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JUNE 2017JUNE 2017 NORTHERN DELAWARE INTERGROUPNORTHERN DELAWARE INTERGROUP
NEWS from
Step Six Were entirely ready
to have God remove
all these defects of
character
Tradition Six An A.A. group ought never en-
dorse, finance, or lend the A.A.
name to any related facility or out-
side enterprise, lest problems of
money, property and prestige di-
vert us from our primary purpose.
(302) 655-5113 Suite 21-B Trolley Square, Wilmington, DE 19806
VISIT OUR WEB SITE—WWW.NDIAA.ORG
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Cover Story 1
Meeting Notices, etc 2
Anniversaries 3
Anniversary Club 3
Misc. Flyers/AA information 4
Total Contributions/2017 5
Institutional Commitments 6
Step Six/Tradition Six 7
INTERGROUP OFFICERS
Chairman: Bob A.
Vice Chairman: Gary G.
Secretary: Shirl M.
Treasurer: Gene M.
(Continued Next Page)
A tense evening in a local bookstore reminds him that
we’re not really ever done with Step Six.
As recovering alcoholics it’s easy for us to talk about our character
defects. After all, listing our defects and asking to have them removed are two
major steps on our journey in sobriety and spiritual living. In my case, having
lived most of my adult life in AA and going through the Steps four times with
four different sponsors, I thought I knew just about all there was to know
about myself.
But every now and then one pesky little defect kept coming up in
conversations with the significant people in my life. And most notably, it was
always the other person who dragged this defect out of the shadows of my
subconscious and into the light of my day. Here’s how it all started this last
time.
I was sitting at the kitchen table of my lifelong friend Bob. We had
been friends since Little League, and he knows about as much about me as I
do about him. Besides our friendship of more than 50 years, I’ve been spon-
soring him since 1993. That day at the table, Bob said, “John, you were once
the most self-centered person I had ever known.” Now, in my mind I was
thinking, Wow, this is great. What Bob is really saying is a great compliment.
He’s saying, “John, what a remarkable success you’ve made of your recov-
ery—going from the most self-centered person on earth to the utterly selfless
guy you are today.”
Like so many other alcoholics, I have the tendency to hear things that
people didn’t say. This, of course, is yet another character defect that I had
unknowingly carried around with me, sort of like a birthmark that I never
want to look at.
A few months after my conversation with Bob, I read in the newspa-
per that a certain author was coming to our town to talk about his wildly
popular bestselling book. This guy, like me, was a newspaper columnist and
author. His success was on a national scale, while my success as an author
was regional. But my keen alcoholic mind swiftly came up with a plan to
change all that.
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AA NEWS JUNE 2017
No Meeting In July
Northern Delaware Intergroup meetings are held the first Wednesday
of every month at 7:00 pm at St. Marks Lutheran Church, 501
Duncan Road (off Philadelphia Pike, Bellefonte), Wilmington,
DE 19809. All members of Alcoholics Anonymous are welcome.
Meeting Times and NoticesMeeting Times and Notices If you have any information on changes
to meetings, either old or new, please
let the Intergroup office know.
Ph. 302Ph. 302--655655--51135113
“Every person’s life is a series of changes.” P. D. Barrington, IL; June 1981 Grapevine
Although I had never read his book, I bought it and took it with me when I went to his lecture. My plan
was simple: When I got to where he would be signing books, I would hand him my latest book and say something
like, “Welcome to our community. This is the bestselling book in this area and wanted you to have it,” sort of like
a key to the city. Then he would of course read my book on his trip home, and when he went back to work at his
big-city newspaper he would write about me and my book in his column, and my sales would sky rocket, and I
would be on my way to stardom.
But it didn’t work out that way. He spoke for about two hours and answered questions from the mostly
little-old-ladies-in-knit-sweaters audience, so that by the time the 700 or so attendees lined up for the signing and
I—not wanting to jostle the old ladies— was number 700, I couldn’t take it any longer. With my head hung low, I
shuffled out to my car and into an alcoholic pout.
This, then, was the night I came to believe that maybe I was, as Bob had said, the most self- centered per-
son on the planet. While 699 other people had had a great time, I had sat with my mind racing: Should I sign my
book? Would that be presumptuous? Would he even accept my book? Would he read it? What if he hated it?
