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Always in Our Hearts

Gaige’s story

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Cute, Cozy, and Warm

Ilove the holiday season. I love the traditions. All of them. I love the cheesy music. I love the colourful lights. I love

the baking. I love the celebrations. But most of all, I love the pajamas. Yes, the pajamas!

You see, pajamas go hand in hand with another great tradition: the first gift of Christmas. Every year on Christmas Eve my sister and I opened one gift each. We could choose anything under the tree, but we weren’t adventurous. We always opened the gift from our aunt – the aunt who bought us pajamas.

We’d eagerly tear open the present to see what cozy thing we’d get to wear that cold winter’s night. Would it have ice cream cones, teddy bears, Santa Claus? We both agreed: the tackier, the better!

The pajamas I got when I was 16 were my all-time favourite: flannel rubber ducky pj’s. The rest of the year, I was just another self-conscious teenage girl conforming to the ‘laws of coolness,’ yet at Christmas, a pair of ducky pajamas seemed like the perfect gift.

This complete disregard for what’s cool is what I think makes the holiday season so special. On any other occasion, receiving pajamas probably wouldn’t go over so well. Imagine getting pj’s instead of a toy on your 7th birthday or instead of an iPod on your 15th?

But at Christmastime, we get to embrace our inner-cheesiness. It’s a time when whimsy and fun overrule what’s ‘in’; when we sing Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers instead of Lady Gaga and Justin Bieber. (Okay…we might have the Justin Bieber Christmas album at our house and we might kind of love it - it definitely fits our ‘the cheesier the better’ mantra, though!)

And it’s a time when finding matching red footed pajamas for our daughters feels like we’ve won the lottery. And when we find adult-sized ones too, we just might feel like we got the keys to the world!

Because, really, deep down don’t we all want to be cute, cozy and warm?

- Courtney Charlton, editor

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On the Cover:Eight year old Hudson has a face that is

sure to melt hearts! Robyn Shiels, the lucky momma of this dashing boy, is the talent be-hind State of Grace Photography. She is also the resident photographer for Fit By Design.

Shiels is a natural-light, lifestyle photogra-pher, specializing in children and families. She believes that photography is one way to hold onto moments, to capture time, to make a breath last forever.

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Wishing you a happy everything this season and always!Photo: Milk and Honey Photography

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7 The Wet Sock TreatmentBattling ‘General Mucus’ naturally

9 I Can Do That!Small steps to create a more balanced life

10 Communicating with Your HandsThe how-to’s of giving a great back massage

12 A Family that Volunteers Together...Tips from Volunteer Kamloops

13 Always in Our HeartsThe story of Gaige Christenson

14 Tis’ the Season to Seize the Day!A year in the life of a homeschooling momma of four

15 Small Gifts from SantaStocking stuffers that support the local economy

21 Totally Grossed Out!A disgustingly delightful birthday party idea

22 Meet the MommaSabrina Sinclair, Fit By Design

26 Bringing Kamloops’ Sexy Back: RevealedSarah Steele

28 Healing from the Outside InA mom’s perspective on severe childhood allergies

A Look Inside Kamloops Momma...

Keira, 2

Alana, 2

14 Health and Wellness Directory

23 Things We Love

27 Notes from a Boho Momma

30 Community Events Calendar

18 Community Business Directory

24 Dear Aunty

27 Get Connected

Resources:

Ethan, 4

Tyson, 7

Cally, 9 months, Wyatt, 5

Photo: MGL Photography

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Call me a doubting Thomas, but frankly I’m quite sceptical of most of the prescrip-tions doled out by doctors and phar-

macists in the name of health. Is pumping my body full of chemicals really going to do anything to vanquish those common pestilences painting the town (and my nose) red? Based on personal experi-ence, my own answer to that question is a resounding “No.”

Enter a naturopath. I don’t consider myself to be one of “those people” who wears Birkenstock sandals year round, has sported dread locks since the 60s, and who never shaves anything on the body, ever (not that I have anything against anyone who fits that description…do what brings you joy, I say). But I am one of “those people” who believes in exploring options, in finding what fits life for you, and in allowing insurance companies to foot the bill for alternative medical services.

Arriving a bit late with my kids in tow, ages 1 and 3, I’m feeling frazzled. She, the naturopathic doctor, shows me into a space akin to a living room, complete with a box of toys to keep the kiddies entertained and minus the various poking and prodding tools I’m used to detaching small hands from in my regular doctor’s exam room (her pokes and prods are in a separate space all together). My heart rate begins to decrease.

Conversation begins and is interrupted by the dry cough of my 1-year-old. Seeing her concern, I explain he and I have both been ambushed by, what seems to be, the same malicious bug. Attack tactic one: force persistent sneezing. Tactic two: block drainage and clog sinuses. Three: launch hacking cough. We were waiting on General Mucus’s next move.

Ready to join ranks, the naturopath asks what we are doing to support the immune system and alludes to some homeopathic solutions. Sceptical me is not overly interested in pursuing that course, especially not for my babe (I’m one of those parents who tries out pacifiers before giving them to my kids), and I think the naturopath sensed some dissension brewing in the ranks, so she perceptively lowered he proverbial canon, and let the smoke clear for awhile.

Visit continues and she jovially inquires about my moods, hobbies, pregnancy experiences, education, birthing experi-ences, dietary habits, sleep routine, and almost everything else right down to the strength of my fingernails. A warm smile, ready laugh, and genuine interest in my replies invites me to share more with her about me than any medical doctor will ever know, perhaps even more than what my sisters know.

About 45 minutes pass and our chat has come to an end. She produces a written sheet of recommendations for me to con-sider. Something to help my liver and a secret weapon for our dear General: The Wet Sock Treatment.

Wet socks? Yes. Wet socks and a dry pair as well. And you’ll need a towel and something to soak your feet in. Nothing to ingest and likely no additional cost to the consumer - my kind of warfare.

Hydrotherapy she calls it: using water at varying tempera-tures to promote healing in the body.

For us, what that means is to take a pair of regular old cotton socks and soak them

completely with cold water (ice water for me, cold tap water for my little guy). Put

a pair of dry socks aside, preferably thick wool ones if you’ve got them (they work to keep the wetness in rather than absorbing it, but if you don’t have wool-lies, another fuzzy or thick pair of socks will work).

Leave the socks in the sink, or wher-ever they are cooling, and heat up your

feet by soaking them in warm water or by taking a warm bath for 5 to 10 minutes. This

is key: the naturopath warns the treatment will not be as effective and may even be harmful if feet

are not toasty first. Then ring out your cold, wet socks, put them on and then

cover them up with your dry socks. Next, go straight to bed to avoid getting chilly. Keep the socks on overnight and while you are sleeping, the wet socks will dry out. Follow these same steps for three days.

And how do soggy socks do anything for the sniffles? Appar-ently they help increase circulation and force your metabolism to do some work while you sleep, which decreases congestion in the chest, head, and throat. There is also a sedating action caused and supposedly many sleep better during the treat-ment.

Plus, it’s not just the sniffles this allegedly helps with. It was common fare in the 1920s and 30s for sore throats, inflamma-tion or infection of the throat, neck pain, ear infections, head-aches, migraines, upper respiratory infections, coughs, bron-chitis, and sinus infections…looking at this list, you’ll never have to try anything else again!

There are a few cautionary point: beware if you’ve got any trouble with circulation - diabetes, Raynaud’s syndrome, arte-rial insufficiency - that sort of thing. If this applies, chat with your doctor to see if you and wet socks will pair well.

As for the miracle cure claim, I’m not entirely sure about that, but I can venture a testimonial here. I’ll be sporting my soggy socks for the third time, as is my little one, and the both of us have been dripping like a drain pipe in a spring shower since day one. General Mucus…prepare for defeat!

By Jennifer Sloan

Photo: Troi Crombie Photography

The Wet Sock Treatment:Battling ‘General Mucus’ Naturally

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By Janet Whitehead

Icame across a popular article on managing overwhelm for moms and by the time I read through it, I was over-whelmed. Only a robot could pull it off: Every day

(EVERY DAY!) wash, dry and fold the laundry, open and file the mail, clean the bathroom, keep only one piece of your child’s artwork and toss the rest, make sure every key, shoe, toy and craft item has a place and gets put away every night....You get the picture: all work, no play - no time to create the life you really want. It’s just another bit of advice in the media to add to the already insane pressures on moms.

Your home should be clean, beautifully decorated, the yard immaculate, and your dog shouldn’t bark.

