healthy relationships workbook

Healthy Relationships Workbook

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High School and Transitions Programs

2019 - 2020

What is Healthy Relationships?

In this class you are going to learn about:• What makes a relationship good for you • Different types of relationships • What makes a relationship bad for you

Once you know about healthy relationships, you can:• Have Healthy Relationships• Stay away from abusive relationships

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Why Should You Learn About Healthy Relationships?

What do YOU want when you are an adult?

What other things do you want?________________________________________________________

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What is Healthy?Circle the healthy things.

Put an X on the unhealthy things.

Healthy things are for you!

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What is a Relationship?A relationship connects people to each other

People are connected to their families

People are connected to their friends

Students are connected to their classmates

Relationships ______________________people.4


Who Are You Connected To?

Write the names of the people you know in the puzzle pieces.

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What Makes A Healthy Relationship?

These 3 words are a part of every healthy relationship!

Let’s learn about Respect…

What does respect mean to you?

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Choices

Trust


Respect

Respect is showing that you care about people.

Circle the pictures that show respect.

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Choices

In a Healthy Relationship you make some choices together. • What activities you do together• What movies to see

In a Healthy Relationships you still get to make some choices by yourself.• What food you like• What friends to hang out with

In a Healthy Relationship, no one gets bossed around.8


Trust

You must get to KNOW people before you trust them.

It takes TIME to get to know people.

You know who to trust by how people BEHAVE.

• People you can trust keep their promises.• People you can trust tell the truth.• People you can trust stick up for friends and family.• People you can trust don’t cheat.• People you can trust don’t steal.

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Personal Rules

Personal rules are CHOICES you get to make about your body.

You choose how much Personal Space do you like.

You choose if you want to be hugged.

You choose how you like to be talked to..

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What are YOUR Personal Rules?

Think about how you like to treat YOUThink about how you like people to treat your things.

For example, do you like your privacy?Do you like it when people ask before using your things?

What are some rules that are IMPORTANT to you?

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Teaching people your rules

How do I do it? • Sit up or stand up straight• Look at the other person• Use a nice voice• Tell the person what you need them to do

Which of the people below would you like to talk to?

Who looks like they are teaching about personal rules?

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Friend or Acquaintance?

What is the difference between a friend and an acquaintance?

A Friend is someone: • You know a lot about• You have known for a while• You do fun things with • You enjoy spending time with

How long you have known your best friend?

An Acquaintance is someone:• You do not know very well• Is with you because of their job• Who gets paid to be with you

Here are some people who are acquaintances

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What is Dating?

Dating IS NOT a relationship!Dating is doing fun activities with someone you like.You go on dates to get to know someone better.

What fun things can you do on a date?

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Are there people you CAN’T date?

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Friend or Boyfriend/Girlfriend?

What is the difference between a friend or a boyfriend or girlfriend?

A Friend is someone: • You know a lot about• You have known for a while• You do fun things with • You enjoy spending time with

A boyfriend or girlfriend is someone: • You have very strong feelings for• You like a lot!• You want to spend a lot of time with• You want to hold hands with

How are friends and boyfriends or girlfriends the same?

How are they different?

Are there people who can’t be your boyfriend or girlfriend?

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Jealousy in Boyfriend and Girlfriend Relationships

There is a kind of jealousy that is very DANGEROUS.This jealousy is in a relationship.This kind of jealousy is about controlling the other person.It is about taking away the other person’s choices.

This turns the other person in the relationship into a thing.

This is not love.

This is not healthy.

This is dangerous!

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What is an Unhealthy Relationship?

In an unhealthy relationship there is: • no RESPECT, • no TRUST and • no CHOICE.

An unhealthy relationship is NOT good for you.An unhealthy relationship hurts you.An unhealthy relationship makes you feel sad.An unhealthy relationship makes you feel afraid.

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Respect

Choices

Trust


How Unhealthy Relationships HurtThese are the ways people can be hurt:

Their money can be used by someone else, this is called Financial Abuse.

People can say things to make them feel sad or bad about themselves, this is called Emotional Abuse.

They can be hit, slapped or punched, this is called Physical Abuse.

They can be forced to do sexual things,this is called Sexual Abuse.

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What You Can Do

If you think you are being abused, tell an adult you trust.

Tell someone who IS NOT the person hurting you.

Here are some ideas of people you might tell.• Parents• Grandparents • Aunt or Uncle• Older brothers or sisters• Teachers

Write down the name of the person you would tell.

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Being abused is NEVER your fault!

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Getting Help

This page has places that can help you. Share it with the person helping you!

For abuse of children up to age 17, call Child Protective Services:_______________________________________

For abuse of people 18 or over, call Adult Protective Services:______________________________________

For help with abuse in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship call: ________________________________________________

For therapy and support after sexual abuse call:________________________________________________

To report to the police call: ______________________

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Just For Fun

Quizzes,

Mazes and

Word Searches

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The Healthy Relationships Workbookby Theresa Fears MSW

Artwork by Polly PowellCopyright The Arc of Spokane 2019

Funding for this workbook provided through the Washington State Sexual Assault Primary Prevention/Rape Prevention and

Education (RPE) grant from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC)

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