousands of years has simply been to accomplish one
thing…to develop to the point so that you can become an individual, the path to happiness, and the first necessary step before a happy, healthy, harmonious,
loving affectionate, intimate relationship is possible.
Hopefully what has been presented here will help you get there.
![Page 162: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/162.jpg)
Just Wait
Blues Traveler
![Page 163: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/163.jpg)
If ever you are feeling like you’re tiredAnd all your uphill struggles leave you headed downhill
If you realize your wildest dreams can hurt youAnd your appetite for pain has drinken its fill
I ask of you a very simple questionDid you think for one minute that you are aloneAnd is your suffering a privilege you share only
Or did you think that everybody else feels completely at home
Just wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will come
![Page 164: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/164.jpg)
If you think I’ve given up on you you’re crazyAnd if you think I don’t love you well then you’re just wrong
In time you just might take to feeling betterTime is the beauty of the road being long
I know that now you feel no consolationBut maybe if I told you and informed you out loud
I say this without fear of hesitationI can honestly tell you that you make me proud
Just wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will comeJust wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will come
![Page 165: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/165.jpg)
If anything I might have just said has helped youIf anything I might have just said helped you just carry on
Your rise uphill may no longer seem a struggleAnd your appetite for pain may all but be gone
I hope for you and cannot stop at hopingUntil that smile has once again returned to your faceThere’s no such thing as a failure who keeps trying
Coasting to the bottom is the only disgrace
Just wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will comeJust wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will comeJust wait, Just wait, Just wait…And it will come
![Page 166: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/166.jpg)
There’s no such thing as a failure who keeps tryingCoasting to the bottom is the only disgrace
I look forward to seeing you on the mountaintop
![Page 167: Happy Relationships Presentation](https://reader036.vdocuments.net/reader036/viewer/2022081519/5589ef22d8b42add0d8b46ec/html5/thumbnails/167.jpg)
Place Copy here…
SLIDE TITLE HERESLIDE TITLE HERE