INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION

CHAPTER TEN RELATIONSHIPS PART 1

OUR BIG JUMP

OUR BIG JUMP

COMMUNICATION 

FOUNDATIONS 

SKILLS

RELATIONSHIPS 

ACQUAINTANCES

FRIENDSHIP

ROMANCE 

FAMILY

WORKPLACE

WHY THIS CHAPTER?

• THIS CHAPTER SERVES AS A TRANSITION BETWEEN THE DISCUSSIONS OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION AS A CONCEPT AND INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION AS APPLIED IN RELATIONSHIPS

• IT EXPLAINS SOME GENERAL MECHANICS OF HOW RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATION WORKS

WHAT IS AN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?

WHAT IS THE ROLE OF CHOICE IN DEVELOPING AN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?

HOW DO WE FORM RELATIONSHIPS?

HOW DO RELATIONSHIPS DETERIORATE?

QUESTIONS PRESENTED BY THIS CHAPTER

PREVIEW: INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS GENESIS: ATTRACTION STAGES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEORIES OF DEVELOPMENT OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

DEFINITION

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

PERCEPTION SHARED BY TWO PEOPLE OF AN ONGOING INTERDEPENDENT

CONNECTION THAT RESULTS IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF RELATIONAL EXPECTATIONS AND VARIES IN

INTERPERSONAL INTIMACY

SHARED PERCEPTION

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

SHARED PERCEPTION 

 BOTH PARTNERS

SHARE PERCEPTION OF ONGOING

RELATIONSHIP

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

ONGOING INTERDEPENDENT

CONNECTION 

PARTNERS RELY ON EACH OTHER TO

MEET NEEDS

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP DEFINED

RELATIONAL EXPECTATIONS

 AN UNDERSTANDING

ABOUT WHAT THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE LIKE BASED ON PRIOR EXPERIENCE

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP DEFINED

VARIES IN INTERPERSONAL

INTIMACY

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

INTERPERSONAL INTIMACY

DEGREE TO WHICH RELATIONAL PARTNERS MUTUALLY ACCEPT AND

CONFIRM EACH OTHER'S SENSE OF SELF.

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

WE LOOK AT TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS IN

TWO WAYS: 

ARE THEY BY CHOICE OR CIRCUMSTANCE?

 AND

 WHAT ROLE DOES

POWER PLAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP?

RELATIONSHIP OF CIRCUMSTANCE

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP THAT EXISTS BECAUSE OF LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES (WHO YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE, WHERE YOU

WORK OR STUDY, AND SO ON)

RELATIONSHIPS OF CHOICE

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP YOU CHOOSE TO INITIATE, MAINTAIN, AND, PERHAPS,

TERMINATE.

CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICE?

 1. NOT MUTUALLY

EXCLUSIVE 

2. ALL RELATIONSHIPS BEGIN WITH CIRCUMSTANCE

IN SOME WAYS 

3. WE MOVE TOWARD AND AWAY FROM INTIMATE

RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH BOTH CHOICE AND

CIRCUMSTANCE

CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICE?

CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICE?

CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICE?

CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICE?

GENESIS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS:

 ATTRACTION

INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION

THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU WANT TO FORM OR MAINTAIN AN INTERPERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP

SHORT TERM INITIAL ATTRACTION

DEGREE TO WHICH YOU SENSE A POTENTIAL FOR DEVELOPING AN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

LONG-TERM MAINTENANCE ATTRACTION

DEGREE OF LIKING OR POSITIVE FEELINGS THAT MOTIVATE US TO

MAINTAIN OR ESCALATE A RELATIONSHIP

I WILL ASSESS A RELATIONSHP

FOR THE POTENTIAL TO

MEET MY NEEDS

(REWARD EXCEEDS COSTS)

WHAT LEADS TO ATTRACTION?

  

IN SHORT TERM? 

IN LONG TERM?