That night was a few months back, and I’ve replayed it in my mind dozens of times. Why didn’t it bother
me that I was using other people, places and things to get what I wanted that night? After all, wasn’t I Mr. Sobriety
himself? Was I so caught up In what I wanted that I Justified any means possible to get what I wanted?
Was I really like the guy on the Titanic who pushed the women and children out of his way at the life-
boats?
Regardless of how I might have answered these questions back then, today I know that night changed the
way I look at how self-centered I can still be. It changed the way I look at my life in recovery. Not because it was
on a scale like the tragedy of the Titanic. No, it wasn’t like that. I wasn’t on that doomed ship. But now when I
think of how I lived my life before that night, it becomes for me like being on the Titanic, looking over the edge at
the lifeboats and the deep dark sea below— and making a choice.
Reprinted from June 2014 Grapevine, John Y., Russell, Pa.
“In Tradition Three, A.A. is really saying to every serious drinker,
‘You are an AA member if you say so. You can declare yourself
in; nobody can keep you out.’” — Bill W. from Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
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ANNIVERSARY CLUB (Updated 4/28/2016)
Celebrate your anniversary with an act of gratitude that will help Northern Delaware Intergroup continue to carry to the
still suffering alcoholic a message. The idea is to make a
commitment to send N.D.I. a dollar (or whatever you can
afford) for every year sober on your anniversary.
To register, just fill out the form on the right and together
with a check, mail to: Northern Delaware Intergroup Suite 21 B Trolley Square Wilmington, Delaware 19806
Anniversary Club Contribution Card
Sobriety Date
Home Group
Name
Contribution
AA NEWS JUNE 2017
If you or other members of your group have reached an anniversary milestone. Please call or email the
information to the Intergroup office, or to the [email protected] so that we can let other A.A.
members know of this important achievement. (As of Jan. 2017 we will begin eliminating names not up-to-date.)
Barbara K.
Barbara W.
Becky R. F. 1/19/95
Betsy B. 10/01/00
Betty R.
Beverly F. 09/02/89
Bill C. 05/02/78
Bill D.
Bill F. 8/20/88
Bill W. 07/04/88
Bob A. 7/9/90
Bob M. 1/17/83
Brendan D. 5/3/09
Brenda A. 2/23/85
Candice M.
Carel B. 4/26/04
Carol V.
Carolyn W. 7/15/82
Cathy G.
Charles K.
Christopher K. 11/03
Cindy H.
Connie H.
David C. 2/1/94
David G. 7/6/99
David F. 11/23/07
David K. 12/03/72 44 yrs.
David M. 1964(Deceased)
Debbie G.
Debbie H. 03/16/91
Diane B.
Don B.
Don F.
Doris S. 04/80
Doug W. 2/28/91
Ed B.
Ed H. 01/28/96
Elizabeth A.
Floyd P.
Frances O.
Franny C. 05/07/96
Frank S.
Fred M. 5/5/90
Gail R. 06/04/92
Gene D.
Gene O.
George S.
Helen W.
Harry B.
Jaime B. 08/08/04
Jackie F.
Janice O.
Janice S. 12/25/2010
Jason B. 4/20/09
Jean R.
Jim S. 04/10/88
Joan S.
Joe W.
John R.
Johnny Boy B.
John S.
Kara G. 11/8/12
Kathy O. 6/11/97
Ken H. 11/4/97
Ken P. 09/20/83
Kerry O. 04/20/08
Larry
Laura R. 6/21/95
Leah S.
Len K. date?
Lisa A.
Liza F. 1/20/05
Maria G
Marilyn M. 06/26/99
Marylyn V.W.
Marie R. 9/6/83
Mary Ellen S. 1/24/10 Mary J.
Maryann D.
Matt S.
Melissa S. 06/23/08
Mike M. 4/20/91
Mike N.
Moe McK. 1993 Deceased
Nancy V. 2/21/05
Nell K.
Patricia K. 12/17/87
Patsy M. 1/6/88
Pat J.
Phyllis M. 03/09/88
Rob S.
Rob K.
Sally C. 10/15/95
Sande R.
Shirley U. 3/19/76
Stanley B. 03/05/79
Stacy V.
Susan N.
Suzanne M.04/04
Tenney W. 5/15/1982
Thomas B.
Tom H. 07/02/04
Tom McD. 01/16/96
Toni S.
Tricia B.
Valerie S. 2/3/89
Walt A. 01/94
Walt M.
Wayne S.
