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Melanie Tonia EvansEmpowered Self

Copyright 2011 Melanie Tonia Evans

www.melanietoniaevans.com

How to Create Love

The Secret Revealed


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How to Create Love The Secret Revealed by Melanie Tonia Evans

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Contents

Welcome to This eBook .......................................................................................................... 4

Healthy and unhealthy relationships ...................................................................................... 4

Taking responsibility............................................................................................................... 7

Relationship choices ............................................................................................................... 7

My story ................................................................................................................................. 9

The vibrational shift ............................................................................................................. 11

Consciousness ...................................................................................................................... 13

How I can help you ............................................................................................................... 15

First things first .................................................................................................................... 16

The Secret revealed.............................................................................................................. 18

How to work directly on your vibration ................................................................................ 20

The results of operating from logic ....................................................................................... 22

How to feel love instead of fear ........................................................................................... 25

What it means to be connected to True Self......................................................................... 26

The journey to True Self ....................................................................................................... 27

The Journey to Empowerment ............................................................................................. 29

Thank You! ........................................................................................................................... 29

Share the message ............................................................................................................... 30


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How to Create Love

The Secret Revealed

Welcome to this eBook, created to assist you in knowing the truth and how to create reallove.

This eBook is definitely for you if youve struggled to attract and maintain a healthy loverelationship. If that isnt you then please pass this eBook on to someone you know whocan benefit! You may also enjoy reading some of the concepts I present in this eBook thatapply not just to love relationships , but also to any area of your life you wish to improve.

Creating love is one of the greatest human challenges, if not the greatest of all. Some peopleseem to create love easily where as many, many people dont.

We dont have to look very far to realize there are very few relationships we envy. Healthy,happy and fulfilling relationships seem to be the minority rather than the majority. Thesedisparaging statistics, however, dont discourage many individuals desire to create andexperience true love.

Its what virtually all of us really want

Healthy and unhealthy relationships

As a starting point, its important to understand the several defining points whichcharacterise healthy relationships. Unfortunately our forbears haven t taught us theseparameters, and in fact in regard to love many of us have had to approach this topic wit hlimited information and hit and miss results. Some people have been fortunate enough tohave great love role models, and many more havent. We can all become more aware, and


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help guide our children towards the essential understanding of what is or is nt a healthy lovemodel.

For a relationship to have a chance of being healthy the following realities are essential.

Both individuals:

Have a decent level of emotional maturity (mature boundary function).

Are willing to see the relationship as an entity and will work on and contribute to

the relationship.

Sustain themselves with interests, friends and purpose.

Honour each others non -critical differences.

Apply and supply trust, respect and honesty.

Have healthy self-esteem and are available to support each others self -esteem,rather than be threatened by it.

Experience an enhancement of well-being as a result of the relationship.

Now lets investigate the common characteristics of unhealthy relationships, whereby oneor both partners:

Has a lack of emotional maturity in the relationship, by having high level demands orinsecurities expecting the other partner to fix their feelings for them (narcissisticand co-dependent).

See the relationship as a competition and is unwilling to work on the relationship asan entity; instead wanting the relationship to work primarily for their own needs

(narcissistic).


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Forgoes (or doesnt have) their own life, mission and friends and expects the otherperson to fulfill those needs (co-dependent and narcissistic).

Invades the space of the other persons life, mission and friends and expects the

other person to give these self-pursuits up for them (co-dependent and narcissistic).

Does not respect the other persons differences and tries to change tha t person inorder to make themselves happy (narcissistic).

Hang on to the relationship, because of a variety of insecurities, regardless of thepain, fights and damage that is being sustained (co-dependent).

Endeavour to change their partners unacceptab le behaviour in order to try to

secure safety and happiness (co-dependent).

Lacks the ability to uphold trust, respect and honesty (narcissistic).

Suffers lowered self-esteem as a result of the relationship (co-dependent).

Experiences diminished well-being and happiness as a result of the relationship (co-dependent).

Co-dependency is the state of giving until it hurts. Co-dependents are usually people of highintegrity who try to fix other peoples poor behavior in order to receive the love, validationand approval that they havent as yet learnt to give to themselves. Co-dependents regularlyattract and are attracted to narcissistic individuals, because they are highly susceptible tothe glamour and veneer of a narcissist who initially appears to grant them all of the love andapproval that they have struggled to know authentically for themselves.

