lets talk about social networking

Let’s Talk About...Social Networking

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Because it’s not an if; it’s a when.



Because it’s not an if; it’s a when.


And that’s not a bad thing. We just need to learn about what a social network is.

Let’s Talk!


DON’T PANIC


DON’T PANICWe Will Get Through This


DON’T PANICWe Will Get Through This

Deep Breaths


Some Common Misconceptions



Meet Gladys, our resident Internet Skeptic




These interwebs are just full of DANGEROUS MyFace Twiddlers who are out to STEAL your MONEY! Dang Kids!




These interwebs are just full of DANGEROUS MyFace Twiddlers who are out to STEAL your MONEY! Dang Kids!

She doesn't like this whole “Social Networking” thing, and she has all sorts of objections and concerns.





In my day, you had to talk to interact...

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We’re not down on talking, Gladys (even in person). After all, that’s what Social Networking is all about!

In my day, you had to talk to interact...

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There are just too many sites and too much going on online to ever have a chance at grasping anything!

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There are just too many sites and too much going on online to ever have a chance at grasping anything!

Well... maybe. There is a lot out there. But that just means you need to be judicious about where you go. Just think: there are too many towns in the world to ever get to know all of them in your lifetime... but that doesn't mean you shouldn’t visit Paris.



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Technorati.com, Digg.com and Stumbleupon.com are all great communities that are already there to point you toward

the best of the web!


The Big Two

FacebookReal Life Friends Network and Catch Up

MySpaceConnect to Others Via Your Creative Side


A Walkthrough


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You start out by building a profile, which contains information about yourself: text and photos.


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From there, you have the ability to connect with friends who are also on Facebook, using a simple search feature.



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Depending on your privacy options, you are able to message with your friends, friends of your friends, or anyone in the network you choose to join. (e.g. New York City or Swarthmore College)



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What's it for? Sharing pictures, catching up with old friends, finding groups with a shared interest, and even birthday reminders and event invitations.

Depending on your privacy options, you are able to message with your friends, friends of your friends, or anyone in the network you choose to join. (e.g. New York City or Swarthmore College)



Some Lingo to Remember


Profile - a personalized web page that contains as much (or as little) information about yourself and your interests as you would like to add. (ex. favorite books, current job, educational background). Your profile can also contain a photobook with pictures that you or your friends upload.




Tag - A method of marking (or tagging) a website or picture that links it to any other picture or content with a similar tag. For example, sites like Facebook use tags to create a network of your pictures, and they allow you to search by tags.





Wall - Your wall is what Facebook calls your virtual message board. Your friends can leave you messages here, but everyone else will also be able to view them. If you’d rather stay private, you can also send a personal message, just like an Email.






Status - This is a place where you can write what you are currently doing/thinking about. This means you can stay constantly in touch with your network, to help them keep up with your daily life, thoughts, and activities. You can also use status updates to organize plans with others or share a URL (web address).







Friend Request - When you see a person on Facebook whose profile you'd like to be connected to, you send them a friend request. Before you can see their profile, they must "accept" you. A connection is only formed when both sides choose to opt in, a method that has become standard across many social networking sites.



Groups - From supporting a candidate, to following your favorite team, to something as silly as “people who like to chew gum and skip rope,” groups connect you to people around the world with similar interests.





Friend Request - When you see a person on Facebook whose profile you'd like to be connected to, you send them a friend request. Before you can see their profile, they must "accept" you. A connection is only formed when both sides choose to opt in, a method that has become standard across many social networking sites.



A Walkthrough


A Walkthrough Like Facebook, you start out by building a profile. Unlike

Facebook, it’s not always about you. A profile can be about a band, a studio, a project or an organization... and some people use more imagination than others.


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Where Facebook starts with real life friends and family, then builds out from there, MySpace focuses on shared interests. Artists, musicians and writers use MySpace to share their work.

Like Facebook, you start out by building a profile. Unlike Facebook, it’s not always about you. A profile can be about a band, a studio, a project or an organization... and some people use more imagination than others.