Your children should be involved in dance, soccer, creative play, free play, story time, have play dates, attend parties, be offered all learning opportunities and toys to develop spiritu-ally, mentally, emotionally, and physically - and if they act like a brat,well, it’s your fault.

You should be involved with the school and the community. Oh! And, of course, you should show up to your career refreshed, renewed and giving 110% - ditto for your spouse, whowe haven’t even begun to mention here - and you really ought to work out daily and host more get-togethers with friends and family. Especially at Christmas.

And with New Year’s comes the resolutions that just put more pressure on you. Uh huh.

There is a better way:Tip 1: Do not add the ‘reduce overwhelm’ advice mentioned

above to your repertoire of ‘must do’s’ unless they happen to sing to your soul.

Tip 2: Notice when you say ‘should.’ Often a ‘should’ is soci-ety’s or somebody else’s expectations you are trying to live up to. Typically this is demotivating instead of motivating.

Tip 3: You are hereby given permission to lower expecta-tions, be blissfully imperfect and regularly say, “good enough.”

Tip 4: Getting clearer on where you really want to be, per-sonally and as a family, will reduce overwhelm.

Try this:Imagine that each spoke of the Ferris Wheel above (A) rep-

resents an area of your life. On a scale of 1 (at the center) and 10 (at the gondola), mark where you think you are currently on each spoke with 10 being ‘ideal.’

Connect the dots you’ve marked to create a new ‘circle.’ Your circle might look something like Ferris Wheel ‘B’ pic-tured above…and that’s okay: Your ideal life balance may not mean that each area has to be equally balanced. The Ferris Wheel is simply a tool for considering where you are and where you want to be. You might notice that some of the bumps do feel ‘out of sync’ but, without making any changes in your life, your dots can get closer to a ‘10.’

Pick one spoke and write down what a ‘10’ is to you. Once you are clearer on your vision and expectations, you may find yourself further up on that scale than you first thought.

For example, let’s say you first marked yourself at 2 on the ‘creativity’ scale because you thought, “oh, I’m not an artist at

all.” But when you wrote what a ‘10’ would be for you, you realized you actually don’t have an ambition to be an artist and a ‘10’

is creative play with your kids. Heck, you might already be at that ‘10.’ Do dream BIG on each spoke, just pay attention to the dreams truly being yours and your family’s, not pressure from elsewhere.

Tip 5: Find your personal, unique and, gosh darn it, FUN ways to get closer to your 10’s. Enjoying the process is even more valuable than achieving the 10. If you want to improve your health by being more active: 1) Call it “play” instead of “getting fit.” 2) Find the “play” that you’d want to show up to: Hiking, walking, hula hoops, dance or wall climbing might in-trigue you more than fitness gyms.

Tip 6: Take laughably do-able tiny steps in the directions you want to go. “All or nothing” is often the way we work; unfortu-nately, ‘nothing’ regularly wins. What’s a laughably do-able step for getting active? Get the running shoes out of the closet. That small. Really. The next small step the next day: Put them on. Next: A 2 minute walk outside.

Keep adding small steps and you will create a new habit of ‘showing up’ instead of promising yourself you’ll run for an hour every day and subconsciously setting yourself up to fail since that method hasn’t worked in the past. If something has worked in the past, do that. Otherwise, try tiny laughably do-able steps - so small they make you laugh and say, “Yeah, I can do that!”

Janet L. Whitehead is a professional life coach. She introduces moms to unique tools and concepts that lead to less guilt, more fun, and inspired lives lived by design rather than by default.

I Can Do That!Small steps to create a more balanced life

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Massage is a great way to show your partner you care. It can bring you closer and provide

some much needed relaxation in our busy lives. Here are a few basic tools to help you get started. Remember, the quality of touch is much more important than doing the techniques perfectly. Put your love into each movement, encourage feedback and watch your relationship grow.

Make SpaceSurroundings are a very important part

of the massage. To be able to fully relax, there should be no distractions. Turn off phones and all other notifications. Bar-ricade yourselves, put on some relaxing music without words, and lay blankets on the floor (a springy bed can be irritating for the back). Support the neck and legs with pillows so there is no strain on any joints. Your partner should be able to feel

like they can ful-ly let go. Make sure they are covered with a blanket at all times except for the area being worked;

this ensures they don’t

get cold and also offers them privacy so they may relax more fully. Be sure to wear comfortable loose fitting clothing for your own comfort and so you do not distract your partner.

Break out the OilAny vegetable oil you have in the house

will do, such as grape seed, sunflower or avocado. Natural plant oils nourish the skin as well as providing a relaxing glide. Avoid mineral oils such as baby oil. For areas with more hair such as the legs or chest use more oil to achieve a smooth glide.

You may choose to do a full body mas-sage for a luxurious experience but for today we are just going to focus on the back, as this is where most of us hold our tension.

Warm UpThis is called effleurage and is used to

warm up the area before deeper mas-sage. Fill your palms with oil, rub your hands together and with broad but firm pressure work the oil into the skin in long soothing strokes. Repeat this several times; it may feel repetitive to you but remember how amazing it feels for your partner. Use this technique for each area before working deeper.

Work Smarter, Not HarderTo release deep tension you have to

work deeper but that doesn’t mean it has to wear you out. By using your body weight instead of your own force you’ll be able to work deeper for longer. Imagine your whole body moving as one unit in-stead of just moving your arms. Shift your centre of gravity back and forth with your arms as an extension of your body. Your strength should come from your core.

Shoulder Release

Seated be-side your part-ner at the low back, reach up and across to the oppo-site shoulder. Wrap one hand around the shoulder where the neck con-nects. Using your body weight, lean back, allowing your fingertips to pull up on the muscle. Reach your other hand around the same area, switching hands back and forth as you use your body weight to pull. Add in a bit of a squeeze for more pres-sure. You may feel lumps, crystallization or just tightness in this area. If deep pres-sure feels good to your partner feel free

Communicating with Your Hands:

Tips for giving a great back massage

By Nicola Diepdael

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to squeeze, rub and press directly on any unusual tissues. This gives a great release.

Shoulder Blade ReleaseMost of us are familiar with those

pesky knots along the shoul-der blade. A simple positioning technique can make them easy to access and eliminate. Bend the elbow and place your partner’s hand on their low back. Seated

on the opposite side, reach across your partners back and apply thumb pressure underneath the blade. Apply direct pressure to any hard fibrous tissues.

Spinal ReleaseThere are two ropey muscle groups that run along either

side of the spine. Positioned beside the back perpendicular to your partner’s body, place your hands on the spinal side of the muscle. Using your body weight, push your palms away from your body and the muscle away from the spine - slow and steady so you don’t jerk over the muscle. Continue this move-ment up the entire spine and both sides. If your partner prefers more pressure instead of using more force, use your thumbs. Specific pressure gives the feeling of more without having to exert any more force.

Low Back ReleaseThe space between the bottom of the rib cage and the top

of the pelvis can have a wonderful release if you know where to press. For very tight low backs this is a great place to utilize your elbows but remember much less force is required on your part to get that firm pressure, so start light and ask for feed-back. Place your forearm in the nook between the ribs and the hip; you should be able to feel bone on either side or your arm and soft tissue in between. Use your elbow to hook underneath the muscle and gently push up and hold. Try slightly adjusting your position to find your partner’s sweet spot. They will know when you’ve found it.

Neck ReleaseHave your partner turn over.

Hold their neck in both your hands, one over the other cup-ping the neck with a C. Glide hand over hand up the neck to-wards the head. Turn the head to one side and, using the palm of your hand, glide up and down the side of the neck. Be careful of sensitive areas in the front of the neck; ask for feedback. With the head still turned to one side, using your thumb, press into the back of the neck intermittently all the way up to the base of the skull. A stretch is a great way to finish of the neck massage.

Scalp MassageThere is something hypnotic about releasing tension in the

scalp. Imagining you’re washing your partner’s hair. Slow and firm. Use your fingertips to make large circles all over the scalp. Focus on the temples and the base of the skull. Rubbing the ear lobes gently also feels great!Now you’re ready to give your partner an amazing gift! Start a regular routine and watch your relationship blossom! Remem-ber to communicate. The best way to learn is to accept feed-back. What feels good for you may be different than what feels good for your partner.

Now go light some candles!

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By Margaret Durnin, Executive Director, Volunteer Kamloops

A Family that Volunteers Together...

The mid-winter season brings with it traditions of giving and caring among many cultures. It must surely be one of the most anticipated family celebration times! Children antici-

pate different types of excitement, whether it’s re-connecting with friends and relatives, the gift-giving tradition, or the spe-cial observances of many religious faiths.