Narcissists are individuals who have a depleted or non-existent sense of self. They operatein an I win, you lose mentality in order to secure supply (attention) in order to feelomnipotent. Narcissists feel entitled to take, and will harvest others for their own self-absorbed and insatiable needs. Co-dependents make the perfect target because they willgive and give whilst remaining in the relationship and it is very easy for the narcissist to push

through a co- dependents flimsy personal bo undaries.
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If by now, you realise that your relationship, or past relationships have been unhealthy,youll hopefully understand that change needs to occur in order for you to experience real,safe and satisfying love.

Taking responsibility

You pro bably realize what Im going to say. Yes! The changes have to come from you!

When weve suffered unhealthy love, and we feel like its the other persons fault and werelooking at them to change, were stuck in an extremely powerless position.

Think about this for a moment: If I need you to be a certain way for me to feel okay about

me then I have to wait for you to change your behavior in order for this to occur. It s simple to see how by doing this we hand all of our personal power over to someone else.

The truth is we cant force another person to change into who we want them to be. Theymay not think they need to change, they may not have the resources to change, or they mayresent the fact that we want them to change. They may feel controlled against their own will

which is very threatening for any human being.

You have to change you, because e ssentially you are your only source of creating the reallove relationship you wish to live. This is the real truth to embrace, and by making acommitment to yourself you can and will set yourself free, rather than remaining stuck inthe same painful cycle of experiencing love that has not been real, safe and fulfilling.

Relationship choices

Often the reason we dont have a great relationship , or suffered a poor relationship in thepast is because we entered the relationship through bad choices.


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Until we are aware this can be so easy to do. Attraction is compelling, as is the beliefs oflove at first sight, or any other chemical emotional reaction we may have (includingvulnerability and neediness) which leads us into a relationship without ascertaining whetheror not the foundations of the relationship can and will be secure.

For a genuine committed relationship to be real , the entity known as the relationship:

Has in place a verbal agreement which is backed by actions that state therelationship is committed and exclusive.

Has movement towards a future with both parties genuinely wanting to build a lifetogether, even if this is, of course, done at a respectful and sensible pace.

Feels safe and real.

Promotes both parties sharing time together, and comfortably spending time apart.

Promotes both parties having the ability to discuss issues and work on therelationship respectfully and honestly.

Provides the foundations for the relationship and both individuals to be valued.

In stark contrast, a non genuine and non-committed relationship:

Doesnt have an agreement expressed and backed with actions that the relationshipis exclusive and committed.

Holds uncertainty for the future.

Feels uneasy and emotionally unsafe.

Time spent together is inconsistent or unreliable, and/or theres a measure ofdiscomfort, anxiety, fear and jealousy when time is spent apart.

Fear, anxiety and insecurities emerge when discussing issues and attempting to workon the relationship.


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Devalues the relationship and the individual wishing to have a committed, safe andhealthy relationship.

My story

I would like you to understand the reasons why I felt compelled to assist the healing andliberation of individuals who have suffered from disappointing love. You see, I myself, had ahistory of profoundly painful relationships. In fact my most toxic relationship brought me tomy knees, and was so unhealthy that I hovered between life and death. From this place ofpowerlessness, brokenness, loss, grief, anger and total despair, I ended up having a

complete breakdown.

Im not alone in this painful love scenario. Weve accepted as reality that relationships areour greatest source of joy as well as our greatest deliverer of pain. I know I once acceptedthis as my reality , and certainly my previous love experiences supplemented my belief that

love could be wonderful but would inevitably result in loss and devastation.

When we suffer the loss of material things in our life it can be painful and even devastating,

yet when we lose a love relationship and more significantly ourselves in that loverelationship it can feel like everything is lost , and at the time the experience of loss may beso painful that it feels like life is no longer worth living. Maybe you too have experiencedthese feelings, and I greatly empathise with you if you have!

Personally, i t was from becoming an empty shell and co mpletely losing my self-respect,self-esteem and self-worth that I rebuilt myself and discovered the reasons why I wasattracting, creating and participating in painful relationships. I had to take full responsibility

that I was in fact in a toxic, unhealthy and abusive relationship whilst trying to change mypartners behavior in an attempt to feel secure, loved and validated.

It seemed that he was the problem, and was the cause of my deterioration. The truth was Ineeded to realize that the love, validation and safe ty that he wasnt providing me hadalways been the commodities that I had to learn to grant myself, and up until that pointhadnt.


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I didnt just discover the logical reasons why my love relationships werent working , not by along shot. In fact the most incredible gift of all, as a result of my breakdown and consequentbreakthrough was:

I found myself, and I found a way to become aligned with a true relationship to myself and

love. From this place I not only created an incredible peace and joy within, I also manifestedthe corresponding true love relationship of my dreams, with an aligned, compatible andemotionally healthy man who is my perfect match in every way possible.