A Walkthrough


MySpace contains a wide open design scheme, a Blog (often a kind of web diary - way more then a Wall) and a place to upload music, giving it the flexibility of a personalized web-page.



A Walkthrough


What's it for? Sharing personal music and artwork, connecting with others who share your interests, promoting upcoming work, sharing feelings, and re-inventing selves.

MySpace contains a wide open design scheme, a Blog (often a kind of web diary - way more then a Wall) and a place to upload music, giving it the flexibility of a personalized web-page.




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Everyone online is some kind of crazed sex pervert, just waiting to prey on my child. I have to watch their EVERY MOUSE CLICK!



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Well...most adults who are using the internet and social networking sites are engaging in everyday social behaviors, not behaving like predators.



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Well...most adults who are using the internet and social networking sites are engaging in everyday social behaviors, not behaving like predators.Some people do use the anonymity of the web to trick unsuspecting users. But this is why social networks are good.



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Facebook, for example, allows you to see who else is in a stranger’s network. It acts as a gated community in an otherwise unfettered e-world.



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Talking to your child about where they go on the web and who they interact with is important (just like in physical reality!).



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You should teach your children not to take candy from a stranger, but you don’t (can’t!) follow them everywhere they go, right? The same should be true online.



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KidsHealth.org and Wiredsafety.org are two great resources for kids AND parents to learn the warning signs that can help identify predators, as well as preventative measures to increase safety.



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KidsHealth.org and Wiredsafety.org are two great resources for kids AND parents to learn the warning signs that can help identify predators, as well as preventative measures to increase safety.

FYI: Facebook is safer than

MySpace in this regard; both are safer than an

AOL chat room.


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Remember the Facebook Status Updates?


Remember the Facebook Status Updates?This is Worse.



Twitter is an entire Social Network designed to give you the very latest in what people are thinking and doing.




140 characters long, Twitter updates are called “Tweets.”




Where Facebook has friends, Twitter has followers: you can follow anyone on Twitter... even if they aren’t following you. (Al Gore and Shaquille O’Neal have many followers on Twitter.)



Organizations, politicians, and non-profits are using Twitter now: even the nightly news wants you to follow them.



Where Facebook has friends, Twitter has followers: you can follow anyone on Twitter... even if they aren’t following you. (Al Gore and Shaquille O’Neal have many followers on Twitter.)



You may have heard the phrases Chat Room or Message Board. These are catch-all terms for online communication: some are parts of larger social networks and some stand alone.



Chats are basically any real time communication: either between individuals you already know, or in larger rooms (often themed) filled with... pretty much anybody with a web connection.




Message Boards are a more permanent version of communicating online: people use them to hold longer discussions, respond (via comments sections) to articles, sell things or meet people. Craig’s List is a popular example.




Message Boards are a more permanent version of communicating online: people use them to hold longer discussions, respond (via comments sections) to articles, sell things or meet people. Craig’s List is a popular example.

There are two kinds of chatting: in one version, you are real-life friends with your chat buddy. In the other, you are chatting with a stranger...


Chat Rooms


Chat RoomsIn chat programs like “G-chat” (Google chat), or “AIM”, (AOL Instant Messenger), you talk to a select “buddy list”- people that you know, and with whom you have real life connections.



In contrast, in chat rooms you have little idea to whom you are speaking. These sites lend themselves to anonymity, as users often post under an alias. This means that you are never really sure of to whom you are talking.




It is very important to tell your children to treat people in chat rooms like they would strangers in real life, making sure to never give out personal information.


Since chatting is immediate, it is a good way to have a conversation with a friend, but also a danger for impulsive kids who might type before they think.



It is very important to tell your children to treat people in chat rooms like they would strangers in real life, making sure to never give out personal information.


Social Networks: What are they good for?



Making Connections: To interact with folks that you would otherwise never get to meet.




Using Connections: To find jobs, housing, friendship and romance.





Re-connecting: To catch up with and learn about old friends.






Sharing Ideas: To share and build pictures, thoughts, and writing.







Keeping in Touch: To communicate instantly (and for free!) with people around the globe.







