johari window.ppt

S.Manikandan, Soft Skills Trainer, YS.Manikandan, Soft Skills Trainer, Youthcorpouthcorp

The Johari WindowThe Johari Window


Developed by Joseph Luft Developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham (the and Harry Ingham (the

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THE TWO KEY IDEASTHE TWO KEY IDEAS

That individuals can build trust between That individuals can build trust between themselves by disclosing information about themselves by disclosing information about themselves; and themselves; and

That they can learn about themselves and That they can learn about themselves and come to terms with personal issues with the come to terms with personal issues with the help of feedback from others. help of feedback from others.


WHAT WE HAVE IS NOT SHYNESS BUT WHAT WE HAVE IS NOT SHYNESS BUT LAZINESSLAZINESS

WE ARE IN THE OPEN AREA. WE NEVER WE ARE IN THE OPEN AREA. WE NEVER TRIED TO LIST OUT OUR QUALITIES TO TRIED TO LIST OUT OUR QUALITIES TO KNOW OTHER AREA ATTRIBUTESKNOW OTHER AREA ATTRIBUTES

MAKING CHOICE AT THE TIME OF MAKING CHOICE AT THE TIME OF GETTING TO THE STAGE – VICTOR GETTING TO THE STAGE – VICTOR EXAMPLEEXAMPLE


Quadrant 1: Open AreaQuadrant 1: Open Area

Quadrant 2: Blind Area, or "Blind Spot"Quadrant 2: Blind Area, or "Blind Spot"

Quadrant 3: Hidden or Avoided AreaQuadrant 3: Hidden or Avoided Area

Quadrant 4: Unknown AreaQuadrant 4: Unknown Area


When we communicate, we need to put When we communicate, we need to put ourselves in our listeners' shoes.ourselves in our listeners' shoes.

Put yourself on the other side of the table. Put yourself on the other side of the table. How would the message sound if you were not How would the message sound if you were not

fully versed in the topic? fully versed in the topic? Would you understand the message or would Would you understand the message or would

its meaning be lost on you? its meaning be lost on you?


For example, you are discussing computers, For example, you are discussing computers, you might be talking about bits, bytes, CPU's you might be talking about bits, bytes, CPU's and controllers. However, unless you are and controllers. However, unless you are speaking to someone who is equally well speaking to someone who is equally well informed about computers, that person will informed about computers, that person will have no idea what you are saying. have no idea what you are saying.


Language: The Key that Opens or Language: The Key that Opens or Closes that Important DoorCloses that Important Door

When we use language to express our true When we use language to express our true feelings to someone it can open and deepen feelings to someone it can open and deepen the connection between us. the connection between us.

How you use self-talk – what you say to How you use self-talk – what you say to yourself about yourself and about the world yourself about yourself and about the world directly shapes your experience of both directly shapes your experience of both yourself and the world. yourself and the world.


The seven traps that destroy our The seven traps that destroy our messagemessage

DisclaimersDisclaimers Effusive ApologiesEffusive Apologies FumbleFumble LongLong Emotions get in the wayEmotions get in the way CreditCredit Tag QuestionsTag Questions


DisclaimersDisclaimers

Ex: “You may think this sounds stupid, but…”Ex: “You may think this sounds stupid, but…”

It takes the legs out from under what you say It takes the legs out from under what you say so there is no foundation. The person is asked so there is no foundation. The person is asked to agree that what you are saying is stupid.to agree that what you are saying is stupid.


Effusive ApologiesEffusive Apologies

Ex: “You may think this sounds stupid, but…”Ex: “You may think this sounds stupid, but…”

It tends to obscure what you are saying, your It tends to obscure what you are saying, your communication gets lost in all of the apology communication gets lost in all of the apology and the underlying message is that you are inn and the underlying message is that you are inn error.error.


FumblingFumbling

““kinda, sorta like….”kinda, sorta like….”

Fumbling in your conversational style is a Fumbling in your conversational style is a habit that communicates that you do not really habit that communicates that you do not really know what you are talking about or that you know what you are talking about or that you would really rather someone would ignore it.would really rather someone would ignore it.


LongLong

Taking too long to get to the point hides your Taking too long to get to the point hides your real message in an avalanche of words- the real message in an avalanche of words- the essential message is hard if not impossible to essential message is hard if not impossible to discern.discern.


Emotions get in the wayEmotions get in the way

Ex: Perhaps crying when you are really angry, being Ex: Perhaps crying when you are really angry, being afraidafraidso not communicating at all…..so not communicating at all…..

When emotions get in the way people sometimes When emotions get in the way people sometimes don’t deliver what they are really trying to convey don’t deliver what they are really trying to convey because they are afraid of the outcome, embarrassed because they are afraid of the outcome, embarrassed by what they want to say or wrap the communiqué in by what they want to say or wrap the communiqué in the opposite emotion i.e. they are really angry but the opposite emotion i.e. they are really angry but break down instead.break down instead.


Credit- Not accepting credit.Credit- Not accepting credit.

Not accepting credit for something - saying Not accepting credit for something - saying things like “Oh it was nothing” or “Really I things like “Oh it was nothing” or “Really I don’t deserve the credit” etc. deflects attention don’t deserve the credit” etc. deflects attention from you and tends to communicate that you from you and tends to communicate that you would rather not be noticed.would rather not be noticed.


Tag Questions: “That was an Tag Questions: “That was an excellent report, don’t you think?”excellent report, don’t you think?”

Tag Lines or asking a question at the end of a Tag Lines or asking a question at the end of a statement robs that statement of any power. It statement robs that statement of any power. It is sort of like blowing up a balloon and the is sort of like blowing up a balloon and the moment you give it to someone insert a pin in moment you give it to someone insert a pin in it.it.

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