Please understand I know exactly the place of confusion, loneliness, anxiety or despairwhere you may be now. Ive been there totally. I know what it feels like to think about

someone elses loving relationship, when you dont have one yourself. I t may feel like reallove is a million miles away.

I know what it was like to see couples together and think They get to have a loving andhappy relationship. W hy dont I !? I used to muse, Maybe Im just not meant to have a loverelationship..Maybe Im cursed and not allowed to have one. or Maybe there is somethingso horribly wrong with me that it just doesnt work. Maybe you can relate to having these

thoughts too.

The love experience truly felt like despair for me. I felt like there was some cosmic powerful force holding me separated from love, no matter how hard I tried to break through. And tryI did fervently . I got my hands on every piece of literature I could read; I saw counselors,

psychologists and psychic readers and healers. I tried every method I could to break thecurse and achieve my most heartfelt desire of being in a truly loving relationship. It was mybiggest goal in life.

The truth was I had pretty much given up. I was resigned to Life is easier without a love partner and I was in that space of resignation when I met my narcissistic ex-partner. Eventhough I thought I was happy on my own, the truth was I was still miserable and lonely (Iwould never have admitted that at the time) and I used to fill my life with other things tostop the pain. When he came bursting into my life full of promise and declaring himself as

the perfect match for me and my life, complete with all the accompanying charm andappropriate romance, I fell for his advances hook, line and sinker.


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Here I was in a relationship that initially appeared to be everything I had ever wanted, yetbecame the deliverer of pain that I never thought I would personally experience. This loverelationship took me to depths that I always thought would happen to someone else andcertainly could never happen to me. You can read more about my Ex-Narcissistic

relationship here.

Five years later I was a millimeter off being annihilated in every area of my life, and wasagain alone. I was back at square one, and at the time I thought not only was I again single,everything in life that I had worked for was smashed to pieces and lay as rubble at my feet.My horrible love omen had again come true, and in an even worse way than it ever had

previously.

The vibrational shift

Regardless of my love curse, and the horrific love disaster I suffered, for the first time ever I started working vibrationally on myself.

Ill explain what I mean by vibrationally. This term means emotionally. Our emotions driveour life; they are the impulses that create our choices, behaviours and actions. Ouremotions are the barometer reading of how were functioning in life . Our feelings supplyvital personal feedback.

I was forced to do the work on myself vibrationally , because I wasnt going to survive unlessI got to the real truth about what was going on in relation to myself and love. I had to find away to feel better because the pain was unlivable. I sourced the answers to my deep core

relationship predispositions, and this created the revelation to release my pain and fears outof my emotional body. Then I was able to finally feel a solid strength and peace within whicheliminated the confusion, anguish and torment in my mind. The results were literallyastounding!

One of my painful predispositions was that I was previously fearful of being persecuted. Iwas fearful of rejection and criticism that could come with someone thinking I wasnt a goodperson. This fear inevitably was a direct match for attracting a man who would persecute

and accuse me of being a bad person mercilessly. Once I did the vibrational shift work within
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myself to validate my beliefs, there was absolutely no need to have someone else validateme as a good person, much less any individual who didnt have the resources to.

Through the experience of healing my inner vibration on this topic, not only did I get toexperience a freedom from the pain of my ex-narcissistic relationship, I also felt thefreedom of living my truth in life regardless of what other people did or didnt think of me.

When I accepted that it was me who I needed to work on and invested effort into myhealing, real love fell into my lap so easily it was ridiculous! It was almost too easy. In fact

the experience of attracting my present partner into my life was virtually effortless. Ibecame what I wanted, and then true love came. I had released the needy part of myself

that required a love partner to make me feel loved and worthy, and had learnt how tocreate authentic love and worthiness for myself.

In essence I attracted the match for the new improved version of myself, consciously. Mynew version of me was validation, love, support and integrity for myself coupled with thedesire to share my fullness with a love partner, and then the mechanics of life could donothing else but supply me myself (which is what life always does).

The journey of coming home to loving myself after having suffered intense self disintegration andtotal loss of self esteem, was the inspiration for my Book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love andthe sequel workbook Take Back Your Power.