Keeping in Touch: To communicate instantly (and for free!) with people around the globe.

Now you know some basic information about specific sites, but the internet is a constantly changing place; it’s worth the time to learn about new sites and compare them to what is already there. Be Alert. Read the Fine Print.


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Opening an Email -- any Email -- can give someone access to ALL of my MONEY! And MY IDENTITY! I am ALWAYS AT RISK of identity theft online!



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Well...there are a lot of scams out there, created by tech-savvy people looking to make a quick buck. But if you keep your wits about you, they should be easy to spot.




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Avoid clicking or opening anything with generic language (e.g. “check this link out!”)




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Avoid clicking or opening anything with generic language (e.g. “check this link out!”) Legitimate sites will never ask you to send them private information through email, and they won’t solicit things out of the blue. Don’t trust Email that looks like this, even if it looks like a source you recognize. (e.g. Amazon.com saying “we lost your credit card info! Could you send it again?”)




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Real Life applies: don’t do anything you wouldn’t do in a real store, and you should be fine!




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Don’t open Emails or click on links unless you know their origins. Make sure you trust a website completely before you give them any information. (If you have any doubt, check out BizRate.com)


Realties of a Digital Age

v 1.0 What you put online stays online. Even if you don’t mean it to, or think you have taken it down.



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The Internet is like an Elephant. It never forgets.

What you put online stays online. Even if you don’t mean it to, or think you have taken it down.



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The Internet is like an Elephant. It never forgets.Even if the most recent version of a website appears to have removed an item, there are always ways to dredge up that information.




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The Internet is like an Elephant. It never forgets.Even if the most recent version of a website appears to have removed an item, there are always ways to dredge up that information. This can have effects later in life that younger generations are just starting to realize. A goofy picture now might come up in a job search later. The same goes for something you write on your Blog.




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If you are watching the world... the world is watching you.



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If you are watching the world... the world is watching you.Remember that every time you are looking at someone else’s profile, they probably are looking at yours. The fact that it’s a two way street sounds obvious... but it is good to be reminded.



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If you are watching the world... the world is watching you.Remember that every time you are looking at someone else’s profile, they probably are looking at yours. The fact that it’s a two way street sounds obvious... but it is good to be reminded. Treat the Internet like a tattoo: it’s highly visible and will last

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v 2.0Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another minor using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones.


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Cyberbullying often flourishes on social networking sites, where there is no strict monitoring system in place.



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When schools try to get involved with off-campus cyberbullying, they have been sued for exceeding their authority.



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Remember, online changes the playing field.


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Remember, online changes the playing field. A child can be whoever they want to be, even completely changing their persona. If they feel weak in life, they can act strongly online - just like the bullies who might pick on them in person. Many kids don’t realize that the internet can cross into the real world, so they are even more willing to say mean and hurtful things in a digital space.


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Teach children to respect others - in real life and online. Create a safe space for kids to talk openly about bullying.


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Teach children to respect others - in real life and online. Create a safe space for kids to talk openly about bullying.

You can find resources for both children and adults

at stopcyberbullying.org


You Know Your Child

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You Know Your Child

v 3.0 Are there hard and fast rules about when a kid is old enough to use the web?


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No


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NoAre there parts of the internet that you can guarantee will always be safe?


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No


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Is there a way to get your child to make the right decision EVERY TIME?

Are there hard and fast rules about when a kid is old enough to use the web?


No


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No

Do we even need to answer this one? No


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Do we even need to answer this one? NoDoes this mean that you have to give up all control?


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No


No. Of course not. You know what your kid is ready for and what responsibilities they can handle. Together, you can make rules that allow them to use the internet for good, and create an environment where your child is willing to come to you if they find things that are evil.


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Despite popular opinion to the contrary... Kids are willing to talk about this stuff with you. Not only does an open conversation give them more freedom, but they might enjoy getting to teach you a thing or two.


