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Love is like a puzzle,when you’re in love, all the pieces fit,but when your heart gets broken, it takes a while to get everything back together.

- Anonymous

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THE STORY


GETTING TO KNOW

“I love you.” It is a sentence most of us have probably used at one time or another, though we probably do not want elaborate on the context we have used it in.

But hey!, what’s wrong with love ?

As a wise Lennon once proclaimed, all you need is love, and how very right he was! Love is one of the central human emotions. We all experience love for someone or something, to varying degrees, at one time or another. Most of the time, when we think of love, it brings a warm, fuzzy, and sometimes naugh-ty feeling – the type that makes us feel that nothing in the world matters, with the exception of our be-loved. The start of a relationship is always the finest hour of romance. It is the magic of first moments, the time when you love every little thing about your lover,including the annoying habits. Romantic ges-tures, soft whispers of undying love and the compel-ling need to be with each other are all the symptoms.

BUT IT DOES NOT LAST FOR LONG AND YOU ARE LEFT WONDERING HOW IT ALL CHANGED...

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THE STORY


BREAK UP

There is no pain like heartbreak when a rela-tionship ends. Whether you were together a few months or many years. It hurts like hell and the entire world comes crushing down on you, right? All those hopes and dreams — gone!

The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both peo-ple. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feel-ings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will defi nitely have to adjust, fi rst to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for.

“When I had to go and work it didn’t feel like me at all. I felt really bad about straddling this buff guy. I didn’t like it. I couldn’t get out of bed for two weeks. I thought I was going to die.” And also when she and Johnny Depp broke up, she reacted how any woman of sound mind would. She turned into a crying mess. For years. Yes, years!

SPLIT UP

NEVER FUNBREAKING UP IS

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“I HAD A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN WHEN I WAS 17 OR 18” - KATE MOSS

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SAYING GOOD-BYEIS HEARTBREAKING,

Heartbreak – the worst pain is the pain of a broken heart. You can not eat, or eat EVERYTHING in sight just to feel better. You can not sleep, you can not breathe, you can not go on. Life becomes a hazy glob of days fi lled with dull pain in your chest, a knot in the stomach, feelings of anger, hurt, and sadness. You cry and cry until you run out of tears.

JERKS

MOST OF US

ABOUT IT!

AND

ARE TOTAL

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NO ONE EVER DIED OF A BROKENHEARTBUT IT CERTAINLY FEELS THAT WAY

MOST OF US KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE HEART BROKEN, WHETHER IT IS YOUNG LOVE THAT IS RUN OUT OF PASSION OR A MORE MATURE RELATIONSHIP.

A BROKENHEARTBUT IT CERTAINLY FEELS THAT WAY BUT IT CERTAINLY FEELS THAT WAY

MOST OF US KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO

MORE MATURE RELATIONSHIP.

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“YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” “YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.”

“YOU WOULD HAVE NO F*CKING IDEA HOW BAD IT FEELS.” - ANONYMOUS HEART BROKEN FOUR

“I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” “I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” “I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” “I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” “I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” “I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.”

“IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERI-ENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” “IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DISCOMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.”

“IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOME-TIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOME-TIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOME-TIMES YOUR NUMB.” “IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.”

“IT’S A FEELING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE IT. IT’S A CONSTANT PAIN AND DIS-COMFORT THAT YOU STRUGGLE WITH ALL DAY.” - ANONYMOUS HEARTBROKEN TWO

“I FEEL LIKE A PART OF MY BODY HAS GONE, AND IT’S JUST LEFT THIS PAIN THAT WON’T GO AWAY.” - ANONYMOUS HEARTBROKEN ONE

“IT FEELS LIKE THERE IS A HOLE IN YOUR CHEST, SOMETIMES YOUR NUMB.” - ANONYMOUS HEARTBROKEN THREE

AND EVENT MORE...