I wrote these books during my intense selfrecovery journey to promote the powerfulmessage It Can Be Done, regardless of the

level of painful love and devastationincurred. I knew that it was important towrite my story, because my story was indeedmany other peoples story as well.
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Consciousness

Regardless of the conditioning and programming that life has delivered us, there is a better

way, a way where love pain can be healed, and you can graduate in order to create truelove. Relationship experiences were always intended to facilitate this, because love is thegreatest mirror of ourselves we can receive in order to connect to our truth, come home toourselves and become who we truly are, which definitely is healthy love.

When we make it our mission to commit to ourselves we no longer live the painful results oflife responding to our unconscious fearful programming, and instead get to live the glory ofwhat were creating for ourselves at a deliberate level .

This requires consciousness.

Wikipedia explains consciousness as a term that has been used to refer to a variety ofaspects of the relationship between the mind and the world with which it interacts. It hasbeen defined, at one time or another, as: subjective experience; awareness; the ability to

experience feelings; wakefulness; having a sense of selfhood; or as the executive controlsystem of the mind.

My philosophy is this: Consciousness is the realisation that you are not merely a passengerin life, and that you are in fact the creator of it. Consciousness means you no longer believethat you arent responsible for your life, and that youre prepared to take responsibility forit.

When I was unconscious it seemed my problems were caused by my love partner s errorsand dysfunctions. It seemed that he was the one damaged, broken and wrong. This wasvery true; however this essentially wasnt my business. What was my business was: Whyhad I attracted, participated and stayed in a relationship that was clearly extremelydamaging for me? From the previous perception of looking at him as the reason for my painI was a long way away from taking responsibility, even to the level of accepting the fact: Itwas me who attracted him into my life and chose him.
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Even that level of responsibility wasnt enough to really heal . A greater level of self-ownership was necessary. When I took full responsibility I was able to ask the question -What is it within me that is creating painful love partners and experiences in my life?

Waiting for someone else to get his or her act together is fruitless, and will never occur until

you empower yourself. And even when you do empower yourself, you may discover thatthis person hasnt stepped up to become a healthy love partner. If this is the case, you willhave the strength, self-belief and resources to move on and create a love relationship with aperson who is more suitable.

I once knew a man who previously was a substance abuser and addiction prone. For years

his wife tolerated him drinking, gambling and taking drugs. She tried to take him to therapyand support him because she believed A good woman stands by her man. His addictions,poor behaviour and abuse to his wife and children continued.

Eventually she understood that she alone was responsible for creating her life, and took thestand that he had to leave, and the marriage was over. She knew he wasnt a man whocould supply her with safe, respectful love. As a result of her empowerment he stepped up,

he changed. In fact he became a great man who now facilitates healing for other addicts.

Even if he didnt, she was aligned with her truth which was: I will only be with a man who isrespectful, safe and healthy and would have created this reality with someone else becauseshe was prepared to accept no less.

I relate, as do many other people who become conscious. As soon as I took responsibilitywithout exception for my creation of unhealthy love, an enormous relief ensued. The reasonwas: I knew I was no longer a victim at the whim of life. As the creator of all of it, I now hadthe power to chose and create a new reality of love.

Suddenly I was in the drivers seat

If you have or are suffering painful love, this is where you need to be too.


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How I can help you

I can show you the way through, and I can help you understand truly what is required to

align yourself with love solidly, and for real. The transformation that you can experience foryourself is not a work of magic, or even a profound and miraculous event, it is simply youbecoming the truth of what you wish to live, without your fear or pain sabotaging this

progress. I know if I can reverse my versions of incredibly toxic love to become healthy love You Can Too!

I found the answers, and the crazy thing was they were staring me in the face all along. As aresult of finding the way, I now show others how to break free from painful love, andbecome glorious love. I ts a joyous journey , and once you commit to your journey of yourself to release there is no stopping you. The results are fast, and life and love just gets better andbetter. So far thousands of individual have accessed my solutions and have liberated their

previous life and love pain, powerfully and in a very short space of time.

How does this journey begin? It begins by being willing to embrace and work through theemotional aspects of ourselves that arent serving us. Our inner fears and anxieties arentserving us because they keep creating our disappointing circumstances and they prevent usfrom breaking through to the realities we really want to experience.

One of the greatest problems we have as human beings is were afraid to confront thethings that hurt us. We feel that if we stop, turn around and confront our fear and pain thatit will be too much to bear. This is a total illusion . Its the pain that we ignore, theunconscious love patterns and results that were not healing , which cause the pain andcontinue screaming at us trying to get our attention. The screaming is a cry for the love,

support and attention that we need to supply ourselves. Im sure you know what it is like toattempt to avoid your pain, yet it remains and you dont experience relief. Disowning it isnot the answer.

