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Centering Ourselves to Serve in a Time of Uncertainty: 2020
Hon. Janice M. Rosa (New York, ret.)
SCAO‐CWS Michigan Webinar
August 25, 2020
Welcome to 2020
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Our Caseload is ‘loaded’
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Our Present Experience
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We Have: The Privilege of Shaping Tomorrow
“You can’t positively impact the outside world without first looking inside”
(One of the “Golden Rules” from Notre dame Executive MBA program)
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REFLECTIONS ‐ TODAY
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• “the pandemic is a massive experiment in a collective experience…” Brene Brown
• What’s going on right now….
• Outside, in our collective experience?
• Inside, in each of us?
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Acknowledge Collectively
• Fear/Panic/Anxiety/Unknown
• Need for Control increases – anything….
• The Need to imitate what others are doing increases in a time of uncertainty… “maybe they know something we don’t”
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Imitating….During….After….
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Trauma is contagious…Together with …
• Fear
• Worry, anxiety
• Anger
• Frustration
• Sadness and grieving
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But so are….
•Kindness
•Hope
•Compassion
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Collective Grief
• Grief – about losses ––Loss of life–Loss of time
–Loss of ‘the world as we knew it’
–Loss of safety–Anticipatory too
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The Power of WE
• Humans are an innately group (‘tribe’) species
• Isolation increases ‘risk’
• Public Mind is fractured
• The Power of WE is reduced
• WHAT WILL WE DO??
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A Crisis of this Unique Magnitude
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Crisis Leadership
• Vision forward
• Focus efforts
• Influence the group
• Inspire
• Soothe, Comfort
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Improving Court Processes for Better Outcomes Through a Collective
• By understanding both the collective grief and the power of a collective will, judicial stakeholders can be better equipped to make improvement efforts
• David Kelly – “a shared vulnerability”
• Which can bring about a “collective compassion”
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ACKNOWLEDGE
ACCEPT
CHOOSE
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There’s no way out but through
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Accept…
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“The Age of Overwhelm”
Each Layer of our life can be harmed…
• Person (self)
• Intimates “family”
• Professional (work)
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Rising Tide …. versus Tsunami
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The “New Abnormal” – began months ago
“You are not working from home.
You are in your home during a crisis
… trying to work.”
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What that “new abnormal” looks like
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Stay at Home….
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Anxiety – we experience this when…
• Lack of control
• Unpredictability
• Threat to self or others
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The mind hates anxiety feelings a lot!
The mind will make up a story to make sense of what is not understood, of what is
happening ….even if it’s not true.
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Accept – the Personal effect
• Fight – Flight – Freeze Response to Threat
• Freeze – ‘play dead’ mode – large amount of stress to stay quiet and also stay alert
• Freeze – can devolve into Helplessness, then Dissociation
• NORMAL, UNAVOIDABLE – no shaming
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Dissociation ‐ a trauma response…When there’s no way out
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Pressures
• To “Keep it together”
• (Yet…deteriorating Executive Functioning)
• Annoyance, Impatience with co‐workers, those we serve
• Economic and Personal Safety ‐ uncertainty
• Multiple changes in our lives
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Corona‐coaster of emotions
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Tiredness – a Trauma Response, due to..
• Heightened alertness – ‘red alert’
• New pressures – old home/new workspace
• New pressures – no dress code/no people
• School – open? closed? virtual?
• New pressures – ‘family time’/’family time’
• Disorientation//Uncertainty
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Outside World – is it safe? when will it end?
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And our work…..
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Accept
• Weariness
• Long term
• Time‐limited stress v uncertainty
• Cortisol levels stay high
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ACCEPT
“Trauma… is not a disease but a
dis‐ease”
“…incomplete physiological responses suspended in fear”
Peter A. Levine, Waking the Tiger
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The Body Keeps the Score
• Abnormal events evoke NORMAL Body Responses
• Trauma responses occurring in the entirepopulation
• …Simultaneously
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ACKNOWLEDGE
ACCEPT
CHOOSE
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CHOOSE
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…Where You Will Stand?…
This is Where the POWER is
CHOOSE
• Who will I be …during this time?
• Who will I be … when this ends?
• How do I choose to take care of myself?
• What will I strive for when this ends?
• How will I serve? Now? Later?
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What are you choosing for self‐care?
Three Choices….
