Ritual and Ceremony

A History of Baby Showers

“Baby shower” as a term is relatively new, but the celebrations and rituals associated with

pregnancy and childbirth are both ancient and enduring. Like other rites of passage associated

with significant transitional events such as coming of age, marriage, and death, baby showers

function as a type of initiation into, and a construction of, a new state of being--in this case,

“motherhood.”

As women throughout history confront the dichotomies (e.g., life/death, sacred/profane, and

biological/social birth) that seem to come into tension particularly during pregnancy and

childbirth, they have held rituals and ceremonies that allow them to explore forms of

“possible selves,” an essential element in rites of passages (van Gennep 1960). Indeed, rituals

surrounding pregnancy and birth provide an opportunity to try out both the new tools a

mother will use to care for her newborn as well as to try out her role as mother. In this sense,

baby showers in their different forms in different eras contribute to the eventual reintegration

of a new identity in the community for both the mother and the child.

Ancient Egypt

While the ancient Egyptians did not hold baby showers as we know them today, they did

observe rituals associated with birth and pregnancy. However, the details surrounding the

rituals of childbirth and pregnancy are difficult to study in detail because they were

essentially female-centered events. In addition, as in many cultures, both ancient and modern,

Egyptian celebrations associated with childbirth took place after the birth. Soon after the

infant’s arrival, the mother and child in the Old Kingdom were secluded so that the pollution

of birth could be contained and eliminated, often for 14 days. There is also evidence that

certain domestic rituals took place after 40 days (Johnston 2004).

Though the nature of these rituals is unclear, they most likely involved visiting temples or

local shrines and included the ritualized disposal of the after-birth, such as the umbilical cord

and the placenta. Archaeological evidence from the site of the New Kingdom village of Deir

el-Medina mentions “the festival of so-and-so ’ s” daughter, which may refer to a gathering

or celebration after the birth during which the baby was named to mark its identity and

suggest rights and privileges (Johnston 2004). These rituals of inclusion underscored broader

identities and membership in the larger community.

Ancient Greece

Like the Egyptians, ancient Greeks celebrated pregnancy after the birth of the child. When

the child was born, both the mothers and attendants shouted oloyge (a strident noise) to signal

the labor was over and peace had arrived. Immediately after the umbilical cord was cut, the

baby and mother were bathed, though they would remain impure for 10 days and their helpers

for five days (Gelis 1991).

On the fifth or seventh day after birth, the child would be welcomed by a ceremony called

Amphidromia (Running Round) in which the father would walk around the hearth several

times, symbolizing the infant’s integration into the household. In a ritual called Dekate

(Tenth Day) the mother would return to her place in society marked by a meal attended by

her close relatives and friends. (In modern Iran, family members still visit the mother on the

tenth day after birth.) Mothers would dedicate gifts to the main birth-goddess Eileithyia

(whose sanctuary was found at the edge of the city), such as girdles, dresses, and other

objects associated with birth (Johnston 2004). For many women, giving birth was the only

way for them to gain recognition in a male world, and childless marriages ran a greater risk

for divorce.

Middle Ages and Baptism Ceremony

During the Middle Ages, childbirth was associated with not only great physical danger but

spiritual danger as well. In fact, during labor, a woman would be visited by a priest so she

could confess her sins in the likelihood she would die during childbirth. If the woman did die

during childbirth, the midwife was authorized to cut her open and extract the baby so she

could baptize it because, according to Augustine of Hippo, unbaptized infants would go

straight to hell (Gelis 1991). In addition, the pains associated with pregnancy and childbirth

were largely viewed as justifiable due to Pope Innocent III’s thesis that children were

conceived in sin and that women were rightfully being punished for Eve’s sin.

If there is anything comparable to a baby shower in the Middle Ages, it would most likely be

the baby’s baptism ceremony, which usually occurred the day it was born. The mother was

confined for 40 days after the birth and, therefore, was not allowed to the baptism unless the

baptism was delayed. The godparents, who played a particularly important role of spiritual

tutor, would give gifts to the child, most notably a pair of silver spoons (Johnston 2004).

There was some temptation to appoint many godparents and receive many gifts, so the

Church stepped in and limited the number of godparents a child could have.

Renaissance

Childbirth was an almost mystical event during the Renaissance, and mothers-to-be would

often be surrounded with references to the Annunciation to encourage and celebrate her.

Unpublished inventories, diaries, and letters indicate that pregnancy and birth were celebrated

with a wide range of birth objects such as wooden trays, bowls, and majolica wares, painting,

sculptures, clothing, linens, and food. Painted childbirth trays, in particular, were popular

items and were inscribed with wishes for good health and successful childbirth (Musacchio

1999). They were used to both carry food and gifts to the new mother and serve as decoration

to be hung on the wall. Such childbirth objects emphasized the family and procreation and

encouraged Renaissance women to fulfill a maternal role.

Victorian Era

The predecessor to modern-day baby showers began to take shape during the Victorian era. A

Victorian woman would keep her pregnancy a secret as long as possible and would not

appear in public due to cultural definitions of proper behavior. Even the words “pregnant” or

“pregnancy” were nearly taboo. After she gave birth, however, often other women would

hold tea parties for the new mother--but only afterthe baby was born. In a move that may hint

at modern baby shower games, women would attempt to predict pregnancy with childish

games (Gelis 1991). For example, if two teaspoons were accidentally placed together on a

saucer, it would be speculated that a woman might be expecting. In the early 1900s, the post-

birth tea parties turned into showers. Gifts were typically handmade, except, as in the Middle

Ages, the grandmother would give silver. A woman who had a second baby might be thrown

a “sprinkling."

Modern Era

The modern baby shower started after WWII during the baby boom era and evolved with the

consumer ideology of 1950s and 1960s. In other words, baby showers in the mid-twentieth

century not only served an economic function by providing the mother-to-be and her home

with material goods that lessened the financial burden of infant care, but purchased “things”

also emerged as the principle whereby women make themselves into mothers. The

commodities associated with pregnancy and birth served to construct the identity of the fetus

as a social being (and often become treasured objects of many women who lose their baby).

Rituals of the modern baby shower include “showering” the mother-to-be with presents,

making shopping trips organized around the baby-to-be, establishing a playful atmosphere at

the shower, and placing the mother-to-be on a chair for her to sit on as she opens her gifts and

passes them around for her guests to view (Clarke 2004).

The shower, in many senses, serves to indoctrinate the woman into the special behaviors

associated with her new role in society. Paradoxically, though, the cute games played at the

shower tend to infantilize the woman and return her to innocence--and the central chair, often

decorated, also gestures toward a symbolic return to the virginal, nonsexual state associated

with Mother Mary, Queen of the World. The modern baby shower, then, supports the themes

regarding the woman’s transition to a more dependent, but pure state while also creating and

reinforcing the personal relationships which form the community (Crouch and Manderson

1993).

Twenty-First Century

Although baby showers continue to take place in the twenty-first century much as they did in

the 1950s, there are several important changes. Perhaps the most obvious change is the role

of technology. Invitations, traditionally mailed, now are often emailed in elaborate

graphically designed invitations. In addition, baby shower participants may attempt to

identify baby parts on an ultrasound as a game, or even hold virtual baby showers. While

traditional baby showers in the 1950s were characterized by exclusively female guests at

home, twenty-first century baby showers include workplace, mixed sex, and feminist

showers.

The workplace shower is held outside the home but, like traditional baby showers, it often

has thematic decorations and gifts are opened and ceremonially passed around--hough games

are more characteristic of an “all-female” workplace shower. The mix of public and private

lives in the workplace, however, can lead to tension as it marks the blurred boundaries

between a woman’s public and private lives, roles, and communities.

The mixed-sex shower differs radically from a traditional shower in that it signals the

transition to parenthood of both parents. Alcohol replaces punch and soda drinks, and

childlike games and the central chair are usually not part of the shower. Gifts, however, are

still opened and passed around.

The feminist shower is, like traditional showers, exclusively female, though they tend not to

be decorated and childlike games are not played. There is no central “throne,” and gifts

usually are not passed around. The nature of the gifts differ sharply from a traditional shower

because they are rarely for the baby and tend to be a personal, sensual gift for the mother that

reaffirms the her role as an independent, professional adult and, by extension, also gestures to

the deep tensions about the transitions to motherhood many liberal feminists may feel

(Fischer and Gainer 1993).

From ancient Egyptian post-birth rituals to twenty-first century baby showers embedded in

rites of consumerism, the ways a culture chooses to welcome a newborn child into its

community reveals society’s most fundamental values and expectations. The emerging forms

of baby showers seem to demonstrate the tensions and ambiguities modern women face in

their transition to motherhood. In many cases, women no longer engage in the traditional

separation from an old role as they enter a new role, but rather seek to add an additional role

to their existing ones. While there may be many different types of baby showers today, the

various rituals associated with pregnancy and childbirth are similar in that they all wish the

best for mother and child.

-- Posted November 1, 2008

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