When we do stop, turn around and give these patterns and fears our undivided and lovingattention, relief is experienced immediately. When self-condemnation and fear is replaced

by self-fascination and self-support we immediately gain answers, healing and trust forourselves.


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My material and healing work creates:

The full responsibility to yourself in order to create your necessary changes , because

the truth is that no-one can create the changes you want for you its your job.

The release of the unconscious programming that is separating you from real love

The empowerment of yourself to create and know yourself as healthy love in orderto receive it.

By doing so your painful past will no longer be your reality, because you will be able to feel

and know what it is to naturally feel good, healthy and inspired about life which will thencreate an attraction point of more of the same. This is the truth of how you can and aresupposed to live!!

First things first

In order to lay the foundation for you in regard to what The Secret is, and before I tell youwhat The Secret is, i ts vital that you get your head around a core concept .

Its this

Logical cognitive therapy alone doesnt work.

Please allow me to explain.

Many of us know what its like to see therapists, counselors and psychologists, or family andfriends, and share all our problems, and we gain some short- lived confidence, yet we didntreceive long-term and solid solutions that we can hold on to, apply and create a different lifewith.


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You may recall leaving a therapy session with some sense of direction, yet before long yourquestioning returns, the wondering how you re going to do it, or whether or not its going towork. I know this is a consistent problem because it used to happen to me, and its acommon thread amongst virtually every client upon initial contact. Their previous therapy

has not brought them to a solid solution and this why there is so much of going over thesame ground repeatedly with very little progress.

Likewise the discussions we have within our own minds , when were in emotional dist ress (adefinite symptom of love pain), often dont provide clarity.

In short, the logical solutions were attempting to gain usually doesnt feel true for us ,

because we still need to analyse, we re still second guessing ourselves and our problemscontinue to feel like a struggle. This is why cognitive therapy is often ongoing with gradualimpact at best.

In fact the more logical you are, the greater the emotional struggles you ll have. If you arevery in your logical mind thats going to work against you, and not for you. Manyindividuals get very frustrated and exclaim I should know better Im an intelligent person!Why is this happening to me?! Why do I keep doing this?! Again you may relate. I know I

certainly used to think and say those words.

I advocate infinite intelligence which is unlimited , rather than logical intelligence which isseverely limited. Infinite intelligence is an expansive intelligence that incorporates all that is.

It connects you to all information, knowing and resources of yourself and life. It is the stateof working with life. It is feeling connected to abundance and plenty. Logical Intelligence isthe state of feeling separated from life, and having to use your ego and wits to secure whatyou want. Logical Intelligence results in you being driven by fear, scarcity and lack.

When you havent as yet felt what it is to be connected and operating from InfiniteIntelligence, this may sound far-fetched. You may feel that it is logically impossible to be atone with and connected to life, abundance and plenty when you have not logicallyexperienced this reality yet. This truth needs to be experienced at a soul level, and until you

experience this level your feelings of fear, anxiety and doubt will rule your life.


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Let me explain further.

Infinite Intelligence provides the knowing of how to be effortlessly empowered and at one

with yourself and life, and how to become a true match without limits for all that you desireincluding love. Infinite intelligence understands yourself and your connection to life andother individuals from an expanded and true perspective. Magnificently this is your mostnatural state, and when you come home to yourself youll wonder how on earth youoperated any differently. In this mode of operation there is no fear , there is only pureconnection to who you wish to be.

Logical Intelligence is the state of being in your mind which is not aligned with your True

Self (who you really are). In the logical state of mind there are doubts, fears and a myriad ofconfusions and resistances to your goal of healthy love. Your mind has processed datalogically, has accessed it from a limited perspective and created a judgmental analysis which

may seem ve ry logically correct , yet will only attract whateve r it is that youre judging intoyour life. This is vibrationally discordant with creating healthy love experiences. Why?Because your logical analysis has created feelings of fear and doubt which is not a match forwhat you wish to create, and in fact is energetically manifesting the exact opposite results.

The Secret revealed

You now have the understanding to embrace the truth of what Im about to tell you

Your logical mind doesnt have the power to shift your consciousness.Because of how youre designed as a human being it cant achieve thistask.

Your logical mind is limited and has far too much memory of pain andfear to be able to line you up with where you want to go this is whyyou have ongoing doubts, uneasiness and anxiety around painful lovesituations when your logical mind is involved.