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Despite popular opinion to the contrary... Kids are willing to talk about this stuff with you. Not only does an open conversation give them more freedom, but they might enjoy getting to teach you a thing or two. If you come into the discussion knowing what’s out there and what’s going on online, your child is more likely to listen.


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better than anyone else


Social Networks and Privacy SettingsProtect Yourself



Any Social Network worth its salt has options for personal privacy settings. These range from letting the entire world see everything you post to limiting your profile so only you can see it -- and everywhere in between.




Customize privacy settings for each section of your profile. (e.g. Allow everyone to see your photos, but

only “friends” to see your address)




You can block an individual (a Cyberbully... or a Boss) from seeing your profile.

Customize privacy settings for each section of your profile. (e.g. Allow everyone to see your photos, but

only “friends” to see your address)


Privacy Settings, and the discussions they raise, should be the first step in engaging with a new social network.







Every piece of information in a profile is usually customizable. Going through Privacy Settings with your child provides a

great time to talk about what they should and should not put online.





If you utilize privacy settings (and are smart about who you accept as connections) many of the previous Myths and Realities can be minimized.


Social Networks and Privacy SettingsIt’s not ALL on you



Don’t worry: much of the appeal of Social Networks is tied in with being part of a community. And the community can give back.




The message board Craigslist prides itself in policing its posts and protecting its users. They have a place to report abuse (Craig is very responsive), and they have bred a culture of

responsible users who protect each other.




The message board Craigslist prides itself in policing its posts and protecting its users. They have a place to report abuse (Craig is very responsive), and they have bred a culture of

responsible users who protect each other.

Violating the trust of a

Craigslist post is very bad

juju.




You can also expect that a site will be on the look-out for spammers who are out to trick users. Good sites will work with you, not against you.





This warning appeared when we tried to change our privacy settings without

logging in. See? MySpace has our backs.





You are opting in to a community for a reason (which we hope you think about). Let that community work with you!


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A Kids-Eye View They don’t know everything, but they probably know more than you think.



Especially about the internet!




There are two approachesa parent can take to

teach their kidsabout internet safety.

First, you could...




Or, you couldlisten to what they

have to say...


You can talk to me -- if you’re willing to listen.






“Ask us instead of sneaking around and reading all our messages.”



We can define some boundaries -- but trust me to keep them.





“My mom knows my passwords. She logs into my email. I think she can watch what I’m doing sometimes, but I don’t want her to know my passwords.”






Once I know that each site is different, and that each has its own strengths and its own problems, let’s talk about which ones to use.






Once I know that each site is different, and that each has its own strengths and its own problems, let’s talk about which ones to use. We can have the computer in a common room -- but don’t be reading over my shoulder.






“They look over my shoulder when I’m looking at anything and ask me who I’m talking to or who the pictures are of. They know I’m not doing anything bad- it’s soo annoying!!!”







Let’s do some things online together -- but not everything. (and don’t stalk my every click or join every network I’m in, k?)












YouthNoise.com is a great site for parents and kids to use together. It takes Social Networking to another level, bringing it offline (some might call it “real life”). People you meet online meet up in person, in safe and controlled way, to participate in volunteer events.

For Example:








I know this stuff backwards and forwards, so if I roll my eyes when you call them the intertubes...it’s a gesture of love. Really.









“Most kids aren’t dummies, and if contacted by creepers, most decline and block. Most kids are very careful with their names and info.”



See!


See!

You Did It!


See!

You Did It!

Congratulations!


Resources “FrontLine,” a PBS production “Social Networking in Plain English,” a Common Craft production www.StopCyberBullying.org www.YouthNoise.com www.BizRate.net www.PostSecret.com www.FaceBook.com www.Twitter.com www.MySpace.com www.WiredSafety.org www.KidsHealth.org www.Technorati.com www.Digg.com www.Stumbleupon.com www.wikipedia.com


http://www.YouthNoise.com

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http://www.BizNet.com

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http://www.PostSecret.com

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http://www.FaceBook.com

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http://www.Twitter.com

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http://www.MySpace.com

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http://www.WiredSafety.org

http://www.WiredSafety.org

http://www.KidsHealth.org

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