Along with this focus on giving comes an opportunity for par-ents to help children appreciate more fully what they have and build a sense of compassion for those in more difficult circum-stances. As the Christmas music and store displays quickly (too quicky, for some!) follow on the heels of Hallowe’en these days, we start to receive more calls about volunteering or giving as a family to those less fortunate.

So, being new to town I put out a call to our members and other local community groups – and responses are beginning to flow in. A full list will be available on our website: www.vol-unteerkamloops.org. Here’s a sneak preview and some basic advice about what to expect as family volunteers.

While many wish to serve at community meals for the very poor, these roles are often filled much earlier by many lo-cal businesses and service groups due to the need for good advance planning. There is also some concern that these may not be safe environments for children and youth, so check our website for details about any that are still open to volunteers.

Please be aware that adult volunteers often need a Criminal Record Check in advance, so contact groups soon to under-stand their process and avoid a last-minute rush. Take some

time to check our website’s ‘Members’ page with your family to consider which agency focuses on concerns that you all share.

Groups that would be happy to hear from families with children as young as 6 to 9 would be:• Christmas Amalgamated (location and opening of this pro-

gram still to be determined) where donated items need to be sorted and put on display, or helpers assist in locating suitable gift items or help create hampers.

• BC Wildlife Park’s Wildlights – Ambassadors helping guests find their way around the site and to the special event locations - or, for those confident with domestic farm animals, helping out at the Family Petting Zoo.

• The Bright Red Bookshelf project - Bookshelves and bins are located around the city, where anyone can pick up a chil-dren’s book or drop new/used ones into the donation bin. The Kiwanis Club might welcome family help with this project year-round!

For youth ages 10 and up, additional possibilities are:• Christmas Gift Wrapping for the Canadian Cancer Society

fundraiser at Aberdeen Mall• Salvation Army Kettle fundraiser welcomes families.• 37th Annual Seniors’ Light Tour needs helpers at the loca-

tions where seniors board the buses, and also at Interior Sav-ings Centre to help with refreshments and activities.

Due to the concerns many organizations face regarding safety of children and other issues, they may not be able to directly involve you with their client groups, but there are still meaningful ways to support them!

Agencies working with the very poor and marginalized, including ASK Wellness, New Life Mission, Canadian Mental Health Association, Elizabeth Fry and the women’s shelters, all welcome the donation of items that will make their clients more comfortable and bring some joy to the season for them. This can include personal items such as toothbrushes and paste, de-odorant, small hand sanitizer bottles, small combs or brushes, razors and shaving foam, and small packs of tissues.

Warm items of clothing including hats, mitts, gloves, and jack-ets are welcome at many locations. The CMHA and Kamloops Brain Injury Association offer arts and crafts programs that can accept many of these types of items, particularly linked to the season.

Another ideas is to purchase some gift certificates for food or clothing items, from stores in the downtown or North Shore in particular, and offer them to the agency whose work you respect. Or small packages of individually wrapped food items like crackers, granola bars, tea or coffee sachets, cookies, trail mix, beef jerky, instant soup, hot chocolate – let your imagina-tion and good will guide you! Even entertainment is often out of reach, so a gift card to a video store or movie theatre is a nice idea. Contact the agency in advance to check your idea and also when and where to drop the items off.

Since this is a new area of volunteer service for us to promote and for our agencies to consider offering, we would love to hear from you about your experiences, whether good or not-so-great. And if you want to get involved to help create more of these opportunities, contact me. We would love to have a task group working on making this a great experience for everyone involved in this season and throughout the year! Please visit our website at www.volunteerkamloops.org.

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One year, 17 days…that’s how long I had with my beautiful son, Gaige Percy Christenson.

On November 22, 2008, I had the most amazing experience…I became a mom! I am sure many of you can identify with me; I thought my child was perfect. He was, after all, mine!

He had all the requisite fingers and toes and immediately stole my heart and everyone else’s around him. I could go on about how amazing my child was but, really, he was just a little boy - a very snuggly little boy with spectacular sloppy wet kisses! He was my world, as I am sure your children are yours.

On December 9, 2009, I took an early lunch to join Gaige’s daycare for his first visit with Santa Claus. When I arrived, they were all gathered around Santa for a photo. I could tell he wasn’t too sure what to think of the big guy in a red suit but he was game. And he was really happy to see mommy and cheerfully gave hugs and kisses before scooting off to play with the other kids and explore a little bit. Unfortunately, I had to return to work and Gaige and his daycare family returned for lunch and an afternoon nap.

That afternoon my world came to a screeching halt when I got the most dreaded phone call a parent can get: “Gaige is not breathing. An ambulance is on its way. Please meet us at the hospital.”

Gaige never woke up from his nap. I will relive that afternoon for the rest of my life.

Most parents have heard about SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome), the un-explained death of infants under the age of 12 months, and we worry, watch and pray that it never happens to us. We know about safe sleep - keeping them on their back, avoiding smoke, not letting them overheat, and having their crib be free of soft bedding and suffocation hazards.

After about 8 or 9 months, though, it seems we can now relax and breathe a sigh of relief because our baby is finally past the high risk stage. What you never hear is that IT CAN STILL HAPPEN.

Sudden Unexplained Death in Child-hood is the sudden and unexpected death of a child over the age of twelve months, which remains unexplained after a exhaustive investigation has been conducted. Similar to SIDS, SUDC is a diagnosis of exclusion - given when all known and possible causes of death have been ruled out. SUDC is not new, but it is rare with a reported incidence of 1.2 deaths per 100,000 children, compared to 58 deaths per 100,000 live births for SIDS (sudc.org). Presently, SUDC cannot be predicted and/or prevented since its cause is unknown. Most SUDC deaths occur between the ages of 1 and 3, but researchers have looked at cases of chil-dren as old as 15.

It was almost a year after Gaige passed away before I found the SUDC program and the support they offer. Since then, I have been in contact with other parents who have also experienced the tragic loss of a child. Losing a child and not knowing why or how is absolutely one

of the worst things a parent could ever experience and having other parents who can understand the overwhelming anguish and grief during this time is so important to me. I only wish I could have known about them sooner.

The SUDC Program was created at the CJ Foundation for SIDS in 2001 by two mothers (Laura Crandall and Chelsea Hil-bert) who lost their toddler-aged children to SUDC. Today, the SUDC Program raises research funds and provides a centralized resource for information, support and advocacy. It serves families and profes-sionals affected by the tragedy of SUDC and promotes awareness of SUDC in com-munities.

Although researchers are working to identify the cause(s) and risk(s) of SUDC, it is a slow process. Because SUDC is not as prevalent as other childhood ill-nesses, it doesn’t garner the attention and therefore the funds. But until a day when no family experiences this tragic loss, the SUDC program will continue to raise funds for research, aid in the creation of legislation to further SUDC investigations, and provide programs and services for SUDC families across the country.

For those of us who had the privilege and joy of knowing and loving Gaige, we will always remember our little man with his beautiful and smiley face. December is Gaige’s angel month.

Always in my heart, always in my thoughts.

For more information on the SUDC Pro-gram, visit www.SUDC.org. Please help raise awareness.

So we left him gently sleeping, But he had to go away, To a place among the rainbows, Where we’ll meet again, someday.(unknown)

Always in Our Hearts

By Christine Christenson

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Tis’ the Season to Seize the day! A year in the life of a homeschooling momma of fourBy Teresa Wiedrick

Holidays really do bring out the fun in children, and they really do bring out the Martha Stewart neuroses in me. Why did I spend nearly five hours preparing a turkey

dinner, twenty minutes eating it, and another hour cleaning it up, all to satiate the Thanksgiving that we were all meant to have: china, silver, crystal, linens and place cards?! No, I’m not kidding and, yes, you’re right: I’m nuttier than my chestnut sausage stuffing.

All four kids helped chop, wash lettuce, prepare dressings, find ingredients, set the table. My older daughters started the dinner rolls before I got into the kitchen. Rachel made felt ties for her collection of Cookies and Elmos…so they could come to dinner too. Zachary helped Daddy make an apple pie.

If only my Martha Stewart complex would isolate itself on holidays. What propels me into excessive activity might be directly proportional to the number of times I’ve been asked what we do at home. Perhaps I’m trying to make sure that the critics are quelled. What do we do? Better question: what do we not do?