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Understandably love is a topic which we can create a lot of pain, fear and judgment around,and if were attempting to create new and positive love experiences with only logicalintelligence we inevitably complicate our issues horribly! Our pain of the past and fears ofthe future pollute our vibration, and no matter how hard we try to think in positive ways the

torturous love disappointments, heart breaks and emotional devastations weve suffered,and are fearful of re-living, completely distort our ability to align with real love.

There is a better way to work on ourselves in order to get love right. Let me show you how.

The way to make solid and real changes in yourself, in order to align yourself with what youwant to create in life, is to make the changes vibrationally. This means that you have to feel

the feelings of healthy and safe love in order to create it in your experience.

Can you imagine how powerful it is to feel and know that what you want is your truth, thatyoure aligned with it, and feel without any shadow of a doubt that it is ready to appear asreality into your experience. I absolutely had this knowing just before I met my wonderfulpartner. I felt though every cell of my body what it was to know and be safe, healthy andsupportive love.

I could feel his presence just before I met him physically. Was this a fluke? Was it somemiraculous psychic premonition? No! It was my conscious manifestation that occurred as aresult of working on myself vibrationally.

I became a vibrational match for the manifestation I wanted to create ( feeling and knowing it powerfully) and life had no option other than to choose the most perfect match to myvibration and deliver him into my reality.

Thats all that life ever does.

Therefore:

If you are a vibration of loneliness and pain life delivers more of that


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If you are a vibration of the fear of being hurt in love life delivers that, orIf you are a vibrational knowing of real and healthy love life delivers that

In fact life is always unconditionally loving and supporting you so much that you will bedelivered your vibration without exception always

Your mission is to match yourself up vibrationally with what you want to experience andthen you will get to experience it.

Not only will you attract what you want into your life , youll also receive all of the cues,

inspirations, signposts, connections and synchronicities to help you along the way

In identical fashion you can align perfectly with what you dont want if youre vibrating at aless than level.

This is why you can powerfully be attracted to, and receive incredible synchronicities, eventsand coincidences that seem so right around a love partner who ends up being so wrong.

Life was simply and lovingly delivering all of the available resources from life that would helpcreate the match for your vibration!

How to work directly on your vibration

Do you know the difference between thinking something and knowing something? Becausethis difference is the biggest key in creating a love relationship from the inside out that will work.

Think about the things in your life that you just know. This could be you just know you re agreat cook, or you just know youre good at your work, or you just know youre a lovingparent and your children love and respect you.


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The things you just know work out easily in your life. You manifest the exact results of yourown knowing , and if you have a hiccup or someone challenges you with their opinion, ittruly doesnt matter much because youre quite simply aligned with your truth on thesetopics. These topics feel good, natural and easy. They just are.

Knowing is a feeling. Knowing is not something you do in your mind, because if you had todo it in your mind, you would be trying to convince yourself something that you alreadyknow. There is no need to rationalise anything you just know , in fact its a waste of energyand time. Rather than analysing with thoughts such as: Can I do this? Will it work? and Whatif this goes wrong? , you just simply get on with the being and doing of what it is that you

know.

When you think about certain areas where youve struggled , you may admit feeling it hasalways been a struggle. In fact in some cases you may feel you ve never known how toeffectively do what feels difficult to do. I know I always felt anxiety and stress aroundrelationships, and it wasnt until I did work on myself vibrationally that I knew any different,regardless of the years of information or therapy that I sourced, or the role models that Itried to emulate.

Once I worked on getting my fears and resistances out of the way, I wasnt attracting andcreating those any more. I achieved this primarily through Quanta Freedom Healing andreminding myself of the truth of life. Then I naturally and easily knew how to be healthy,safe, at peace, inspired, happy and loving. Once if felt these things within myself, theybecame reality in my life. All of the answers and processes I created for myself (and now

share with others) provided me the ability to feel aligned.

Maybe you have always struggled with knowing how to feel solid in a love relationship?

Perhaps you were born into a family who werent aligned with this knowing. Maybe up untilnow youve been living only with the experience of knowing confusion, pain and strugglewith love, and certainly not the feelings of love being easy, flowing and natural. Maybe likemy previous self, this lack of knowing is why you ve struggled to get love right. Like myprevious self, maybe your love experiences havent improved regardless of the informationyouve read of received from outside sources.
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The results of operating from logic

When we try to think something without having knowing we can run into extremely difficult

problems. Our emotions feel strained and confused, and our mind tries to make us thinkdifferently in order to fix the fear. Instantly we are battling ourselves.

Our mind is not definitive and its not solid. It questions and consults memories, fears andless than thoughts about the painful love that it has already suffered, and adds to the

pains and fears were already suffering emotionally.

