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A Wedding is a One-Day Event . . . A Marriage is a
Lifetime!
THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE
Congratulations on your decision to marry! The next months will be busy ones as you plan your wedding celebration and prepare for your upcoming marriage. We hope during this exciting time that you take time to listen to God’s call in your lives as you journey toward a Christ centered marriage.
Here at St. Joseph the Worker Parish, we view our responsibility as two-fold, to help you prepare to live the Sacrament of Marriage for the rest of your life and to celebrate the Sacrament of Marriage through a wedding liturgy. Accordingly, the preparation process for marriage is a thorough and thoughtful one.
The guidelines given here are the work of members and staff of this parish who believe deeply in the holiness of the Sacrament of Marriage. The information in this booklet is based on the premise that prayer and holy actions within a family setting surround the Sacrament of Marriage. As a parish community, we support and have incorporated the Archdiocesan Marriage Guidelines into our marriage preparation process. As such, the presider ascertains with the couples and with the help of the companion couple, the couple’s readiness for marriage.
Christian marriage is different from secular culture’s attitude toward marriage and love; we see it as a sign of God’s love. Christian marriage is not merely a civil contract between two people, but instead it is a covenant in which two people are joined in perfect union with GOD.
The staff and parishioners of St. Joseph the Worker wish you all of God’s richest blessings on your wedding day!
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THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE – Contact Directory
Contact Directory
Fr. Don Piché email only(in Residence) [email protected]
Fr. Mike Sullivan 763-400-7201Pastor [email protected]
Kevin O’Connor 763-425-6505 x101Deacon
John Wallin 612-751-6284Deacon
[email protected] of Marriage Ministry
Aaron Carpenter 763-400-7204Director of Worship [email protected]
Tarri Nelson 763-400-7205, 612-850-1226Assoc. Director of Worship [email protected] Liturgist
Becky Christensen 612-978-0586Wedding Coordinator rebecca.m.christensen
Heather Kovaleski 651-785-6075Wedding Coordinator
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St Joseph the Worker7180 Hemlock Lane
Maple Grove MN 55369763-425-6505
Fax 763-425-6587
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CONTACTS PAGENames of Contact people you will meet with in preparing for your wedding:
Presider/Officiant of wedding: ______________________ phone: _______________ Email: _________________________
Meeting dates: _____________ _______________ _______________ meeting #1 date meeting #2 date meeting #3 date
Companion Couple: _____________________________ phone: ______________Email: ______________________________Meeting dates: _________ __________ ___________ ___________ _________ date date date date date
Wedding Liturgist: Tarri Nelson phone: 763-400-7205Email:[email protected] date __________________
Wedding Coordinator: __________________________Phone______________________Email:_______________________________________
Websites you may want to check out: http://catholicweddinghelp.com/index.htm http://foryourmarriage.org
Documents you must provide for your wedding:You need to turn in:
1. BAPTISMAL CERTIFICATES: A recent (issued within the last 3 months) copy of the baptismal certificate for each Catholic person needs to be brought to the marriage preparation session. A copy of the original is NOT acceptable for Catholics. A photocopy of the baptismal certificate, copy of baptismal registry or letter from the church of baptism is acceptable for Christians baptized in other denominations.
2. FREEDOM TO MARRY FORM 2: This binder contains a purple folder which has two “Freedom to Marry” (Form 2); these can be found in the front pocket. One completed Form 2 is necessary for both the bride and groom. Someone who has known you for your whole life (i.e. a parent) should complete this form. These documents should be brought to your first meeting with the priest or deacon who is the celebrant of your marriage ceremony.
3. PREVIOUS MARRIAGE: If a prior marriage occurred for one or both parties then they must produce a certified statement by the Catholic Church of nullity or freedom to marry for all previous marriages. No wedding date can be set or marriage preparation started until parties previously married produce certified documents stating they are free to marry.
Please be aware that St. Joseph the Worker is an active, growing parish with many activities and ministries. Your wedding day is a wonderful and important day for you and your guests; however, many activities and ministries can take place simultaneously at different locations within our parish building. Every effort will be made to ensure that no disruptions will occur during your wedding celebration.
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STEP 1: FIRST MEETING:
Receive Marriage Preparation notebook and Marriage Preparation folder.
Talk over any concerns or questions you may have and to talk about the requirements to have a Catholic marriage and the process of marriage preparation.
Discuss the marriage preparation process and submit the filled out information forms and signed contract (with payment ) that you received in the mail after you have made your initial call to get the marriage preparation started.
Without the signed Wedding Date Contract and payment, we will not be able to
start the marriage preparation process.
select your wedding date
Pay the fees $335.00
Receive the name of the priest or deacon who will officiate your wedding ceremony. It is your responsibility to call the priest or deacon who will officiate at your wedding mass or ceremony and introduce yourselves and schedule your meetings with him.
o The presider (officiant) at your wedding liturgy will be either a priest or a deacon.
o The presider is assigned to your wedding liturgy based on whether it is a mass or a ceremony only. If it is a Mass, a celebration of the Eucharist, a priest will be assigned.
o If it is a ceremony only, a deacon will be assigned.
If you would like a priest or deacon other than those available at St. Joseph the Worker Church then you will be responsible to arrange for it and provide the information to us. There are documents and approvals that are necessary to accomplish this and the sooner we are notified the better.
WEDDING CONTRACT/FEES
When completing the wedding contract, please fill in all details completely. You will need to indicate wedding date and time. Saturday wedding Masses must start no later than 2pm or earlier and Saturday wedding services must start no later than 2:30pm or
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earlier. Friday weddings may be scheduled for the time of your choice, please note that Friday evening traffic into Maple Grove (especially during the summer) is often very heavy.
WEDDING CONTRACT/FEES (Continued )
You will also need to indicate a rehearsal time. Generally these are set for the evening before the wedding at 6pm, however, there can be some flexibility in this. Please see the note above about Friday evening traffic.
Please indicate which space you would like to use to celebrate your wedding. If you will have fewer than 100 guests, you will find that the Holy Family Chapel will allow each of them to see, hear and participate more fully in your celebration; due to the size of the Worship space, you will find that small groups are often unable to hear and participate well, therefore, you will be encouraged to celebrate your wedding in the Holy Family Chapel. You should also indicate whether you would like a Wedding Service or Wedding Mass.
Attach the necessary church fee and Inventory processing fee. Fees: The fee is $335.00 for parishioners and includes the Pre-Marriage Inventory fee.
One of you must be registered either individually or listed as a family member on a parishioner’s registration. Only one of you needs to be a registered parishioner to be eligible. You will receive a form to fill out to become a member of St. Joseph the Worker Church. The fee includes all expenses for church use and the Pre-Marriage Inventory processing fee. You need only write one check payable to St. Joseph the Worker for both the church fees and the inventory fee.
If you cancel your wedding at St. Joseph the Worker within 90 days, all unused fees will be returned to you, minus the inventory fee of $35. After that 90-day period, weddings can be rescheduled without penalty but will not be refunded.
