You WILL Love Me!Power, Relationships, and Resources

What is Power?

An individual’s ability to either influence others or to resist influence attempts by others.

Poweris

Perception

Poweris

Relational

Poweris

Resources

The person with less to lose has greater power

TheChilling Effect

Power Holders can Make and

Break the rules.

How do you get by?• In pairs, address the following scenarios:

• You are running behind and need a few extra days to complete an assignment for a professor. What strategies do you use to gain an extension?

How do you get by?• In pairs, address the following scenarios:

• A rally for improved healthcare is scheduled for tomorrow evening and you really want to go. Your girl/boyfriend, however, appears incredibly apathetic to the whole situation. What do you do to get him/her interested?

How do you get by?• In pairs, address the following scenarios:

• Your best friend comes to your apartment late one night with a black eye and several cuts. She tells you her boyfriend attacked her. Later that night she tells you she is going back to his house. How do you convince her not to go?

How do you get by?• In pairs, address the following scenarios:

• You notice your best friend has gained a lot of weight over the past month and he is eating a lot of junk food and drinking excessively. You are concerned for his health. How do you get him to take better care of himself?

How do you get by?• In pairs, address the following scenarios:

• You realize your girl/boyfriend has become increasingly more attached to you that you are to her/him. You don’t want to break up, but you want to slow things down. How do you do this?

Abuse…

What is PsychologicalAb

use?

Factors to Consider

• Intentionality– “I only wanted to get you fired up.”

• Severity– “No common sense” vs. “F’ng Idiot”

• Frequency• Judgment of Effects– “It wasn’t as bad as you are making it

out to be…”

Communicative Aggression

What do we do when we see

abuse?