When attempting logical solutions we will inevitably beat ourselves up and damage ourown self-worth further because were not getting better. You would have at one time oranother (just like I used to) thought Whats wrong with me? Why arent I getting it? ,and Im hopeless, stupid and no good ? or Im not getting love right because I must beunlovable. W HO on earth could love ME?!

Our logic from a state of fear and confusion is trying to mange an inner emotional vibration

of our fears. It takes a strong mind to affect the emotions positively, and if it does succeedtherell only ever be management of the emotions , yet the true inner vibration (feeling) hasnever been directly addressed. The mind is not knowing, and it cant create your emotionalknowing.

The truth is your mind will only settle down when youve achieved knowing. Then, and onlythen will your mind cease its confusion. You know what knowing feels like. It feels solid andsorted. It just is. Its important that you realize that you do have the ability to align yourself

vibrationally into the solid knowing of anything that you desire in your life including love!

In the state of not knowing how to feel safe, aligned and a match (anxiety free) with healthylove, its very easy to look to the outside world and try to get other people to provide uswith the knowing instead of establishing it within.

We want someone on the outside to provide a different experience from the ones we have

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what so many people hope will happen in order to heal painful love. This equates to Whensomeone loves me enough I will heal and know what love is. I know that was the game Iwanted to play and one that our logical mind creates incorrectly as the necessary answer.

This is a false solution .

We have to see it to believe it the mind declares!

This is always self-defeating and totally vibrationally impossible, because as the total creator

of your experience , life and other people can only respond to your vibration on any particular topic. Your outer experience will only ever be a direct match of YOUR vibration.

Your feelings attached to any part of your life are the absolute match of what life will deliver without exception. If you waiting to see love before you believe it, then you dont believein love , and life will only deliver you more disbelief of love.

The Ultimate Reality is: if you dont know it then life cant deliver it to you.

Its important to recognize and accept: No amount of thinking is going to grant you the loveresult you seek. This is why you may feel the frustration like I used to, which was: Im sick todeath of all this personal development, and why dont I get to experience the love

relationship that I want?! How much MORE work do I have to do on myself?!

There are two opposite ends of the spectrum you may undertake as an attempt to getyourself aligned with love.

They are:

1) Management of your fearful love vibration through the mind, or

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The first approach is not authentic . Its a struggle and success if any will take an extendedperiod of time.

This is the playing out of the belief

My healing is a painful journey and a long one.

The true model of healing is instantaneous, because it cuts out all fear, doubt, resistance,anxiety and simply delivers you to how you really are at True Self level, which means youbecome the ease and grace of knowing the connection to who you want to be and what you

want to create in love.

This is the alignment with the belief

I already am my True Self, and in order to know that all I have to do is lose the resistancethat is getting in the way of me being aligned.

The first technique doesnt improve your life or bring you happiness . The second techniquedoes.

Likewise there are two ways to manifest anything in your life, including a healthy andsatisfying love relationship with yourself and an intimate partner and they are:

1) Attempting it though your logical mind

2) Aligning with your truth via your Infinite Intelligence

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How to feel love instead of fear

When youre looking to the outside for your answers your emotional body knows its unsafe

and powerless to create change. Youre burning fuel on things outside of you, things whichare not you, and which you have no control over. Its easy to see this creates frustration andfear. By holding people and situations that you have no control over responsible for yourwell-being, you cant create positive change or real love . This state feels emotionally terriblebecause its not the truth of who you really are.

When you come home to yourself your emotional body heaves a sigh of relief. Phew finallyIve finally come home to where its all REALLY going on. NOW I can become and create real

love! This means that you are no longer reliant on a certain individual supplying you love;you are the creator of it, because you now love yourself completely. Now you can attract andmaintain real love from someone who is a match for your truth.

You will feel this emotional relief and empowerment , and youll know absolutely what Imean by this when you align with your true power .

Its not a hard process, in fact its easy and feels incredibly natural. The Truth has a way offeeling like this! Once you access the truth about yourself, youll release one by one thefearful illusions of your mind which have separated you from the love you wish to claim.

Once the mi nd toxicity is released, youll experience alignment with what it is you reallywant truth, love and authenticity. Why? Because youve become your True Self, whichare these things.

Then the toxicity on the outside will no longer exist.

Then youll understand the outside has always been an extension of you.

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able to observe and a llow this process consciously and lovingly, and let go of what and whono longer is your truth without fear.

What it means to be connected to True Self

When you know you are love you no longer need others to love you.