The pastors, deacons and staff of the Parish Community of St. Joseph the Worker wish you all the good things that can come from Christian marriage and family living. We want to acknowledge the past and present preparation you have already gone through from the experience of your parents’ marriages, family life, and dating others. As part of your future preparation, we have developed a marriage preparation program to do our part in fostering a happy and stable Christian marriage.
Engagement and marriage preparation is a time for discernment of God’s call to commit to each other for the rest of your lives. Sufficient time is needed to discover strengths and areas for growth in your relationship and to understand the meaning of the vocation
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of marriage. Therefore, all wedding dates are considered “tentative” until the marriage preparation process is completed.
STEP 2: MARRIAGE PREPARATION
THE PROCESS OF MARRIAGE PREPARATION
1. During the first meeting with the deacon you review the preparation process, receive printed materials, register to become parishioners (if not already done), and check on available dates. You also discuss special circumstances and schedule subsequent meetings and given celebrant’s name for you to schedule your first meeting.
2. Your next meeting will be your first meeting with the celebrant of your wedding ceremony.You will complete the prenuptial paper work. (Form 1, Application for Dispensation and Permissions (if applicable). Turn in Form 2’s, Baptismal Certificates and any other documents you may have completed that are necessary for your wedding. Get to know the priest/deacon.
3. You will be required to take the “PREPARE” online assessment to identify your current strengths and growth areas as a couple. You will be assigned and meet with a trained companion couple from our parish to spend a few sessions discussing your assessment results. Usually you will meet 3 or 4 times with the companion couple.
4. Your second meeting with the celebrant of your wedding ceremony will take place after your last meeting with your companion couple and you have completed the weekend retreat. Bring the certificate along with you. Fill out the Marriage Preparation Feedback Form (in your notebook) and bring it along to give to the priest/deacon presiding at your wedding. The priest or deacon will spend some time explaining the Catholic Church’s teaching regarding the theology of the Sacrament of Marriage and its implications.
5. Your third and last meeting with the presider of your wedding ceremony, you will discuss details of the wedding ceremony itself. Have picked out Scripture readings to talk about. Your vows selected. Any issues regarding the ceremony will be discussed and planned out.
6. Meeting with Wedding Liturgist. She will help you with the liturgy planning phase. The wedding work sheet will be filled out and turned in for approval.
7. Meeting/talk on phone with your wedding Coordinator. She will be with you for the rehearsal and the wedding day. She will contact you 2-3 weeks before wedding
8. The wedding rehearsal happens one or two nights before the wedding and lasts less than an hour. All persons having an active role in the ceremony should
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attend.
9. The weddings at St. Joseph the Worker Church will be officiated by one of our resident priests or deacons unless you notify us that you are requesting a priest or deacon from elsewhere to officiate your wedding. The general rule is that the Wedding Ceremony with Masses, a priest will be selected. The Wedding Ceremony without a Mass, a deacon will be selected.
STEP 2A: TAKING THE PREMARRIAGE INVENTORY “PREPARE”.
A part of marriage preparation at St. Joseph the Worker is taking your pre-marriage inventory, PREPARE and meeting with a Companion Couple. This inventory will be administered on line.
This assessment serves a number of purposes:
1. It is designed to help you learn more about yourself, your partner and your relationship.
2. It can help you identify some of the strengths and growth areas in your relationship and also some problematic issues for you to discuss with your partner.
3. The results are not intended to predict your chances for a successful marriage or to determine when or whether you should be married.
4. The inventory is not a test and there are no right or wrong answers.5. The results of the inventory are confidential and will be seen only by Deacon
John, your companion couple and the pastor and/or presider as necessary.
This inventory is a very important tool for beginning your marriage preparation process; therefore, please answer all questions honestly and completely. Do not try to find the right answer or choose the answer that you think your partner would.
STEP 2B: MEETING WITH A COMPANION COUPLE
Marriage Preparation Companion Couples are volunteer couples from St. Joseph the Worker parish that have been trained to give you feedback on the PREPARE inventory and to teach you skills relating to communication, conflict resolution, financial management, and goal setting. Sharing from their own experience of Christian married life, they will help you reflect on the strengths and growth areas in your relationship. This is not a counseling relationship; instead the couple will encourage both of you to talk with each other.
You can expect to meet with them at least four to five times in their home. It is your responsibility to make the first contact with your companion couple once you receive their names from Deacon John. If you have difficulty contacting your companion couple, please call or email Deacon John.
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Please notify both Deacon John and the presider of your wedding when you have finished working with your couple.
Meeting with your Companion Couple is one of the key parts of your marriage preparation and should therefore be a priority in your schedule.
STEP 2C: MARRIAGE PREPARATION WEEKEND RETREAT
A part of marriage preparation at St. Joseph the Worker is participating in an approved couple’s retreat. Christian marriage is different from the secular culture’s attitude toward marriage, sex, love, and even finances. Christian marriage is a sacrament, a sign of God’s love. It is God’s plan for you, an action that will foster your unique growth in Christ.
Your premarital retreat is a special opportunity to reflect together on your vocation to Christian Marriage. It is a wonderful opportunity to develop your marital spirituality. Therefore, we encourage you to make this retreat early in the process of your marriage preparation.
Since your available dates and those of the retreats may be limited, you should schedule it as soon as possible.
Brochures of the retreats accepted by St. Joseph the Worker Church are provided in the following plastic sleeve. It is your responsibility, as a couple, to register for and attend this retreat. When you have completed this retreat, you will want to bring a copy of your retreat certificate to your meeting with the priest or deacon. You will receive the Marriage License Fee Reduction letter from the priest or deacon officiating your wedding.
Bring your weekend retreat certificate to turn in to the presider of your wedding.
Place: ______________________________________________________________
Date: _______________________
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STEP 3:MEETINGS WITH PRESIDER:
You will meet three times with your presider before your wedding date. The second meeting should take place approximately five months prior to your wedding date and after you have completed both the engaged couples weekend retreat and the companion couple sessions. The third meeting should take place two months before your wedding.
STEP 3A: FIRST MEETING WITH PRESIDER
o Complete the necessary prenuptial paperwork.o This paperwork gathers background information from each of you. The
paperwork also requires each of you to state your intention to marry and fulfill the vows that you will declare publicly on your wedding day. These vows include the intention to enter this marriage for life, to give his or her spouse the right to have children and to accept the obligations to be faithful to his or her spouse.
o Additionally, when a Catholic person marries a person who is not Catholic, additional promises are required of the Catholic person. They include continuing to live his or her faith in the Catholic Church, letting his or her partner freely practice faith in the way the partner sees fit, and finally, agreeing to share his or her faith with their children by having them baptized and educated as Catholics.
In most cases, this is the first of three meetings with the priest or deacon who will preside at your wedding. These meetings give you the opportunity to get to know the person who will preside at your ceremony and to allow him to get to know you both. It is up to you to contact your presider and arrange for these meetings.
STEP 3B: SECOND MEETING WITH PRESIDER
This meeting will give you the opportunity to get to know the person who will preside at your ceremony and to allow him to get to know you both.
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This meeting with your presider This meeting will take place after your last meeting with your companion couple and you have completed the weekend retreat approximately five months prior to your wedding date.
