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to be disposed of to the junkyard. Let goof negative emotions and feelings likeworries, stress, fear, insecurities. Let go

of the negative people from yourlives, the ones who harm,

belittle, or backbite you.

Engulf positivitySurround yourself withall things positive: freshflowers, indoor plants,

books which raise yourmorale, movies which

make you laugh andpeople who splityour faces intosmiles. Learn tolook out for the sil-

ver lin ing behi ndeach dark cloud.Every moment in life

is filled with bless-ings. Seek out

the hiddenlayer of bless-ings from theshroud ofb l a c k n e s ssurroundingevents. Learnto live in themoment, enjoy-

ing each day asa unique and

special blessing.These simpleacts go a long

way ina d d i n g

in lighting the candle ofhope in their dark lives. PlayingAgony Aunt also has anotherbenefit. It makes us realize thatour own problems are really tinywhen compared to another per-sons problems. It makes us valuethe blessings we have received.

Stop blame-gameDrop the victim mentality. Ac-cept the fact that you are solelyresponsible for all your mis-takes and situations. Stop thebitterness that has crept intoyour life where people youhold responsible for yourproblems are con-

c ern ed .This is oneway of tak-ing responsi-bility for youractions and alsodoing somethingto solve the situ-ation.

Express gratitudeMost of us take things for granted. Weforget the magic of a simple word likethank you. Our happiness is calculatedwith not what we have achieved but whatwe still have to achieve. Our prayers arelike a grocery list that we send tothe almighty. Objects that(s)he has to send us oneafter another. Express-ing gratitude for the

smallest of thingsinvites more bless-ings.

Unclutter yourlifeRemove all the unwant-ed baggage, both physicaland emotional, from your life.Useless objects, or broken objects need

Let go of pasthurts

In the journey of life,all of us have been hurt by

people close to us. These leaveindelible marks on our hearts.

Marks that fester into unhealingwounds, which we refuse to tend to.

These make us watch the world througha lens of suspicion and wariness. Holdingon to any kind of grudge harms us morethan it harms the other person. Lettinggo off emotional negativity is a wonderfulway to see life in its melange of colours.Burn the emotional negativity in theimaginary fire of destruction.

Reconnect with old friendsTouching base with childhood friends isa pleasure one cannot describe in words.These are the people who saw you trans-form from buck teethed, acne riddenteens, to the sartorial elegant selves thatyou have become today. Old friends areyour lost roots that nourish your soulsand replenish your thirsty hearts with theuntainted moisture of their love. They ex-pect nothing from you other than uncon-ditional love and support. There are nohidden agendas or ulterior motives wherethey are concerned. Reconnecting withthem is a wonderful way of getting thehappy days back into your lives.

Indulge in a bit of generosityPlay Santa Claus to the sundry people inyour life. Parents, siblings, close friendsand relatives catch a glimpse of your gen-erosity during anniversaries, birthdays,and festivals. Surprise them with a smalltoken of your love: a favourite dessert, asurprise movie, or just bake a cake forthem. Their happy smiles will bring aglow to your face. While playing Santa,dont forget the maid, driver, gardener,ironing man/woman; they too deserve

Santas surprise visit. Remember that itsnot the cost of the gift but the thought ofthe gesture.

Play Agony AuntJust listening to someones grievancesabout life in general makes them feel re-lieved after they have unburdened them-selves to a willing listener. Words of en-couragement and support go a long way

Rediscover old pleasuresIn the hectic rat race and thefast pace of life, plenty of old pleas-ures fall by the wayside. New, more stylishpleasures are picked up. Pleasures whichenhance our image in society. Get backyour groove by rediscovering old pleas-ures which once defined you. Hot roastedbhutta on a cold winter evening, the tasteof which your tongue has forgotten. Bit-ing chunks of gaudy pink cotton candywhich colours the lips and tongue a pinkhue. Desperately licking the fast meltingice-cream from the sides of ones coneand then licking it off the fingers withouta care in the world. Shed away the what-will-the-world-think-of-me-behaviour.

LivingSET IT RIGHT, NATURALLY

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Advaita Shyam Sunder

Do you drink milk from a feeding bottle

at the age of 20? Obviously not. Thenwhy hold onto things in your life whichnever worked out and never will? Moving onis an inherent human nature. It is indeed easiersaid than done to move on. But there is a satu-ration point. There are times when we feelthat bygone incidents and persons from ourlife cannot be recovered. Yet, we try to clingon to them. If you keep on adding sugar in aglass of water, it stops dissolving after a pointof time. If thats how an area of your life feels,dont you think it is high time to move on? Thethings of the past that we over-analyze in lifecannot be absorbed by us after a certainthreshold.