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THE ROMANCE ENDS ?Romantic Love is when attraction and closeness are combined. Lots of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush) and develop into closeness. It’s also possible for a friendship to move from closeness into attraction as two people realize their relationship is more than “just like” and they have become interested in one another in a romantic way.

For people falling in love for the fi rst time, it can be hard to tell the difference between the intense, new feelings of physical attraction and the deeper closeness that goes with being in love. Sometimes couples who fall in love develop committed relationships that last. Many relationships don’t last, though. We typically have shorter relationships, it is about a time when we instinctively seek lots of different experiences and try out different things. It’s all part of discovering who we are, what we value, and what we want out of life.

Another reason we tend to have shorter relationships because the things we want to get out of a roman-tic relationship change as we get a little older. Especially for guys — re-lationships are mainly about physi-cal attraction. But by the time guys, they rate a person’s inner qualities as most important. Girls emphasize closeness as most important — al-though they don’t mind if a potential love interest is cute too!

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If a relationship is destined to last, this is where close-ness enters the picture. The early passionate intensity may fade, but a deep affectionate attachment takes its place.

When people fi rst experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. They may doodle the person’s name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing.

The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while. Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever.

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I t needs to be cared for and nurtured i f i t i s to last through t ime. Just l ike f r iendships, re lat ionships can fa i l i f they are not g iven enough t ime and a t tent ion. Th is i s one reason why some couples might not last perhaps some-one is so busy that he or she has less t ime for a re lat ionship, maybe a re la-t ionship ends when people take d i f-ferent career paths or maybe each person wants d i f ferent th ings out of the re lat ionship. Somet imes both people rea l i ze the re lat ionship has reached i t s end ; somet imes one person fee l s th i s way when the other d o e s n o t .

L O V E I S D E L I C A T E

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HOW COME ?


WHYIT’S OVER ?

14%

11%

9%

* The results are based on more than 500 male and female users of Wot Went Wrong, a reverse dating site that allows exes to get and give answers about unsuccessful relationships.

Can you guess why? Here are the most common reasons that people use for breaking up, it is pretty surprised by some of the responses from the poll, so let’s see.

GUYS GET DUMPED

- ALWAYS LATE - LACK OF ATTRACTION- TOO MUCH FIGHTING

THERE’S SOMEONE ELSE

TOO SHORT

This is a defi nite a problem. Girl were probably trying to like the guy and just realized that they felt too self-con-scious being with him.

12%DIETARY HABITS DIFFER TOO MUCH

common reasons that people use for breaking up, it is pretty surprised by some of the responses from the poll, so let’s see.

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HOW COME ?


15%

11%

9%

10%

GIRLS GET DUMPED

ALWAYS LATE LACK OF ATTRACTIONTOO MUCH FIGHTING

THE GUY DOESN’T FEEL LIKE HE’S A PRIORITY

THE GUY ISN’T READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP

BAD HYGIENE

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PEOPLE BREAK UP FOR SOME STUPID REASONS. SOMEONE GOT DUMPED IN THAT BECAUSE THEY ‘SMELLED OF SOUP!’ WELL, FICKLETATTOOS.COM HAS DONE A SURVEY TO FIND SOME OF THE BIZARRE REASONS WHY COUPLES HAVE ENDED A RELATIONSHIP.

One answer put a break-up down to a partner is they refused to wash their Sunday league football kit. Some guys said they split with girlfriends because of a creepy nan, while the girls blamed bad aftershave, heavy breathing and not cutting their fingernails “Some of the reasons uncovered by our poll were fickle to say the least,” explained David Wain-Heapy, the site’s founder. “In some of the instances cited, you have to think the partner probably had a lucky escape.”

HOW COME ?

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“SHE REPEATEDLY IGNORED REQUESTS TO LEAVE THE TOILET LID UP, WHICH AFFECTED MY EASE OF USE.”

“HER NAN KEPT GIVING ME THE EYE, AND IT CREEPED ME OUT.”

“MY MATES TOLD ME SHE WAS UGLY ALL THE TIME AND I COULDN’T TAKE THE BANTER.”