Please bring with you:The retreat certificate and your completed Marriage Preparation Feedback Form (in your notebook)
STEP 3B: SECOND MEETING WITH PRESIDER (Continued)
o This paperwork will allow the presider to know you have completed 2 major pieces of marriage preparation and will discuss your reactions and insights you gathered by participating in the retreat and sessions. This session is designed to help you gain better perspective on your relationship and faith level.
o The presider will spend some time explaining the Catholic Church’s teaching regarding the theology of the Sacrament of Marriage and its implications.
o Receive from the presider the “Reduced Marriage Fee Educators Statement.” Present this form to the county clerk when you apply for your marriage license to receive a reduced fee for the cost of the marriage license.
St. Joseph the Worker gladly welcomes pastors, priests and officiates from other denominations to join in celebrating your wedding. Our priests and deacon will gladly work with a visiting officiate from another parish or denomination.
STEP 3C: THIRD MEETING WITH PRESIDER
Upon completion of your marriage preparation activities you will meet with the priest or deacon presiding at your wedding to talk over any concerns or questions you may have and to discuss your wedding liturgy plans. This meeting allows you a third opportunity to meet with the person who will preside at your ceremony.
This meeting with your Presider will take place approximately two months prior to your wedding date. This meeting MUST TAKE PLACE PRIOR TO your meeting with your wedding liturgist to finalize your wedding liturgy plans.
o Complete the necessary Wedding Ceremony worksheets in planning your
liturgy.
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o This paperwork gathers the information concerning your wedding ceremony.
o You will pick the Scripture Readings, Vows, Blessing of Rings.
Please bring with you:
1. Your marriage license – all three copies.
2. The readings you selected from Scripture.
3. The Planning Sheets #1 & 2.
4. Plan on filling out most of these sheets with your presider.
5. Presider will make a copy of your Planning Sheets for you.
Come prepared to plan your Liturgy.
STEP 4: OBTAIN A MARRIAGE LICENSE
MARRIAGE LICENSE: A marriage license must be obtained from any county in the state of Minnesota. This may be done as early as six months prior to your wedding date. There is a week waiting period after applying for the license. You will be expected to bring your marriage license to the church at least two months before your wedding. You can bring it in as soon as you receive it. You should bring everything that you receive in the packet (there is always a marriage license that gets sent back into the state after the wedding, and usually a couple souvenir copies that get sent back to the couple – bring everything). We will take care of obtaining all of the necessary signatures immediately following the wedding and filing all of the paperwork on the next business day.
Both the bride and the groom must be present and possessing valid picture identification to obtain a marriage license in the State of Minnesota.
***Couples completing the marriage preparation at St Joseph the Worker are eligible for a discount on their wedding license fee. You will need to obtain, from us, a document indicating you have completed this preparation. This document is available from the person officiating your wedding or the Parish Administration Office.
The state recognizes that couples who complete marriage prep are happier and need state services less, they give a discount to every couple who does marriage prep.
Please note: if you received a certificate from your retreat, it must include your full names (including middle names) and they must be spelled correctly. Bring it with you to our office.
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NOTE: If you are planning a name change, it may take up to 12 weeks to obtain new picture identification. Until that time, you will not be able to use your new name legally (you will not be able to travel on the airlines, open a bank account, obtain a passport, etc.)
STEP 5: READ ARCHDIOCESAN MATERIAL (this step does not have to be done in sequence.)
The sacramental bond you share strengthens the Church. As a community, we rejoice in and celebrate the sacredness and beauty of your commitment to one another.
As we help you prepare for your wedding liturgy we focus on the call of the Second Vatican Council for “full, conscious and active participation” of all the liturgical assembly. With this goal in mind we will focus on ways to actively involve the guests whom you have invited to participate in your marriage ceremony. We achieve this goal through song and prayer, just two elements that make-up your wedding liturgy.
We strive to help you understand the Roman Catholic Rite of Marriage. We will look at what the ritual asks us to do and then work with you to prepare a beautiful liturgy celebrating your love for one another and God.
At this time please continue by reading the following pages taken from “When Christians Marry” published by the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis.
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IS A WEDDING ALWAYS A MASS?Some Catholic weddings are celebrated within the context of Mass; others do not include the celebration of eucharist but occur in the context of the liturgy of the word–the same ritual that forms the first part of the Mass. The church’s Rite of Marriage, published in 1969 as part of the liturgical reforms following the Second Vatican Council (1962-65), actually provides three forms for a Catholic wedding liturgy. The Rite for Celebrating Marriage during Mass is normally used when two Catholics marry. The Rite for Celebrating Marriage outside Mass is generally used when a Catholic marries a baptized person from another Christian church. The Rite for Celebrating Marriage between a Catholic and an Unbaptized Person is used when a Catholic marries someone who is not a baptized Christian, including a catechumen.
In the first form, the Rite of Marriage is celebrated within Mass–between the liturgy of the word and the liturgy of the Eucharist. In the second and third forms, the marriage rite is celebrated after the liturgy of the word; the wedding liturgy ends with a concluding rite instead of being followed by the liturgy of the Eucharist. Each of these forms is equally valid and holy; a wedding is not anymore or less complete because of the celebration of Mass.
In our recent past, when a Catholic married a non-Catholic, the wedding was sometimes treated as a second-class celebration. It was often performed in the rectory instead of the church building or, if in the church building at a side altar instead of the main altar. Such distinctions are no longer necessary. Whenever a Catholic marries a baptized person, whether that person is Catholic or from another Christian church, the marriage is considered a sacrament. (When a Catholic marries someone who is not baptized, the marriage is recognized and blessed by the church, but is not by definition a sacrament because sacramental marriage involves a covenant between two baptized people.) The different forms of celebration are an attempt to respect the consciences of all the involved and to provide a celebration in which all in attendance can participate.
Why might it be a good idea to celebrate one of the two forms of the wedding liturgy that do not include Mass? Even if only one partner is Catholic, shouldn’t she or he receive
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communion on the wedding day? It would, of course, be good for the couple to be able to share in the Eucharist after exchanging their vows. But if both bride and groom can receive communion (and this may also mean the many friends and family members of the bride or groom cannot either) it is often better not to celebrate the Eucharist. The Eucharist is our ultimate sacrament of unity, of communion. Celebrating the Eucharist in a situation in which a large number of those present – including the bride and groom–cannot receive communion runs the risk of turning this sacrament of communion into a sign of something that divides instead of unites us. This is why the church gives us three forms of the marriage rite.
As marriages between Catholics and non-Catholics grow in number, it is increasingly important for us to understand and respect the validity of all forms of the wedding liturgy. Husbands and wives who do not share a common religious heritage need and deserve the support of family, friends, and local parish community as they undertake marriage and seek to integrate each other’s traditions and spiritualities into their family life.