Wes J. 4/21/75
Wes M. 2/1/94
William M.
Wilson S.
The Forgotten Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous 2101 Lancaster Ave.
Wilmington, DE 19805 12:00PM on Tuesdays at Zion Lutheran Church
This is an OpenOpen AA meeting! 3rd Tradition attendees only! (The only
requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.)
•1st Tues. Step Meeting • 2nd Tues. (2 Speaker Discussion Meeting)
• 3rd Tues. Big Book • 4th Tues. AA Double Winner Speaker Discussion
• 5thTues. Open Discussion
ARE YOU restless, discontent, and irritable IN SOBRIETY?ARE YOU restless, discontent, and irritable IN SOBRIETY?Father’s Day, Sunday 18th
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AA NEWS JUNE 2017
Northern Delaware Intergroup
NDIAA Family Picnic
Sunday, September 24, 2017
Banning Park
Friday, June 16, 2017
Starts at 6:30pm
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CONTRIBUTIONS in 2017 to Northern Delaware Intergroup
AA NEWS JUNE 2017
GROUP NAME 2017 YTD MAY
AA Basics $ 165.69 $ -
Agnostic Delaware $ 111.62 $ -
Alone Together Group $ - $ -
Anonymous Group $ - $ -
Arden Group $ - $ -
As Bill Sees It $ - $ -
Augustine Group $ 20.00 $ -
Back to Basic Big Book Group $ - $ -
Basic 12 Steps $ - $ -
Basic Big Book $ 96.00 $ -
Beaten Path $ - $ -
Beginners Freedom Group $ - $ -
Bellefonte Group $ 75.00 $ 75.00
Big Book Group $ 100.00 $ 100.00
Big Book Tuesday $ - $ -
Blue Rock Group $ - $ -
Brandywine Open God Step Group $ - $ -
Brandywine Springs Group $ - $ -
Brooklyn Terrace $ - $ -
BYOBB $ 321.00 $ 321.00
Canby Park $ 25.00 $ -
Carry The Message Friday Night $ - $ -
Cedars Tuesday Night $ 100.00 $ -
Chadds Ford Group $ 75.00 $ -
Chichester Step Group $ - $ -
Christ Church Group $ 164.40 $ -
Come As You Are Group $ - $ -
Conscious Contact $ 744.00 $ -
Claymont Group $ - $ -
Courage to Change $ 640.89 $ -
Dawn Patrol $ 1,315.79 $ 292.43
DECCYPAA $ - $ -
Delaware City Group $ 435.60 $ -
Diamonds & Pearls Group $ - $ -
Displaced Park Place Group $ - $ -
Doorkeepers $ 100.00 $ -
Downtowner's Group $ - $ -
Early Risers $ 2,281.79 $ -
Esh Group - Newark $ - $ -
ESH Group - Wilm. $ 150.00 $ -
Eye Opener $ 1,562.47 $ 291.78
Fairfax Speaker Meeting $ 601.00 $ 306.00
First Stop Friday $ 960.00 $ -
First Stop Wednesday $ 115.00 $ 50.00
First Things First Group $ - $ -
Five Alive Group $ 667.00 $ 667.00
Freedom Group $ 100.00 $ -
Fresh air Group $ 165.00 $ -
Friendship House $ - $ -
God Step $ - $ -
G.O.Y.A. $ - $ -
Glasgow Pines $ - $ -
Greenhill Beginners $ 520.00 $ 200.00
Greenhill Open Step Group $ 300.00 $ -
Greenwood Group $ 200.00 $ 200.00
Growing and Learning $ 300.00 $ -
Growth Group $ 300.00 $ -
Happy Hour Group $ 175.00 $ -
Hockessin Women’s $ - $ -
How It Works Group $ 100.00 $ -
Hudson Center $ 150.00 $ -
Humble Beginnings $ - $ -
In Bills Steps $ 154.44 $ -
Into Action $ 250.00 $ -
Just Do It $ 125.00 $ -
Just for Today $ 564.00 $ -
Keep it Green $ - $ -
Keep it Simple Newark $ - $ -
Keep it Simple, Wilmington $ 15.00 $ -
Kingswood Men’s $ 400.00 $ -
Ladies of Literature $ 174.32 $ 27.00