Some ask the kids if they do ‘school’ in their pajamas. If only they were so lucky. Unless someone’s sick, they all need to be dressed. On the upside, I slide out of bed when the neighbours are backing out their hummer for school. And even occasion-ally I’m greeted with a coffee and cuddle from a child.

I know I could simplify my expectations by home educating out of the library, exclusively following the kids’ interests, but I have yet to do it. Really, we’ve accumulated our own library: so we read A LOT.

I always ask, why go to school when you can travel? The world is our oyster! As our life presently means we spend about half the year in Kamloops and the other half elsewhere, we have loads of opportunities. The kids have learned to wield a map and even the GPS that extends to the back of the van. “Are we there yet?” is a chance to unpack a math problem. How long does it take to get there if we drive a certain speed? Whatever town we visit, we treat it like our temporary home, so we more accurately experience it. We discover all the parks, frequent the swimming pool and have library access cards across the province.

But there’s nothing quite like the dinner table for the ultimate education. Since our ‘family business’ is medicine, the girls have asked all sorts of questions about baby deliveries, immu-

nizations, and anatomy. They’ve also discussed when one can vote, when they can get a driver’s license, how they can access a city business permit for a lemonade stand. We’ve discussed world economics, the rise and fall of the Canadian Dollar, US primaries (don’t ask me, that’s my husband’s territory), and taxes. We’ve discussed what just about everything costs, the relative worth to our income (or theirs when they do payable housework).

Our daughters take violin lessons and practice most days. We listen to classical music at quiet time, opera in the study, a geography cd while we drive, and a French cd which our tod-dler likes to imitate. My husband shares his eclectic tastes in, well, why divulge the eccentricities.

We regularly borrow library DVDs; the girls have a Span-ish and typing computer program. But we do limit media use; there’s more to life than following a screen.

I couldn’t fathom back in the girls’ school days that each of our four children would be allowed more than two extra-curric-ular activities a week, but we’ve blown the top on that idea, as we’ve participated in everything from soup to nuts, excluding formalized football and hockey!

I am not a representative sample. Home educators are as diverse as schooled families. I haven’t even mentioned the workbooks, math drills, and science experiments. We do all that too, just not with the same clockwork precision attempted in schools. I’ve vacillated between unschooling and classically trained educating, which are known to be on the opposite ends of the spectrum. I think I might presently define myself as a Seasonally Affected Home Educator; I change with the season.

Whatever the season, I have an aptitude for too much. All this, and I hope the house is clean and we regularly visit friends. Too much is when I’m not enjoying it, when I forget why I’m doing it. Too much activity doesn’t inspire learning anyway, for “learning is the sparking of an imagination, not the filling of a cup.” What I aspire to do each day: Carpe diem, seize the day! Seize the moment even. Be present in the moment, not check-ing off my lists: lists are tools. I desire to look into the eyes of the child that is tapping my leg, sit down for another card game, watch the girls’ dance presentations, empathize with their times of sadness, and smile with their joys.

I found a poem in junior high that inspires my role as mother:If I had to raise my child all over again, I’d build self-esteem

first, and the house later. I’d finger paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch more with my eyes. I would care to know less and know to care more. I’d stop playing serious and seriously play. I’d do more hugging and less tugging. I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often. I would be firm less often and affirm much more. I’d model less about the love of power, and more about the

power of love. ~ AnonymousAnonymous was wise, and often is. Anonymous knew the

power of a moment, knew the power of priorities. My Martha Stewart persona knows how to make life pretty, but only I can capture a moment to really live.

Photo: Aria Arts and Photography

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The Occupy Wall Street movement and global economic is-sues have been in the forefront of the media for the past few months. They are constant reminders of how essen-

tial supporting local businesses is to the local economy. It’s now the busiest shopping time of the year and it’s important our holiday shopping budget doesn’t only go to the interna-tional big box chains.

When your kids are writing their lists for Santa, why not suggest some locally-made gifts? Here are some great made-in-Kamloops products that will fit into any stocking this Christ-mas. Santa can find these and other unique locally-made gifts at our local children’s stores or by contacting the businesses directly.

Personalized Blocks by Little Block Company

Does your child have an unusual name – the kind you won’t find printed on any-thing at your local toy store?

These adorable handmade blocks come in 3 different sizes, a huge selec-

tion of colours and patterns, and can be customized to say anything, including your child’s unique name. They will add some style and fun to any room (Important note: they don’t make very good chew toys!)

Plush by Plush Off Plush Off is a collection

of cute handmade anthropo-morphic plush toys (‘anthropo’

what? – giving something that is not human, like a banana, human attributes,

like eyes!) They come in lots of happy designs, including carrots, candy, snowballs, ice cream cones and super cute bananas with peels that can come off. These toys have sweet little smiles and bright, hand-sewn eyes that are safe for even the littlest child’s stocking.

Rattles by Loops in LoopsThese loveable crocheted rattles,

handmade by a Kamloops mom, are great additions to a baby’s first stocking.

They come in a variety of bright designs, including cars, planes, dinosaurs, ladybugs, and trees, and have a delicate jingly rattle inside to delight any baby.

Rhythm Sticks & Claves by David Milwain

Have a budding drummer in the house or a little one who likes to make noise? Local drum teacher, David Mil-wain, makes handcrafted percussion instruments that are as nice to look at as they are to listen to. The claves are great for toddlers to explore

rhythms and both the claves and the rhythm sticks are excellent for older children interested in the intrica-cies of percussion.

Spark Story Starters by Spark Your Imagination

These cards are a super fun activity for the whole family. They are de-signed to spark imaginative thinking and encourage great conversations with open-ended question such as, “If you could go anywhere in the world (or the universe), where would it be?” or “If you could fill a pool with

anything, what would it be?” They were created and printed in Kamloops, but you can

find them as far away as Quebec and Nunavut.

Small Gifts from Santa: Stocking stuffers that support the local economy

By Vanessa Gammel

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Health and Wellness Directory

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Health and Wellness Directory

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Birthday Parties and EventsWild About Party PacksEverything you need to get your party started! Party Packs for Birthday, Baby, and Bridal.wildaboutpartypack@hotmail.comwww.wildaboutpartypacks.com

Ana Banana’s Custom Cakes and More! Kamloops’ Newest and Trendiest bakery Christmas Gift Baskets and Do-It-Yourself Cookie Kits NOW Available!250.682.8085 abccakes@live.comwww.ape4cake.com

Children’s Stores and ServicesLittle PipsqueakModern Swag for your Little Squeakerwww.littlepipsqueak.cainfo@littlepipsqueak.caFind us on Facebook!

Littlest Toy ShopA unique assortment of toys for girls and boys!Hot Wheels, Barbie, Disney, Puzzles, Board Games and More!Tax is included in our prices! 250.299.64481800 Tranquille Rd (Brock Shopping Centre)

Lizzie Bits Baby Co.Go Green! Use Cloth!Cloth diaper specialists. Unique children’s items. High quality children’s consignment. 205-450 Lansdowne 250.374.8706 lizziebaby.ca

Mommy & Me BoutiqueLargest selection of NEW and USED itemsNursing bras, Harley Davidson, Robeez & more! Over 10 000 quality consignment items!3-700 Tranquille 250.376.1914 & Facebook

Mulberry Bush Kids Stuff Inc.Gently Loved Consignment & New ItemsInfant to Adult Clothing, Baby Furniture, the largest inventory of Robeez, Melissa & Doug www3.telus.net/mulberrybush 250.374.2501Now on Facebook!

The Enchanted TeacupA whimsical Enchanted Shop that captures your heart! Princess/fairy/character hostess,Dress-up theme parties, fun retail, tea retail410 Tranquille Road 250.376.8327www.enchantedteacup.com

Tumbleweed Toys Sahali MallSpecializing in the highest quality dolls, costumes, music, art, crafts, gifts, books, educational games, puppets, science kits 250.372.3500 www.TumbleweedToys.ca

Children’s Stores and Services Cont’dRiver City Gymnastics and Young People Sport AcademyWhere preschool learning and sport training meet! Register now!778.471.5767 www.rivercitygymnastics.ca

Cleaning ServicesDust Bunnies Cleaning Professional Residential and Commercial Cleaning. Free Estimates!778.470.0607 dustbunniescleaning@hotmail.caSatisfaction Guarantee...or your dirt back FREE

Green Space ServicesKamloops’ eco-friendly & DRY carpet cleaning(safe for kids and pets!)Effective deep cleaning, instantly dry, 100% plant-based, saves water and energy250.682.1066 KamloopsCarpetCleaning.ca

Health and WellnessAina Massage SpaLet us take you away…Massage therapy and aesthetics using or-ganic and natural products248 Victoria St. 250.319.4111ainaspa@live.ca www.ainaspa.caFit By DesignPrecision Fitness Training...for Body and MindFamily Friendly Boot CampSabrina, www.kamloopsfitbydesign.com Look for us on Facebook!