©2000, Archdiocese of Chicago Liturgy Training Publications,1800 North Hermitage Ave., Chicago, IL 60022-1101 Text by Paul Covina
Note on Entrance Procession:
As you prepare for the wedding liturgy you will find many ways to make the celebration your own – something special for you and your family and friends. You will choose readings and songs, flowers and dresses, and much more. Part of your process is choosing where you are going to celebrate this special day. In choosing a church you are also choosing a community, in this case – the community of St Joseph the Worker.
It is the belief of the Catholic Church that the wedding liturgy should closely resemble the Mass. In keeping with this theology put forth by liturgical rituals, we have certain ways by which to celebrate liturgical rituals. One of those areas is the entrance procession. As you see on Sundays when we gather together as community the celebrant is the last member of the community to enter in procession and the procession comes by way of the main doors, passing the baptismal font and Tables of the Word and Eucharist.
In the wedding liturgy, the bride and groom are the celebrants of the Sacrament of Marriage and it is through the water of baptism, the hearing of the Word and the reception of the Eucharist (in the case of the Mass) that you gather in community. For this reason, at weddings, the entrance procession moves down the sanctuary passing the baptismal font, the Word and the Table of the Eucharist.
Aaron J. CarpenterDirector of WorshipSt. Joseph the WorkerMaple Grove, MN
Processional: the entrance procession can take many forms. There is no right or wrong way. Each couple will discuss the options with the person presiding at their wedding and the wedding coordinator.
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Listed below, in the order of the procession, are some examples of how it might flow:
Opt. IPresider
Attendants (as couples)Flower girl/Ring bearer
Bride/Groom
Opt. IIPresider
Groom with parentsAttendants (as
couples)Flower girl/Ring
bearerBride with parents
Opt. IIIPresider/GroomAttendants (as
couples)Flower girl/Ring bearerBride with Father
Opt. IV Other
Music for the procession should be instrumental. See the accompanying CD for suggestions.
STEP 6:PLANNING YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY
Three Forms of the Rite of Marriage
Within Mass
Entrance Rite
Introduction andQuestions of Intent
Procession
WelcomeOpening Song Collect
Liturgy of the Word
Old Testament ReadingResponsorial Psalm (sung)New Testament ReadingGospelHomily
Rite of Marriage
Consent (Exchange of Vows)Blessing and Exchange of RingsGeneral Intercessions
Outside of Mass
Entrance Rite
Introduction andQuestions of Intent
Procession
WelcomeOpening SongCollect
Liturgy of the Word
Old Testament ReadingResponsorial Psalm (sung)New Testament ReadingGospelHomily
Rite of Marriage
Consent (Exchange of Vows)Blessing and Exchange of RingsUnity Symbol (OPTION)General IntercessionsNuptial Blessing (or during concluding
Between a Catholic and an Unbaptized Person
Introductionand Questions of Intent
Procession
WelcomeOpening SongOpening Prayer
Liturgy of the Word
Old Testament ReadingResponsorial Psalm (sung)New Testament ReadingGospelHomily
Rite of Marriage
Consent (Exchange of Vows)Blessing and Exchange of RingsUnity Symbol (OPTION)General Intercessions
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Liturgy of the Eucharist
Preparation of the AltarEucharistic PrayerLord’s PrayerNuptial BlessingSign of PeaceCommunionPrayer after Communion
Concluding Rite
Signing of the Marriage LicenseSolemn BlessingRecessional
rites)
Concluding RiteLord’s PrayerSign of PeaceSigning of the Marriage LicenseBlessingRecessional
Concluding RiteLord’s PrayerSign of PeaceSigning of the Marriage LicenseBlessingRecessional
Order of the Rite for Celebrating Marriage
Introductory RitesSTAND Rite of Marriage
Address and Statement of IntentionsAll stand, and the bride and groom come to the baptismal font to join presider before processing into church. The presider asks the couple to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, faithfulness to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (unless the couple are beyond the child-bearing years).
STAND
Entrance RiteThe assembly stands. The entrance procession while the priest, ministers (e.g., lectors, altar servers), and the wedding party process to the altar. The Rite of Marriage says this about the procession: "If there is a procession to the altar, the ministers go first, followed by the priest, and then the bride and bridegroom. According to local custom, they may be escorted by at least their parents and the two witnesses.
When the entrance procession is finished, the priest/deacon leads the assembly in the sign of the cross,then an Opening Song is sung by all.
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GreetingThe presider greets the assembly, and the people respond.
Prayer CollectThe presider invites the assembly to pray, then offers one of several possible prayers for the bride and groom. At the conclusion of the prayer, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word
Liturgy of the WordSIT First Reading
The first reading (from the Old Testament) is proclaimed by the lector. At the conclusion of the reading, the lector says, "The Word of the Lord," and the assembly responds, "Thanks be to God."
SIT Responsorial PsalmThe cantor sings a psalm, and the assembly sings the response.
SIT Second ReadingThe second reading (from a book of the New Testament other than the Gospel) is proclaimed by the lector. At the conclusion of the reading, the lector says, "The Word of the Lord," and the assembly responds, "Thanks be to God."
Liturgy of the Word (continued)
STAND
Gospel AcclamationThe assembly stands. A cantor leads the assembly in singing the Gospel Acclamation, usually the Alleluia (except during Lent, when another acclamation is used).
STAND GospelThe presider proclaims the Gospel. At the conclusion, he says, "The Gospel of the Lord," and the assembly responds, "Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ." The assembly sits.
SIT HomilyThe presider offers a homily drawn from the Scripture readings. According to the Rite of Marriage, "He speaks about the mystery of Christian marriage, the dignity of wedded love, the grace of the sacrament and the responsibilities of married people, keeping in mind the circumstances of this particular marriage."
Rite of Marriage
SIT
Consent and Exchange of VowsThe presider invites the wedding party forward to join the couple to declare their consent to be married, which they do by stating their marriage vows. The Rite of Marriage offers several different options for the vows.
Blessing and Exchange of RingsThe presider blesses the wedding rings. The groom places his wife's ring on her finger, and the bride places her husband's ring on his finger. The Rite of Marriage provides three options for the blessing of the rings.
Although it is not called for by the Rite of Marriage, in some places it is customary for the newly married couple to exchange a simple kiss after the exchange of rings, perhaps prompted by the presider stating, "You may now exchange a kiss."
Nuptial Blessing Placed here or before final blessing of mass/ceremonyThe presider faces the couple and prays over them. The Rite of Marriage provides three different options for the Nuptial Blessing.
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STAND
General IntercessionsThe General Intercessions, or Prayers of the Faithful, are read by a lector, cantor, or another designated person. The reader usually offers the prayer ("For . . ., we pray to the Lord.") and the assembly responds to each prayer with an appropriate response, such as, "Lord, hear our prayer.
STAND
Profession of Faith (Mass Only)If the wedding occurs on a Sunday or a solemnity, the assembly recites the Creed ("We believe in one God. . .").
Liturgy of the Eucharist (Mass Only)
STAND Eucharistic Prayer (Mass Only)The priest prays the Eucharistic prayer (parts of which he may sing). The Roman Missal provides four options for this prayer. During the Eucharistic prayer, the assembly offers three acclamations, which are usually sung:
Preface Acclaimation (Mass Only) “Holy, Holy, Holy, Lord God of hosts.”
