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HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI M ULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNS ELIN G SERVICES

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Page 1: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

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Page 2: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

INTRODUCTIONS

Page 3: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

THE NAUGHTY NO MORE STORY

Page 4: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

IDENTIFYING FEELINGS& COMMUNICATING UNDERSTANDING

Verbally

Non-verbally

facial expressions

body language

Para-verbally

Even when freshly washed and relieved of all obvious

confections, children tend to be sticky. 

Fran Lebowitz

Page 5: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

WHAT’S THE FEELING?

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WHEN THEY CAN TALK IT OUT THEY DON’T HAVE TO ACT OUT

• Use feeling words

• Use interjections

• Use developmentally appropriate language

• Use culturally-centric language

• Exaggerate your tone

• Exaggerate your non-verbal language

• Match non-verbal & verbal language

Play is the Way

Page 8: HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

Changing your lens:

Manipulative >

Hyper>

Stubborn>

Childish>

Whiny>

Disrespectful>

THE POSITIVES DETECTIVE

What are some positives in yourself as a parent/teacher/caregiver?

What are some positives in this child?

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I’M THE BOSS OF ME! Below put an X next to all this times when you have let anger be the boss. I get angry with myself when I…  feel tired say things that are mean hurt other people make a mistake don’t do well in school when I lose say things that I do not

mean  You add some more…        

 Now try this, put an X next to the ways that you can be the boss of you even when anger is trying to be the boss.In order to feel better I can…

take a breath give myself a time out go for a walk (My mom says you

have to ask a grown up first) PLAY draw pretend talk to someone You add some…

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STABILITY & CONSISTENCY

How do you create it in your home or classroom?

TimeSoundSightsResponsesRitualsTraditionsCelebrationsWays of getting recognition

MealsDaysExpectationsConsequencesOf your wordEmotionResponsibilitiesSmells

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www.integrativecounseling.us

www.jodiannmullen.com

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/freakishlywellbehavedkids

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