How to Talk to Parents

so They’ll Understand

Where do we learn how to

communicate?

How would you best describe the communication tactic used in your home?

Avoid Be

Defensive

Being Right

Mind Reading

Blame Game

Win Every Arguement

Proverbs 13:10

Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.

James 4:1-2

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get

it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do

not have, because you do not ask God.

What is your Communication

Style?

Why is Communication so Important?

• Passes information along

• Foundation of good relationships

• Helps you get what you need.

• Gives you self-esteem.• Helps you think better.• Makes peaceful

communities.

Tips on How to Talk to your

Parents so They’ll Listen

#1—Talk About Everyday Stuff, & do it Every Day

• Find something trivial to chat about each day.

• It’s never too late to start.

#2—Communication is a Two Way Street

• Find a good time to talk to them

• Plan your strategy• Ask everyone involved to

please listen before responding.

A. Be Clear and Direct

Proverbs 18:13He who answers before

listening- that is his folly and his shame.

James 1:19My dear brothers and sisters,

be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.

• Keep the focus on what you want and how you feel

• If you're honest, your parents will be likely to believe what you say.

• Earn their trust.

B. Be Honest

Ephesians 4:15

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is that Head,

that is, Christ.

Proverbs 24:26

An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.

• Ask them what their concerns are.

• Don’t assume you know what they’re thinking.

• Ask them to help you understand why.

C. Try to Understand their Point of View

• It won’t get you anywhere• Be respectful• This will show them a sign

of maturity and gain you respect

D. Try not to Argue and Whine

Bonus Tips

1. Use the sandwich method

2. Avoid statements like “You never” or “You always”

3. Never run off in the middle of a conversation.

4. Yelling doesn’t make people want to change their minds.

5. Never say, “I don’t love you anymore”, or “I hate you”

6. Try to always make eye contact when speaking.

What if Talking to your Parents

Doesn’t Work?

Gracefully accepting a no

can help you get more yeses in the

future.

Ephesians 4:2-3 2 Be completely humble and

gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make

every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of

peace.

If you can’t talk to your parent, seek out other adults you can

trust.