Memorial Acclamation (Mass Only) “We proclaim your death”
Great Amen (Mass Only)
Communion RiteSTAND The Lord's Prayer
The assembly prays or sings together the Lord's Prayer (the Our Father).
Nuptial Blessing (or may be done after vows, or before final blessing)The presider faces the couple and prays over them. The Rite of Marriage provides three different options for the Nuptial Blessing.
Sign of PeaceThe presider invites the assembly to offer one another a sign of peace. The newly married couple and people in the assembly exchange a sign of peace (a
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handshake or kiss, usually accompanied by the words, "Peace be with you") with those immediately around them.
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Liturgy of the Eucharist (Mass Only)(Continued)
Breaking of the Bread (Mass Only)The priest breaks the host (Eucharistic bread) while the assembly sings the "Lamb of God." The assembly usually kneels when the song concludes.
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Communion (Mass Only)The priest (often with the help of Eucharistic ministers) distributes the Eucharistic bread and wine to the assembly, beginning with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.
Congregation sits after receiving communion
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Prayer after Communion (Mass Only)The priest invites all to stand and concluded the communion rite with a closing prayer.
Concluding RiteSigning of the Marriage License (Optional) The two witnesses (Maid of Honor and Best Man) join the presider and bride and groom at altar for the signing of the marriage license. The rest of the wedding party stands in front of altar steps
STAND Blessing (Including Nuptial blessing if not done earlier)The priest prays a solemn blessing over the married couple; the whole assembly participates in the blessing by repeatedly responding, "Amen." Optionally, the blessing may be sung. In some places, the couple is invited to exchange a kiss after the blessing.
DismissalThe presider dismisses the assembly, which responds, "Thanks be to God."
RecessionalThe couple, along with the bridal party exit usually accompanied by a song or instrumental music. The servers, and the presider process out of the church by way of baptismal font after the couple leaves.
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Explanatory notes
o In the right-hand column, the different parts of the Catholic wedding Mass/ Ceremony are presented in the order in which they occur, along with a brief explanation (set in italics) of each part.
o In the left-hand column, you'll find indications of when to sit, stand. A musical note indicates that music usually accompanies a particular part.
o The order presented here is for the United States. The order differs slightly in other countries and regions, depending on adaptations made by local bishops' conferences.
Step 6ACOMPLETE WEDDING WORKSHEETS that follow and MEET WITH WEDDING LITURGIST
Now that you have read and reflected on the history, tradition and elements of the Roman Catholic Marriage Rite please continue now to use the pages, located after the Wedding Worksheets, and the Music CD, located in the back of this binder, to help you complete the Wedding Worksheet forms.
Should you have any questions while completing these forms please contact Tarri Nelson your wedding liturgist. (763-400-7205 or email [email protected]) You will then meet with her to finalize these forms.To this meeting you should bring:
Wedding Worksheet forms – completed as fully as possible.Meeting time and date:________________________________________________
Use the appropriate sheets for planning your wedding: For a wedding ceremony within a Mass, or, for a wedding ceremony outside of a Mass.
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Appendix of Scripture
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First Reading (Old Testament)
Genesis 1:26-28, 31a
Genesis 2:18-24
Genesis 24:48-51, 58-67
Tobit 7:6-14
Tobit 7:9-10, 11-15
Tobit 8:4b-8
Ruth 1:16-17
Song of Songs 2:8-10,14,16a; 8:6-7a
Sirach 26:1-4, 13-16
Jeremiah 31:31-32a, 33-34a
Proverbs 31:10-13, 19-20, 30-31
Ecclesiates 4:9-12
Isaiah 61:10-11
Responsorial Psalm
Psalm 15
Psalm 33
Psalm 34
Psalm 103
Psalm 121
Psalm 122
Psalm 128
Psalm 145
Second Reading (New Testament)
Romans 8:35,37-39
Romans 12: 1-2, 9-18
Romans 15:1b-3a, 5-7, 13
1 Corinthians 6:13c-15a, 17-20
1 Corinthians 12:31 – 13:8a
Ephesians 3:14-21
Ephesians 4:1-6
Ephesians 5:2a, 25-33
Philippians 4:4-9
Colossians 3:12-17
Hebrews 13:1-4a, 5-6b
1 Peter 3:1-9
1 John 3:18-24
1 John 4:7-12
Revelation 19:1, 5-9
Gospel
Matthew 5:1-12a
Matthew 5:13-16
Matthew 7:21, 24-25
Matthew 19:3-6
Matthew 22:35-40
Mark 10:6-9
John 2:1-11
John 15:9-12
John 15:12-16
John 17:20-26
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The following paragraphs contain explanations for completing the forms surrounding your wedding liturgy. Please read all the information carefully and then complete the forms as directed.
Wedding Worksheet for the Marriage ofThis form must be completed in its entirety. Your names, the date and time of your mass/ceremony, the phone numbers and the rehearsal date and time need to be accurate. Please list the most current phone numbers for us to contact you.
Wedding Liturgist:The person you will meet with to complete your liturgy planning that was started with your presider. You will finalize song selections and other details. She will also assign a wedding coordinator for your wedding. You can always email the wedding liturgist with questions about any aspect of your wedding day.
Wedding Coordinator: this coordinator will be assigned to you when you meet to prepare your wedding liturgy with the wedding liturgist. The coordinator is present at your rehearsal and your wedding liturgy and will assist you in many ways. Our wedding coordinators are listed at the beginning of this booklet.
Priest/Deacon: the presider at your wedding liturgy will be either a priest or a deacon. The presider is assigned to your wedding liturgy based on whether it is a mass or a ceremony. If it is a mass, a celebration of the Eucharist, a priest will be assigned. If it is a ceremony a deacon will be assigned.
Readers: the first and second readers are individuals you choose to proclaim the Word of God at your wedding liturgy. It is recommended that you choose individuals who have experience in this ministry. Christ is present to us through the Word and so it requires that the Word be proclaimed well. The reader of the intercessions may be another reader or the first or second reader. You may choose to have only one reader.
Pianist: It is required that either the pianist or cantor be chosen from this parish. Outside musicians are allowed on an individual basis. Payment and other arrangements should be made with the pianist at least three weeks prior to your wedding liturgy.
Cantor: It is required that either the cantor or pianist be chosen from this parish. Outside musicians are allowed on an individual basis. Payment and other arrangements should be made with the cantor at least three weeks prior to your wedding liturgy.
Other Musicians: should you want additional musicians (i.e. flute, harp, trumpet, violin, etc.), musicians can be referred to you. Please feel free to inquire about these possibilities.
Ushers & Greeters: hospitality is the basic form of love and we should go out of our way to make our guests feel welcome. It is recommended that the bride and groom be the greeters who welcome their guests. This is a way for the both of you to meet relatives and friends as they arrive for your celebration. Both ushers and greeters are required for your wedding liturgy. NOTE: When seating guests, DO NOT seat one side groom’s friends and one side bride’s friends. You are gathering to celebrate unity not separation. The Wedding Coordinator will assist you in how to seat your guests.