When you know you are truth you no longer need other people to supply you with it.

When you know you are self-respect you no longer need other people to grant you it.

When you know you are self-belief you no longer need other people to believe in you.

When you know you are whole you simply attract more of the wholeness of who youalready are.

When you are what you seek, you lose your neediness. No longer will you attract and hangon to less than relationships trying to change someone elses behavior to try to make themthe person who will supply your happiness.

You will know you already are happiness and love , and therefore have no need to attractand play with inferior games and pain anymore. You ll keep walking forward and leave thepast painful love patterns behind . Its like having no need to play with toys you ve outgrown,

and you ll participate in only the matches of what and who is your vibration.

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The Journey to True Self

The journey that you can now embark on is a direct pathway to becoming your Infinite

Intelligence. This is your place of knowing. Within you, truly is already the knowing of safe,healthy and real love, because at True Self level you already are these things. There isnothing you need to learn or become because at True Self level youre already home. Allthat is necessary is to clear away the false beliefs, fears and illusions that have kept you

separated from your own truth.

My most tormented clients understandably are individuals who have been damaged as aresult of narcissistic abuse. These people feel like empty shells; they have severely

diminished self-esteem, self- belief and cant even begin to imagine in their wildest dreamsthat they have a complete and incredible True Self who is powerful and whole.

These people are living the vibrational reality of the complete opposite of who they really

are. Instead of knowing themselves as inspiration, love, creation, fullness and empowerment they feel insidiously wracked and polluted with fear, loss, stagnation, emptiness and

powerlessness.

When these people experience the vibrational shift they release their less than illusions,and they come back to the feeling and knowing of who they really are without exception .Once they feel it, they know it, and so it is. Then all of their experience in life begins toreflect more of that. Then these people no longer play with the elements, people andsituations in life that represent less than that.

There is no need to anymore

Despite how damaged these people were, and how much they lost themselves, they dototally repair, heal and become more empowered than they ever were, way before theirabusive breakdowns.


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Sometimes this entire 180 degree shift takes only a matter of weeks. The truth has a way ofsetting you free and it can do it fast! You can read about the results people haveexperienced from these shifts at about Melanie.

Becoming aligned with your vibration means letting go of the illusion: Painful things are

happening to me from the outside. In reality there is no out there (people doing it to you),as you are the total creator of your experience without except ion. There is only in there(you doing it to yourself) which means you are not a victim.

By accepting this Ultimate Reality, you can stop trying to painfully control, change and fixyour outer world, and instead shift into a healthy vibration in your inner world.

By doing so your outer world (which is merely and magnificently an extension of you) will

change as if by magic.

As soon as your emotional body starts receiving these vibrational shifts into knowing youwill begin to feel relief, empowerment, confidence and joy. Your emotional body knows the

difference, and automatically responds with feelings of safety, solidness, freedom and truth.
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The Journey to Empowerment

I know how much my life has changed as a result of finding and applying the truth , and I

want to share how to heal authentically with you. So far the results of my mission andpassion have changed and saved my own life and other peoples emotionally and literally . Itis a needless waste of life, love and happiness when any of us live painful experiences,because it is not the truth of what we can and should be living.

I have created a healing system called Melanies Journey to Empowerment because I ampassionate about helping people become who they truly are.

My Journey to Empowerment provides you with the step-by-step formula to clearly identifyyour painful beliefs and vibrations, and then grants you the solutions to become your TrueSelf.

Thank You!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this eBook. I am truly appreciative that youhave, because I know that the more people who understand the Truth, the more we can all

raise the consciousness of ourselves, the people that we come into contact with, andultimately humanity.
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Share the message

Our world requires a shift on a personal and a collective level to learn how to love

effectively, so that more individuals can come together to create healthy relationships.

If the truth isn t embraced, trying to get love instead of becoming love will continue tocreate pain, heartbreak and the destruction of relationships and future generations. Youhave the ability to become love , and provide yourself with the great life that is your

birthright, and you can make a difference by providing other people with the knowledgethat grants them the same opportunity.

We all have a responsibility to clean up our vibration and become role models for ourchildren, family and the peoples lives we touc h inspiring them to also step up to becometheir True Selves. Not only do we know were taking part in a vital movement, were alsocreating healthier individuals to share the journey of life with making our own lifeexperience more pleasurable. This truly is win win.

This knowledge has the potential to create an invaluable shift of consciousness withinsociety and the world.

You can make a difference by passing on this eBook and its message to family, friends and

associates.

Much Love

Melanie Tonia Evans

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