Lamplighters $ - $ -
Landenburg Group $ 110.00 $ 60.00
Last Stop Friday Group $ - $ -
Late For Dinner Group $ 220.00 $ -
Living In The Solution $ 52.50 $ -
Manor of Living Group $ - $ -
Member $ - $ -
Men of New Garden $ 237.83 $ 237.83
Metroform $ - $ -
Middletown Step and Tradition $ - $ -
Millennium Group $ - $ -
Naaman’s Step Group $ 420.00 $ -
New Castle Group $ - $ -
New Day Group $ 1,117.00 $ -
New Hope Group $ - $ -
New Life Group $ 100.00 $ -
Newark Group $ - $ -
Newport Breakdown $ 466.00 $ -
Newport Group $ - $ -
No Excuses $ 300.00 $ -
North St. George's Group $ 85.00 $ -
Pace - Walt $ - $ -
Pacific Group $ - $ -
Pencader Group $ - $ -
Pike Creek Group $ 111.00 $ -
Pioneers Group $ - $ -
Prices Run Group $ - $ -
Promises Women $ 184.40 $ 70.00
Raphael Group $ 90.00 $ 75.00
Red Lion / Sat. $ - $ -
Red Lion Search for Serenity $ - $ -
S.A.G.A. $ - $ -
S.O.S. Group $ - $ -
Saturday Solutions $ 65.00 $ -
Second Chance $ 517.20 $ -
Serenity at Sunrise $ 144.47 $ -
Serenity for the Week $ - $ -
Silver Fox $ - $ -
Silverbrook Group $ 180.00 $ 180.00
Sisters in Serenity $ 206.30 $ -
Sober and Gay Group $ - $ -
Sojourners $ - $ -
Solutions $ 60.00 $ -
South College Speaker Group $ - $ -
Spirit of Truth $ 410.64 $ -
St. Andrews 102 $ - $ -
St. Nicholas Group (Tues.) $ - $ -
Stepping Stones $ 150.00 $ 75.00
Sunday Literature Meeting $ - $ -
Sunday Night Big Book $ - $ -
Sunrise Group $ - $ -
Swanwick Holloway Terrace $ - $ -
Swanwick Holloway Terrace Group $ - $ -
The Forgotten Steps $ 10.00 $ 5.00
Today Group, Wilmington $ 444.00 $ -
Trolley Square BB $ 400.00 $ -
Tuesday Big Book $ 165.00 $ -
Twelve & Twelve $ - $ -
Twelve & Twelve Step $ 160.00 $ -
Twelve Keys to Freedom $ 181.50 $ -
Twelves Keys Group $ - $ -
Upper Room Group $ 87.00 $ -
US Group $ - $ -
Vent-a-Laters $ - $ -
Vet's Hospital Group $ 100.00 $ -
Wed Night Beginners $ - $ -
Welcome Group $ 265.00 $ -
Wilmington Group $ 100.00 $ -
Women's Friday Morning $ 272.65 $ -
Women's Sober Hour $ - $ -
Yorklyn Diner Groups $ 1,400.00 $ -
Zion Tuesday $ - $ -
TOTALS $ 23,632.50 $ 3,233.04
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INSTITUTIONAL COMMITMENTS FOR THE MONTH OF JUNE
AA NEWS JUNE 2017
Note: * These Institutions have requested a confirmation call of a meeting on the day of the commitment. Please call your Intergroup Rep.
INSTITUTION DAY TIME HOME GROUP CONTACT
Connections Brandywine Women TUESDAY 7:00 PM Early Risers Kim
Connections Brandywine Women WEDNESDAY 7:30 PM Just For Today Eva
GAUDENZIA MONDAY 7:00 PM 12 Keys John
GAUDENZIA 3rd floor MONDAY 7:00 PM BB Tuesday Kelly
GAUDENZIA FRIDAY 7:00 PM Fresh Air Mark
GAUDENZIA 3rd floor FRIDAY 7:00 PM Men of New Garden Mark
GAUDENZIA SATURDAY 7:00 PM Fairfax Speaker Tim B.
GAUDENZIA 3rd floor SATURDAY 7:00 PM Today Group Jack C.
NDI Meeting WEDNESDAY 6:15 PM Silverbrook Men Hank
KIRKWOOD DETOX SUNDAY 8:00 PM Freedom Group Tom D.
KIRKWOOD DETOX MONDAY 8:00 PM AA Basics Anna
KIRKWOOD DETOX WEDNESDAY 8:00 PM Early Risers Kim
KIRKWOOD DETOX FRIDAY 8:00 PM BB Study Bill H.