Gift Bearers: the gift bearers bring the gifts of bread and wine to the altar when your wedding liturgy is celebrated within a mass. Choose individuals who are able to carry these items with care.
Eucharistic Ministers: the Eucharistic Ministers are those who assist the presider with the distribution of communion. It is good practice to have the bride and groom partake in this ministry. The projected attendance of Catholics at your wedding liturgy will determine the number of ministers needed. These ministers need to be practicing Catholics in good standing with the Catholic Church. It is best to choose individuals who are active in this ministry. If this is not attainable please discuss the options with your wedding planner or presider.
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WEDDING WORKSHEET FOR THE MARRIAGE OF:
________________________________________ and __________________________________
Date _____________ Time ______ Main Church _____ Chapel_____
Rehearsal Date ____________ Time _______
MINISTERS
Priest/ Deacon ________________________________________________
Reader of the First Reading ______________________________________
Responsorial Psalm (Sung by cantor) ___________________________
Reader of the Second Reading _____________________________________
Reader of the Intercessions _____________________________________
Pianist ___________________________
Cantor ___________________________
Other Musicians ______________________________________________
Ushers & Greeters _________________________________________________
(For Mass Only)Wedding Couple to provide people to help with Mass
Eucharistic Ministers ______________________________________________________________
Mass Servers _______________________________________________________________
Wedding Party
Witness/Maid of Honor: __________________________________________
Witness/Best Man: _____________________________________________
Brides maids ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Groomsmen:__________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Flower Girl(s): _____ _____ ___________ Ring Bearer: _____ _____ Yes No how many? Yes No
Order of Procession into Church:_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Form to be started with presider and completed with wedding liturgist
PLANNING SHEET #2 FOR A WEDDING CEREMONY
Preludes___________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ It is best to select instrumental music to be played as prelude. See the accompanying CD for suggestions. You will find an index for this CD in this booklet as well on page 37-38. RITE OF MARRIAGE
**Declaration of Intent This declaration sets the tone for the Sacrament of Marriage you will become. It is most appropriate to start with the Intentions before walking down the aisle. This declaration is the foundation for the remainder your marriage.
INTRODUCTORY RITES:
Processional_____________________________________________________ The entrance procession can take many forms. You will discuss this with presider/ wedding liturgist
Sign of the Cross and Greeting
Opening Hymn ________________________________________________
Opening Prayer (Collect)
LITURGY OF THE WORD
**First Reading (Old Testament) ___________________________________________
Responsorial Psalm (sung by cantor) ____________________________________
**Second Reading (New Testament) ______________________________________
Gospel Acclamation ________________________________________________
**Gospel ( Matthew, Mark, Luke, John) _______________________________
Homily
**RITE OF MARRIAGE (continued):
Exchange of Vows Memorized/Card Recited after Presider Questions
Exchange of Rings Memorized/Card Recited after Presider Questions
Nuptial Blessing (Could be placed here or before final blessing in the mass/ceremony)
Meditation Time Music during Meditation –(Optional) ______________________________________________
Form to be started with presider and completed with wedding liturgist
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PLANNING SHEET #3 FOR A WEDDING CEREMONY
Intercessions Sample A Sample B Personalized
Intercessions ( Reader(s)) _________________________________________________________
(Omit if no Mass)
LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST
Presentation and Preparation of gifts: Song_______________________________________ brought forward by:__________________________________________________________________
Consecration of the gifts
Communion Rite:
Lord’s Prayer
Sign of Peace
(Omit if no Mass)Distribution of Communion
Bride & Groom receive (both forms) Distribution of Communion to community
1-2 Communion songs__________________________________________
Extraordinary Eucharistic Ministers:__________________________________________
CONCLUDING RITES:
**Signing of the Marriage License: (2 witnesses) during ceremony (Optional)
Blessing and Dismissal
Introduction of Bride and Groom _________________________________________
Recessional Music _____________________________________________________
Reception Line Greeting: Where? & How ________________________________________
After Liturgy:
Pick up all items used during the Wedding Liturgy:FlowersOther food and beverages, miscellaneous items.
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Everything brought in for wedding must be removed by wedding participants.
STEP 7: MEETING/TALK WITH WEDDING COORDINATOR
When you meet with the wedding liturgist, she will assign you a wedding coordinator. This coordinator conducts wedding rehearsals and keeps things running smoothly on your wedding day. She will contact you approximately two to three weeks prior to your wedding. Should you have any questions specific to your wedding your coordinator should be able to answer them for you.
Becky Christensen 612-978-0586 rebecca.m.christensen
Heather Kovaleski 651-785-6075 [email protected]
On the day of the wedding it is your responsibility to make sure: Classrooms are cleaned out prior to the wedding ceremony. (This includes cans,
boxes, clothes, etc.) All programs, flowers, etc. are cleaned up from the Gathering Space and the
Worship Space. Use of Church Building did not exceed a total of 4.5 hrs. (beginning 3 hours prior
to the ceremony) unless pre-arranged with the Coordinator. Outside environment is left as it was when the wedding party arrived. (For
example: all bubble bottles are properly disposed) All decorations brought into the Worship Space are removed.
On your wedding day, you will be able to use the church building for up to 4 & 1/2 hours , beginning three hours before the time your wedding is scheduled . This time includes dressing and picture taking. Please notify your photographer. Because this is a parish community, there may be many activities on a given day. Therefore, the church is not always available more than three hours before your wedding. Please prepare well so that you can complete the formal pictures 30 minutes before the start of the ceremony so musicians, servers and other ministers may attend to their responsibilities.
Only the Wedding Coordinator assigned to your wedding can make exceptions to this policy. Exceptions will be made based on the availability of the Wedding Coordinator and the church facilities. Any additional hours that are required for picture taking or rehearsal time must be scheduled through your Wedding Coordinator. Each additional hour will be billed at a rate of $25 per hour.
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Intercessions – Sample A
That the trust of N and N in God and in each other be a sign of hope for all people: We pray:
That couples and families throughout the world see God’s love in those with whom they share their home:We pray:
That those who experience difficulties in their marriage grow in loving communication with God and each other:We pray:
That we who are gathered for this celebration learn about the love God has for us:We pray:
Intercessions – Sample B
For N. and N. that God will bless their new life and home with peace and joy:We pray:
For the parents of N. and N. that God, the Creator of all, will return to them abundantly the love and joy they have given to their children:We pray:
For our Church, the spouse of the Risen Christ, that our faithfulness to the gospel of love may make us the holy people of God:We pray:
For the sick, the poor, and the suffering, that the great love of God living in each one of us may restore them to health and hope:We pray:
For our deceased relatives and friends (especially ______________), that they may rejoice forever at the wedding banquet of Christ the Bridegroom:
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We pray:
ABOUT MUSIC
PhilosophyThe Sacrament of Marriage belongs in a unique way to the bride and groom. But, although the love you share with each other is very personal, it is not limited to the two of you. It will live and grow in a community. In fact, your wedding liturgy itself is a community celebration, taking place in the presence of God, the priest or deacon, witnesses, and your family and friends. It is a very special form of prayer.