Let’s Move Studio Yoga - Dance - WellnessClasses, workshops, and eventsletsmove@gmail.com 250.372.9642www.letsmovestudio.com

Mila by LifemaxNutrient dense whole raw foodAre you looking to change your health and wealth?Val Butterfield, Independent Distributor 250 554 8203 lifemax.net/valbutterfield

Musings and Mud Coaching StudioLife Coaching with a creative twist!Workshops, workbooks, personal coaching!Janet L. Whitehead, certified professional coach janet@musingsandmud.com250.376.8402 www.musingsandmud.com

Smooth Effects Laser Hair RemovalWe are the leader in laser hair removal!We meet or beat our competitor’s prices!#8-1390 Hillside Dr. 250.372.2261www.smootheffects.ca

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Home-Based Sales and Services Creative MemoriesDenise Swoboda, Creative Memories Unit LeaderPhoto-safe scrapbook albums and more!250.578.8589 deniseswoboda@telus.netwww.mycmsite.com/denises

Delish NaturalsOrganic & natural body care for the whole familyYum Bum Butter, Body Lotion, Raspy Rub, Delish-ous Shampoo, Mango Mama Bump Butter, Bite Me Not! and more!www.delishnaturals.comDiscovery Toys, Alison GregoryDiscovery Toys Team Leader250.851.2270 aligregory@telus.netdiscoverytoyslink.com/aligregoryTeach. Play. Inspire.

Karla Weiss, Independent Consultant The Pampered ChefHost a show - receive $20 extra FREE products*Become a consultant - receive EXTRA products when starting* Receive $15 FREE products with any referrals! 250.682.4435 anjel@shaw.caMoms Helping Moms – work from homePerfect opportunity for moms and otherswww.lookaround.ca choiceofwellness@gmail.com

Independent Regal RepresentativeConvenient, practical solutions. The coolest toys, cards and personalized products too.Lindsay S. lindsayregalrep@hotmail.com778.220.4297 www.LindsayS.shopregal.ca

MusicKamloops Symphony Music SchoolGroup classes and private instruction for all ages and levels.Station Plaza #3-510 Lorne St.250.372.5000 info@kamloopssymphony.com

Parenting ResourcesKamloops ConnexionsA drop in coffee group for moms looking for a little mommy time. Child care provided for a small fee. Fridays 9:30-11:30, Southwest Community Church, 700 Hugh Allen Drive250.828.1114 coffee-connexions@hotmail.com

KamloopsParents.comThe online resource to all things family-friendly in Kamloops. Sign up for our monthly newsletter! www.kamloopsparents.comelizabeth@kamloopsparents.com

Welcome Wagon Are you expecting, or do you have a baby under a year old, moving, or getting married? Welcome Wagon has Programs, and/or basket gifts for you!Call Pamela Lee for more info! 250.573.2823

Prenatal and Postpartum CareMighty Oak Midwifery Personal, professional, woman-centered ma-ternity care. Now accepting new clients!250.377.8611 www.mightyoakmidwifery.ca

Tiny Blessings Prenatal Expecting? Let us teach you what to expect. Prenatal education focusing on late pregnan-cy, labor & delivery, breastfeeding, & newborn care. www.tinyblessingsprenatal.com 250-819-0510

Photography and ArtButterbutter Photography...capturing the way you see them in your heart,a fresh approach to newborn and family photography250.377.5890 www.bbphotography.comFind us on Facebook!

Captured Memories PhotographyChildren • Engagement • Family • Graduation • Maternity • Newborns • Weddingswww.captured-memoriesblog.cawww.captured-memories.cahrsayers@gmail.com 250.320.6558

Carmen How PhotographyCapture life’s finer moments...250.371.0155www.carmenhowphotography.comcarmenhowphotography@me.com

Classic Blue Photography info@classicblue.cawww.classicblue.ca Wishing you a holiday season filled with joy, peace and love.

Milk & Honey PhotographyLisa DiGesomilkandhoney@mail.comwww.milkandhoneyphotography.ca

Your Favourite Personality in Commissioned ArtThe Perfect Christmas PresentChildren, You, Horses, Dogs, Turtles, Movie Stars, Any Portrait... september@socialfire.cahttp://SeptembersArt.wordpress.com 250.319.9470

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Real Estate and InvestmentsChelsea Mann, Realtor Welcome Home!Royal LePage Westwin Realty(P) 250.374.1461 (C) 250.571.6666chelsea@chelseamann.ca www.kamloopshomes.net

Karen Lanoue Canadian Scholarship TrustBoost your post-education savings by $7,200!karen.lanoue@cstresp.com250.573.2299

Ken Featherstone, Realtor Bringing Families HomeRoyal LePage Westwin RealtyPersonal Real Estate Corp.250.374.1461 kenfeathetone@royallepage.ca

Kim Livingston, Mortgage SpecialistYou take care of the kids, let me take care of your mortgage.The Mortgage Group250.571.2480 kamloopsmortgagegroup.com

Nicole Crichton, Mortgage ConsultantFinding a mortgage that works for your familyEvening & weekend appts available250.319.9542 niccrichton@telus.netwww.nicolecrichton.com

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Are you having a difficult time planning a birthday party for an older child that may have outgrown the younger Disney themes? Here is a great idea but it comes with a warning…this one is not for the squeamish! Anything gross goes, so use a little humour and a whole lot of disgust and watch the kids bust a gut. This party easily accommodates both genders

and is usually geared for children aged six through twelve.Invitations for this party are all about wording. A picture of internal organs printed off of your computer and glued to a card

can complement the question, “Do you have the guts to attend ____’s party?” Or use a picture of a large runny nose and state, “It snot your average party!” A few bugs or gross candy can be put in the envelope with the invitation.

This party is the perfect chance to re-use all those Halloween decora-tions - skulls, bats, spiders - anything goes! Purchase a large bag of plas-tic bugs and hide throughout the party area, including the snack table.

Warning: this next one is only for the most brave. Find that children’s potty you have in storage and line the potty with plastic food wrap and use for a chip or snack bowl. Ewwwwww! Works perfect for the table centrepiece too.

If your child really wants to gross out his/her friends, here are a few meal ideas that may turn a few stomachs. Blood and guts with dandruff flakes (spaghetti and tomato sauce with Parmesan cheese). Tape worm sandwiches (hotdogs cut in long strips then boiled until they curl worm-like. Mix with ketchup and serve in hoagie buns). Snot on a stick (melt cheese whiz and add a few drops of green food colouring, dip large pretzel sticks in and serve!)

If you haven’t sent them running for the bathroom yet, entertain them with a home version of fear factor. Set up stations where the kids get to taste, smell or touch something gross. Examples can include:

Touch station: cooked pasta with oil and plastic bugs, cornstarch and water with marbles, flour tortillas buttered with oil for skin and peeled grapes as eyeballs.

Taste station: Dirty worms (gummy worms covered in honey and rolled in crushed Oreos), chocolate covered flies (chocolate covered raisins), dino poop (oatmeal cookie dough), dried pig brains (beef jerky), toenail clippings (colored coconut), and dog food (coco puffs).

Smell station: using clean diapers, place a few spoonfuls of different types of baby food in it. Have the children smell each one and tell you what type it is.

When everyone is completely grossed out and it’s time to send those kids home, hand out their very own barf bag filled with a whoopee cush-ion, plastic dog doo, fake barf and gross candy. You’ll know it was a suc-cessful party when all the kids can’t stop talking about how totally, awfully gross your child’s party was!

Candace Walker and Andrea Lougheed are two local moms who own Wild About Party Packs, an online party store with all of your party needs.

Totally Grossed Out: A disgustingly delightful birthday ideaBy Candace Walker and Andrea Lougheed

Day old Bath Water Punch: 1 can frozen lemonade (mixed according to directions) 2 L Sprite½ gallon rainbow sherbert 1/2 cup of mints

Mix frozen lemonade according to directions. Thaw sherbert and mix lightly together with lemonade and Sprite. Float tiny green, yellow and pink mints on top to resemble soap.