KIRKWOOD DETOX SATURDAY 8:00 PM Yorklyn Diner Margaret
**MARY MOTHER of HOPE (women) THURSDAY 8:00 PM 1st Stop Wed MaryAnn
*MEADOW WOOD MONDAY 8:00 PM Delaware City Kevin
*MEADOW WOOD TUESDAY 8:00 PM Newark Dave H.
*MEADOW WOOD SATURDAY 8:00 PM Late For Dinner Terri
*MEADOW WOOD SUNDAY 8:00 PM Red Lion Saturday Ed
RVRC MONDAY 7:00 PM Happy Hour Keith
*ROCKFORD CENTER TUESDAY 7:00 PM Pike Creek Ray
*ROCKFORD CENTER (Adolescent) MONDAY 7:00 PM Greenhill Open Step Tom H.
*WILMINGTON HOSPITAL TUESDAY 7:00 PM Back to Basics Chris
*WILMINGTON HOSPITAL SATURDAY 7:00 PM ESH Wilmington Susan D.
Questions? Call 302-655-5113 Intergroup Office
Note: **The Mary Mother of Hope commitment is only on 2nd and 4th week of the month.
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Let us know what’s going on. •Anniversaries
•Special Events
•Meeting Changes
• Experience, Strength, and
Hope Messages You write it, we will print it.You write it, we will print it.
AA NEWS JUNE 2017
For an additional articles on the Steps ,
visit the Grapevine website at
www.aagrapevine.orgwww.aagrapevine.orgwww.aagrapevine.org
You can carry the You can carry the You can carry the message, but not the message, but not the message, but not the
alcoholic. alcoholic. alcoholic.
Step Six Were entirely ready
to have God remove
all these defects
of character
Tradition Six An A.A. group ought never en-
dorse, finance, or lend the A.A.
name to any related facility or out-
side enterprise, lest problems of
money, property and prestige di-
vert us from our primary purpose.
I am Responsible When Anyone, Anywhere Reaches
Out For Help, I Want The Hand Of
A.A. Always To Be There. And For
That, I Am Responsible !
God grant me the serenity to accept
the things I cannot change, courage to
change the things I can, and wisdom to
know the difference.
Safety is an important issue within A.A. — one that all groups and members can ad-
dress to develop workable solutions and help keep our meetings safe based on the
fundamental principles of the Fellowship.*
*Excerpts continued from Service Material from the G. S. O.– SMF-209 www.aa.org
A.A. and the Law
Common sense and experience suggest that A.A. membership does not
grant immunity from local regulations and being at an A.A. meeting does not put
anyone beyond the jurisdiction of law enforcement officers. As individuals, A.A.
members are also “citizens of the world,” and as citizens we are not above the law.
Through the group conscience process, many groups have established
guidelines regarding when it may be appropriate to call authorities and handle a
given situation within the legal system. No A.A. group has to tolerate illegal behav-
ior and any activity within an A.A. meeting is subject to the same laws that apply
outside the meeting. The nature of illegal acts that groups have faced include vio-
lence, embezzlement, theft of property, drug sales at a meeting, and more.
Emergencies
Injuries, accidents, fires, etc., sometimes do occur during meetings. To
accommodate these situations, groups can also develop plans and procedures, often
in consultation with their landlord or local authorities. Addressing an emergency
situation is more important than continuing the meeting, and members should not
hesitate to call emergency personnel in critical situations.
Keeping the Focus on Our Primary Purpose
It is hoped that our common suffering as alcoholics and our common solu-
tion in A.A. would transcend most issues and curtail negative behaviors. As noted
in the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous, “Love and tolerance of others is our
code.”
Safety, however, is important to the functioning of the group. By main-
taining order and safety in meetings, the group as a whole will benefit and members
will be able to focus on recovery from alcoholism and a life of sobriety.
Ultimately, the experience of how these situations are handled can be as
varied as our Fellowship. Good judgment and common sense, informed by the
Twelve Traditions, seem to provide the best guide.
What Can Groups and Members Do?
Groups and members can discuss the topic of safety, to raise awareness in
the Fellowship and seek through sponsorship, workshops and meetings, to create as
safe an environment as possible for the newcomer, and other members or potential
members. This can be the subject of sharing among groups at the district or area
level.
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