Thinking about what has expired is an atro-phy of the mind. Our energy expended in cling-ing to our past prevents us from moving for-ward in life. It is indeed necessary to ceaseentertaining whatever is old and decayed. Nev-ertheless, moving on is nt easy. We form a partof our identity with the many incidences andpeople who have left us. We feel that we cannotcontinue the same way without them in ourlives. Yes, it is true, we cannot continue livinglife in the same way as before, but that doesntmean we cannot take a cue from it and moveon.

The future beckons us and the past stranglesus. The present has an all-yielding nature. Givein to the present and look forward to your fu-ture. Replaying old and rotten remarks of peo-

ple, how they hurt you, and the like incidentsonly drain your energy.

Moving on doesnt obliterate the p ast. True.But it capacitates us to transcend the discom-posure as we embrace new learning opportu-nities.

The past cannot be done away with entirely,but all we can do is to accept that it all hap-

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pened for the best. Whatever we are today,the past definitely played a role in our forma-tion.

Many a time people find it difficult to moveon as they keep on denying the past that wasunfavourable to them. Denial does not help insetting things right nor does mulling over. Infact, moving on would be easier if only people

realize that all the energy they spend in over-analyzing the past can be instead utilized forthe achievement of their goals in future.

Moving on does not mean that you have todelete the past, which is impossible. Nor doesit mean that you cling on to it. Moving on is allabout understanding what went wrong in thepast and how you can prevent that in the pres-ent and future. One thing you must rememberthough is not to mull over the past as an insider.Look at it from a third persons point of view.Detach yourself and interpret the past imper-sonally. That will help you move on, while hav-ing understood your past better.

Moving on means being patient enough forwhat you deserve. There is no need to st ruggleto make something work out in your favour,and in the process hurt yourself more andmore. It is better to focus your energy on some-thing you can control than wasting it all onthings over which you have absolutely no con-trol. Untie the weights on your ankles and youwill be free to move on.

Detaching yourself from the past is one ofthe steps towards moving on and concentrat-ing on better things in life ahead. Pretendingthat the past never happened is not reallyhealthy, for you need to learn from the past.You need to accept your past for it was. It is ofno use living on empty promises of repairingthe bygone situation. Instead, be hopeful of amore favourable future. Whatever happenedwas meant to be and moving on means per-ceiving everything that occurred in the pastas an induction training for the course of life.

WE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE OURLIVES ALL THE TIME. BUT WE CAN

CHANGE OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS LIFE.WE CAN CHANGE THE COLOUR OF THELENSES THROUGH WHICH WE VIEW.WE CAN LEARN LIFES LESSONS IN OUREVERYDAY MOMENTS.

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Spend time with childrenChildren are a blessing and any amountof time spent with them enriches us.Their innocence, faith, and enthusiasmare unbelievable. Volunteer to baby-sityour cousins little girl. Or help yourneighbours child learn a difficult subject.Or just play board games with a child.These shall certainly fill your heart withjoy. And the child-like qualities that yousubtly imbibe from them will soften yourown attitude.

What are you holding on to?

L

ife is a river that flows irrespec-tive of the terrain it encounters.It is said that life is what happensto us when we are busy planningeverything else. We may not be

able to change our lives all the time. Butwe can change our attitude towards life.We can change the colour of the lensesthrough which we view. We can learnlifes lessons in our everyday moments.

Learn a new skillIts never too late to learn something new.After all age is just a number. It is mindover matter; if you dont mind it doesntmatter. Learning a new skill at any age isa wonderful way to reconnect with ourlives. All the emotions we jettisoned atthe airport of desertion come rushingback when we undertake a new skill.Child-like enthusiasm, innocence, happyanxiety, and merry butterflies in the stom-ach make us revert back to our childhoodand also make one view life through achilds view finder.

Spend time with natureAnother way to reconnect with life andbring back the joy is by spending time in

nature. Visit a park. Or just sit in the gar-den listening to the choir of birds. Or sim-ply watch birds build their nests from theconfines of your window. You are sure tofeel invigorated by these. Walk barefootover the grass. Soak in the lush greeneryand the bright colours of the flowers inbloom. Let nature work its magic on yourbody, mind, and soul.

b r i g h t -ness and fluidi-ty to your life.They colour your lifewith a palette of glo-rious emotions thatis every humansbirth right.

LIFES LESSONS In the hectic rat race and thefast pace of life, plenty of old pleasures fall bythe wayside. Rekindling life in our living will

go a long way in keeping us happy. For ahappy life is every human beings birth right,reminds Rachna Chhabria

Let your life flow like a river...