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By Courtney Charlton

Meet the Momma:

Sabrina Sinclair Owner, Fit By Design

Sabrina Sinclair is the momma behind Fit By Design fitness training. As a personal trainer with 20 years experience, Sabrina has been part of many success stories, but perhaps

none more so than the Mommy’s Wellness Program, a child-friendly fitness program designed to empower moms. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Sabrina as she celebrated the year anniversary of her first Mommy’s Wellness Challenge and all I can say is this woman truly is changing lives!

Why did you become a personal trainer?I was 9 when I decided I wanted to be a ‘fitness instrudder,’

even though I didn’t know what that meant! I’ve just always enjoyed being physically fit. I like being active and strong.

What is your training background?When I graduated high school I became a certified group

instructor and have been training ever since. I’ve received several other certifications, including my pre and post-natal certification and I still take courses and workshops regularly.

Have you ever had body image issues?Yes. For sure! Now and when I was younger! I used to have

issues with my legs. I was a lot bigger and when I worked out, I worked out to be stronger, not to lose weight, so I got even big-ger. I could squat more than the guys, but I wouldn’t wear skirts of shorts!

Why did you start the Mommy’s Wellness Program?I noticed there wasn’t a lot of exercise programs where moms

could bring their kids and be educated on living a healthier lifestyle. I wanted to create something challenging enough to see real results.

What’s your favourite thing about the program?Seeing moms together building communities, healthier fami-

lies, and giving back to themselves. To see moms realizing that they are still women, not just mothers - and sexy ones at that!

Can you explain your holistic approach to the program?There are different areas of wellness that need to be ad-

dressed. There’s the exercise component, which is my exper-tise, but I’ve found the need to bring in other professionals. I have a registered dietician, natural health care practitioner, and personal wellness coach. Together we can work as a team to help women to become their healthiest selves - fit in mind, body, and spirit.

How do you think the kids are impacted by the program?I think the kids are excited about coming to class. It’s like a

really fun play date. Some workout, some want to instruct the class, and some just play. They get to see their moms become healthier individuals, which I believe makes them want to be healthy too.

And my own kids see me motivating these women and say they are proud of me because they know that I am impacting people’s lives.How has the Mommy Wellness Program impacted your life?

Well, I’m much busier! And it’s helped me be more confident. Even though I’m in front of everyone, I never feel like I’m being judged. But I still have butterflies every day. When I walk in I know that I’m going to empower these women, so I get nervous. It passes quickly, though!

How do you maintain a healthy work/life balance?Well, first and foremost I schedule my family time and stick

to it. More recently, I’ve started turning my computer off for hours at a time. I also incorporate my kids into my classes and at home when I make up new routines.

And I take time for myself. I get at least 1 massage a month, go to lunch by myself, and schedule time with friends.

In just one year, attendance has nearly quadrupled. Why do you think you’ve been so successful?

I believe that when people see results, they feel good about themselves and are going to tell everyone they know! It’s a program where moms can workout with their kids in a sup-portive, safe, encouraging atmosphere. Why wouldn’t you want to do it?!

What advice do you have for moms who are struggling to maintain a healthy lifestyle?

It will get better. Your child will eventually sleep through the night. Just take 15 minutes to do something that’s going to make you feel good - nap, workout, take a bath - something that will put you in a positive frame of mind. Change starts with you.

As a momma of 2 beautiful girls, Mackenzie, 7, and Madison, 3, Sabrina has developed a passion for helping moms live healthier lives.

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and you will be entered to WIN a $450 prize pack provided by:

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announced in the Feb-Mar 2012 issue of Kamloops Momma Magazine. Deadline for entry is December 31, 2011.

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Things YOU Love?

Each issue we tell you what we love...now it’s your turn! What’s your favourite

restaurant? Toy store? Rainy day activity?We want to know!

For the Wee Ones:Leather bib by Mally Designs Ltd.

Why do we love it?These BC-made bibs are the

only bibs you will ever need, really! Made of CPSIA safety approved leather, Mally Bibs are extremely durable and stain-resistant. You just wipe them off and, using the magnet-

ic closure, stick them to a metal surface (like your fridge) until the next

mealtime. They are double-sided and come in an adorable selection of designs.

$34.95, Lizzie Bits Baby Co.

For the Kiddos:Flannelette-lined scrubs by Little Pipsqueak

Why do we love it?Little Pipsqueak scrubs are summer-time favourites. The adjustable waist makes them easy on and off, and the great selection of funky, stylish ma-terials makes them cute as can be. The light-weight material, however, isn’t very ‘winter-friendly’ - until now! The scrubs are now available with a flanellette lining, so your little ones can be comfy, warm, and oh so stylin’

all year long. Sizes 0-3 m to 6 yrs, or larger by request.$28-$34, www.littlepipsqueak.com

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DEAR AUNTY: I am worried about bul-lying. My child is now in kindergarten - what do I need to be aware of? -DawnDear Dawn: Thanks for asking about this. Dear ol’ Aunty is worried too. I turned your

question over to our good friends at the Kids Help Phone in Vancouver for help and their excellent advice is below.

At Kids Help Phone, Canada’s leading youth counselling ser-vice, professional counsellor Shannon Freud hears from a lot of kids who are targets, bullies, or bystanders starting as early as 5 years old. She says that last year about 6 % of the calls and online questions Kids Help Phone received related to bullying.

No matter how the bullying happens, the intention is the same: to hurt someone.

But bullying does more than hurt; it can cause stress and anx-iety, sometimes for years after the bullying has stopped. Feel-ings of humiliation, shame, and embarrassment can all last long after the bullying is over, sometimes even into adulthood, and can lead to a range of psychological and physical symptoms, including shyness, difficultly concentrating, anxiety, trouble sleeping, nightmares, stomach aches, and headaches.

That’s why it’s important to discuss bullying and help your children understand how to promote healthy relationships. Re-member that bullying has long-term effects. What you do today can lead the path to strong, resilient and confident people of tomorrow.

“Up until kids are about 12 years old, it’s much easier to help them deal with bullying,” she says, “as they are likely to be open to suggestions and solutions.”

Some of those solutions, Freud says, include ignoring the bully, talking it out with the bully, or telling a teacher or prin-cipal. Parents should also talk to the teacher or principal if the issue persists or if no action is taken, but Freud suggests that

parents encourage their kids to first be independent and try to talk about it on their own.

Parents can also practice healthy self-esteem within their family. “Do things that are chal-lenging. Set attain-able goals for your kids. Accomplish-ments help build self-esteem.”

Freud says that when kids are en-couraged to feel comfortable with themselves, they are likely more able to handle bullying.

DEAR AUNTY: EEEK! Just when we thought we were safe again, my kindergartner daughter came home telling me that they learned about ‘Bad Santa’ in school. I want to talk to her about stranger danger, but don’t want to cause any extra anxiety. What can I do to make her feel safe? (And me too!) - Becka.

Dear Becka: Again, I’m handing the reins over to the experts at the Kids Help Phone.

“This is a tough one for kindergarten age kids,” says Maria Montanaro, professional counsellor at Kids Help Phone, “You don’t want to make a child paranoid about everyone around them, but you want them to be careful.”

Montanaro says the first step parents can take is to talk to their kids, not only about strangers but also about whatever feels comfortable and what doesn’t. Help them to start trusting their feelings.

“They should know not to go with anybody they’ve never met before but, also, if they’re really young, shouldn’t be out unsu-pervised,” Montanaro says.

Although stranger danger isn’t something Kids Help Phone hears about often, parents can take steps to ensure that kids stay safe. “If you pick your kid up every day from school, have a contingency plan in case there’s an emergency and you can’t make it one day,” she says. “Let your kid know who would come to get them in your place. Give them a safe word that only you, your kid, and your emergency backup know in case you can’t get in touch with your child to let them know you won’t be com-ing.”

It’s also important to make sure kids know that not all stran-gers are dangerous. If they ever need help, police officers, nurses, doctors, and security guards are all examples of stran-gers they should be able to count on.

“Don’t instill fear,” Montanaro says, “Instead, use this as an opportunity to build trust with your child and establish open communication that will let your child know you’re there to support them now and for years to come. Any time you talk to them about strangers, normalize it. When you remind your kid to wear a bike helmet or brush their teeth, talk about this in the same way, as if it’s just part of a routine. Instead of reacting with anxiety, talk about safe alternatives: it’s okay to walk away from a person or a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable.”