“THE WAY HE PRONOUNCED CERTAIN WORDS REALLY WOUND ME UP.”

“HE NEVER FLUSHED THE LOO SO HE HAD TO GO.”

“HE DIDN’T CUT HIS FINGER NAILS OFTEN ENOUGH WHICH MADE ME FEEL PHYSICALLY ILL.”

HOW COME ?

STRANGEST BREAKUPREASONS

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I F Y O U A R E G O I N G

T H R O U G HH E L L

JUST KEEP G OING

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I F Y O U A R E G O I N G

T H R O U G HH E L L

JUST KEEP G OING

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THEY SAY

“TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS”

YES,

BUT IT JUST DOESN’T SEEM TO

GET MUCH BETTER WITH TIME

DOES IT

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TOP TIPS!BEING HEARTBROKEN CAN BE A TOUGHT TIME OF YOUR LIFE

Well, we’ve got your back!

Bringing you some top tips

to help you go through the trauma

with the least possible pain,

in the shortest period of time.

That’s right, distract yourself as much as possible. Out of sight, out of mind! MAKE SURE you busy yourself with pro-ductive activities like exercise, friend-time, focusing on school or work.

This is no time to put on a brave face. You’re wrought with disappointment and loss, it’s O-K to cry!, just for a while.AVOID being so dramatic too long.You won’t get any award for this.

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distraction!

cry it out!

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TOP TIPS!

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talk about it!

plan for future!

dance it out!Put on something upbeat.NO sappy love songs allowed!Be silly, be funky, have fun with it. It sounds crazy, but getting your real heart beating this way will do wonders for your proverbial broken one.

Talk about your feelings with a friend.WARN THEM that they may get sick of listening to you say the same things over and over but you really need their help. Then set a mental deadline in your head.

Stop living in the past, focus on the fu-ture. Think about the positive ways your life will change; more time for friends, pursuing old hobbies or taking up new ones. Just having more YOU time.

When you can think of the past

and smile

you’ll know that

you’re well on your way!

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“ M U S I C G I V E S A S O U L T O T H E U N I V E R S E ,

W I N G S T O T H E M I N D ,

F L I G H T T O T H E I M A G I N A T I O N

A N D L I F E T O E V E RY T H I N G . ”

- PL ATO


TRACK WE

Do you? So we thought we would share to mend your heart!

WE LOVE MUSIC!

LIANNE LA HAVASFORGET

OK GOTHIS TOO SHALL PASS

PASSION PITIT’S NOT MY FAUT I”M HAPPY

NOAH AND THE WHALEL.I.F.E.G.O.E.S.O.N

HAIMDON’T SAVE ME

FLORENCE + THE MACHINESHAKE IT OUT

// GET OUR ONLINE PLAYLIST &

// UPDATE THE LATEST TRACK WITH US.

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ON OUR PLAYLIST

These are the songs on our“HURTS LIKE HEAVEN” PlaylistWe carefully selected, 17 tracksDefi nitely make you cry a river!You’ll never get enough of hurt.

PLAYLIST OF

THE MONTH*

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Get your tissue ready, Then go ahead!

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SPIRITUALIZED BROKEN HEART

GAYNGS CRY

KODALINE ALL I WANT

LANA DEL REY SUMMERTIME SADNESS

THE NATIONAL TERRIBLE LOVE

JUPITER OH I

NO CEREMONY/// HEARTBREAKER

LOCAL NATIVES YOU & I

M O N E Y LETTER TO YESTERDAY

NORAH JONES LITTLE BROKEN HEARTS

ASAF AVIDAN DIFFERENT PULSES

BEST COAST OUR DEAL

LOS CAMPESINOS! BROKEN HEARTBEATS

SOUND LIKE BREAK BEATS

SUMMER HEART BROKEN HEARTS

ZWAN OF A BROKEN HEART

THE DRUMS HOW IT ENDED

NOVEMBER

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PEOPLE

INTER-VIEW

The word heartbreak have never been so inspiring...We’be been chatting with these cool people who had heart-wrenching break-up but they earned andlearned everything from it.