Music can play a very important role in your wedding liturgy. It possesses the qualities that can create a mood and greatly enhance the entire liturgy. Therefore, the wedding music must be appropriate and prayerful. And the prayerful qualities of the songs must be immediately evident to the members of the community who are listening and participating.
One valuable idea in choosing your wedding liturgy music is to first choose the Scripture readings you will use. Then, the theme of the readings can be picked up and developed by the music, and your whole wedding liturgy will have a feel of continuity. One must be very careful in selecting certain types of music because many love songs describe a very narrow view of married love. They say little about the love of God, you or the community, and the role of each in this sacrament. The music and texts you choose should show to all present that you have selected them because they reaffirm all you say and do in the Catholic wedding liturgy.
Additional Questions
If you have any additional questions about planning your wedding liturgy or about parish policy surrounding your wedding liturgy, please contact the Director of Marriage Ministry 612-751-6284 or email at [email protected], or your presider or the wedding liturgist.
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STEP 8: CONTRACTING MUSICIANS Music plays an important role in the celebration of your wedding. St. Joseph the Worker parish is home to many very gifted musicians. It is the policy of St. Joseph the Worker to have you hire your musicians (cantors and accompanists) from the lists provided in this binder. They have each been placed on this list because of their skill and understanding of their role as defined by our faith community.
It is the couple’s responsibility to contact a cantor and an accompanist to discuss availability and payment. We recommend you do this as soon as possible. Outside musicians are dealt with on an individual basis. Please discuss this with the person helping you plan your liturgy.
If other musicians are wanted (i.e. flute, trumpet, violin, etc.), please ask the individual helping you plan your liturgy for references.
Name of Cantor: _________________________________________
Phone number of Cantor: __________________________________
Name of the Accompanist: _____________________________________
Phone number of the Accompanist: _______________________________
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Music SuggestionsThis is a listing of the songs suggestions. With each title are suggestions for when the song may be used. (all can be used for preludes too) Please check with the liturgist if there is a song you want that is not here. Other instrumental music may be used for processional and recessional.
1. Age to AgeOpening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts https://www.ocp.org/en-us/songs/17088
2. Alleluia! Give the Glory Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8vd2wccNc0
3. Christ Be Our LightOpening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJq3bhdgQoc
4. Come, Now is the Time to Worship Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPWq8eM4lu8
5. Fill Me, O God Presentation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4svf6CWDBpw
6. For the Beauty of the EarthOpening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olbOTeR0dlY
7. Forever Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjrAeWCOg6Q
8. Gather Your People Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0KWKmRfY2k9. Grateful
Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCHmoYN9Vh434
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10. Here At This TableCommunion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yzk1HoEdGpE
11. Here I AmPreparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=legbWzz_oFc
12. Here I am to Worship Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CoxopsRSfdU
13. How BeautifulCommunion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8ZonBMFat8
14. I Am the Bread of Life (Talbot)Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vrCN2sJpfvY
15. In the Day of the Lord Opening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmDicL68bVs
16. Joyful, Joyful We Adore YouOpening Hymn, Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fkvyYNsjPc
17. Lead Me, Lord Opening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm5JG8zVhk
18. Let Us Go Rejoicing Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GZWFxcWPbg
19. Love Divine, All Loves ExcellingOpening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPsxqQsnzJA
20. Many and One Presentation of Gift, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6Ix01vNOhQ
21. Miracle of Grace Preparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tg7539_wOE
22. One Bread, One Cup Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXjbhDFU8EY
23. Open My Eyes Preparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAiLMBLSb2s24. Our God is Here
Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtSnIxnIB3k25. Rain Down
Opening Hymn, Preparation of Gifts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmOswvlS6CQ26. Taste and See (Moore)
Responsorial Psalm, Communion http://www.sheetmusicplus.com/title/taste-and-see-sheet-music/7497943
27. The Servant SongPrelude, Preparation of Gifts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-Pk2NHKg_o
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28. We Are Many PartsPreparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q77uRQxKDCY
29. With All I Am Preparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ezkE5axDNM
30. You Are MinePreparation of Gifts, Communion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBPA4mIJ5NY
31. Your Grace is Enough Opening Hymn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wtnE_e1LylY
Instrumental Music32. Sheep May Safely Graze (J. S. Bach)
Processional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hT60f3t75kg33. Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring (J. S. Bach)
Processional, Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlfPxh8O6TU34. Canon in D (Pachelbel)
Processional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNsgHMklBW0 (faster section at :50 mark)
35. Arioso (J. S. Bach)Processional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nO0dYRkppbg
36. Joyful, Joyful (Ode to Joy) (Beethoven/Lorie Line)Recessional
37. Rondeau (Mouret)Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STFggM3XUx0
38. Allegro Maestoso (G.F. Handel)Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JvVP_RPme_U
39. Psalm 19 (Marcello)Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6k7tzgfNyFU
40. Trumpet Voluntary (Clark)Processional, Recessional https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDdB4oiBpFQ
Responsorial Psalms (Sung by Cantor)41. Psalm 33: Lord, Let Your Mercy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sG55hAbxHYU42. Psalm 34: Taste and See (Angrisano)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5ONBaCMUbM43. Psalm 34: Taste and See (Hurd)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUrzLnRqvl444. Psalm 103: Loving and Forgiving
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45. Psalm 103: The Lord is Kind and Merciful (Colson) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfZzhxqt90A
46. Psalm 122: Let Us Go Rejoicinghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GZWFxcWPbg
47. Psalm 128: Blest Are Those Who Love Youhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQDsH-KMEkI
48. Psalm 128: May the Lord Bless Ushttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5u0nGN7IMI
49. Psalm 145: I Will Lift Up Your Name (Angrisano)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aAACABxxQSs
Gospel Acclamations50. Celtic Alleluia
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UoaZq5eorpo51. Mass of Joy and Peace
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFa-ZyIE12k (at 3:20 mark)
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Cantors
Bartley, Don15645 73rd Cir. N.Maple Grove, MN [email protected]
Beckham, Amy6860 Norwood laneMaple Grove, MN [email protected]
Carpenter, Aaron567 Amur Circle NWSt. Michael, MN [email protected]
Carpenter, Maria567 Amur Circle NWSt. Michael, MN [email protected]
Noah Carpenter567 Amur Circle NWSt. Michael, MN [email protected]
Dunham, Mary Beth5910 Magnolia Ln.Plymouth, MN [email protected]
Fercho, Sarah9851 Kirkwood Lane NMaple Grove, MN [email protected]
Johnson, Laura9301 47th Ave. N.New Hope, MN [email protected]
Rademacher, Michelle9179 Harpers Court NEBlaine, MN [email protected]
Rau, Louise7421 Dallas Ct.Maple Grove, MN [email protected]
Shay, Barry 6715 Quantico LaneMaple Grove, MN [email protected]
Wolter-Kampa, Kathy5920 Hemlock Ln. N.Plymouth, MN [email protected]
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Accompanists
Carpenter, Aaron567 Amur Circle NWSt. Michael, MN [email protected]
Homb, Sandy17477 Weaver Lake Dr.Maple Grove, MN [email protected]
Nelson, Tarri6448 Evergreen Ln.Maple Grove, MN 55369612-850-1226 [email protected]
Rademacher, Michelle9179 Harpers Court NEBlaine, MN [email protected]
Instrumentalists
Kalla, Michelle, violin7128 Orchid Ln. N.Maple Grove, MN [email protected]
Homb, Sandy, flute17477 Weaver Lake Dr.Maple Grove, MN [email protected]
Cora Leibig, flute15292 80th Pl. NMaple Grove, MN [email protected]
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STEP 9: PROJECTION/ PROGRAM
Now that you have met with your wedding liturgist you can begin to work on your program. Please feel free to use the sample wedding program given in this booklet.