A note from Aunty: A HUGE thank you goes out to the folks at the Kids Help Phone for taking over Dear Aunty’s column this month. Remember, the Kids Help Phone is there for kids, day and night. Anything goes: From trouble with homework to dealing with loss and grief to thoughts of suicide, kids can talk to Kids Help Phone about anything. Professional counsellors provide anonymous, confidential and non-judgemental support. To reach a Kids Help Phone professional counsellor, kids, teens and young adults, from any community in Canada, can call 1-800-668-6868 or go online 24 hours a day, 365 day a year. Check out their amazing website (with a space just for kids to ask questions, play games and more!) at www.kidshelpphone.ca

“Aunty” Erin Mitchell is a proud nurse, momma, and owner of Aunty’s House Registered Family Daycare. She is currently working on a degree in child and adolescent psychology through TRU.

Dear Aunty...Answering questions about you and your child’s health

Do you have a question for ‘Aunty’ Erin? Contact her at cdnnurse1995@yahoo.ca

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We asked what you love most about yourself. Here’s what our winning momma, Sarah, had to say:“The thing I love most about myself...what a hard ques-

tion for so many women. As someone who has struggled for as long as I can remember with self-image, self-esteem, well, self-everything really, I know how hard it can be to look in the mirror and find anything to love. But today, after long years of getting to know myself again, learning to change, accept and embrace who I am and who I have grown to be, I finally can say that there are things about me that I do love. What comes to mind first is my strength; strength to ask for help and to give it, to grow and to encourage my children to grow, to challenge myself to continue on this path; strength to have compassion and car-ing for others no matter what their circumstances, and to show love for myself, my family, my friends, and my communi-ty; strength to hold my head up high and not apologize for who I am.”

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*Smooth Effects ($100 gift card) www.smootheffects.ca 250.372.2261

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Get Connected:A guide to local parent-child groupsAttachment Parenting2/month - days and locations vary 250-376-4723

Family Tree Drop-in Mon and Wed 9-4 283 West Victoria St.250.377.6890

Healthy Beginnings Tues 9:45-11:45Thurs 10:30-12:30Interior Indian Friendship Society2355 Parkcrest Ave.250.554.3134

Kamloops Connexions Fri 9:30-11:30700 Hugh Allen DriveSouthwest Community Church250.828.1114 coffee-connexions@hotmail.com

Kamloops Wiggles and Giggles Adoption Playgroup Monthly, times and locations varyDeanna Jones, jones_A@telus.net

Mother GooseVarious times and locations250.554.3134interiorcommunityservices.bc.caNext Steps Fri, 1-2:20Kamloops Public Health Unit519 Columbia St.250.851.7300

StrongStart Programs (during school year)BumblebeesMon, Tues, Thurs, Fri, 8:30-11:30 Wed, 12-2:30 Arthur Hatton Elem., 315 Chestnut Ave.250.376.7217

Dragon Flies Mon-Fri, 8:30-11:30 Marion Schilling Elem., 2200 Park Dr.250.376.2027

Eagles’ Nest Mon-Fri, 8:45-11:15South Sahali Elem., 1585 Summit Dr. 250.374.2451

YMCA Child Interactive CentreMon-Fri 9-12Southwest Y/CCRRUnit E, 1420 Hugh Allan Dr250-372-7791

By Amanda Barker

Seasons Greetings Mommas!With the Christmas season fast approaching, my normally compulsive cook-ing, eating self has been trying some healthy alternatives to some of my all

time favourite holiday recipes. I am gluten, egg, and dairy-free (I can’t digest their proteins) and, instead of throwing in the Christmas towel and committing myself to death by gluten, I am baking my own traditional treats this year.

Now I know what you’re thinking…that you’ve tried a gluten-free cookie once and that it tasted like sand…and you’re completely correct! Unfortunately, it is the gluten itself that provides the elasticity and texture that foodies call “mouth feel.” The good news?!? The precious “mouth feel” can be recreated with a bit of tomfoolery in the kitchen.

The following is one of my favourite easy peasy g-free Christmas recipes!*When using gluten-free flours, you must create “mouth feel” by adding xan-

than and/or guar gums. Essential ingredients in a g-ree kitchen!

Now let the cookies stand for 10 minutes before devouring with a glass of coconut milk egg-free nog (e-mail me for the recipe!). All of these allergen-free ingredients can be found at your local health food store.

Merry Christmas!Amanda Barker is a herbalist, doula, CBE, and owner of Ovio Organico skin care

and Boho Birth. abarker@gmail.com.

Notes from a Boho Momma

Gingersnaps (vegan & gluten-free)

¾ cup coconut oil1/3 cup applesauce1 teaspoon salt3 tablespoons molasses2 tablespoons vanilla extract1 ¼ cups evaporated cane juice

2 cups Bob’s Red Mill Gluten Free All-purpose flour

¼ cup flax meal2 teaspoons ground cinnamon1 tablespoon ground ginger1 teaspoon baking soda1 ½ teaspoons xanthan gum

Preheat oven to 325 degrees F and line 2 baking sheets

with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, combine the oil, ap-

plesauce, salt, molasses, vanilla, and evaporated cane juice.

In another medium bowl, whisk together the flour, flax meal,

cinnamon, ginger, baking soda, and xanthan gum. Add the dry

ingredients to the wet mixture and stir until a grainy dough is

formed.Use a melon baller (or a spoon of similar size) to scoop the

dough onto the baking sheets, spacing the portions 1 inch

apart. Gently press each with the heel of your hand to help them

spread. Bake the cookies on the centre rack for 15 minutes,

rotating the sheets 180 degrees after

9 minutes. When the cookies are

done, they will be crisp on the edges and soft in the centre.

(Recipe courtesy of Babycakes cookbook)

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By Tanja Hasler

All parents are different, as is each child unique. Being a parent - a mom or a dad, or both at the same time - is simply a title. It means we have children. It does not

say anything about the type of parent we may be. But most of us love our kids endlessly, try to be our best selves most of the time and, at the very least, end up being our most honest selves in front of them.

But beyond love, there are so many more things children need: guidance, limitations, respect, leniency, levelheadedness. The ‘how-to’ list goes on.

But how do we react when confronted with something that we knew little about before it became our reality; something that was not included in the ‘how-to’ of parenting?

Imagine…on any given day I was happily and readily feed-ing my son, Vijay, what I thought were healthy foods: boxed cereals, bread, pasta, soya milk - the things that were my staple foods and easy to prepare on top of all that - only to have a doc-tor tell me one day in July 2011 that what I am feeding him is causing his eczema to worsen day by day, to the point of open wounds and constant unrelenting itching everyday, all day long.

It started when I began introducing solids at 7 months old and stopped breast-feeding by personal choice at 9 months. At first, my son’s eczema was only a mild case affecting his legs. We (my parents and I) tried different natural creams, but it was always there. Gradually it became worse, affecting all of his legs by his first birthday.

At 14 months of age, Vijay had his first taste of peanut butter at daycare (lunch was provided there). He had an instant reac-tion - very noticeable puffing of his face, reddening of the skin around his face and wheezing, which all lasted until the follow-ing morning.

Follow-up allergy testing and consultation with a pediatric allergist confirmed severe allergies to all nuts and tree nuts (anaphylactic to peanuts), as well as a very high dog dander allergy, and skin prick testing revealed a sensitivity to eggs.

At this time I lived with my parents, who have a small, short-haired dachshund. There was also a dog and cat in the home of the daycare my son attended 3 days per week.

I eliminated all nuts and eggs immediately, yet his eczema remained unchanged. In fact, it worsened.

So back to the allergist we went. He said, “Get rid of the dog.” I thought, huh? Could it be something as simple as dog dander causing this severe case of eczema?

By spring of 2011 it was time be independent again and master life alone with my 2 small children. My son was now 1.5 years old and my daughter nearly 3. We moved into a small dog-free home, but still attended the same daycare.

I observed my son’s body up close at diaper changes and bath time and it looked awful. I felt truly helpless not being able to provide him instant relief, other than using the stan-dard cortisone creams. They provided temporary easing of the symptoms, but were a miserable reminder that the root cause was not being addressed.

However, knowing that my pediatrician had the same proac-tive attitude to finding out where the problem was as I did, I felt confident that the answer to his compromised physical state would come and I would help him; it was just a matter of time.

Vijay’s eczema continued to worsen rapidly and spread to other parts of his body. I just thought to myself, this cannot be it. This cannot be the state that is normal for my son. This cannot be what he must cope with until he outgrows it. And when will he outgrow it? There is no specific day ‘x’ to look forward to. People say it just eventually happens. Seriously? Do I want to stand by

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and wait?At this point in time, I was desperate to

help my son, so I accepted my pediatri-cian’s instructions to give him a 3-day dose of prednisone and, depending on his reaction or non-reaction to the drug, exclude the possible underlying cause being a parasite.