ADELE’S HEARTBREAK INSPIRED “ROLLING IN THE DEEP”

When she had started writing her new album in earnest in early 2009, Adele was still in her “fi rst real relationship” but then it all started to fall apart. The day after she split with her long-term boyfriend, Adele went into the studio to write a ballad.

“WHEN I’M ABOUT TO GET ANGRY IN MY HEART, I CAN REALLY FEEL MY BLOOD FLOW-ING AROUND MY BODY... AND I KEPT GO-ING: ‘FEEL MY HEARTBEAT PAUL!’ AND THE BEAT OF THE SONG WAS MY HEARTBEAT... IT JUST BUILT AND BUILT.” AND SO “ROLLING IN THE DEEP” WAS BORN.

'I'M A FAILURE...THAT'S WHY I SING'

- ADELE

Her songs began as ‘drunken diary ramblings’, but were soon turned into dramatic, fully fl edged pieces of music by producers Rick Rubin (famous for getting the best out of Johnny Cash and the Red Hot Chili Peppers) and Paul Epworth (a British whiz who has worked with Adele’s friend Florence Welch, of Florence And The Machine).

‘My music is based on personal experience, so I have to live a little before I can write anything,’ admits Adele. ‘It took a break-up to get me going. When I’m happy, I don’t have much to write about.‘The songs on 19 were about my fi rst, teenage love. He cheated on me, so it was a traumatic record.

The song reached number one in 11 countries, reaching the top spot on many Billboard charts. “Rolling in the Deep” is the fourth song to top the Billboard Year-End Hot 100 singles chart and to win both Grammy Award for Record of the Year and Song of the Year in the same year.

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PEOPLE

WHEN OLINKA VISTICA, A FILM PRODUCER, AND DRAZEN GRUBISIC, A SCULPTOR, BROKE UP IN 2003

AFTER FOUR YEARS TOGETHER, THEY HAD ACCUMULATED ENOUGH STUFF TO FILL A MUSEUM.

Three years later, they decided to actually make one. They asked friends to contribute their own failed relationship artifacts and curated an exhibit in their hometown of Zagreb, Croatia.

The exhibit eventually toured the world, collect-ing cast-off mementos, love letters, and forget-me-nots, along the way. In 2010, the Museum of Broken Relationships settled in a permanent spot in Zagreb’s Upper Town neighborhood. It was awarded the 2011 Kenneth Hudson Award for being the most innovative museum in Europe.

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STREET TALK

INTER-VIEW

We’re out in the town, totally excited!Let’s see what’s the other people’s experiences.

ASHLEY, 21

“DEFINITELY PINTS OF ICE CREAM!’ UGH... I SHOULDN’T HAVE EATEN THAT.

TIME WITH FRIENDS. IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW YOU’RE NOT ALONE.

TELL US THE FUNNY THING ABOUT IT :

ANY TOP TIPS :

TELL US ABOUT YOUR STORY :

“AFTER I BROKE UP WITH MY EX, I HAD A HELL TIME TO GET OVER IT. LOTS OF CRYING, PINTS OF ICE CREAM, AND THE SUPPORT OF MY CLOSEST FRIENDS.”

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STREET TALK

Nick, 23

MAKE A MIX WITH YOUR FAVOURITE HEARTBREAK SONGS, AND WALK AROUND FOR A FEW HOURS LISTENING TO IT.

“I’VE NEVER HAD SUCH A HURRICANE DRUNK BEFORE, TO-TALLY MESSED UP!”

ANY TOP TIPS :

TELL US THE FUNNY THING ABOUT IT :

TELL US ABOUT YOUR STORY :

“A RECENT HEARTBREAK, I WAS A HUGE MESS THE FIRST WEEK. I FEEL INVISIBLE, WORTHLESS, AND CRAZY. BUT FINALLY I GET OVER IT AND I’VE LEARNED A LOT FROM IT.

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