If you would like to use the projection system at church for the order of the wedding and songs, the wedding liturgist will assemble slides for the projection to be used during your ceremony. (The main church only) You can email her pictures that you would like used (about 10-15) for the in between slides. You can still do a program with the names of the wedding party if you choose. If you choose to only do a program and not use the projection all copyright info needs to be included for songs. (see below)
Once you have completed your program, but before it is printed, Tarri, the wedding liturgist must approve it. You may email it to her at [email protected] or drop it off at the parish office. Once it is approved you may print as many copies as you will need.
Copyright information:
If the music you have selected is published by GIA Publications, Inc. the following copyright line must appear in your program or music sheet.
“title,” by composer. © year by GIA Publications, Inc. Reprinted under license no. 9500.
If the music you have selected is published by OCP Publishing the following copyright line must appear in your program or music sheet.
“title,” by composer. © year by OCP Publishing. Reprinted under license no. 2672237.
If the music you have selected is published by World Library Publications the following copyright line must appear in your program or music sheet.
“title,” by composer. © year by World Library Publications. Reprinted under license no. AL1110001.
If the music you have selected is published by any other company please contact Tarri Nelson 763-400-7205
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STEP 10: TURN IN FINAL MATERIALS
As the time for your wedding celebration draws near, it is important that you finish all of items that remain on the checklist. Please plan to bring your marriage license and fees for any additional hours to the parish office no later than three weeks before your wedding.
Please turn in the following materials no later than three weeks before the wedding:
Bring in Marriage license.
Pay $25 per hour for each additional hour scheduled.
Please be certain that we have your new address so that the Administrative Office can send you a copy of your marriage license after the wedding. It would also be a good time to update any information for our parish directory.
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STEP 11: WEDDING REHEARSAL
A Wedding Coordinator conducts wedding rehearsals, usually on the evening before your wedding date. When choosing a time for the rehearsal please remember to consider traffic, dinner, number of participants and ages of those participating as members of the wedding party.
Rehearsal dates and times can be pre-set, but to allow for Friday evening weddings, any rehearsals scheduled for Friday evenings are subject to a time change. Your wedding coordinator will contact you if your time must be changed. However, since weddings must be planned long in advance, no changes to your rehearsal time will be made within two months of your wedding date.
Rehearsal Date and Time: __________________________________________
**Please give this Marriage & Wedding Preparation Binder to your Wedding Coordinator if you have not already given it to the presider at the time of your third meeting. Feel free to remove any necessary materials. All other materials (the binder, CD, plastic sleeves and pages) will be re-used or recycled. Thanks for saving the environment.
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APPENDIX A: PARISH POLICIES
1. Environment and Art: During all liturgical seasons, major environmental changes are made in the main church area. Weddings taking place during these seasons will refrain from making any major changes in the environment, but rather work within the context set forth for each liturgical season. During ordinary time, please also refrain from making major changes to the environment.
2. For safety reasons, aisle cloths are strictly prohibited.
3. Only masking tape should be used to fasten bows or flowers to the pews.
4. Flowers can be used within the church and sanctuary area. You may not place flowers, candles or anything else on the altar.
5. We will provide a small table for a unity candle if you wish to use one. The church does not have candelabras available for use.
6. Food & Beverages: All food or beverages are restricted to the hallway area outside of St. Joseph’s Hall. This is near the dressing room area.
7. Photography: No flash pictures may be taken during the ceremony, please make mention of this in your wedding program. Video cameras must be stationary and used discreetly. Neither professional photographers nor video cameras are allowed in the sanctuary.
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8. No members of the wedding party will be allowed to intentionally drop flower petals on church property. For safety and pollution reasons, the throwing of rice, birdseed, flower petals, confetti, or shredded paper is not permitted on the church premises, nor are balloons permitted.
9. Please remove all materials (i.e. programs, candles, flower boxes, etc.) from the church building. The classrooms must be cleaned up before your wedding begins. Failure to follow this policy will result in loss of your security deposit.
10. No alcoholic beverages are permitted in the church, dressing rooms, or on church property. The bridal couple and members of the wedding party must abstain from all alcoholic beverages before the wedding. Failure to do so will prevent your wedding ceremony from taking place that day.
11. No smoking is permitted anywhere in our parish building.
12. Phone & address changes: Our parish staff will make every effort to keep you informed about changes in rehearsal times, or other changes. We may need to contact you about items you have forgotten to turn in (baptismal certificates, marriage license, church fees, etc.). Your Presider will also contact you.
Sample ProgramThe Wedding Celebration for John Groom and Mary Bride
Church of St. Joseph the WorkerMaple Grove, MN
February 14, 2017
PreludeInstrumental Music
Declaration of Intent (please stand)
Processional: Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring Bach
Sign of the Cross & Greeting
Opening Hymn Christ Be Our Light (see song sheet) Farrell
Opening Prayer
LITURGY OF THE WORD
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First Reading Genesis 1:26-28,31
Responsorial Psalm (please join in singing) Psalm 128“May the Lord bless us, May the Lord protect us, all the days, all the days of our life.”
Second Reading Romans 8:31-35,37-39
Gospel Acclamation (please stand)
Gospel Matthew 5:1-12
Homily
RITE OF MARRIAGE
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
IntercessionsPlease respond: “Lord, hear our prayer.”
LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST
Preparation of the Gifts Instrumental
Holy, Holy (please join in singing)Memorial Acclamation (please join in singing)Amen (please join in singing)
Lord’s Prayer (If there is not Liturgy of the Eucharist, the Lord’s Prayer and Sign of Peace would come after the Intercessions)
Sign of Peace
Lamb of God
Communion Song One Bread, One Body(see song sheet)
Prayer After Communion
CONCLUDING RITES
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RecessionalTrumpet Voluntary Clarke
Presider Rev. Father Mike Sullivan
Parents Mark and Karen GroomBrian and Joan Bride
Bridal Party Katie Kind, friend of Bride Nancy Nice, friend of Bride Barb Best, sister of Bride
Brad Bro, brother of GroomRandy Roomie, friend of Groom
Bob Buddy, cousin of Groom
Readers Sheila Sweet, aunt of Groom Gary Great, uncle of Bride
Musicians Nancy MelodySarah Soprano
We would like to thank our parents for their unending love for us and our siblings. Our families come from differing backgrounds but as we join together we look forward to sharing our family rituals. May God bless you all.
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