FACTORS FOR SHORT TERM ATTRACTION:

 PROXIMITY-PHYSICAL

NEARNESS 

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE-

NONVERBAL CUES THAT ALLOW US TO

ASSESS RELATIONSHIP

POTENTIAL

FACTORS FOR LONG TERM ATTRACTION:

 COMPETENCE,

INTELLIGENCE, AND CREDIBILITY

 SELF-DISCLOSURE AND

RECIPROCATION OF LIKING

 SIMILARITIES

 DIFFERENCES AND

COMPLEMENTARY NEEDS

STAGES OF INTERPERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

RELATIONAL DEVELOPMENT:

 MOVEMENT OF A

RELATIONSHIP FROM ONE STAGE TO ANOTHER, EITHER TOWARD OR

AWAY FROM GREATER INTIMACY

TURNING POINT: 

SPECIFIC EVENT OR INTERACTION

ASSOCIATED WITH A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE

CHANGE IN A RELATIONSHIP

TWO DIRECTIONS OF RELATIONAL DEVELOPMENT

RELATIONAL ESCALATION

RELATIONAL DE-ESCALATION

RELATIONAL ESCALATION

PREINTERACTION AWARENESS ACQUAINTANCE EXPLORATION INTENSIFICATION INTIMACY  

PRE INTERACTION AWARENESS

TO OBSERVE OR TALK ABOUT SOMEONE WITHOUT DIRECT

INTERACTION

ACQUAINTANCE

INTRODUCTIONS AND CASUAL BANTER

EXPLORATION

SHARING OF MORE IN-DEPTH INFORMATION, LITTLE PHYSICAL CONTACT, MAINTAIN SOCIAL DISTANCE,

LIMIT TIME SPENT TOGETHER (INTERESTS, HOBBIES, WHERE YOU GREW UP, WHAT YOUR FAMILIES ARE

LIKE)

INTENSIFICATION

BEGIN TO DEPEND ON EACH OTHER FOR SELF CONFIRMATION AND ENGAGE IN MORE RISKY SELF

DISCLOSURE (MORE TIME TOGETHER, MORE PHYSICAL CONTACT, REDEFINE RELATIONSHIP-"BEST

FRIENDS", DATE EXCLUSIVELY, ETC.)

INTIMACY

TURN TO EACH OTHER FOR CONFIRMATION AND ACCEPTANCE OF

SELF CONCEPT

RELATIONAL ESCALATION

PREINTERACTION AWARENESS ACQUAINTANCE EXPLORATION INTENSIFICATION INTIMACY

RELATIONAL DE-ESCALATION

MOVEMENT OF A RELATIONSHIP AWAY FROM INTIMACY THROUGH FIVE STAGES: TURMOIL OR STAGNATION DEINTENSIFICATION INDIVIDUALIZATION SEPARATION POST SEPARATION

TURMOIL OR STAGNATION

INCREASE IN CONFLICT, DEFINITION OF THE RELATIONSHIP IS UNCLEAR, MUTUAL

ACCEPTANCE DECLINES, PHYSICAL CONTACT AND COMMUNICATION

DECREASE

DEINTENSIFICATION

DECREASED INTERACTIONS, INCREASED PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, AND

PSYCHOLOGICAL DISTANCE, FUTURE OF RELATIONSHIP IS QUESTIONED

INDIVIDUALIZATION

LIVES DEFINED AS INDIVIDUALS AND NOT AS COUPLE ("MINE" AND "YOURS"

"YOU" AND "ME")

SEPARATION

INTENTIONAL DECISION TO ELIMINATE OR MINIMIZE FURTHER INTERPERSONAL

INTERACTION

POST-SEPARATION EFFECTS

LASTING EFFECTS OF RELATIONSHIP ON YOUR INTERACTIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS

"GRAVE-DRESSING"

CREATING A PUBLIC STATEMENT FOR PEOPLE WHO ASK WHY WE BROKE UP AND TO COME TO GRIPS WITH LOSING

THE RELATIONSHIP

RELATIONAL DE-ESCALATION

TURMOIL OR STAGNATION DEINTENSIFICATION INDIVIDUALIZATION SEPARATION POST-SEPARATION EFFECTS

THEORIES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

SOCIAL EXCHANGE THEORY

PEOPLE MAKE RELATIONSHIP DECISIONS BY ASSESSING AND COMPARING THE COSTS

AND REWARDS

DIALECTICAL THEORY

RELATIONSHIPS DEVELOP AS PART OF OPPOSING TENSIONS WITHIN: WE WANT TO BE BOTH CONNECTED AND INDEPENDENT WE WANT BOTH PREDICTABILITY AND NOVELTY WE WANT TO BE OPEN AND CLOSED

SOCIAL PENETRATION THEORY

INCREASES IN INTIMACY ARE CONNECTED TO INCREASES IN SELF-

DISCLOSURE (HOW MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF HAVE YOU DISCLOSED TO

SOMEONE ELSE?)

SUMMARY: INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS GENESIS: ATTRACTION STAGES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS THEORIES OF DEVELOPMENT OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS