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Hints about successful marriage

- Napoleon Hill - Law of Success Page 54

For the purpose of establishing this lesson upon a

sound foundation we have gone a long way toward

success by admitting that the meeting or coming in

close contact of two minds sets up in each of those

minds a certain noticeable "effect" or state of mind

quite different from the one existing immediately

prior to the contact. While it is desirable it is not

essential to know what is the "cause" of this reaction

of mind upon mind. That the reaction takes place, inevery instance, is a known fact which gives us a

starting point from which we may show what is meant

by the term "Master Mind."

A Master Mind may be created through the

bringing together or blending, in a spirit of perfect

harmony, of two or more minds. Out of this

harmonious blending the chemistry of the mind creates

a third mind which may be appropriated and used by

one or all of the individual minds. This Master Mind

will remain available as long as the friendly,

harmonious alliance between the individual minds

exists. It will disintegrate and all evidence of its

former existence will disappear the moment the

friendly alliance is broken.

This principle of mind chemistry is the basis and

cause for practically all the so-called "soul-mate" and

"eternal triangle" cases, so many of whichunfortunately find their way into the divorce courts

and meet with popular ridicule from ignorant and

uneducated people who manufacture vulgarity and

scandal out of one of the greatest of Nature's laws.

The entire civilized world knows that the first

two or three years of association after marriage are

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often marked by much disagreement, of a more or

less petty nature. These are the years of "adjustment." If

the marriage survives them it is more than apt to

become a permanent alliance. These facts no

experienced married person will deny. Again we see

the "effect" without understanding the "cause."

While there are other contributing causes, yet, in

the main, lack of harmony during these early years of

marriage is due to the slowness of the chemistry of the

minds in blending harmoniously. Stated differently,

the electrons or units of the energy called the mind

are often neither extremely friendly nor antagonistic

upon first contact; but, through constant association

they gradually adapt themselves in harmony, except in

rare cases where association has the opposite effect ofleading, eventually, to open hostility between these

units.

It is a well known fact that after a man and a

woman have lived together for ten to fifteen years

they become practically indispensable to each other,

even though there may not be the slightest evidence of

the state of mind called love. Moreover, this

association and relationship sexually not only

develops a natural, affinity between the two minds,

but it actually causes the two people to take on a

similar facial expression' and to resemble each other

closely in many other marked ways. Any competent

analyst of human nature can easily go into a crowd of

strange people' and pick out the wife after having

been introduced to her husband. The expression of the

eyes, the contour of the faces and the tone of the

voices of people who have long been associated in

marriage, become similar to a marked degree.