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Metropolitan Mediation Services40 Webster Place, Brookline, MA 02445-7937 - (617) 241-0300

http://metromediation.org

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

Presented by Cynthia Kriegman, Mediator, Metropolitan Mediation Services$249per person; $100 offif you sign up as a pair (couples; friends; colleagues; care providers)

Cost includes required books and course pack readings8 Thursdays, 7-9 PMOctober 24 December 19 (no class Halloween)

This class teaches an approach to working and living with children that asks...

How can I help children to behave in ways that make our lives easier today?

How do I want to interact with children so that they grow into the kind of people I hope someday they can

become, and so that we have the kind of relationship that enriches each of our lives?

The skills presented here will breed strength, compassion, and intelligence in the children in your life, as well as

teach methods of conflict resolution that will pave the way for a peaceful and loving relationship between adults

and children, with significantly decreased resentment and resistance. It is based on workshops designed byAdele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk), and influenced

by the work of Alfie Kohn (Unconditional Parenting) and Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication).

What Will Be Covered in Each Session?

1.Helping Children Deal with Their Feelings -An exploration of what happens to children when theirfeelings are denied. Specific skills that help children to recognize and cope with their negative feelings:disappointment, envy, frustration, resentment, anger, etc. Ways to accept children's feelings, limitunacceptable behavior, and still maintain goodwill.

2.Engaging Cooperation -How children react to commonly used methods to get them to cooperate: threats,warnings, orders, name-calling, sarcasm, lecturing, etc. Five ways to invite cooperation that will leaveparents and children feeling good about themselves and each other.

3.Compassionate Communication - Learn how to voice your feelings in ways that inspire cooperation fromchildren and strengthen your relationship. Based on the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg and the Center for

Nonviolent Communication, www.cnvc.org.

4.Alternatives to Punishment - How do children normally react to punishment? Is it necessary to rely onpunishment as a means of discipline? What is the difference between punishment and natural

consequences? Some alternatives to punishment that enable adults to express their strong disapproval as

well as encourage children to assume responsibility for their behavior.

5.Encouraging Autonomy - Ways to help children become separate, responsible people who can one day

function on their own. Specific skills that help children to become more self-reliant.6.

Praise -What kinds of praise build a positive and realistic self-image, and what kinds are counter-productiveWays to help children become aware of their strengths so that they can put them into action.

7.Freeing Children from Playing Roles - A look at how children are sometimes cast into roles (bully, whiner,dawdler, mischief-maker, etc.) and how we can free them from playing out these roles. Six skills that helpchildren see themselves in a different and more positive light.

8.Putting It All Together - In our final session, we'll review the skills we've been learning and reflect on howthey help us work toward our long range, big picture objectives for our work and relationships with children.