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INTROVERTS & EXTROVERTS AND WHAT IT MEANS ON EXCHANGE COWBOY COUNTRY ROTARY YOUTH EXCHANGE, DISTRICT 5440

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INTROVERTS

&

EXTROVERTSAND WHAT IT MEANS ON EXCHANGE

COWBOY COUNTRY ROTARY YOUTH EXCHANGE, DISTRICT 5440

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THE SCIENCE:

IT’S ALL IN THE NEUROTRANSMITTERS

INTROVERTS

• MORE ACTIVE ACETYLCHOLINE NETWORK

• INTERNAL REWARDS

• PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM

EXTROVERTS

• MORE ACTIVE DOPAMINE

NETWORK

• EXTERNAL REWARDS

• SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS

SYSTEM

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THE DIFFERENCES IN SENSITIVITY TO

STIMULATION

INTROVERTS• ENERGIZED BY INNER WORLD

IDEAS

• RECHARGED BY AVOIDING STIMULUS AND SEEKING QUIET

• HIGH LEVELS OF BRAIN ACTIVITY

• DEPTH IN KNOWLEDGE & FRIENDSHIPS

EXTROVERTS• ENGERGIZED BY EXTERNAL

ACTIVITY

• RECHARGED BY OUTSIDE STIMULUS

• SEEK EXTERNAL ACTIVITIES

• BREADTH OF KNOWLEDGE AND NUMBER OF FRIENDS

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ON EXCHANGE:

INTROVERTS – THE STRUGGLES

• HESITANT TO REACH OUT FOR HELP WHEN STRUGGLING OR GRAPPLING WITH A PROBLEM

• TAKES LONGER TO ALLOW OTHERS TO GET TO KNOW HIM OR HER

• LARGE GROUPS WITH LOTS OF ACTIVITY OVER LONG PERIODS OF TIME ARE DIFFICULT

• WHEN INTROVERTS RETREAT, SOME AROUND THEM TAKE IT PERSONALLY OR FEEL REJECTED.

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ON EXCHANGE:

INTROVERTS – THE ADVANTAGES

• USUALLY WILL WEATHER HOMESICKNESS AND/OR ISOLATION

BETTER THAN AN EXTROVERT

• THINKS BEFORE ACTING OR SPEAKING

• OBSERVES FIRST

• TENDS TO EXCEL AT INTEGRATION AND COMPLETE

CULTURAL IMMERSION

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ON EXCHANGE:

EXTROVERTS – THE STRUGGLES

• STRUGGLES WITH LONELINESS – TIMES OF HOMESICKNESS OR ISOLATION ARE DIFFICULT

• WILL ACT BEFORE THINKNING

• NOT ALWAYS IN TUNE WITH HOW OTHERS FEEL

• OFTEN WILL NOT INTEGRATE OR ACCLIMATE AS FULLY AND COMPLETELY AS AN INTROVERT.

• INTROVERTS MAY FEEL OVERWHELMED BY AN EXTROVERT.

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ON EXCHANGE:

EXTROVERTS – THE ADVANTAGES

• CAN MULTI-TASK

• RESPONDS WELL TO MULTIPLE DEMANDS AND

EXPECTATIONS

• EASILY MAKES FRIENDS, JOINS GROUPS AND ENGAGES IN

ACTIVITIES

• THEIR ENTHUSIASM IS OFTEN CONTAGIOUS

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BE AWARE

INTROVERTS• Need to connect deeply before

engaging in small talk.

• Less dopamine means they can delay gratification.

• Unlikely to take risks.

• Tend to project their own reaction onto others.

EXTROVERTS

• Need small talk first before having

deeper conversations.

• Seldom are overloaded by too much

information.

• Need to explore and talk things out.

• Need independence.

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INTROVERTEDNESS AND EXTROVERTEDNESS IS

A SPECTRUM

WE ARE SOMEWHERE ON THE SPECTRUM

AMBIVERTSINTROVERT EXTROVERT

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ADVICE

INTROVERTS

• LET YOUR HOST FAMILY KNOW YOU ARE AN INTROVERT

• ASK FOR TIME ALONE AND EXPLAIN THAT IT IS HOW YOU RECHARGE

EXTROVERTS

• STOP, BREATHE AND

OBSERVE ONCE IN

AWHILE.

• BE AWARE OF WHEN

YOU ARE

OVERWHELMING

OTHERS AND GIVE

THEM SPACE.

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HOW TO CARE FOR AN INTROVERT

• Give them time to think – don’t

demand instant answers.

• Don’t interrupt them.

• Given them advanced notice of

changes.

• Give them private time.

• Correct them privately.

• Teach them new skills privately.

• Don’t push them into social situations.

• Do not try to make them an extrovert.

• Don’t make grand gestures which draw attention to them.

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HOW TO CARE FOR AN EXTROVERT

• Respect their independence.

• Compliment them in the company

of others.

• Accept and encourage their

enthusiasm.

• Allow them to explore and talk

things out.

• Let them dive right in even if it seems impetuous.

• Offer them options and let them direct the outcomes.

• Understand that they need to be busy.

• Allow them to surround themselves with many people.

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KNOW THY SELFEXTROVERTS: DO NOT TRY TO CONVERT INTROVERTS INTO EXTROVERTS.

INTROVERTS: DO NOT TRY TO CONVERT EXTROVERTS INTO INTROVERTS.

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YOUR ASSIGNMENT:

STARTING THE MOMENT YOU CONTACT YOUR HOST FAMILY:

(1) Determine who in the family is an extrovert and who is an introvert.

How are you going to make this determination?

• Inquire about jobs.

• Inquire about activities and hobbies.

• Inquire about social lives.

• Inquire about how they would describe their personality.

(2) Start visualizing how you are going to be sensitive to their needs.