CARE, and
COMPASSION, and
HOPE …
For yourself and others
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CHOOSE: Three Choices….
CARE, and COMPASSION, and
HOPE
For yourself and others
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Trauma Treatment – “your own mask first”
• Many approaches
• ALL of them require that the person be able to function.
• Self‐regulation first. Then Agency (Choice).
• So, what do you need to function?
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INWARD and SENSORY
• Trauma first aid –
• You must contact the person (you!) first
• By senses – touch, sight, hearing, smell, etc.
• By mind – present in time, oriented
• By grounding
• By human connection
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The Good News
• Physiological response – the minute you decide to do something about your stressors, the stress response actually begins to decline – interrupting the stress signals is the most important thing you can do ….
• (Just don’t beat yourself up)…..
• Re‐regulate and re‐configure neurophysiology – breath work, and raising heart rate – The Body Keeps the Score
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Monday Morning MomentsNCJFCJ.org
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Yoga
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Breath Work
• The value of Breath Work –breaks the cycle
• Tells your body it is safe
• “Tactical Combat Breathing” – it’s a real thing!
• Super easy
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Mindfulness & Meditation
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Play time … intentional…
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Nap time – Sleep is underrated
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Nature feeds the soul
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Shinrin‐Yoku – “forest bathing”
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Sitting too much….
• Move the body to move the trauma through
• Motion – the value of getting the stress to dissipate
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Recharging
Action Contemplation
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Getting Out and About
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Activity
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Dancing
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Singing
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Pets – the ‘charcoal filters’ for stress!
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Spirituality
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Trauma is contagious – BUT SO is LAUGHTER!
We are hard‐wired for laughter –reduces cortisol
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Affection
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How do Humans Heal Each Other?
• Touching/Mirroring
• Positioning of bodies toward each other
• Because Empathy occurs Brain to Brain – non‐ verbal cuing of emotions
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Outward Choices
• “Tend and Befriend”• The Human connection soothes and heals
• Can’t self‐regulate just by self‐talk. Need emotional human connection.
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The Challenge of Isolation…be inventive
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CHOOSE:
CARE, and
COMPASSION, and
HOPE
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COMPASSION
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COMPASSION – for self and others
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The value of “Bless her(his) heart”
Bringing Compassion into our work…
• Asking for help is hard!
• The ‘system’ is focused on FIXING the problems our families face…
• What families need ‐ HEALING, and CONNECTIONS
• Compassion doesn’t shame or blame.
• Positive engagement, teaching families how to share love and caring
• How to value another human being
• Bringing the “collective compassion” into great child welfare work
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CHOOSE:
CARE, and
COMPASSION, and
HOPE
For yourself and others
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•An “energized mental state”
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The Science of HOPE
• Hope is the single best predictor of
well‐being
• Not a Theory – more than 2000 studies
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What is HOPE?
• Hope is an active position, a stance
• The BELIEF that your future can be brighter and better than your past
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• That you have a ROLE to play in making that better future.
• NOT – wishful thinking, or habit, or impulse, or happiness
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Find it First, to Give to Others
• Hope can fade to the background when you are in ‘survival mode’ of the moment of stress, emergency, anxiety.
• Mind‐Body Strategies – to reduce the hold of the amygdala
• Soothing, calming, self‐help practices – embrace POWER
• If you don’t have it yourself, it’s so much harder to give it to others
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Increasing Hope
• Your HOPE Score RISES if these are true for you most or all of the time:
– I have friends who really care about me
– I am part of a group of people who really care about each other
– I like to encourage and support others
– Others accept me just the way I am
– Even when it’s bad, I can still be hopeful about the future
– I really think I will achieve my dreams[Hope Rising, Gwinn & Hellman, at 166]
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A Gift of Hope for Others, and Self
• “My Dreams Can Come True”
• “Good Friends Can Help Light My Path”
• “I Am Resilient”
• “My Future Can Be Brighter Than My Past”
• “My Light Can Inspire Others”
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Howard Thurman
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs.
Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go and do it.
Because what the world needs is people who
have come alive.”
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CARE, HOPE, and COMPASSION
• Stay Safe
• Be Well – for your sake and others
• Self‐Regulate – then you can turn outward
• Choose Hope‐ an active choice
• Share Kindness
• Practice Compassion
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For You and for Others
• Sometimes all you need is for someone to say, “Chin up, we got this!”
….And, we do…
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