I had no alternative solution so how could I say ‘no’ to the doctor’s instructions? His ecze-ma cleared up about 80%, implying a parasite had not caused it, and returned within a week as if he’d had no treatment at all.

I felt so awful giving my son such strong medication and vowed this would be my last ‘yes’ to pharmaceutical drugs. I would find a better answer than what the medical community was offering.

At our next appointment with the pediatrician, I suggested the idea of more food allergies being the cause. Vijay already had some diagnosed food allergies. Who is to say this list was complete?

The pediatrician readily agreed and we mutually decided to test for wheat, oats, dairy, celiac, dust mix and grass mix.

It was difficult to think about the possibility of more allergies because avoiding nuts was rather easy. Most processed and packaged foods are labeled accordingly.

Well, my son’s allergy testing results came back positive for all of the above, except celiac disease and the grass mix. Yay, he could still play on grass!

This result meant a drastic diet change. I started researching allergies while waiting for the test results and armed myself with a plan for after.

The reality was no more pasta, bread, cold and hot cere-als, cookies, baked goods and so on, at least in the traditional sense of what you find in every grocery store. It is more than

difficult to find packaged foods that are free from most of the top 9 allergens, so relying on industry to fill my son’s tummy in a nourishing manner was not the solution.

I am the solution, in the kitchen with my apron that says, “will cook for sex.” Hey, I need all the motivation I can get to be pro-ductive in the kitchen!

As a single mom, as all us “singles” know and live, we do everything until it is done. There is no sharing of tasks, no adult time, unless it is pre-arranged, and little time to cook in peace and quiet.

So we are taking the road to heal from the outside in. What I feed my son will help to heal his damaged gut. He cannot digest most foods properly right now, thus causing allergic and food intolerance reactions, as well as eczema.

We follow a very strict food protocol, or diet, with the long-term goal of being able to reintroduce many of the foods to which he has tested allergic. Our chosen road is called GAPS (Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Dr. Natasha McBride). It truly is a lifesaver.

This is the beginning of our healing journey. Not every par-ent has shared this type of experience, but many oddities and otherwise unexplainable issues our children may have could be linked to a compromised digestive system.

“...relying on industry to fill my son’s tummy in a nourishing manner was not the solution.”

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Community Events Calendar presented by:

Nov 24 - Dec 6: Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat Sagebrush Theatre, 250.374.LIVEDec 1 (Cont): Shambhala Meditation Mon/Thurs 7 pm, Sat 12pm, 433b Lansdowne St. kamloops.shambhala.org, 250.376.4224 (free)

Dec 1 – Dec 24: Christmas at the Gallery Kamloops Art Gallery, 250.377.2400Dec 1 – 23: Hospice Craft Sale Sahali Mall, 250.374.3033Dec 2-3: Muse A-Fair art, nature crafts, storytelling, show & sale, Pavilion Theatre Fri 12 – 9pm, Sat 10-4pm 250.376.8353Dec 2-3: A Christmas Carol Church of Jesus Christ of Latterday Saints, 7pm daily (Food Bank donation)Dec 3 (Cont): Chapters Craft and Storytime Saturdays 11-12pm 250.377.8468 (free)Dec 3: Toy and Train Show and Sale North Shore Community Centre 9 – 4, 250.376.4777 ($4 adult)Dec 3, 10: BIG Little Science Centre Thurs/Fri 3-5 pm, Sat 10-4, 250.554.2572 ($10/fam) Dec 4: Taco Del Mar Kids Day Taco Del Mar Sahali, 11– 2Dec 4 (Cont): Family Drop-In Storytime North Kamloops Library: Fri 10:15 -10:45, Kamloops Library: Sun 1 -1:30

Dec 5 (Cont): Tiny Tunes for Babies and Toddlers North Kamloops Library: Mon 10:15 - 10:45, Kamloops Library: Mon 10:15 - 10:45 (to December 12) (free)Dec 5 (Cont): BC Wildlife Park- WildLights BC Wildlife Park: 5 – 9pm, 250.573.3242 x226 ($11 adult, $9 child) Dec 8: Afterschool Club Drop-In, 8-12 yrs. Thurs 3-4 North Kamloops Library 250.554.1124 (free)Dec 8: Night at the Kamloops Museum Kamloops Museum, Pre-register 7 – 12 years: 6 – 8pm ($20)Dec 10: Home Depot Snowman Napkin Holder Workshop Home Depot, 10 – 12, 3 yrs+ (free)Dec 10: Enriched Daycare Magic Show Enriched Daycare Sahali Mall, 11 – 12:30 (Food Bank donation)Dec 10: Kamloops Museum Family Fun Day Kamloops Museum, 1:30 -3pm, 250.828.3576 (pre-reg $2 child)Dec 11: Breakfast with Santa Ora Restaurant, proceeds to RIH, 250.372.5312 ($12)Dec 11: A Technicolor Christmas with the Kamloops Thompson Children’s and Honour Choirs Sagebrush Theatre, 6:30pm (donation)

Dec 12/Jan 16: Held in the Wings of Angels Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Group. 7-8:30pm, Pregnancy Care Centre.Dec 14/Jan 11: Moms Morning Out 9:30-11:30, Mighty Oak Midwifery, 202-322 Victoria Street, 250.377.8611Dec 14/Jan 11: Kamloops Adoption Support Group 396 Tranquille Rd, 7-8:30pm contact Monica, 250.579.8950Dec 14 (Cont): Sun Peaks Skating and Family Fun Sun Peaks Skating Rink, Wednesday 5 – 6:30pm, 250.578.5542 (children free with adult)Dec 14: 37th Annual Christmas Light Tour Interior Savings Centre, 6-10pm, 250.828.3500Dec15/18: Cloth Diapers 101 Weds 7-8, Sun 1-2 Lizzie Bits Baby Co., 250.374.8706 (free)

Dec 15: CP Holiday Train Interior Savings Centre North Lot, 5:30pmDec 16: Cowboy Christmas Concert Calvary Community Church 7pm 1.888.763.2221 ($20 adult, kids free with an adult)Dec 16-17: Sun Peaks Christmas Market 2-7pm, Sun Peaks Village, 250.578.5542 Dec 17: The Science of Christmas: BLSC Sat 10-4, 250.554.2572 ($10 family)Dec 17 - 18: Spirit of Christmas Train #6-510 Lorne Street, 4:30pm, 250.374.2141 ($18, $13, $9.50)Dec 18: Young Naturalists Club Meeting and Event 1 – 3pm, 250.573.3127Dec 19 - 23: Sanity Saver Camps River City Gymnastics Ralph Bell Gym, 9 – 3, 778.471.5767 ($27 per day)

Dec 20/22: Spirit of Christmas Train (4:30 and 7pm) #6-510 Lorne Street 250.374.2141 ($18, $13, $9.50)Dec 21-23: Skiing with Santa Sun Peaks Sun Peaks (Sunburst lift and 5 Mile), 10:30am – 1pm Dec 21-23: Horse Drawn Sleigh Rides with Santa 4/5/6pm, Sun Peaks 250.578.5542 Dec 23 -31: Cinderella- The Panto Kamloops Convention Centre, 250.374.5483, (7pm nightly, 1pm on Dec 24 and Dec 31, no show on Dec 25)($40 family)Dec 24: Pancake Breakfast with Santa 9-11am, Sun Peaks 250.578.5542 Dec 28-29: Day Camp at the Kamloops Museum Kamloops Museum 10 – 12pm, 250.828.3576 (pre-reg)Dec 31: Sun Peaks New Years Celebrations Bottom of Sundance, 8:30pm, 250.578.5474 (free)Jan 4-8: Sun Peaks Family Cup A celebration of family and snow sports 250.578.5542 Jan 7/14/21/28: BIG Little Science Centre Thurs/Fri 3-5 pm, Sat 10-4, 250.554.2572 ($10 family)Jan 7 (Cont): Chapters Craft and Storytime Saturdays 11-12pm 250.377.8468 (free)Jan 14: Home Depot Kids Workshop Home Depot, 10 – 12, 3 yrs+ (free)Jan 15: Young Naturalists Club Meeting and Event 1 – 3pm, 250.573.3127Jan 21: Old Time Fiddlers Dancing Kamloops Heritage House, 7:30 – 10:30pm, 250.376.2330 ($7)Jan 28: ABC Family Literacy Day 9-12:30, Henry Grube Centre

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